What I Meant to Say

🎧 In this episode, we cover:* Athlete redemption stories that inspire* Mental health, mindset, and personal growth insights* The truth about prison, purpose, and rising again* The mission behind the 'Choose Yourself Community' 🔗 Connect with Hakeem Bourne McFarlane:🌐 Website: https://chooseyourself.info📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigdreamhakeem/▶️ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChooseYourselfChannel🌴 Upcoming Costa Rica Retreat (Oct 2025): https://trovatrip.com/trip//central-america/costa-rica/costa-rica-with-alysia-hakeem-oct-2025✨ Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more real conversations that spark healing, truth, and transformation.#HakeemMcFarlane #ChooseYourself #RedemptionStory #AthleteMindset #Resilience #OvercomingAdversity #GenerationalHealing #WhatIMeantToSay #MotivationalPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness      

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “Am I living my life in fear of dying or am I living my life because I want to live?” 4:49“The goal is to change our culture and how we view ourselves, how we view life, how we view our reality, essentially consciousness.” 8:46“You feel it.  The consciousness of the planet is rising.” - Wendy @ 9:03“There needs to be a way for us to have some type of signaling system to know when to adapt and when to rest.” 11:02“The first thing is changing the narrative of not looking outside of ourselves at all.” 19:57“Could is compassion.  Should is shame.”  30:48“That’s why mindfulness is so key, non-judgemental, observation, moment to moment awareness with love, compassion, and appreciation.” 38:44“The key to longevity, resilience is curiosity, love, being present, joy, and creativity.” 41:47“Doctors are doing the best they can given what they know.  They just don’t know.” 46:47“Given what is, what am I to do?” 49:09 Guest Bio - Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Eva Selhub0:23 - My First Book ‘Love Response’ & Exposure to HIV5:09 - Volunteering at the Mind Body Medical Institute at Harvard9:47 - How Does the Nervous System Intersect with Spirituality?14:58 - Self-Awareness & Nervous System Safety22:23 - Youth Mentorship & Media Influence on Mental Health 25:14 - Building Discernment,  Trusting Your Intuition and Changing Your Language31:47 - The Process of Self-Inquiry34:17 - How to Use Mindfulness to Calm A Traumatized Chaotic Brain42:45 - Mind Body Connection in Athletics46:04 - The Biggest Issue in Medicine is Divisiveness49:55 - How to Connect with Dr. Eva Links & Where to Find Eva - www.drselhub.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “It is the primal force.  Scalar energy, scalar light is the light of the sun, the light of the stars.” 1:36“Some people just can't grasp that there’s something beyond and above that physical domain.” 5:08“The light influences the chemical level.” - Wendy @ 10:37“I have God on my side, and that’s all I need.” 15:25“This is a new branch of science where we work with information, intelligence.” 23:17“We create our environment.  The way we think, the way we feel, that’s what we create, and ultimately in life you’re going to inherit that” 25:48“If people sign up for the 15-day session, everyday you’ll have your chakras balanced, you’ll have, if you will, microbe eradication, and vitamin antioxidant nutrient program.” 35:30“Trust in God, trust in yourself.” 38:10Guest Bio - Tom Paladino is a Scalar Light Researcher & humanitarian with over 50 years experience in Scalar Light research and development. Tom has developed Scalar Light instruments capable of administering beneficial Scalar Light intelligence to photographs of people, animals, plants and objects. In so doing, people express an improvement in their general well-being.Scalar Light is the fundamental life force that originates from the Sun and stars that brings order and harmony to the universe. Tom theorized that all energy in the universe initiates as Scalar light and that the Sun and the stars are the points of origin, or “the storehouses,” for Scalar Light. Divine Intelligence, chi, prana, OM, plasma energy, life force, the Creative Strength and zero-point energy are synonymous terms for Scalar Light. Scalar Light is instructive energy, as the entire universe is instructed by this Divine Light. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional and physical action in the universe is initiated and maintained by Scalar Light instructions. Scalar Light is a new and emerging branch of physics. The acceptance of Scalar Light will benefit humanity and improve the social order on a global scale.Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Tom Paladino1:27 - What is Scalar Energy & How Does it Heal?5:30 - Divine Intelligence9:23 - How Can Scalar Energy Improve Mental Health?11:53 - The Work of Nikola Tesla15:15 - Maintaining A Resilient Mindset Against the Odds16:15 - How Are People Coming to You and Being Changed?24:55 - A Discussion on the Subconscious  26:48 - Why Isn’t This Information More Widely Known?33:55 - How Do People Find You?37:48 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self39:29 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Tom - Website - https://www.scalarlight.com/Free 15 Day Scalar Light Trial - https://www.scalarlight.com/free-trialsYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/TomPaladinoScalarFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/experiencescalar/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scalarlight/PCR Test Results

