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After 10 years of serial monogamy, comedian Ashley Gavin, trades in her u-haul for a life of sleeping around and documents every gritty detail of her queer experiments in this podcast. Always in fear of being cancelled, Ashley is aided by her queerest friends, Kate Sisk, known as the "Cancel Coach", and the "Youth in the Soundbooth" Gara Lonning, equipped with a gen-z themed soundboard, to call Ashley out on her BS. Together they interview people from all over the gender and sexuality spectrums (from straight to gay and cis to trans) about their sex lives. And yes straight people, you will find out what lesbian sex is.


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Hilarious queer comedian Franqi French (Stand Up NBC, Curb Your Enthusiasm) has been on a meteoric rise, but today she has decided to come BACK the apartment for more hijinks, laughs, and gay sex. We discuss public sex acts, late vs. early bloomers, and maybe accidentally getting too high before work. Kate prepares to lose their virginity. Ashley performs for geriatric swingers. Franqi can be found @franqifrench on IG and Twitter, And see her live while she is headlining the DC Comedy Loft on April 8th -9th! Follow her on social media for more info, or visit https://franqifrench.com/   Want to hear more? Check out the following links: Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter; @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter -- Want better sleep? Try Helix, and get up to $200 off any mattress order and two free pillows by visiting our special link: https://helixsleep.com/gaysex         Support WHGS on Patreon, and get access to exclusive content like bonus episodes, uncut podcasts, stand-up live streams, and more!: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Want to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch this episode on YouTube at the following link: https://youtu.be/ViWbKaRJ6HM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Gus Constantellis is a 1st generation Greek-American stand-up/writer, a hysterical human, and the viral “Greek Mom” who has performed across the tri-state area, California, and your TikTok feed, but today he has settled into the apartment to get wet and wild! We discuss immigrant parents, spontaneous sexuality, and MILF metaphysics. Ashley finds “mommy.” Kate gets down and dirty, literally.    Gus can be found across the internet on IG, Twitter, and TikTok at: @constantlygus Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Support WHGS on Patreon, and get access to exclusive content like bonus episodes, uncut podcasts, stand-up live streams, and more!: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1PIgkGth300 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Fan-favorite Casey Tanner, AASECT, is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive Group, a queer-affirming therapy group that provides consultation and clinical work to individuals and institutions alike. But, today she is BACK in the apartment to answer questions and drive Ashley crazy. We discuss the complexities of queer identity, unpacking trauma, and why Ashley can’t stop simping. Ashley just wants her book back. Kate watches porn for the first time. You can find Casey on: IG: @queersextherapy,  And you can learn more about her practice, as well as find LGBTQ counseling and gender therapy, on her organization’s website: https://www.theexpansivegroup.com/ Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Subscribe to our Patreon for bonus content, uncut episodes, stand-up live streams, and more!: www.patreon.com/whgs Use Truebill to manage finances, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting https://www.truebill.com/ashley Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5gKExymsCA0 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brian Bahe is a hilarious Indigenous comedian, writer, and gay man who has been written up by NPR, Vulture, and the Los Angeles Times, and has an upcoming stand-up set on Comedy Central. However, thanks to the Covid-19 Omicron variant, the gang is avoiding the apartment this week and doing some cybering! We discuss coming out in school, underground sex parties, and getting horny via Pavlovian conditioning. Ashley charts her ups, downs, tops, and bottoms. Kate’s MILF fantasies go awry.        Brian can be found on:  IG & Twitter: @brian_bahe, And his upcoming solo show, “Reading From My Phone,” plays on 1/23/22 at Union Hall in Brooklyn! Tickets can be purchased at: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/brian-bahe-reading-from-my-phone-tickets-221756408387, and you can learn about upcoming shows on his IG, or brianbahe.com. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Subscribe to our Patreon for bonus content, uncut episodes, stand-up live streams, and more!: www.patreon.com/whgs Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fNdT9u90U0I Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Kevin McHale (Glee, Virtually Famous) and Austin McKenzie (Spring Awakening, When We Rise) are an absolute power couple taking the world by storm, best known for their numerous performances across television, film, theatre, and music, but today they slow down to get intimate in the apartment. We discuss the dynamics of sleep kink, the ins-and-outs of topping, and… *ahem*… the 2nd Amendment. Ashley confronts toxic masculinity. Kate gets a lesbian circumcision. Kevin McHale can be found on: IG: @kevinmchale, Twitter: @druidDUDE, And more exciting projects to be announced soon! Austin McKenzie can be found on: IG: @austineyes, Twitter: @apm_official, And you can stream his music on:  Spotify, (https://open.spotify.com/artist/1POOtj6nQMh8veKXfQMZee) Apple Music, (https://music.apple.com/us/artist/austin-p-mckenzie/1205567214) Or wherever you listen! Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Use Truebill to manage unwanted subscriptions, lower bills, and save money by visiting www.truebill.com/ashley  Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iVpQtj_Euqs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You've been asking for it and it's finally here. We've started a Patreon exclusive series reading YOUR gay sex stories! Each month we will release full bonus episodes with your favorite guests on our Patreon where we read your raunchiest stories. patreon.com/whgs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Gianna Marie, or “gwizzle”, is a super wonderful, super talented goofball who can be found singing her heart from the confines of her car to nearly 4 Million followers on TikTok, Instagram, and more, but today she is sneaking into the hotel room for some fun with the gang. On yet another special episode of We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition,” we discuss messy first hookups, sex on anti-depressants, and managing your mid-western mom. Ashley meets herself a small-town, apple-pie gal. Kate toys with a three-way.      Gianna can be found across the internet: @gwizzle_ on Tik Tok, @g.wizzle_ on Instagram, and “Gianna Marie” on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsafnlVdgtzTKdWqe1UNChA Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Download the Current app, and enter code “Gay” during sign-up for a chance to win $200! Visit https://current.com/gay for terms and conditions. Get 20% off of your first order of Foria’s all-natural products by visiting https://www.foriawellness.com/ashley, or use code “ashley” at checkout  Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g6tHvuNuZU4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chrissy Chlapecka is an absolutely fabulous social media influencer who is spearheading the empowering “BimboTok” movement, battling tired stereotypes with nearly 4.5 million followers across social media, but today the gang is in HER apartment for a wild time. In today’s special We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition," we discuss the positives of a “slut phase,” navigating unfulfilling relationships, and manifesting your best and baddest self. Ashley has trouble pooping. Kate breaks their big hymen.            Chrissy can be found across the internet: @chrissychlapecka on IG and TikTok, @chrissychlapp on Twitter, And you can watch her on her YouTube channel, “Chrissy Chlapecka:” https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpHxbFPuxKHJsUUVau30-Zg Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter Get up to $200 off your next Helix Mattress order, PLUS two free pillows, by visiting our special link: www.helixsleep.com/gaysex Use Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashley. Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/noM3bus5J88  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Akeem Woods is a hysterical stand-up comedian who opens for comedy greats like Tiffany Haddish and Godfrey, as well as makes frequent appearances on Kevin Hart’s LOL Network, but today he’s in the apartment to get into the nitty-gritty. We discuss differences in gay male vs lesbian hookup culture, strategies for taking better nudes, and the logistics of keeping a phone just for your sex life. Ashley “does the dance” with a ballerina. Kate has their first one night stand.       Akeem can be found on IG: @akeemwoods, Twitter: @WoodsAkeem, and you can see his future tour dates and more at akeemwoods.com  Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Get 30% off your first order of Foria’s amazing products by visiting foriawellness.com/ashley, or using code “ashley” at checkout. Use Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashley. Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nVPBffngpi8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ali Kolbert (The Ali Kolbert Show) is a side-splitting writer/comedian who has worked in some of NBC’s most prestigious programming (SNL, The Tonight Show, Late Night w/ Seth Meyers), but today she has graced WHGS with her hilarious presence. We discuss lesbian role models in media, dating during big life transitions, and the intricacies of tomboy fashion. Ashley gets introspective about her future. Kate grapples with their imaginary d*ck. Ali can be found on IG, Twitter, and TikTok: @alikolbert You can also listen to her podcast, The Ali Kolbert Show, on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/27KEFQNRq3kBf8uvH744bk), Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ali-kolbert-show/id1569210719), or wherever you listen. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Use Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashley Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n9wSeUo53UA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jake Cornell (Going Out With Jake Cornell Podcast) is not only one of Kate's hilarious BFFs, he is TikTok famous, Insta famous, and truly hysterical. We get into his study abroad fling, age gap relationships, and how to get out of sleeping with someone but still using them for their mattress. Ashley goes on a date with Kate. Kate has to figure out if she was on a date or not. