Was That Good For You?

We tackle so many unique questions on this week's Q&A and there's truly something for everyone. One listener is looking for tips on diving into kink for the first time, while someone else wonders if their new boyfriend following Instagram models is a red flag. We also dive into navigating overly-friendly exes as well as whether or not cheating in the past should worry a new partner.  Follow Gabby & I on Instagram!  instagram.com/rayacarmona instagram.com/gabbysibaja  Follow Raya: Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is my first round table episode in over a year! On this week's episode, I had two of my favorite couples over to discuss social media and its effects on relationships. We chat through the pressure to seem perfect, posting about break ups, how to drown out the opinions of others and so much more. Listen to the end for a tangent (although an extremely enlightening one) about navigating another layer of complication: when one person in a partnership has ADHD. Follow everyone below!  instagram.com/gabbysibaja  instagram.com/ryanscottgraham  instagram.com/kylierae  instagram.com/sheppard_iv Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's okay to be early on in your sexual journey than others. We don't shame around here! If you feel like you need a refresher on sex education, looking for some tips & tricks to be better in bed or are simply just starting out - this is the episode for you!  Get tested for STIs here: https://gettested.cdc.gov/ Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this month's solo episode, I discuss how important emotion regulation has become to me, for myself and for the sake of my relationship. I also talk about how sometimes forbearance is the right choice over open communication and how to keep a spark alive even in a long-term relationship. Give it a listen and let me know what you think!  Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had couples & relationships therapist, consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator Yana Tallon-Hicks on the show this week! We discussed how to navigate desire differences in a relationship, understanding the root of your kinks, how your sex life affects the rest of our life and why it's okay to own your vanilla-ness even in this new ultra sex-positive world!  Get Yana's new book "Hot & Unbothered" here! https://yanatallonhicks.com/preorder/ Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This month's Q&A is one of those episodes where there's something for everyone. If any of the advice you hear today might resonate with someone you know, send it along for the greater good of humanity! We answer questions such as: What should I do about a friend who's too flirty with my partner? If a guy is too nice, should I worry he'll eventually become a "Wife Guy?" How do I handle an ex who is punishing me simply for ending things? Give this episode a listen to hear the answers to these and more! Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had Adrienne, also known as The Yoni Nutritionist, on the show today for a crash course in vaginal and sexual health. Adrienne is a certified nutritional practitioner who specializes in holistic nutrition & wellness for common, chronic vaginal infections like yeast infections, candida overgrowth, bacterial vaginosis, UTI’s, and STI's. We talk about the medicinal struggle for people with vaginas, the importance of diet and stress and how they may be affecting you more than you realize and so much more. If you've ever struggled with any chronic vaginal health issues, you need to listen to this episode! Learn more from Adrienne here! https://yoninutritionist.com Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I had the incredible Tricia Wise, also known as Safe Slut, on the show. We talked about life with genital herpes, how reiki can help heal sexual traumas and navigating the safe sex conversation. Tricia and I discuss red flags when it comes to talking about STIs and the importance of setting clear boundaries with people. See more from Tricia here! https://www.safeslut.shop/about  Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had award-winning global CamStar, Lindsey Banks, on the show today. Banksie, who is a veteran in the adult industry, has also been on multiple panels, hosted seminars and works as a voice for cam girls, sex workers and Latinx creators in the community. We discuss her career trajectory, incorporating virtual reality into sex work, the emotional side of camming and so much more.  Get more from Banksie here! https://www.banksietv.com/about-me Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For our last Q&A of the year, Gabby and I tackle a ton of listener-submitted questions! We discuss how to work around a penis that's too big, navigating a partner's pronouns around family during the holidays, and why the classic saying "Those who look will find" is so true when it comes to snooping.  Follow Gabby! https://linktr.ee/gabbysibaja Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had the incredible Dr. Tara on the show today to discuss overcoming sexual anxiety. Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, sex and relationship coach, and the host of the Luvbites podcast. We also discuss the idea that dating is a learned skill and the importance of prioritizing pleasure over performance. Learn more from Dr. Tara here! https://www.luvbites.co/ Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is an episode that starts off as one thing, goes into an entirely different thing and then somehow comes full circle and works relatively cohesively. C'est la vie. I discuss the science behind why unhealthy relationships can be so addicting, our need for validation and how it can be traced back to childhood, the importance of rejecting normalcy, and why it's cool to be a piece of shit.  Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristofer and I became online friends over the pandemic and after reading his essay "Dad Used To Have Boobs (And They Were Kind Of Big)," I knew I wanted to have him on the show. Kristofer is a comic, screenwriter, and Twitter personality, and today he joined me to discuss his experience dating while trans, our thoughts on the nuance of bisexuality and navigating fetishization on dating apps.  Follow Kristofer here! https://twitter.com/kristoferthomas?s=21&t=vxcmCnT7mVkz1WhD7VIo9g Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gabby is back for this month's listener-submitted Q&A and let me tell you - this is a crazy one. We got more personal than ever while discussing the best blowjob techniques and how to make car sex amazing (I told the story about the time I had spite sex in a berry field). We also answered some more serious questions involving sexual compatibility, being new to queer dating and when to keep fighting in a relationship versus calling it quits.  Follow Gabby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbysibaja/ Take the BDSM quiz here: https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode My favorite vibrator for newbies! https://bit.ly/3GxvERd Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For our last Q&A of the year, Gabby and I tackle a ton of listener-submitted questions! We discuss how to work around a penis that's too big, navigating a partner's pronouns around family during the holidays, and why the classic saying "Those who look will find" is so true when it comes to snooping.  Follow Gabby! https://linktr.ee/gabbysibaja Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had professional dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill on the show today to walk us through life as a dominatrix with over 10 years of experience. From how she got started to the power dynamics around dungeons, this episode feels like a crash course on the world of professional BDSM. Lucy also explains the art of mindful domination, boundary setting and healing trauma through kink.  Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This was one of the most fun episodes I've ever recorded on the show. I invited my ex (and now very good friend) Chris to join me for a very candid conversation about our previous relationship. We broke up many years ago, and although it was quite a serious relationship, looking back with the hindsight and maturity that time has given us was so interesting. We also discuss the nuance to being friends with someone you were once in a partnership with, and why it doesn't always work out as well as it did for us.  Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My good friend Cici joins me today to chat about all things sex work. Cici has spent time as a dancer, an escort and an OnlyFans creator, so we discuss the pros and cons of doing one type of sex work versus another. We also talk through the difficulties that can arise behind the scenes in the world of stripping as well as how our work on OnlyFans has actually helped us create better boundaries in real life.  Follow Cici on Instagram at instagram.com/spicycowgal Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gabby joins the show for our first monthly Q&A of the season and we've got some wild listener-submitted questions. How unethical is it to masturbate to an ex's nudes? Does watching gay porn make me gay? How do I ask for better sex without upsetting my partner? We answer all of that and more on today's episode!  Follow Gabby on Instagram at instagram.com/gabbysibaja Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Of all the STIs, why does herpes carry such a heavy stigma? When did it become the sexual boogeyman? Suzanna Brusikiewicz is determined to change that. In 2021, she came out publicly about having HSV2 and has been working ever since to spread awareness as well as unconditional love and self-acceptance. Alongside her work as a sensual guide, Suz works to help people reclaim their sensuality and let go of society's judgements.  See more from Suzanna here: https://www.suzbub.com/ Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona Twitter: @rayacarmona TikTok: @rayacarmona To watch the podcast on YouTube: Raya's Channel Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/WTGFYPod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices