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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Author: Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet

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Step into iconic couples therapist Esther Perel's office and listen as real couples anonymously bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So.. where should we begin?

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Happily Divorced

Happily Divorced

2019-11-2100:54:108

They’re a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that a happy family doesn’t have to end with divorce.
Mom and Monique

Mom and Monique

2019-11-1400:50:4110

They’re a child desperate to connect with their single mother after 28 years of living in the shadow of a special-needs brother.
Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. Available only on Spotify. It's free to sign up for Spotify.
A Romantic Revival

A Romantic Revival

2019-11-0700:45:059

He’s away a lot. She’s a stepmother at home to four children whose mother died by suicide. Is there anything left over for her?
The Other Woman

The Other Woman

2019-10-3100:46:3630

She wonders if she can satisfy her attraction to women without losing the husband she loves.
A Small Town Affair

A Small Town Affair

2019-10-2400:47:2215

Their relationship started with an affair that ended two marriages. Now they wonder if there’s enough trust there to build something stable together.
Young Love

Young Love

2019-10-1700:47:2416

She lives in Mexico, he lives in the US. Their immigration status has forced them to consider marriage sooner than they might have planned.
Season Three Trailer

Season Three Trailer

2019-03-0800:02:403

A new season of Where Should We Begin?
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the caregiver, and remember they are much more than that to each other.
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor's office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way back to her. Esther takes them back to their upbringings and the years before the infidelities to find a place of mutual compassion.
[Contains mature themes] They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently.
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret.
Leaving the Shame Behind

Leaving the Shame Behind

2018-03-3000:46:254

A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband’s near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he’s adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the children bear the brunt of his frustrations. Esther coaches them through an honest conversation on anger, parenthood and the power of apology.
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending time together, Esther guides both towards less rigid perspectives.
I Want to Feel Wanted

I Want to Feel Wanted

2018-03-1600:47:3310

After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.
You Need Help to Help Her

You Need Help to Help Her

2018-03-0900:46:236

[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and expectations – no matter how well-intentioned – can shape a child’s upbringing.
I Can’t Give You a Child

I Can’t Give You a Child

2017-12-0100:41:354

[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
Sexlessness

Sexlessness

2017-11-1700:34:477

[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
Tell Me I'm Not Alone

Tell Me I'm Not Alone

2017-11-1000:40:212

[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They’ve decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
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Comments (20)

Elaine Chang

"You have no idea what it's like to have hardships and not be alone. And neither does he." She's a genius listener.

Dec 5th
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Vongai Doby

I love your Podcast wish you could post more episodes per day

Nov 23rd
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Janette Jones

POWERFUL💔😔👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Nov 20th
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Janette Jones

Thank you Monique, Mom, & Esther for your amazing insights. I had difficulty understanding much of what Monique shared, through the pain of her tears which impacted my understanding of the entire story and processing.

Nov 20th
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Niels Wee

Please also make how's work available other places than Spotify :)

Nov 16th
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S N

The Psychologist sounds very biased against the man. She is quite rude to the man and doesn't let him fully explain himself.

Nov 15th
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Billy r

damn this hit close to home

Oct 31st
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Little Bird

23:13 onwards is very insightful

Oct 28th
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daisy

I love this podcast, so glad there are new episodes

Oct 26th
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cloudy

sounds like they need an affair w/ each other, Gregory should swoop in

Oct 23rd
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dp

this wife was oblivious. now shes milking the victim card.

Oct 4th
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Letisha Singh

I'm a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist and this is honestly the most engaging podcast I've ever listened to. Esther handles each "session" with such curiosity, sensitivity and empathy and really allows each couple the space to explore their issue with her as the prism through which they ,sometimes, see their relationship for the very first time. In technikolor. Brilliantly done. You inspire me as a therapist Esther. Thank you.

Oct 2nd
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dp

if the situation was reversed, hed be scolded and made to accept responsibility because he was so absorbed in his work or whatever that he neglected and didnt pay attention, took her for granted, etc etc.and hed probably forgive her in 30 minutes and fuck her that evening. The double standards are incredible and it may be time to shift how women get the benefit of the doubt in marriages.

Sep 30th
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dp

Couple things. I think the poor bastard is being held 100% responsible, and he needs to grovel and kneel at her throne of forgiveness.But its VERY telling to me, that she had NO idea about 20+ years of his carrying on with sexual partners. The key is no idea. this tells me that she was not paying attention to him. And human beings if neglected, either with physical or emotional needs simply will look elsewhere. she is partly responsible and I heard nothing about that as usual. The victim. Marriage is 50 50. good or bad.

Sep 30th
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