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Want to watch this episode on YouTube? https://youtu.be/vS6aRHo4Jps #comedy #lesbian #gay #tiktok #lgbt #queer #lesbiandating #bi #trans #nonbinary #enby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Casey Tanner, AASECT, (@queersextherapist) is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive group, a queer-affirming therapy group (www.theexpansivegroup.com). But she is also absolutely hysterical and one of Ashley's favorite people on the planet and high-key crush. We dive into common queer sex therapy questions (like mismatched sex drive, and preparing for your first queer experience) and Casey's unfortunate dildo experiences. Ashley tries to win Casey's love and affection. Kate buys a double ended dildo. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_zNABB8sMVw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brilliant actor and comedian Jess Henderson (as seen on Shrill) joins us this week to talk toxic positivity, long distance dates, and reality tv self care. Ashley has a run in with a cruise guest. Kate finds a butt plug CW: We discuss Sexual Harassment on this episode, if this is triggering for you, then it might be best to skip from minute ~20:00 to ~40:00 If you need resources on this topic you can find some here: https://www.rainn.org/ThatsHarassment Jess Henderson can be found @embrace_mess on IG Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9tR6ymxCf2I Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
YouTube Super Star Jessie Paege joins the pod to cover some sexy cosplay and the pure joy of enjoying someone else's kink. Ashley has sex with a squirting baby gay. Kate delivers some huge news! Jessie can be found @jessiepaege on IG and YouTube. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4KvIc-rUFYY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
THE JELLY FILLED GIRLS ARE BACK!!!! We are so excited we had them tell 2 stories and we're re-releasing their old episode. If you don't know them from their massively popular OnlyFans, the JFG make ethical adult content as a real life wlw couple. Ashley hooks up with a therapist. Kate has a follow up to the bat story. The Jelly Filled Girls can be found @thejellyfilledgirls on IG and all of their content is listed at https://linktr.ee/JellyLinks (onlyfans etc.) Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Want to watch this episode on youtube? Here is the link! https://youtu.be/swhuda1ytJw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
THE JELLY FILLED GIRLS ARE BACK!!!! We are so excited to be re-releasing their old episode. If you don't know them from their massively popular OnlyFans, the JFG make ethical adult content as a real life wlw couple. The Jelly Filled Girls can be found @thejellyfilledgirls on IG and all of their content is listed at https://linktr.ee/JellyLinks (onlyfans etc.) Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie Raines & Shaaba Lotun came on the pod to flex how cute they are together. We discuss what it was like to get PhDs while making viral YouTube videos, Jamie's sex lab research on genitals, and why usually Shaaba is proudly displaying her sex toys. Ashley discusses her not-date with Jen. Kate does a walk of shame to and from church. Jamie can be found @jammidodger on YouTube and @jammi.dodger on ig. Shaaba can be found @sherbertlemon007 on IG and https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjZ97eKgNwC4j-z_6LDjfIg on youtube. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yYuHHJO2s4s Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sophie Santos (buy her new book The One You Want to Marry) is such an incredible story teller and I'm so excited to share story of her first gay sex experience (which sounds like it could not have gone worse). We also get into OCD and whether or not Kate and Ashley have it. Kate has either a gay sex moment or a straight sex moment. Ashley is in a weird thing with a woman who just closed her relationship. Sophie can be found @sophieesantos on ig. If you'd like to buy her book or audiobook information can be found at www.sophiesantos.com Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QGzU77BFdoU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Cameron Esposito (Queery Podcast, Conan, STARS) joins the pod this week for a roundtable discussion on queer teenaged longing and the lengths young gays go to for puppy love. Ashley meets up with a girl at camp in the middle of the night. Kate sneaks into a movie with her camp "friend". Cameron can be found @cameronesposito on ig and twitter. They are going to Chicago and Salt Lake City on tour this upcoming week and next. cameronesposito.com for tickets. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
James Tison (The New York Times) cracks open the vulnerability wide open on this episode by discussing his partner's transition, couples therapy, scheduling sex and more. Ashley doesn't understand straight sex. Kate cries. James can be found everywhere @jamestison Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @thekatesisk on ig and twitter Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Anika Rahman

24:20 how old? 😂

Dec 2nd
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Addy Wilkerson

I love you guys so much. You guys are so hilarious. You make me laugh so much and make me happy during these crazy times.

Feb 24th
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Katie Mueller

What’s your friends podcast called? I can’t find it.

Dec 8th
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Kimberly Marrero

hutching... omg I have to try this!!thank you for these pod cast i honestly am learning so much that i never knew.

Sep 17th
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Ritz

27:32 The most perfect noise!

Sep 8th
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