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Step into iconic couples therapist Esther Perel's office and listen as real couples anonymously bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So.. where should we begin?
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12They’re a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that a happy family doesn’t have to end with divorce.
They’re a child desperate to connect with their single mother after 28 years of living in the shadow of a special-needs brother.
Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. Available only on Spotify. It's free to sign up for Spotify.
He’s away a lot. She’s a stepmother at home to four children whose mother died by suicide. Is there anything left over for her?
She wonders if she can satisfy her attraction to women without losing the husband she loves.
Their relationship started with an affair that ended two marriages. Now they wonder if there’s enough trust there to build something stable together.
She lives in Mexico, he lives in the US. Their immigration status has forced them to consider marriage sooner than they might have planned.
A new season of Where Should We Begin?
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the caregiver, and remember they are much more than that to each other.
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor's office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way back to her. Esther takes them back to their upbringings and the years before the infidelities to find a place of mutual compassion.
[Contains mature themes] They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently.
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret.
A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband’s near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he’s adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the children bear the brunt of his frustrations. Esther coaches them through an honest conversation on anger, parenthood and the power of apology.
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending time together, Esther guides both towards less rigid perspectives.
After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and expectations – no matter how well-intentioned – can shape a child’s upbringing.
[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They’ve decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
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Elaine Chang
"You have no idea what it's like to have hardships and not be alone. And neither does he." She's a genius listener.
Vongai Doby
I love your Podcast wish you could post more episodes per day
Janette Jones
POWERFUL💔😔👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Janette Jones
Thank you Monique, Mom, & Esther for your amazing insights. I had difficulty understanding much of what Monique shared, through the pain of her tears which impacted my understanding of the entire story and processing.
Niels Wee
Please also make how's work available other places than Spotify :)
S N
The Psychologist sounds very biased against the man. She is quite rude to the man and doesn't let him fully explain himself.
Katabatic
💔
Billy r
damn this hit close to home
Little Bird
23:13 onwards is very insightful
daisy
I love this podcast, so glad there are new episodes
cloudy
sounds like they need an affair w/ each other, Gregory should swoop in
dp
this wife was oblivious. now shes milking the victim card.
dp
and a wife who "has no idea" that her husbamd has had about 50 affairs is partly responsible. She was clearly oblivious. not engaged at all with him. ignoring him. neglecting him. how does that translate? if the situation were reversed, all the women would be saying..well..he took her for granted and she did what she needed. The double standard is crazy. Women have no more emotional intelligence or relationship savvy than men do.thats just a handed down falsehood. Used to get benefit of the doubt but now that we have to scrutinize guys so much in the meetoo era, its time to scrutinize womens behaviors too and hold them accountable for their actions or inactions or intentions..as well.
Letisha Singh
I'm a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist and this is honestly the most engaging podcast I've ever listened to. Esther handles each "session" with such curiosity, sensitivity and empathy and really allows each couple the space to explore their issue with her as the prism through which they ,sometimes, see their relationship for the very first time. In technikolor. Brilliantly done. You inspire me as a therapist Esther. Thank you.
dp
if the situation was reversed, hed be scolded and made to accept responsibility because he was so absorbed in his work or whatever that he neglected and didnt pay attention, took her for granted, etc etc.and hed probably forgive her in 30 minutes and fuck her that evening. The double standards are incredible and it may be time to shift how women get the benefit of the doubt in marriages.
dp
Couple things. I think the poor bastard is being held 100% responsible, and he needs to grovel and kneel at her throne of forgiveness.But its VERY telling to me, that she had NO idea about 20+ years of his carrying on with sexual partners. The key is no idea. this tells me that she was not paying attention to him. And human beings if neglected, either with physical or emotional needs simply will look elsewhere. she is partly responsible and I heard nothing about that as usual. The victim. Marriage is 50 50. good or bad.
Julia Besnard
hello, any news of season 3?
Melissa
Great Pod!
Darren Coyle
when is the new season coming?
Still I Whirl
I feel like Esther completely dismissed the woman's sadness and her very valid frustration, and the trauma that comes with it. A complete bias towards the guy and mollycoddling his ego, when he is also responsible and also didn't seek help even though it's affecting his wife. Selfish, she deserves far better. Bullsh**.