Episode Summary: What a gift to be able to bookend the joy of taking in boys and men’s volleyball through Luke’s career with Pace Bootlegger Volleyball Club and Pepperdine Alum and Stanford Assistant Men’s Volleyball Coach Spencer Wickens, one of the great up and coming coaches in the Collegiate game. Grateful to capture his joy of coaching and wisdom on how to rise through the challenges of when your game isn’t going exactly how you planned. If you are an up and coming player, you won’t want to miss his insight about becoming a leader on and off the court. Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “Be ready to jump on any opportunity you can to help out or impact your team in a positive way.” 4:07“Team leadership is such a component to winning.” -Wendy @ 6:25“If you’re a parent out there, the ability to really read your kid’s desire and let them lead that charge, rather than having it be a goal that you have.” -Wendy @ 19:50“What does the athlete want out of their journey, and how can you support that?” -Wendy @ 20:55“You have to try to find a way to remove yourself from the issue.” 23:33“Persistency gets people a lot of places.” 24:38“Don’t let the experiences of others shape the way you make your own decisions.” 33:40“Understanding that failure is an opportunity for growth and learning.” 34:59Guest Bio - Al Roderigues Assistant Men's Volleyball Coach USA Volleyball National Training Development Program (NTDP) Coach Graduate Assistant - University of Nebraska Lincoln Student Athlete - Pepperdine Men's VolleyballRochester Pacebootlegger Volleyball Club - McQuaid Jesuit High School Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Spencer Wickens1:14 - The Joy of Coaching3:42 - Libero to Outside Hitter at Pepperdine6:30 - Building Team Leadership in the New NIL Driven Era12:57 - Do You See A Regional Difference in Athletes?16:16 - Pain Point Between Parents & Coaches23:02 - Advice to Players Struggling with Playing Time26:43 - Balancing Competition with Authenticity33:06 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self36:14 - What Are Your Coaching Goals?37:34 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Spencer - IG - @swickens7

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes “So much of that relates with my mom is because I had watched her grow with me as I was growing up doing everything.  I didn’t know there were options of asking for help, you know, asking other people to, it just didn’t occur to me because I had never seen that.  My mom was like, ‘you figure it out, you do it yourself, whatever you need to do, you figure out how to do it.’” 6:17Guest BioDr. Natacha Nelson is known for her work as a Life Doctor; Speaker, Author, Entrepreneur & creator of The Untamed Heart System and events. Her journey into entrepreneurship began at the young age of 16 and she has been building businesses ever since.A 22 year South Bay resident, Dr. Natacha has been a consistent leader delivering Health and Wellness services to all ages in the community. She has a long list of client success stories ranging from Corporate Executives, Professional Athletes, Medical Professionals, coaches to stay-at-mom homes. She has defied all the odds both personally and professionally and has mastered the ability to turn adversities into advantages. She has coached Businessmen & women nationwide.Show Notes  0:00 - What I Meant to Say Podcast Intro0:18 - Introducing Natacha Nelson0:43 - Introducing Natacha Nelson Connection2:29 - Journaling and Inspiration for the Book Links & Where to Find NatachaBook - Finding Courage to Let You Out by Natacha NelsonWebsite - www.theuntamedheart.comFacebook - @NatachaNelsonIG - @natacha_lifedoctor

Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Marcus Aurelius Higgs1:10 - The Love for Conversation2:26 - Is There An Anti-Resilience Message Out There to Kids?6:56 - Journey from English Teacher to Preteen Presence Coach12:02 - The Road to Independence and Interdependence 16:32 - Kids Need A Community of Parents22:06 - ‘SHOW UP’ Framework35:30 - The Relationship Between Consequences and Parenting39:08 - How to Create Calm in Parenting48:15 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self50:03 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Marcus - www.marcushiggs.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/marcushiggs/

