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Don't Change A Thing

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Join hosts Elisa Goodkind and Lily Mandelbaum, the mother-daughter duo renowned for their groundbreaking YouTube channel StyleLikeU and 'What's Underneath' series, as they delve deep into the heart of radical self-love in an intimate filmed podcast. From cultural icons to lesser-known gems, each episode features a guest working to proudly embrace their identity through the lens of unapologetic personal style, challenging societal norms and owning their differences as superpowers.

Through candid conversations exploring themes of redefining beauty, dress as self-expression, and shedding shame, Elisa and Lily not only spotlight those who defy conformity but also unravel the complexities of their own evolving relationship in the name of self-acceptance.


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Welcome to the Season 2 finale of “Don’t Change A Thing”! From redefining beauty and reclaiming confidence to owning personal-style and radical self-love, our wonderfully unique and singular guests remind us that freedom begins when we stop trying to fit in. Tune in to this final episode for golden takeaways and nourishing nuggets that will transform the way you think about deep, unrestrained self-acceptance, along with exciting news of what’s coming soon from Style Like U!What were your favorite moments from this season? Let us know!Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Elisa and Lily ON IG: @elisagoodkind @lilymandelbaumDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Singer, songwriter, and fashion designer Moonchild Sanelly has reclaimed the label “overbearing” as a badge of honor. When mentors told her she was too much, she refused to shrink, proving instead the power that is creative expression unrestricted by boxes or rules. Moonchild’s music is her medicine, and her style, sound, and story are declarations of freedom. She processes her pain through her music in order to heal herself and others, overcoming eating disorders, sexual abuse, and bullying, and gifting the world with the truth: being yourself is never too much.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Moonchild ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/moonchildsanelly/?hl=enDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Musician and director Lava La Rue opts out of any system that seeks to control them. From embracing their queerness in the face of a traditional Christian background to rejecting the idea of a 9 to 5, they take accountability for their choices, which has aligned them with their truth and set them free. Tune in now to learn why having the bravery to stand out not only brings your life together but is the antidote to our world’s judgement, hatred, and violence.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW LAVA ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/lavalarue/?hl=enDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Intersex filmmaker and actor River Gallo debuted their first feature-length film “Ponyboi” on June 27th, turning their “otherness” into their power. Coming of age in an antiquated world that tried to erase them by deeming their intersex variant medically and socially “faulty,” River discovered the truth of their wholeness through the joy of self-expression, sobriety, and spiritual enlightenment. Tune in now to learn how they overcame the crushing weight of being forced into the mold of manhood and unlocked their creativity through their fluidity: when there was no room for them at the table, they built a stage.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW River ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/rivergallo/Director: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
V (formerly Eve Ensler), rebellious flower child and author of “The Vagina Monologues”, DEMANDS liberation. In a world that once tried to destroy her, surviving family sexual abuse as a child, she claims life, committed to feeling the depths of pain and the heights of joy. V defends humanity in the face of fascism, from protesting nude in her 20s to embracing her sensuality in her 70s. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how V healed from her trauma and reconnected with the magnificent creature she’s always been.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW V ON IG: @eveenslerDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Queer, creative powerhouse Barry Brandon found his way back to his heel-wearing, unshackled childhood self by embracing a radical truth: everything he’d been told was a lie. After surviving multiple heart surgeries before his mid twenties, Barry realized early on that he couldn’t live his life “safe,” watered-down, or stuck behind a desk. Instead he unlocks the portal to his most freed self through small moments of defiance that ultimately turn into life-defining choices. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Barry truly breaks out of the Matrix – refusing the victim-narrative, calling out the myths designed to keep us small, and not only taking freedom into his own hands, but creating it.Barry’s gorgeous garment was made by designer Maciej Bohen.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Barry: @BarrybrandonFOLLOW Maciej Bohen: @maciejbohenDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Singer-songwriter Victoria Canal was born with one arm – but that never stopped her from stepping into the spotlight. Victoria challenges assumptions and questions celebrity culture, embodying the liberating belief that your body doesn’t define how you move through the world. Embracing her limb-difference, position in the public eye, and recovery from sexual assault, Victoria makes space to live out her depth and nuance. She reveals that while her wildest dream is to win a Grammy, she also craves creating art off-the-grid for the sake of self-expression; simply “being” and living out your complex wholeness is, and always has been, enough.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Victoria: @VictoriacanalDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Author, "bad feminist", and cultural icon Roxane Gay believes that self-acceptance isn’t a destination – in a society obsessed with robotic perfectionism, embracing our messy, complex humanity is a radical mindset. She attempts to welcome the parts that don’t fit the mold of her “ideal” self, including her trauma, fatness, age, lack of self-love and finding romance later in life. Roxane chooses acceptance over shame, nuance over binaries, and grace over judgement for herself and others. How would you feel if you forgave yourself for your short-comings and mistakes?Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Roxane: @Roxanegay74Director: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this special Mother’s Day episode of DCAT, Elisa and Lily get raw about the pressure of the biological clock—from Lily’s decision to freeze her eggs at 35 to Elisa’s choice to leave her styling career to become a full-time mom. Together, they explore the sacrifices motherhood demands, the tension between ambition and caregiving, and the intergenerational conflict around bringing children into an uncertain world. Is choosing motherhood an act of hope—or a gamble on a future that feels impossible to trust?Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Elisa and Lily: @Elisagoodkind @LilymandelbaumDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
