What They Don’t Tell You (but we will!)

This week on What They Don’t Tell You, we sit down with writer, podcaster, and queen of parenting honesty Cat Sims (@notsosmugnow) for a conversation that’s as funny as it is heartfelt. From the hilarious chaos of parenting fails to the surprising lessons that come with raising kids, Cat opens up about the highs and lows of family life.  She chats with us about how social media can be both a lifeline and a pressure cooker for parents, and shares her own approach to keeping her marriage strong while juggling kids, work, and everything in between. We also dive into how to talk about anxiety and mental health with children, and what it really takes to keep the spark alive when you’re knee-deep in family life. If you’ve ever laughed through a parenting fail, felt the weight of comparison online, or wondered how other couples make it work, this episode is a must-listen.   Follow Cat and order her books https://notsosmugnow.komi.io/

Back to School with Sophie David (Happy Little Learners) Back-to-school season can stir up a mix of emotions - excitement, nerves, and even a bit of Sunday-night dread, for both kids and parents.  In this episode, Emily and Matt sit down with Sophie David, founder of Happy Little Learners, to explore the unspoken pressures families face as September rolls around. From big transitions like starting school for the first time or moving up to secondary, to supporting kids through worry and building motivation for learning, Sophie shares practical, play-based strategies to make the school journey smoother. We talk about: - Signs a child might be struggling with school changes - How to support anxious children without overreacting - Practical ways to beat the Sunday-night worry - Making learning playful (and avoiding power struggles!) - The surprising things parents overthink when it comes to school prep Whether your child is eager to get back into the classroom or dragging their heels, this conversation is packed with tips to help you—and them—navigate the new term with confidence. Follow Sophie https://www.instagram.com/littlehappylearners/ Visit her website https://www.littlehappylearners.co.uk/

This week on What They Don’t Tell You, Emily and Matt sit down with dietitian and author Nichola Ludlam-Raine to unpack the hot topic of ultra-processed foods (UPFs). From sneaky “healthy” products that are more processed than you’d think, to the everyday guilt parents feel about feeding their kids, Nichola breaks down the science in a relatable, real-world way. They chat about how to make peace with UPFs without cutting everything out, the swaps that actually work for busy families, and why balance matters more than perfection. Plus, Nichola shares how writing her book changed the way she feeds her own family, and gives her top one small change tip for anyone feeling overwhelmed. It’s a refreshing, guilt-free conversation about food, family, and the reality of modern life. Follow Nichola https://www.instagram.com/nicsnutrition Visit her website https://nicsnutrition.com/ Grab her book https://amzn.eu/d/3VZ9Uvw

This week on What They Don’t Tell You, we’re joined by the wonderful Louise Pentland - YouTuber, author, Disney superfan, and proud mum of two girls. Emily and Matt sit down with Louise to chat about: ✨ Her lifelong love of Disney (and the magic that never fades) ✨ How her childhood shaped the way she parents today ✨ The unexpected joys and challenges of raising girls in 2025 ✨ What it was really like being one of the original YouTubers ✨ Writing her brand-new children’s book, and whether her daughters approved! ✨ The highs, lows, and funny behind-the-scenes moments of her wedding day Plus, Louise opens up about the pressures of sharing so much of her life online, how she protects time for herself and her family, and of course, she takes on our quick-fire round (spoiler: we get her ultimate Disney princess pick 👑). It’s honest, heartfelt, and full of laughs, the kind of chat you’ll wish you were having over a glass of wine (or a Diet Coke!). Get a copy of her amazing new children's novel 'Adventures in Lylaland' here https://amzn.eu/d/5FbAp9t Follow Louise on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/louisepentland and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Louisepentland You will not be disappointed! xx

Fussy eating is one of those parenting challenges that can leave you stressed, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if your child will ever eat more than pasta and plain bread. In this episode of What They Don’t Tell You, we sit down with children’s eating expert Emma Shafqat to unpack everything parents need to know about picky eating. We dive into: What actually defines a “fussy eater” (and why it’s not just about refusing veggies) The myths and misunderstandings that make parents feel like they’re failing The biological and psychological reasons behind why kids might reject foods The biggest mistakes parents make (without even realising it!) Practical, realistic strategies to ease mealtime battles and help kids expand their food choices When fussy eating is normal—and when it might signal a deeper issue Whether you’ve got a toddler throwing peas on the floor or a school-aged child who won’t touch anything green, this conversation is full of reassurance, expert insight, and down-to-earth advice. Reach Emma via Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dietitian.withadifference/  or her website https://dietitianwithadifference.co.uk/emma-shafqat/