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes “I just wanted to keep playing and get better for me.” 12:46“It’s more than a game, it’s beyond the game and what you’re learning in sport applies to everything in your life.” 16:51“How you do one thing is how you do everything.” 17:04“Sports exposes who you are and allows you the chance to change it.” 21:00“I think to get to an elite status you have to have this sort of obsession with it.” 33:22“What is success for you?” 39:54Guest Bio  Audrey Baldwin is a recently retired professional goalkeeper, with 10 years of experience, in 9 different countries. Besides her playing career, she has a bachelors in Kinesiology and Masters in Sport and Exercise Psychology. She is currently using her experience and education to mentor youth athletes of all ages and sports in mental skills and mental performance. It is her goal to spread proper education at the correct time.  Show Notes  0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Audrey Baldwin1:00 - Soccer Background4:52 - Climbing that Ladder7:06 - A Conversation on Perfection & Pressure12:46 - Intrinsic Motivation15:50 - How to Manage Stress in Sports & Life22:22 - A Go with the Flow & Hormone Cycle Discussion for Athletes32:52 - Feeling Over Thinking Using A Mindfulness Practice39:13 - A Story with Advice for Younger Girls on Perfectionism43:57 - The Injury Reserve: A Group for Injured Athletes53:17 - How Do Athletes Find You?55:27 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self56:08 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Audrey Website: www.beyond-the-game.netIG - @audball_00 & @quamludum The Power of Injury Journal

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “How much can we teach them and how much do they have to learn through experience?” - Wendy @ 0:48“None of this journey we’re on is linear.” 3:25“When we feel good, are we recognizing what we are doing to feel good? 7:39“You are going to feel every feeling and that’s a good thing because that means you are alive.” 13:04“Your intuition, arguably, builds off of experience that you’ve had both good and bad.” 21:10“You will be more ‘perfect’ if you let yourself breathe.”  26:02“I’m going to stop wearing my shoulders as earrings.” 26:48“Everybody is recovering from something.” 50:05“We are all allowed to be. We’re all allowed to feel.” 51:48“In those differences, we can still enhance each other.” 53:24Guest Bio - Dr. Malasri Chaudhery-Malgeri (Dr. Mala) is an expert in TBI, PTSD, Military Psychology, Marriage & Family Psychology, Rehabilitative Therapy, Integrative & Collaborative Program Development, Industrial/Organizational Psychology, and more. She has helped individuals of diverse age ranges and backgrounds, including the military, executives and business professionals, political figures, rural communities, native populations, LGBTQ+ populations, athletes, and couples and families. She is also a motivational speaker and presenter.Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Mala0:55 - How Did You Get into Psychology?6:32 - Understanding the Integration of Physical & Mental Health12:29 - How to Help Your Kids Navigate Human Feelings15:37 - How to Parent from a Grounded & Calm Place19:53 - What’s the Difference Between Intuition & Anxiety?22:24 - Learning to Have the Tough Conversations with Your Kids25:05 - A Discussion on Perfectionism33:24 - Teaching Kids About the Collective Nervous System38:10 - Advice to Empaths & HSPs for Setting Boundaries40:51 - Bridging the Gap Between Mental & Physical Wellness45:59 - Taking the First Step Towards Healing50:48 - The Meaning of ‘Kindness is Inclusive’53:56 - Where Can People Find You?54:22 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Dr. Mala - www.drmala.netSocial Media Handles - @TheOfficialDrMala

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - “I think journaling is an incredibly healing thing that we can undertake.” 4:57“Deal with things as they are, not as we’d like them to be.” -Ann @ 7:54“Addiction is really just a disconnection with ourself.” 8:57“People are doing the best they can with what they know, but it’s our responsibility to know more so you have to keep learning.” 10:51“The financial part is scary no matter what.” 20:10“Parenting them through the hard stuff is actually what makes parenting great.” 25:58“Two houses, they can be different and it can be okay.” 37:26“You don’t have to be so worried about controlling or losing power in these situations with your children.  They are going to go where the love is.” -Ann @ 40:19“Don’t make it about yourself.” 41:48“Let your kids be who they are.” 44:11Guest Bio - Wendy Jones is the founder of Be Better Media and host of herown podcast, What I Meant to Say.  As a mother of four, she ispassionate about generational healing--so that we can connectwith each other and create families and communities from a placeof strength. The stories told through her work at Be Better Mediaencourage each of us to listen more and judge less on our path toself-awareness. In her spare time, you will find her at the beachplaying volleyball and enjoying her yoga practice.Show Notes - 0:00 - This Week on What I Meant to Say0:50 - Ann Grant, the Divorce Hacker, Introduces Wendy Jones1:32 - What is Generational Healing?3:06 - Tools to Implement During Divorce8:50 - How Addiction Can Impact Generational Healing13:42 - Support Systems & Therapy18:20 - Single Motherhood with Four Children26:06 - How Are Your Kids Now?31:17 - People Pleasing Discussion37:59 - The Art of Letting Go of Control 44:19 - Social Media & Battling Outside Opinions50:54 - Helping Your Kids Find & Connect to Their Passions56:58 - Three Questions58:48 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find The Divorce Hacker:FULL episodes - https://www.youtube.com/@divorcehacker Youtube ShortsFor more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/ 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “Unlearning everything that you think you know about how you function and what society’s told you because the mind isn’t the dominant operating system, the heart is.” “Your body is not gonna lie to you.”“We’re so afraid of feeling.”“Don’t tell a man how he’s feeling.” “I think that we don’t take enough time to just contemplate at the end of the day or maybe we haven’t taken enough time to just pause throughout your day.” “You can’t escape duality.” Guest Bio - Torin Jefferys calls himself a divine being and is a 30 year old beach volleyball athlete.  He works as a wellness and spiritual practitioner in Southern California.Show Notes - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Torin JefferysWhat Makes You Open to the Healing Journey?Let’s Talk Music We Are Made of LightA Discussion on Human DesignYour Path to A Simple Life is Your ResponsibilityTraditional MasculineOpening A Healing Space Called ‘A Fix’Break Ups, Animal Totems & Dream SpaceThe Concept of Control Embrace the Duality of Life & the Healing CollectiveHow to Encourage People to Start Asking the Questions1:03:19 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Torin - IG - @beachy_t888

