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Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer. Every week, Nicole invites a comedian, friend, or ex-fling to interview their dating life and figure out her own.

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Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if it's okay to leave a bad date early.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746
Drag queen Priyanka (Winner of Canada's Drag Race, host of YTV's The Zone) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from Brooke Lynn Hytes, evolving from a kids tv host to a drag queen, and explains the dark spiritual energy of Obeah.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746
Trash TV (w/ Patti Harrison)

Trash TV (w/ Patti Harrison)

2020-11-0601:05:518

Comedian Patti Harrison (Shrill, Search Party) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti shares the details of her childhood Vin Diesel sex dream, and Nicole shepherds Patti into trash television.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746
Comedian Mitra Jouhari (Big Mouth, Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY.Plus, Mitra talks about how she's providing hygiene kits to the unhoused, and how you can support your local community help organizations.Donate to Resisterhood LA here.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove, A Question of Love) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so much more! Plus, a conversation on racial bias in dating, navigating interracial relationships, and the struggle of in-person communication.Check out Damona's dating podcast: Dates & MatesSupport Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins (Thirst Aid Kit) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and is shopping for a $600 sex machine. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington (Broad City, Gayme Show) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester (Black Monday, Duncanville) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet, and a list of signs that a man is into you.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, Yamaneika discusses breaking up in the pandemic, and her plan to freeze her eggs.Trigger Warning: My guest misgenders a person in a retelling of a story and I didn't correct them and I’m sorry to those who listened and were offended.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Drag queen Latrice Royale (RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen, meeting their husband Chris at a meet & greet, and the story behind their Chicago pride festival proposal.Check out Latrice's podcast: The Chop.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get into the systemic racism present in writers' rooms, and how to turn the thought of death into something positive.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Lady Game (w/ Sam Jay)

Lady Game (w/ Sam Jay)

2020-09-0401:05:3018

Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting with men and women. Sam teaches Nicole about bad bitch energy, and how she developed her "lady game". Plus, why aren't interviewers asking White people about #BLM?Check out Sam Jay's special on Netflix: netflix.com/title/81078802Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like performative activism is the growing trend in dating bios. On the plus side, Nicole's been getting treated better on dating apps since the #BLM protests. Oh boy, life is wild and there's lots to unpack in this one.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night, how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy awards will be like. Plus, Amber helps write some Hinge messages, and Nicole challenges white people to come up with a good slave joke.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Gabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

2020-08-0701:13:5219

Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting.Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?'Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens.Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate check here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdatesTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
Drag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story.Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest way to find and lock down a fuckbuddy during quarantine? The Vixen weighs in.For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8EpuSupport Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdatesTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man."Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition.For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8EpuSupport Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdatesTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fm
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Nae S.

Nicole girl get you some!! I finally did!! 😂😂 Great Episode!

Nov 21st
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Nae S.

lol Great Episode!

Nov 21st
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samantha chong

drag queens of the world unite!

Nov 20th
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Michael Willows

How many feels this episode gave me...Nicole we are living a very similar relationship experience

Nov 13th
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a*tribe*called*black

Nicole, I love you but this B a absolute mess. Situation aside it's never okay to misgender someone after they told you how they identify. I'm sorry but Yamaneika a c*nt

Nov 10th
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Nae S.

🤣🤣🤣

Nov 5th
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Nae S.

Great episode!!

Nov 5th
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Hilda Kamau

hilarious 😂

Oct 28th
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samantha chong

those restaurant commit wage theft by not paying their employees better. so you are not stealing, it's just repossession

Oct 22nd
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Nae S.

😂🤣😂 great episode!!

Oct 9th
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Nae S.

I love Janelle's laugh! 🤣🤣

Oct 9th
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Nae S.

omg I'm so sorry that you had that experience on AA!! 😱 Fly Southwest girl we'll treat you with respect and some sarcasm and a good time! lol As a Flight Attendant that story pisses me off. 😠

Oct 8th
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Nae S.

🤣🤣🤣 You both had me cracking up!

Oct 6th
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Nae S.

Domino's is better! lol Hey I look at hairline and shoes but Clean nails and teeth are the top priority for me!

Oct 6th
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Nae S.

Great episode!! ❤️

Sep 30th
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Nae S.

😂🤣😂

Sep 30th
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Nae S.

Loved Tommy!! lol

Sep 30th
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Gina Visser

I don't care who you are, referring to someone by their wrong gender after they've already corrected you, in public, is spiteful and violent. Sorry you had shitty service, doesn't mean you have the right to be a bigger bitch. Deff never listening to this Saunders bitch again.

Sep 28th
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samantha chong

"i can see your lunch bitch" hahahaha

Sep 25th
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Nae S.

You guys are speaking truth on this episode!! Dating is like the 5th dimension of Hell these days! 🙄

Sep 14th
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