In this episode of What They Don’t Tell You, we’re joined by the brilliant Daisy Woods, better known online as Muddle Through Mummy. Daisy is hilarious, refreshingly honest, and a total pro when it comes to navigating life as a boy mum. We chat all things raising boys, from sibling dynamics and never-ending mess to fussy eaters and the reality of screen time. Daisy also opens up about her journey into motherhood, including the challenges of postnatal depression, and shares her best mum hacks for making daily life that little bit easier. And of course, we couldn’t resist talking family travel, from genius survival tips to hilarious holiday fails (we’ve had plenty of those too!). We wrap things up with a quick-fire round where Daisy reveals her go-to dinner on busy nights, the one thing she wishes she could outsource forever, and the truth about what she wishes she’d known before becoming a parent. If you’re a parent looking for a mix of laughter, honesty, and practical hacks, this one’s for you. Follow Daisy on instagram https://www.instagram.com/muddlethroughmummy and TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@muddlethroughmummy 

In this episode of "What They Don’t Tell You", we sit down with the incredible Nadia Thorburn, mum of four, including a set of spontaneous triplets, for a raw and relatable conversation about what it’s really like to go from one child to four almost overnight. From the moment she found out she was expecting triplets, to navigating a high-risk pregnancy, endless nappies, and zero sleep, Nadia shares the emotional and physical toll of raising multiples, and the unexpected joys too. She opens up about the impact on her relationship, mental health, and identity, as well as the often-overlooked reality of parenting three babies at once. We dive into what daily life looks like, the myths people believe about triplets, and the incredible support system that keeps her going. Plus, she shares her top hacks and one golden piece of advice for any parent-to-be hearing the word "triplets" for the first time. This is an honest, warm, and inspiring chat that pulls back the curtain on a parenting experience few truly understand, and you won’t want to miss it. Follow Nadia on instagram https://www.instagram.com/nadia_thorburn

Today, we’re joined by two amazing guests - Stuart Armfield and Francis Haugen - for a powerful and honest conversation all about their journey to parenthood through surrogacy. Stuart and Francis open up about the emotional rollercoaster of starting a family as a same-sex couple, the challenges they faced along the way, and the absolute joy of becoming dads. From the very first step to meeting their baby for the first time, this episode is full of heart, hope, and helpful advice for anyone considering surrogacy or curious about what the journey really looks like. In this episode, we’ll cover: When and why surrogacy became the right path for them The emotional and practical realities of finding a surrogate How they navigated unexpected challenges and supported each other Handling judgment, assumptions, and awkward questions What it felt like to meet their baby for the very first time How becoming parents changed their relationship The biggest surprises of fatherhood - and what they wish they’d known Whether you’re exploring alternative paths to parenthood or just want to hear a truly heartwarming story, Stuart and Francis bring vulnerability, humour and inspiration to one of our most moving episodes yet. ✨ Follow Stuart https://www.instagram.com/stueyarmfield and Francis https://www.instagram.com/francishaugen 🎥 You can also watch their family journey on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4851n8f6HEqxxpK8JCZ4bg   Go to see their show https://www.ucl.ac.uk/bloomsbury-theatre/events/2025/oct/stuart-and-francis-show-live

Today’s guest is Emily’s lovely friend Jemma Solomon - aka The Label Lady! Jemma is a mum of three, a former nurse, and the founder of one of the most recognisable home organisation brands in the UK. She's someone who’s built a hugely successful business from scratch - using Instagram and a whole lot of grit. In this fun, honest, and inspiring chat, we cover everything from career changes to family life, social media pressure, and navigating renovation chaos with your partner. In this episode, we’ll chat about: How Jemma went from NHS nurse to successful entrepreneur The reality of running a business on social media while raising kids What it’s really like being in the public eye (with a famous sister!) Parenting styles, boundaries, and how she shows up for her kids Her recent health and fitness journey - and what’s kept her motivated Her upcoming home renovation (and whether she’s more “Pinterest plan” or “wing it”) Encouragement for anyone thinking of making a big life change Whether you're dreaming of starting something new or just need a good dose of real talk and motivation, Jemma brings the laughs, the insight, and a whole lot of heart. ✨ Follow Jemma @label.lady.1 or shop her labels at https://www.thelabellady.com