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “Self talk is huge, replacing should with could is huge.” 3:12“Free Will is an illusion.  We’re all conditioned to make decisions.” 4:56“The moments of clarity that happen, if you’re aware of them, are staggering.” 19:16“Surround yourself with the right people.” 25:00 “The loneliness out there is tragic.” - Wendy @ 31:27“We attract to our level of healing.” - Wendy @ 33:00“You are the sum total of the five people you hang with.” 34:17“For every ten minutes you talk or listen, you should encourage an interaction, something that inquires or causes further insight into the conversation.” 36:00Guest BioJake is a pioneer in conversational dynamics and a highly regarded fractional Chief Learning Officer. He is revolutionizing sales through his ‘Adaptive Conversational Blueprint,’ turning sales professionals into relational architects capable of forging profound connections with prospects. Integral to his approach is the 2/10 Rule, which challenges traditional perspectives on conversation and emphasizes the importance of rhythm and cadence. With a rich background spanning 30 years, Jake has shared his expertise in training and development across six countries, impacting over 10,000 individuals. A doting husband and father of four, Jake seamlessly blends practical experience and insightful wisdom in his pursuit of the perfect conversation.Show Notes 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Jake Stahl0:34 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self2:31 - Starting Inner Child Work4:32 - How Do You Bring Life Lessons into the Corporate World?8:39 - Take Us Back to the Root of Your Transformation14:44 - Making the Decision to Change 19:11 - Moments of Clarity20:34 - A Discussion on the Loss of Identity 24:02 - How to Support Someone Struggling with Addiction28:05 - Holistics Ways to Calm Yourself & Connect35:23 - What New Book Are You Writing?39:31 - What is A Fractional Chief Learning Officer?43:09 - Advice to A New & Young Salesperson47:30 - Thank You 49:19 - Where Can People Find You to Connect?49:48 - What I Meant to Say ClosingLinks & Where to Find Jakehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/jakestahlwww.jakestahlconsulting.com

