Wait... Am I Toxic?
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Welcome to AA - Accountability Anonymous! We’re all hot on being progressive and the best versions of ourselves in public, but how accountable do we hold ourselves in private? “Wait… Am I Toxic?” is Fola and Rukiya’s safe space, where Black Brits can feel seen and take a break from cosplay adulting! Join us to talk about the real things we go through privately and the things we’d rather chew denim than share in public.
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Has anyone figured out what self care looks like without needing £1M yet? We sure haven't! Join Fola & Rukiya for yet another chat about how unintentionally neglectful we Black women can be of ourselves, and how we've rediscovered what self care means to us!
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Look at us — consistent QUEENS!
We’re back with another episode. Join Fola and Rukiya as we dive into everyday racism in the UK and, honestly, just have a good ol’ catch-up. Expect real talk, laughs, and the kind of honest conversation you’ve come to love.
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We're baaaackkk! Please excuse our oopsie in ghosting ya'll like that, we've very much missed you! Join us this week to hear the very unexciting reason for our break LOL and for a lil chat chat about money, men, and everything in between as per <3
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This week's submitter finds herself in a tricky situation with her best friend. Her best friend says that she's forgiven her for a falling out they had a few years ago, but our toxic submitter is still feeling resentment from her friend lurking! Join Fola & Rukiya to talk about forgiveness, and how not dealing with disappointment in relationships properly can often turn the tables and make you the bad guy!
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In this week's episode, Fola and Rukiya help a listener decide whether to take a well-deserved holiday after a tough year or save instead. They dive into the emotional side of spending and why those from less privileged backgrounds shouldn't limit what they can achieve financially in the future.
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The line between recreational weed smoker and functioning drug addict is super fine, and this week's submitter fears her boyfriend has crossed it. Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about the complex narrative around weed for Black Brits, and the sometimes overlooked side effects of cannabis use in the UK and our community.
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This week's submitter has been with her online boyfriend for a year now... but the gag is, they've never met! Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about whether or not they think her friends' concerns are valid, and their views on finding love online!
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In this episode, we dive deep into our relationship with alcohol—why we reach for it, how it shapes our social lives, and what it really means to us. We're joined by special guest Amelia Poamz, who opens up about her four month journey without drinking. Together, we unpack the highs and lows of going booze-free, question the role of alcohol in our lives, and explore how choosing not to drink can impact identity, friendships, and fun.
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Fola's gained another year of wisdom, Rukiya has started a new business called Bloom Creations and we've hit episode 134. With lots to celebrate, in this week's episode the girls have decided to give themselves a break and have a free flowing convo without any "toxicity" this week- enjoy!
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It's pretty much the norm to hear women complain about how awful it seems men are in today's society, but this week's submitter is concerned their disdain for men may have become more dangerous than the flippant "men are trash" rhetoric on social media. Join Fola and Rukiya to unpack this week's submitter's concerns about potentially being a femcel...
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This week’s toxic submitter is a successful Black woman in the corporate world, who is beginning to question if she can truly have it all—a thriving career and a fulfilling family life with a partner who isn’t intimidated by her success. Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into the challenges Black women face when striving to "have it all."
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Yes, we're all worthy of love, but how many of us actually believe it? This week we forgot to do our toxic thought, whoops! But we did have an interesting conversation about our experiences with love, the great, the bad and the fugly... as well as our feelings of inferiority sometimes when it comes to receiving love. Join us for a cheeky chinwag that as always, will hopefully make you feel seen!
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Ever heard the phrase, 'I’m not racist, I have a Black friend'? Well the same logic may just apply to colourism too! Join Fola and Rukiya as they explore the complexities of colourism, discussing how some men who befriend dark-skinned women may still hold colourist views. And together, they unpack why proximity to dark-skinned women doesn’t necessarily mean a man is free from the biases and preferences that fuel colourism.
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Does having loads of casual sex mean you're unlikely to find a partner!? This week we help our submitter out with our thoughts on the connection (or lack thereof) between our sexual activity and morals, and our desires to find a partner.
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Interracial couples are becoming more common, but are we truly embracing them in all their complexity? Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into this week's dilemma from a listener—a proud Nigerian woman—who is navigating concerns about having mixed-race children with her white partner.
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This week's submitter is wondering if she's wrong for being upset about a friend who she spends a lot of money on, claiming she can't afford to return the favour for her birthday. Is questioning other people's finances a losing game? Let's get into it!
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In this week's episode a listener bravely shares her deepest secret—she knows her fiancé is cheating on her. Join Fola and Rukiya as they unpack the difficult realities of infidelity and explore the importance of self-respect and healing.
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With a week of racist riots, someone scratching Fola's car and Rukiya sleeping 3 hours last night, do we even need a toxic submission?? We decided some random chit chat might be what we all need to keep us going this week, enjoy!
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This week's submitter shares her apprehension about influencers suddenly turning to Christ and wonders whether it's just another fad. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the importance of understanding that no journey with faith is the same, and that God is not to be gatekept.
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This week's submitter is having a hard time believing their partner loves them, no matter how many times they say it. Join Fola and Rukiya to chat about how much the amount of love we feel lies within ourselves vs with our partners!
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