Today we’re diving into a topic that affects women eventually — What They Don’t Tell You About... Perimenopause & Menopause. We’re joined by Dr. Alice Scott, GP and British Menopause Society specialist (and Emily’s own doctor), for a myth-busting, info-packed, and empowering conversation about hormones, symptoms, and support. In this episode, we’ll cover: What perimenopause actually is — and why so many women don’t realise they’re in it The truth about HRT, weight gain, low libido, and mental health The most common (and misunderstood) symptoms How partners can support without stepping on eggshells What lifestyle changes actually help — and why exercise isn’t just about losing weight When to see a doctor, how to advocate for yourself, and what questions to ask This is one of our most requested topics — and whether you’re in your 30s, 40s, 50s or just planning ahead, Dr. Alice’s expert advice, warmth and clarity make this an essential listen. Follow Dr. Alice Scott at dralicescott.co.uk or visit essexprivatedoctors.com to learn more.

Today, we're joined by the brilliant Marie Louise – better known as The Modern Midwife – to talk about What They Don’t Tell You... about birth, recovery and the mental load of motherhood. With over a decade of NHS experience and two children of her own, Marie shares expert advice and honest truths about pregnancy, birth plans, pain relief, mum guilt, intrusive thoughts, and the pressure on modern mums to “do it all.” In this episode, we’ll talk about: What birth plans are really for – and how to prepare for the unpredictable Why it’s not normal for breastfeeding to hurt The pressure to “bounce back” and why it's time to let that go Intrusive thoughts and the early signs of postnatal anxiety How partners can truly support new mums We hope this conversation reassures, informs and supports you – whether you're pregnant, postpartum, or supporting someone who is. Follow Marie on Instagram @the_modern_midwife and check out her books and courses at themodernmidwife.com.

Today, we’re chatting with the fabulous Kimberley Walsh about What They Don’t Tell You... About Raising Boys, Rediscovering Yourself and Staying Sane(ish). As a singer, presenter, interiors lover and mum of three boys, Kimberley opens up about parenting chaos, career balance, and why she has a secret stash of toothbrushes in the downstairs utility room! In this episode, we talk about: The beauty and bedlam of life with three boys Why each child needs different parenting Chore charts, mum guilt and “bruh” on repeat What it was really like doing a Girls Aloud tour as a mum Embracing the mess, the love, and the chaos of a busy home Creative hacks (and one truly regrettable lemon carpet) Follow her on Instagram at @kimberleywalshofficial and find out more about Kimberley's new paint colour at www.wickes.co.uk/kimberley-walsh

Today, we're joined by a very special guest — former Love Islander, presenter, and total straight-talker Amy Hart! In this honest and hilarious episode, we chat about What They Don’t Tell You About... New Motherhood, Influencing, and Finding Your Magic. Amy shares what life is really like behind the grid. In this episode, we’ll talk about: The parts of motherhood no one prepares you for  Feeding journeys, sleep routines, and doing things your way Why “being a magic mum” is worth the late nights Raising a toddler while juggling fame, filming and trolls The impact of parenting on relationships — and how she's keeping the spark alive The pressure to “do motherhood right” online  Follow Amy on Instagram at @amyhartxo and check out her podcast Amy Hart’s Mum Club.

Today, we're talking about something really fun and surprisingly controversial — What They Don’t Tell You About... Baby Names! We’re joined by the UK's leading baby name consultant, YouTuber and author SJ Strum, who has helped thousands of parents around the world choose the perfect name — and who knows all the trends, pitfalls and behind-the-scenes baby name drama. In this episode, we chat about: Why choosing a name is more stressful than people admit Tips for getting past the dreaded “partner veto” How to avoid future baby name regret Current trends — and what to avoid if you want something timeless How names shape identity, confidence and even school life Our own name stories (including a few fails and changes!) Whether you're expecting & stuck on names, or just love a good list — this one’s packed with laughs and loads of inspiration. Follow SJ on Instagram at @sj_strum and grab her brilliant new book Baby Name Envy now!

Today, we’re talking about something fun, practical and full of personality — What They Don’t Tell You About... Designing a Family Home! We’re joined by interior designer and mum-of-two Abby from Ginger Nest Interiors, who helps families create homes that are stylish, functional and genuinely liveable (yes, even with messy kids). In this episode, we talk: How to design kids’ rooms that grow with them Mistakes people make when decorating themselves (step away from the feature wall) The power of accessories, layout and lighting Storage hacks, smart high-street finds, and under-bed secrets What to avoid if you're buying a sofa... and why you shouldn't put the sink in your kitchen island Whether you’re starting from scratch or just want a refresh, Abby’s tips will help you create a space you love — without losing your mind or your style. Follow Abby on Instagram at @gingernestinteriors and @gingernestinteriors_kids, or head to gingernestinteriors.com to learn more.

Today, we're talking about something that definitely doesn't get spoken about enough — What They Don’t Tell You About… Style, Identity and Dressing After Kids. We're joined by celebrity stylist and mum-of-two Tatiana de Normann, who shares her expert tips on how to feel good in your clothes again — no matter your shape, size or budget. In this episode, we chat about: Why so many mums feel lost in their style — and how to get out of the black leggings rut The truth about body changes no one warns you about Staple pieces worth investing in Why black isn’t always slimming Nursing wear, “mum tum” hacks, and how to elevate a comfy outfit Whether you're postpartum, perimenopausal, or just stuck in a fashion funk, Tatiana’s advice is warm, empowering and relatable. Follow her on Instagram at @tatiana_londonstylist and reach out if you want help rediscovering your style.

Today, we’re talking about something really important and long overdue — What They Don’t Tell You About... Talking To Your Kids About P0rn. We’re joined by leading child psychologist Aisling O'Connor, who’s here to help parents protect their children from online dangers — including exposure to pornography, predators in gaming apps, and the reality of growing up in a digital world. This episode covers: The shocking age most children first see graphic online images (it’s much younger than you think) How porn affects children’s brains, self-image, and expectations Why Roblox, Fortnite, and even YouTube Kids aren’t as safe as you might think What works (and what doesn’t) when it comes to parental controls The one thing that protects kids more than anything else online There are also some practical tools — like how to spot hidden apps, creating a family safety contract, and how to start conversations without shame or fear.  Learn more or join Aisling’s Online Safety Academy via Instagram @aisling_childpsychologist or check out her Online Safety Academy

Today, we’re tackling one of the biggest challenges of parenting — What They Don’t Tell You About... Baby Sleep! In our first-ever guest episode, we’re joined by sleep consultant, author, and mum-of-three Rosey Davidson, founder of Just Chill Baby Sleep. If you’re sleep-deprived, confused by regressions, or just wondering when your child will ever sleep through the night — this one’s for you. In this episode, we’ll talk about: The truth behind sleep regressions (spoiler: most aren’t real!) Night waking, early rising, nap struggles and screen time How to transition from cot to bed (and when not to) The myth of “overtiredness” Sleep training, co-sleeping, and everything in between Why sleep isn’t just a luxury — it’s a pillar of health for the whole family Follow Rosey on Instagram at @just_chill_mama and check out her online resources, courses and books at justchillbabysleep.co.uk. Got a sleep win or horror story to share? Email us at emilynorrisloves@gmail.com.

Today, we're doing something a little different — it’s a What They Don’t Tell You Q&A Special! We asked for your parenting questions, and you delivered. From tips and tricks to struggles and transitions, we’re chatting through it all with our usual mix of honesty, humour and chaos! In this episode, we’ll talk about: The easiest (and hardest!) ages so far Potty training, co-sleeping and surviving teething How to keep the “sparkle” alive in your relationship Handling sibling dynamics and one-on-one time Swearing, social exclusion, and awkward school situations And... who’s most likely to get arrested?! We’re answering your most asked questions completely off the cuff — no prep, just real-life parenting chat. Got a question for a future episode? Email us at emilynorrisloves@gmail.com or message us on Instagram @whattheydonttellyoupod.

Today, we're talking about something a little different but massively relatable if you're a parent (or about to become one)… What They Don’t Tell You about Renovating Your Home! From dodging the dust, juggling kids and channeling your builder, we're sharing our top lessons from four house renovations – the good, the stressful, and everything in between. In this episode, we’ll talk about: How having a baby makes you suddenly want to renovate Creating a liveable space during chaos Delaying decisions and living in the house first The all important budgeting hacks Top tips for surviving the dust, builders, and deliveries So, whether you're planning a project with a baby on the way, mid-build, or just love a nose around other people’s houses – we hope this one inspires you! Let us know your renovation tips (and fails!) at emilynorrisloves@gmail.com  And, if there's anyone you would love to see and hear on the podcast, we would love to know!