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “Is it me in this relationship that is causing this problem?” 7:43“If they ask for advice, I can offer advice, but they have to ask or I have to be given permission.” 15:59“Whatever you send out, eventually is going to come right back to you.” 18:44“Instead of having something to be angry about, and holding onto that, hold on to the things that are good about people.” 21:19“You’re not going to make any progress by blaming someone else.” 30:24“Love in the way that’s going to light people up.” 35:25“These women will take care of you if you take care of them.” 41:53Guest BioPaul Zolman is the international bestselling author of the Role of Love, but the true author of love is God. In His wisdom, He placed us in a variety of circumstances that require us to find our way back to His pure love. So, what qualifies me to speak about love? My childhood experience of the opposite of love. From that austere beginning, and the distaste it formed inside me, I searched for and eventually created a method that transformed my life from anger to loving everyone. Growing up in a family of abuse, physical touch became my preferred love style, only because of the regularity. I could almost count on it. It was consistent. I came to think that was the way to express love. But deep inside, I knew that was a twisted belief. I wanted a better life for myself, which is why I created a paradigm shift that works. In this book, you’ll find what helped me move from a childhood boot camp of abuse to being a person who loves everyone and can find good about anyone in any circumstance. This is truly the role of love. I hope you join me.Show Notes 0:00 - Welcoming Paul Zolman to What I Meant to Say0:19 - Becoming a Love Language Linguist from An Angry Household9:35 - How to Play Paul’s Love Language Game16:26 - What Have You Learned from First to Second Marriage?19:59 - Practical Ways You Relate to Your Kids & Grandkids23:44 - Are There Ways to Protect Yourself from Being Taken Advantage Of?27:46 - Best Ways to Have a Generational Healing Conversation with Kids33:48 - The Purpose of the Love Language Game40:06 - Advice for Men to Be Love in the World42:43 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self46:27 - Where Can People Find You?47:14 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Paul www.roleoflove.comYoutubeFB - https://www.facebook.com/roleoflovediceIG - https://www.instagram.com/roleoflovedice/Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/company/roleoflovedice/Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@roleoflovediceTwitter/X - https://twitter.com/roleoflovedicePinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/roleoflovedice/The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Key Points & Memorable Quotes “If you’re under a lot of stress, you can really wreck your gut health.” 12:09“If I can’t find them organic, let’s say we’re traveling, I just buy something else that I can find organic.” 18:39 “I’m going to, you know, be teaching her from an early age, about health, about how things, how the food becomes us.”56:18“Health takes time to augment or to change.” 1:01:46Guest BioChristian Yordanov is an author and certified Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner who helps people of all ages restore their health, optimize it, and increase their performance and longevity. His latest book, How to Actually Live Longer, Vol. 1, is the first in his series on slowing the aging process and increasing longevity. He is also author of the book Autism Wellbeing Plan: How to Get Your Child Healthy — a comprehensive resource for parents to understand the most common health problems from which autistic children suffer, and how to address them.In his clinical work, Christian uses functional lab testing to identify hidden metabolic and health imbalances, and teaches clients how to use diet, supplementation, detoxification, stress reduction, sleep optimisation, and other strategies to address chronic health issues and transform their health.Christian is a certified Buteyko breathing instructor, Pn1 Nutrition Coach, GrowBaby practitioner, and is also certified in personal training, fitness instruction, and sports and event massage therapy.He is also host of two podcasts, Connecting Minds and Children’s Health Podcast.Show Notes 0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro0:09 - Welcome to Christian Yordanov0:23 - What Does A Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner Do? 3:09 - Will You Share Your Backstory?8:39 - Why is the Gut Microbiome Important?12:42 - Invest in Quality Food & Water20:55 - A Discussion on Your Client Trends25:00 - Connecting to Self Discipline for Weight Loss30:54 - Sleep39:40 - How To Implement These Tools with Children45:28 - How to Actually Live Longer Volume One49:17  - What It’s Like to Work with You?57:25 - Where Can People Find you?57:47 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Christian http://christianyordanov.com/Book - How to Actually Live Longer, Vol.1Book - Autism Wellbeing: How to Get Your Child Healthy 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes “I’m attracting this, like, I am intentionally creating these scenarios in order to relive this childhood trauma because that’s what I know.” 4:07“Step forward, create your own reality, and leave this stuff in the past.” 4:47“They dedicate their time and energy to some many other things, other than themselves, without realizing that those other things are not going to exist if they’re not here, if they’re not happy, if they’re not healthy.” 7:02“When you can access who you are and be the best version of yourself and create your own reality, that is what changes the external world.” 7:57“Even if you have kids, you still have to put yourself first.” 8:15“You are lonelier in an unhealthy relationship, then you will ever be on your own.” - Wendy @ 11:20“How about just be a human and be a decent one!” 13:41“I can see what they were, and who I don’t want to be, and move on and let that be in peace.” 24:54“There are certain genetic mutations that through diet alone can actually set off a cascade of emotional responses and outbursts.” 28:36“What do I actually need versus what do I think I need?” 34:43“If five years from now, if you are living the same life that you are living right now or it gets worse, are you going to be happy?” 35:33“The actions that you take today are going to be the future that you move into.” 35:48“Everyone is on the path to insulin resistance at this point.” 40:23“The trouble is you think you have time.” 48:54 Guest BioLinn is able to connect with people on a wide range of traumatic events that she herself has overcome, such as: death of family members and a partner, abandonment, neglect, sexuality, growing up with an alcoholic, relationship trauma, homelessness, career challenges, lack of direction, feelings of hopelessness, gender identity, anger and fear, addiction, illness, and near death experiences. Rather these events took place as a child or later in life, Linn has the tools to assist you in moving forward to create a new reality and to live the life you absolutely deserve.Show Notes 0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro0:09 - Welcome to Linn Rivers0:43 - Generational Healing through Functional Health & Wellness Education5:58 - From Your Perspective, What Are We Up Against As A Society?9:18 - How to Learn the Art of Sitting & Being Alone12:02 - The Power of Authenticity 14:26 - Navigating the Ability to Sit with Yourself18:20 - Anxiously Tracking Our Kids21:11 - How to Trust Your Intuition & Unlearn Conditioning through Compassion27:24 - Understanding Genetic Markers & Mutations33:53 - Practical Tips for Heal Ourselves36:46 - A Crucial Discussion on Insulin Resistance40:30 - Healing with Keto Diet & Nutrition44:12 - Chronic Illness to Vibrant Wellness Online Course47:25 - Share Your Tattoo Stories with Us51:22 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Linn www.linnrivers.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/linn-rivers-6a21327a/https://www.youtube.com/linnrivers

