Wine, Dine, and 69

On the final episode of the pod (as well as WD&69’s five year anniversary), Rachel reflects on the last five years and everything she has learned from running the podcast. She is then joined by her *drumroll, please* prometido (fiancé), Javier. Javi also happens to be the pod’s biggest fan. The two of them discuss work/life balance, immigration, living in Spain, their engagement, personal growth, and what lies ahead. A very heartfelt thank you to everyone who has supported WD&69 over the last five years. Thanks for talking. ♥Episode Notes:Conversation with Javi begins at 00:12:30.Mentioned in the episode:The Unafraid: http://www.theunafraidfilm.com/about.html Alain de Botton “On Being” episode, “The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships”: https://onbeing.org/programs/alain-de-botton-the-true-hard-work-of-love-and-relationships/ Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/emdr r/confidentlyincorrect: https://www.reddit.com/r/confidentlyincorrect/ The Dunning-Kruger Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dunning-kruger-effect --------Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. Promo/engagement photo by Jesús Calzas Millán.

In the penultimate episode of the Wine, Dine, ad 69 Podcast, Rachel talks about gratitude, growth, and the Johari Window model.  She then welcomes back repeat guest, Leah Spasova. This time, the two of them are diving into a conversation about complementary dynamics in relationships. They discuss how attachment styles play a role, taking accountability for our own part in toxic dynamics, how to break free from the cycle of negative, unhealthy relationships, and more. Episode Notes:“You may be 50% of the relationship dynamic, but every choice you make is 100% for you.”  – LeahConversation with Leah begins at 00:12:05.Follow Leah: Life Sexperts Website: https://www.lifesexperts.com/ Leah on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/leah-spasova-oxford-eng/847920 Follow Leah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/Follow Leah on Twitter: https://x.com/leahspasova Contact form to work with Leah: https://www.lifesexperts.com/contact-us Sexperts Business Community: https://www.sbc-int.com/ Free e-book, “‘The Big 3 Secrets for a Pleasure filled Intimate Life’’: https://www.lifesexperts.com/product-page/lifesexperts-ebook-the-big-3-secrets-for-a-pleasure-filled-intimate-life Follow Life Sexplicit: Life Sexplicit Website: https://www.lifesexplicit.com/ Life Sexplicit Twitter: https://x.com/lifesexplicit Life Sexplicit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_/ Life Sexplicit Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit Life Sexplicit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lifesexplicit/ Life Sexplicit Telegram: https://t.me/lifesexplicit Mentioned in the episode: Youtube Video: How Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us (& How To Break The Cycle) with Heidi Priebe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHrImgzzphY&list=PLhFOC1XMwCl8QxjTTAAM5Lao7qTNbyqWr&index=13&t=315s The Johari Window model: https://www.communicationtheory.org/the-johari-window-model/ --------Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel welcomes her close friend Laura – a fellow Michigander, editor, and Buffy enthusiast –  to WD&69. Laura recounts some of her dating horror stories, shares red and green flags, and offers insights into the unique challenges of dating as an Asian woman. They also touch on the historical silencing of Asian women in society and  discuss the distinction between “alone” and “lonely”. Finally, they explore finding hope in the dating world when the bar is, in fact, in hell. Don’t forget to “look for the evil”. Also, #JusticeForCordelia! EPISODE NOTES:Discussed in the episode: Article: “Chinatown groups celebrate cancellation of 76ers arena deal,” (January 13, 2025), by TaRhonda Thomas: https://6abc.com/post/chinatown-groups-celebrate-cancellation-76ers-arena-deal/15796889/ TV Series: Severance on Apple TV: https://tv.apple.com/us/show/severance/umc.cmc.1srk2goyh2q2zdxcx605w8vtx Article: “Should Women Stay Single?” (December 12, 2019), by Joseph Chamie: https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single Article: “ASMR – Benefits and Emerging Research,” (September 30, 2024), by Ashley Marcin: https://www.healthline.com/health/autonomous-sensory-meridian-response Podcast: The Bitch Is Back With Christma Carpenter: https://open.spotify.com/show/2oq77imGQuD1t7gBe4BPN0 Movie: Gone Girl: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998/ Movie: Materialists: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30253473/ Book: The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1694033202&sr=8-1 Music: Haven’t Met You Yet, by Michael Bublé: https://open.spotify.com/track/4fIWvT19w9PR0VVBuPYpWA Some Articles on the Silence and Myth of the Asian Woman:Cold Tea Collective – The Dehumanization of Asian Women: https://coldteacollective.com/the-dehumanization-of-asian-women-why-we-can-no-longer-be-silent/ The Myth of the Asian Woman – California Alumni Association: https://alumni.berkeley.edu/california-magazine/online/myth-asian-woman/ Teaching about the Comfort Women during World War II and the Use of Personal Stories of the Victims – Association for Asian Studies: https://www.asianstudies.org/publications/eaa/archives/teaching-about-the-comfort-women-during-world-war-ii-and-the-use-of-personal-stories-of-the-victims/ --------Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. Promo photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash.