How did Genesis Webb go from a misunderstood, punk wallflower in the Bible Belt to superwoman stylist to artists like Chappell Roan and Lisa? A mixture of constant failure and unyielding faith in her authentic self. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how being an outcast gave Genesis the strength to drive pop culture.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Genesis: @GenesiswbbDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
How do you get to be the Queen of Melrose? You start as a little catholic queen with a mob dad and an accepting family, punching the bullies back, and living steadfastly by his own version of the Bible adage “the truth will set you free.” That’s how gay internet personality, fashion designer, and stylist Cosmo Lombino did it anyways. From his battle with addiction to the soaring success of self-expression that is his store “Cosmo’s Glamsquad,” tune in to get inspired by Cosmo Lombino and how he never waited for permission to crown him/her/themself!Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Cosmo: @queenofmelroseDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
After over a decade of being vulnerable on stage, comedian Amber Ruffin delivers the magnetic message that someone else’s truth is your lie, so take risks and fail loudly, because you are discovering your most authentic path. Amber has learned not to shrink herself – in fact, she’s embraced herself so much that she was uninvited from hosting the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Amber taps into her “consequences be damned” attitude, pushing humor to access the deep courage and honesty that our society so desperately needs.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Amber Ruffin: @AmberruffinDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Musician, composer, and artist Flèche Love found strength in her imagination, using clothing, music, and her voice as a vehicle to access the self-worth she didn’t receive in her loveless childhood home. She healed herself through self-expression, renaming herself, writing music, covering herself in tattoos, learning multiple languages, and dressing herself into the characters she imagined. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Flèche Love reclaimed and redefined herself from a victim of trauma to an agent of love as power.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Flèche Love: @flecheloveDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Lena Waithe, Emmy winning writer, actor, and producer, has learned one essential writer’s rule: don’t judge your characters, but rather try to understand them. Living in a state of nonconformity and nuance, she has no need to worship OR tear down idols and celebrities, treats herself and others with grace, and is committed to the limitless internal value and beauty that everyone possesses, regardless of what society has told her. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Lena lives life with abandon, unafraid of failing, beginning again, or facing the real journey of life: accepting your truest self.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Lena Waithe: @lenawaitheDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this week’s episode, actress, comedian, writer, and director Sarah Jones is the embodiment of turning rejection into alignment. As a multicultural, Black artist who always felt like she was too much, she was boxed into minor, stereotypical roles in the entertainment industry. So, she created her own Tony Award-winning cast of diverse characters in her one-woman shows. Now she’s taking her understanding of the power of self-acceptance to the next level in this moment of extreme polarization through her podcast “America, Who Hurt You?”, spreading the message that the only way we can heal our country’s division is through deep, unconditional love for ourselves and each other.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Sarah Jones: @yesimsarahjonesDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to work with your mom? In this week’s episode, Elisa and Lily uncover the StyleLikeU origin story and get real about everything from FOMO to the underbelly of the fashion industry to their recent decision to “individuate” after 15 years of working side-by-side. Tune in now to hear how grappling with being beginners again has pushed their self-acceptance journeys to a next chapter amidst a cultural backlash against liberation.We want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW ELISA AND LILY: @Elisagoodkind @lilymandelbaumSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
New York Times bestselling author Alua Arthur did everything “right,” but after years as a lawyer left her drained and numb to her humanity, she found a surprising escape – death work. As a death doula, Alua discovered the freedom to be fully alive, guiding the dying and their loved ones to the next chapter. Tune into this week’s episode to learn how a loving relationship with death, aligned Alua in her purpose of helping others by radically accepting life, death, and ALL parts of themselves.Watch the video version of the podcast:YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW ALUA ARTHUR: @alualoveslife @goingwithgraceDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
From villainesque lipstick to braid charms made of drag queens’ earrings, gay, fat artist, writer, and YouTuber Emilia Fart unapologetically fills her reality with magic. Whether she’s using her platform to call out hate speech, or dressing in layered, deliciously monochrome outfits to break suffocating beauty standards, she thrives through taking up space. Tune in to this week’s episode as Emilia reveals how to be extravagant in a world that wants you to be small.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW EMILIA: @EmiliafartsDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Writer, storyteller, style-lover, and viral pro-aging influencer Heidi Clements’ bread and butter is convincing women to be confident in exactly who they are. Heidi has lived a life full of self-discovery, including navigating childhood trauma, shedding shame through sobriety, and becoming fully comfortable in her single status – but still open to being swept off her feet. Tune into this week’s episode as Heidi reveals to Elisa how she’s given up a life of people-pleasing, putting herself first in the pursuit of freedom and contagious confidence.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW HEIDI: @welcometoheidiDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
25 year-old veteran environmentalist, artist, and sustainable designer Maya Penn’s never felt ashamed of being an outsider. At eight years old Maya harnessed the hope of climate activism as a form of self-love against systems of greed and destruction. She’s never been one to follow a trend, from insisting on her natural curls, to giving three Ted Talks, to wearing a dress made of garbage to the Met Gala. Tune in to this week’s episode as Maya reveals to Elisa how she’s fully accepted herself as a force of nature, driven by her life’s purpose: creating a sustainable world.We’re excited to cultivate a deeper connection with our incredible community this season! Stay tuned on our Instagram @Stylelikeu to contribute your questions, thoughts, feedback, and ideas. We can’t wait to hear from you.Watch the video version of the podcast:YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU:@stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER:StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Maya:@MayasideasDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Alice Haughton