Key Points & Memorable Quotes “You really do have to take stock in the relationships you’ve built, but also why you’ve built them.” - Wendy @ 2:32“Everything you go through is not everybody’s business.” - Wendy @ 6:12“How else are they going to respect and trust you in other situations, if you don’t follow through?” - Ashley @ 10:59“Whatever thing they’ve gotten tangled up in, that is not who they are, it’s just something they did.” - Wendy @ 11:37“It’s how I connect in the moments that are great so that I build that capital for them to trust me when the chips are down.” - Wendy @ 19:40“The effect and the connection I’m having on these kids is really what freaking matters.” - Ashley @ 29:14“When you fight, you’re gonna be able to find success more than the other people that don’t know how to fight.” - Ashley @ 41:13“You have to know when to strive for that perfection, but be okay when you don’t attain it.” - Ashley @ 47:06 Guest BioAshley currently serves as the Chief Operating Officer, a Producer, and Coach at Be Better Life and Be Better Media. She is a Southern California native and is the oldest of five siblings.  Ashley is a natural leader who leads by creating a safe environment through communication, honesty, compassion, and inclusion.  She played NCAA Division II indoor volleyball at Cal State Dominguez Hills where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Liberal Studies, including a concentration in Mathematics.  Later, she obtained a Master’s Degree in Coaching and Athletic Administration from Concordia University Irvine.  Ashley loves the sport of volleyball, but her passion lies in teaching and coaching the life lessons that are gleaned through sport’s participation. Show Notes 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say0:09 - Let’s Recap Falyn’s Interview2:11 - Wendy’s Parenting Journey6:33 - Ashley’s Shame Based Story11:16 - Balancing Discipline & Acceptance in Parenting17:40 - Managing Different Child Personalities As a Parent19:59 - Tools for Managing Kid’s Personalities25:38 - Lean into Your Strengths41:21 - Understanding the When & Why Behind the Fight45:41 - A Discussion on Perfectionism51:07 - Social Media, Mental Health, & Relationships1:08:32 - Becoming A Lifelong Learner1:12:20 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Ashley Ashley - @ashley.a.clark.10 & @coachashleyc Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-clark-143543255/Facebook Twitter/X - @AshleyAnneC10Tiktok - @ashleyannec10 Be Better LifeBe Better Media 

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “You can’t teach having a competitive nature.” 1:28“There’s not one way of doing anything.” 4:16“Is this about my child or is this about what I think is best or what I think should happen?” 15:20“Be who you are and give them what they need at that moment.” 19:41“If you really want to make a difference, you can not fit into the norm.” 22:17“If you’ve gone through anything traumatic, your trauma stores in your body.” 38:54Guest Bio4 year all American at Mira costa high schoolNumber 1 recruit going into University of Southern CaliforniaAVCA freshman of the yearPac 10 freshman of the yearRegional finals MVPPlayed on the Indoor USA national team for 6 years Won a gold medal at the Pan American games 2015Played indoor overseas and won two championships Won 2018 Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament in Dominican Republic Won 2019 Silver and Bronze Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament 2019 3rd place finish in AVP Austin, Texas Top 10 player on the AVPTop 20 player in Athletes Unlimited 2022-2023Show Notes 0:00 - Welcoming Falyn to What I Meant to Say0:58 - Lessons Learned through Volleyball4:57 - How Has Your Coaching Evolved Over the Years?12:22 - Differences of Coaching Girls & Boys21:07 - Keeping Your Mind Right in the World We Live In28:45 - A Discussion on People & Environments34:00 - People & Relationships with Your Body41:15 - What’s Next?48:59 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Falyn IG - @falynfonoimoana  

