What's Your Pattern?

In this episode of What's Your Pattern?, I speak with Peg O'Connor, who has been in long-term recovery from alcohol addiction. Together, we explore the lived experience behind addiction: how trauma, shame, people-pleasing, masking, and the search for belonging shaped her relationship with alcohol, and how philosophy became a powerful tool in her recovery. Peg offers a deeply compassionate perspective that challenges the stigma surrounding addiction and reminds us that recovery is not just about stopping a substance; it's about rediscovering yourself.> Ready to Recover Quiz is available on Peg's website: https://pegoconnorauthor.com> Join as a Guest: https://forms.gle/7tgu6KZeCcuzRYQHA

In this episode of What's Your Pattern?, the conversation with my guest, Max, explores his lived experience of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We discuss the patterns behind shame, self-esteem, empathy, relationships, childhood experiences, and recovery, offering a nuanced look at one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions.While the abuse experienced by people due to some narcissistic individuals is real and should never be minimised, this episode explores the other side of the story. Understanding these patterns is about giving the condition a fair chance to be understood, which it deserves.> Contact Max:  @narcclub (Discord and Reddit), www.narcclub.org (Website will be live soon)> Guest Form: https://forms.gle/Fmif6qa9ZLGyiTEk8> Instagram: @whatisyourpattern

Important links below*In this episode of What’s Your Pattern?, we explore people pleasing, not as a personality trait or a flaw, but as a pattern. We look at why it develops, what it protects us from, and the hidden costs of constantly prioritizing others over ourselves.Rather than asking, “How do I stop people pleasing?”, we ask a different question: What pattern is my people pleasing trying to solve?If you’ve ever wondered why you struggle to set boundaries, seek approval, or feel guilty for disappointing people, this episode is for you.If you’d like to come on the podcast as a guest and explore your own patterns in a thoughtful, anonymous conversation, you can fill out the form linked in the episode description. I’d love to hear your story.Links:⁠Find Worksheets Here⁠⁠Join as A Guest ⁠

What's Your Pattern? Every week, we dissect one pattern of human behaviour, from cheaters and liars to gifted children, neurodivergent minds, personality disorders, people pleasers, perfectionists, and everything in between.It's about understanding the architecture of the human mind.For questions, suggestions, or to potentially collaborate for an episode, visit website.