This podcast was so beautiful, wise and thought provoking. I'm going to re listen and make notes! Thank you 💓

Jan 27th
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Christina Womacks

I have struggled with severe BDD since childhood. I turned 40 and I am really having to face this illness once again. I relate to you Stacy so much. thank you thank you. very helpful.

Dec 22nd
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Steve Harrison

a bunch of self absorbed humans..who get wasted on champas to escape reality..thank you.

Oct 30th
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Bojana Đorđević

Girls, this was a very emotional episode, congrats on picking the guest! I just wanted to comment on the way you were asking questions: sometimes it seemed like you weren't really listening to her and respecting some of the deep emotions she was expressing. It seemed like you were asking preprepared questions rather than going with the flow of the conversation and that to me was disturbing at times. Other than that, great episode!

Jun 17th
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Sheila Flecha

Respect to her! im glad she find her true self, and got liberated! 😊😍

Oct 1st
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Marteen Jackson

loved this so much. Lorri is so private, it makes her so interesting. I just love her soft voice, and love what she did for Damien. thank goodness for her

Sep 11th
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Masha Druzhinina

yet another perfect story of an ultimate inspiration <3

Aug 13th
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Emma Belsham

this was beautiful. thank you

Jul 30th
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Azadeh Ghavamrad

That I love you Jacob (and want to meet you and be your friend), is an understatement. The things you say, the way you say them, the way you see what you say, is the most honest, important and heartly (healthy/heartfelt) way I have ever been exposed too ever! I almost cant (but I try to) express how much you, and what you say, and the human being you have become and still becoming, mean to me. And that Lilly and Elisa are who they are and bring forth this conversation, and all the other conversations, the importance off this cant be stressed enough. I would love too be in this room with you and a part off this conversation with you, Lilly and Elisa ❤️ free yourself and heal.

Jul 17th
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Jessica Xu

yes!!!!!!!! i agree w this so muchhhhhh!!!! <3 nothing is boring!!!

Jul 5th
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Teri J. Bond

"We are not going to become visible in all our power as older women until we stop doing it (coloring our hair, botox, face lifts, etc.)." Excellent episode. So many important points made. Thanks! Brava!

Jul 4th
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FWFRANCHISE

sounds awful who cares

Jun 29th
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Marta Kozielczyk

Great content. I truly love your work. Every time I'm watching your videos or listening your podcasts I feel more than ever grounded and in touch with myself. You really make a change in the world.

Jun 23rd
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Valentina Pavlovic

This was so relatable and so powerful! Its really revolutionary! Also, this guy was straight up telling you LITERALLY the things I’m trying to figure out the last couple of years and we have the same perspective, I was creeped out with how similar his thoughts process was to mine but blown away at the same time.. loved it!!!!

Jun 15th
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Azadeh Ghavamrad

Thank you for this 👩🏽‍🎤

Jun 3rd
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Leilani Lanuza

amazing

May 31st
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Masha Druzhinina

I thought your videos and podcasts just couldn't be more sincere and profound, but they actually can :) I am so grateful I stay connected to you on Instagram ,and YouTube and now here. I do want to tribute and thank you for the work you have done and continue to do, so the least I can do is to buy your book. You make my day every day you release something. Please, flourish and bloom, you are amazing people.

May 25th
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Masha Druzhinina

Hello, girls. I follow you everywhere possible and enjoy starting my week with your ideas and inspiring speeches. Utterly greatful here!

May 14th
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Rex Harkins

does the same man on the Land O and the Kerrville locations

May 6th
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Lindsey Andrews

cool

May 4th
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