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “I knew somehow that it could be better.” 4:59“The tools I used to get good at volleyball were not healthy, and they were not sustainable.” 9:01 “A coach that has the ability to really sit back and evaluate what they’re dealing with and know that there’s more than one way in is a gift.” - Wendy @ 15:06“Who am I as this coach?  I’m gonna go be that person because that’s where I’m going to be the strongest.” 16:26“I don’t think our children need coaching from as parents.” 20:22“Does the coach sort of understand the developmental needs of the child?” 23:27 “We’ve learned quite a bit watching our kids choose.” 34:07“We know our values, we can make better decisions, and when we make better decisions, we are more confident in what we’re doing.” 36:00“When you can build a habit somewhere, you can build it somewhere else.” 36:22“Facebook shows me who I would be friends with if miles didn’t make any difference.”  -Wendy @ 46:10Guest BioPriscilla Tallman has been involved in high performance sports all her life. As an athlete, Priscilla played at the University of Georgia and earned 1st team All-Conference for all four years, including SEC Freshman of the Year and SEC Player of the Year. She also earned 1st Team All-America honors her junior and senior years at UGA. She went on to play on the USA National team, USA World University Games and professionally in Europe. In 2006, she was inducted into the prestigious Georgia Athletics Circle of Honor for excellence in representing her sport and the University. As a coach, she has coached at every level from high school to NCAA DI. Tallman is a Mental Performance Coach and Consultant to collegiate and professional athletes; helping them navigate and overcome performance blocks on the court as well as facilitating important breakthroughs off the court due to the challenges they face performing at an elite level. She has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from The University of Georgia and a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Vanguard University. She has authored two mental performance and wellness resources for athletes and sports teams: “30 Day Champions” Journal, and "30 Day Return to Play" Journal. "30 Day Champions" was studied and researched by graduate students from The College of Health Solutions at Arizona State University in Spring, 2022 and has been used by over 1,500 athletes, coaches and parents. Tallman lives in the Phoenix area and is married and has two children.Show Notes 0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’0:20 - Welcome to Priscilla Tallman1:11 - Sports Background & Texas Volleyball4:08 - What Are You Up to Now?7:21 - Working with Athletes Today9:08 - Identifying Unhealthy Tools & Healing Through Coaching17:24 - A Discussion on Vicarious Coaching & Parenting22:37 - Learning How to Trust A Coach As A Parent26:49 - Reflecting on Club Volleyball & How It’s Changed32:49 - Homeschooling is Practical for Us34:34 - 30 Day Champion’s Journal39:30 - Life of the Aging Athlete44:30 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self46:22 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Priscilla Website: spikedr.comIG - @spikedr3

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes“There’s something to be said for two different people with different perspectives and different ways that they would do it to be there to help rear a child.” 8:25“Eyeball to eyeball.” 14:01“They’re watching your every move, and even how we speak to them.” 16:35“My job is to love them and be the best example I can and listen when I’m needed.” 18:58“We’re wounded in a very specific way, each of us, and it’s our job to heal those wounds and that is part of the deal.” 22:47“Hey, what you think of me is really none of my business.” - Gabby quoting Byron Katie @ 37:49“Nobody works for me.” 42:35Guest BioGABRIELLE REECE is not only a volleyball legend, but an inspirational leader, New York Times bestselling author, wife, and mother. The former professional beach volleyball player and Nike’s first female  spokeswoman is the definition of both athleticism and beauty. At 6’3” and a lean 170 pounds, Gabby is a force to be reckoned with in the gym and on a microphone. Over the last decade Gabby has transcended from sport to becoming an international fitness and wellness  expert. With the release of her new podcast The Gabby Reece Show Gabby gets leading health, wellness, sport,  psychology, and business experts to share their most valuable and actionable information to her audience.  As co-founder and co-Innovator of Laird Superfood, she has been able to take her nutrition expertise and  help create delicious, plant-based better for you food products that are accessible to all. Many of today’s top professional athletes and celebrities look to Gabby for training guidance. Partnering  with her husband, big wave surfer Laird Hamilton, Gabby helped create Extreme Performance Training (XPT). XPT is a unique and powerful fitness training and lifestyle program featuring their unique water  workouts, trademarked performance breathing, recovery methods, high-intensity and endurance training  for people of all fitness levels and backgrounds. She created her own trademarked high-intensity workout  called HIGHX that can accommodate small groups up to 100’s of people in one workout. Show Notes0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’0:29 - Welcome to Gabby Reece1:34 - The Concept of Toxic Masculinity 7:19 - Applying Your Family Values to the World10:14 - A Discussion on Labels15:28 - People Pleasing Girls17:07 - Parental Disappointment21:07 - Everything is Connected24:21 - Health & Wellness Considerations29:22 - Mindfulness of Slowing Down31:26 - Lessons on the Hormone Cycle for Female Athletes35:29 - Generational Learning through One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self39:42 - 2023 Women’s Indoor Volleyball NCAA Finals: Texas Longhorns Vs. Nebraska Cornhuskers 41:44 - Where Can People Connect with You?42:51 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find GabbyLaird SuperfoodIG - @gabbyreeceThe Gabby Reece ShowEmail: info@gabbyreece.comBook Recommendations:Power Versus ForceCareer Forward

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “We radiate light like the sun.” 7:41“What the GHK copper peptide does by activating your stem cells is it calls on your stem cells to start repairing you again as if you were young.”  11:22“I am just so happy to be alive and to be of service.” 16:20“The product just does what you want it to do.” 19:32“This network is something amazing to latch onto both for your health and your financial freedom.” Wendy @ 31:58“For women, we just work together because we like to build community.” 41:04Guest Bio Marci found network marketing a decade ago when she realized she could work for herself to build residual income and create true wealth. But then Life took a turn and she found herself on a journey of healing from Fast Growing Cells!!  Her life was tumbling down, when a good friend shared a  life changing technology which allowed her to begin again!  She has now  been working with this company for 4 years and is the highest rank in it! She has over 80,000 brand partners in her organization of which 100 have ranked advanced to the top three positions in the company.  She loves to create systems and tools for brand partners and train the processes needed to help people become financially safe to financially free.  Show Notes 0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’0:36 - Welcome to Marci Preble1:22 - Tell Us the Backstory that Led You to Lifewave5:10 - The X398:47 - What is the GHK Copper Peptide?13:36 - There’s Only One Rule16:34 - Network of Innate Healers19:38 - Background on Founder, David Schmidt25:40 - Fast Forward to 201827:41 - Your Team Evolve Business Structure35:56 - Turning Fear into Fun with My Friend Sue37:57 - The Man Story42:40 - Check Out the Product at www.bebetter.life/lifewave  45:06 - Office Gifting Program47:39 - Share the Wealth Companies50:07 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Marci www.startx39now.comwww.start333biz.com

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points & Memorable Quotes “That bridge between academia and regular life is so beautiful, and it’s so important.” - Wendy @ 4:19 “Grow older, not get older.” - Wendy @ 7:17“My parents were very loving and they really emphasized on paying attention to other people, paying attention to their feelings, not being obsessed with yourself and your own little story, but trying to figure out you fit into a wider context of society.” 7:53“When you age, you have to accept your new situation.” 9:30“If you put your mind to it, you can achieve whatever you want and age is not a barrier.” 11:17“What do we do with these feelings of regret? 15:44“Our life is about stories.” 19:08 “Japan is the second biggest music market in the World.” 22:55“It’s incredibly important to remain engaged with life, continue to learn, and honor your relationships.” 33:34“Language is all about meaning.  You have to communicate with the other person.” 39:10 Guest BioROB SCHWARTZ (Waltham, Mass, near Boston) is the Son and Editor of his fathers’ book on aging titled “The Wisdom of Morrie” (Blackstone Publishing, April 2023). He has many years of experience as a journalist, music/film producer, and entrepreneur. Rob has founded a number of companies, both in Japan and the US, and held executive positions in others. He’s produced numerous film and music projects with international teams. His areas of expertise include the entertainment industries in Asia, the US, and Europe. His projects often have a special emphasis on music, film, online business development, developing musical artists careers. In addition, he has been reporting for Billboard magazine on Asia since 2007. Rob is one of the producers of Onetopia, a benefit music festival slated for 2024 to support mental health charities. Rob has recently appeared on Good Morning America, Nightline, PBS NewsHour, NBC10 Boston, Good Day Sacramento, and in People, Reader's Digest, WebMD, VoyageLA and many more about this new book.Show Notes0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’0:37 - Welcome to Rob Schwartz1:35 - Finding the ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ Manuscript4:36 - The Wisdom Of Morrie6:08 - What Was Growing Up Like in That Household?9:11 - Aches & Pains of Aging & Ageism14:12 - The Concepts of Loneliness, Regret, and LifeLong Learning18:24 - Life As A Journalist23:26 - Music is Good for Mental Health27:45 - Bringing ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ to Life31:55 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self39:20 - Let’s Talk About Your Mother’s Role44:01 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Rob https://wisdomofmorrie.com/www.onetopia.com IG - @rob_schwaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob-schwartz-544703/