Rachel is on her way back to the States and checks in with listeners during her layover in Lisbon. Then, she is joined by author, podcaster, and speaker Kristyn Schott. Kristyn has done a lot of personal work working through perfectionism, OCD, and disordered eating. The two of them discuss deconstructing and unbecoming in the name of self-love, happiness, and faith. They also share a number of books, songs, movies and quotes that they find particularly meaningful and inspiring. Episode Notes:“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything, maybe it’s about unbecoming anything that really isn’t you, so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” – Paulo ColehoConversation with Kristyn begins at 00:03:39.Follow Kristyn: Website: https://kristynschott.com/ The Unbecoming Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/42Jq64pYdApz886J0oPgrfBook: More Than Conquerors, by Kristyn Schott (2020): https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Conquerors-Kristyn-Schott/dp/0578636115/Blog: https://kristynschott.com/blog/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristynschott/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl70yuopd5ckawVc_zmWBag Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristyn.schott Resources Mentioned in This Episode: National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) Eating Disorders 101 Presentation: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Eating-Disorders-101.pdf Overview of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/ Box Breathing: https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-box-breathing Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar, by Cheryl Strayed (2012): https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Beautiful-Things-Advice-Sugar/dp/0307949338 Dermot Kennedy: https://www.dermotkennedy.com/ “Outnumbered” by Dermot Kennedy: https://open.spotify.com/album/4BQVnx1yJrDa1tcky9D9N6 “Blossom” by Dermot Kennedy: https://open.spotify.com/track/3DE0Qm4jInax5ybEdfduJz “All I Know So Far” by P!NK: https://open.spotify.com/track/4LmN3eU1R1vVEdKuDELpGk An Intro To Transcendentalism: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/transcendentalism/ The Midnight Library, by Matt Haig (2020): https://www.amazon.com/Midnight-Library-Novel-Matt-Haig/dp/0525559477 Everything Everywhere All At Once (2022): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6710474/ Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail, by Cheryl Strayed (2012): https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Found-Pacific-Crest-Trail/dp/0307592731 Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel sits down with former guest turned friend and co-worker: Lindsay Dellinger. Enjoy being a fly on the wall as Rachel and Lindsay chat about the current political hellscape, immigration, mental health, resilience, letter-writing as processing, and so much more.Episode Notes:About Lindsay: Swipe Write: A sometimes hilarious, sometimes sad, always brutally honest account of 20 online dates with 20 different men, by Lindsay Dellinger (2022): https://www.amazon.com/Swipe-Write-Online-Dates-Different-ebook/dp/B09NBC8GGS Website: https://lindsay-taylor-dellinger.com/ Blog, “The Road Linds Travels”: https://theroadlindstravels.com/about-lindsay-taylor-dellinger/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/The_Road_Linds_Travels/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheRoadLindsTravels/ WOW Wagon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyOnY9xuD-SJsYK3rBXKWtQ Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 56: “Swipe Write” with Lindsay:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4 Lindsay interviews Rachel in her Celebrating Women series on her blog: https://theroadlindstravels.com/2025/04/19/celebrating-women-rachel-dalton/ Winded: A Memoir in Four Stages, by Dawn Newton(2019): https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1627202455/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i1 The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality, by Amanda Montell (2024): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1668007983/The Girls, by Emma Cline (2017): https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Novel-Emma-Cline/dp/0812988027/--------Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. Promo photo by houssam korichi on Unsplash.

Rachel talks a bit about what has been going in her life and what lies ahead for the Wine, Dine, and 69 Podcast. She is then joined by Stephany Ann, an accomplished lawyer, author, and survivor of two abusive marriages. The two of them discuss how to recognize narcissism, escaping the abuse cycle and trauma bond, and healing through belief.Episode Notes:Conversation with Stephany Ann begins at 00:16.07.Follow Stephany Ann: Website: https://stephany-ann.mykajabi.com/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thestephanyann/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thestephanyann/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kajabi LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanyann/In The Episode:WD&69 episode with my Mom: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7ChLbC17TPhDtmBjcI09rw The Wife Between Us, by Green Hendricks and Sarah Pekkenan (2018): https://www.amazon.com/Between-Sarah-Greer-Hendricks-Pekkanen/dp/1509842829 The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, & Miracles, by Bruce Lipton (2008): ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Biology-Belief-Unleashing-Consciousness-Miracles/dp/1401923127⁠ Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft (2003): https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ --------Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Short Description: Rachel sits down with one of her dearest friends in the world, and repeat guest, Samantha Simpson. The two share a candid conversation about growth, dating, the future of the pod, and more. Episode Notes:Conversation with Sam begins at 00:00:43.Mentioned in this episode:Sam’s first pod ep, Episode 72: “Intention and Introspection with Sam”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4p802E5QFUgy4mGrY7Akax Miss Bennet: Christmas At Pemberley Review by Sarah Paulos – https://www.facebook.com/OldAcademyPlayers/posts/pfbid06fvTz3VPUe8Sw7jMBQefKiJhoywc5cTb8MiLSwvJ3Cm4nCkGtga2SPrvVGK4FUNyl The Sixth of January YouTube Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3K4Fj6G7-6U Lindsay’s pod ep, Episode 56: “Swipe Write with Lindsay”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4 _______Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com!Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. Promo photo is a still from Pride and Prejudice (2005).

Rachel talks about election anxiety and the book, The Fourth Turning. She is then joined by this month’s guest, Missy XD, author of Tales of a Phone Sex Girl.  They talk about sex work, intimacy, anonymity, and of course, Missy shares some stories from her time on the job! Episode Notes: Conversation with MissyXD begins at 00:12:50. Follow Missy XD: Book: Tales of a Phone Sex Girl, By Missy XD (2024): https://www.amazon.com/Tales-Phone-Sex-Girl-Missy-ebook/dp/B0D4NJ4GNS  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missy.848375  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@missyxd5  Discussed in the episode:  [Intro] Vox, Your Guide To Coping With Election Anxiety, by Allie Volpe (October 28, 2024), https://www.vox.com/even-better/379814/election-anxiety-stress-coping-strategies-control-community  [Intro] The Fourth Turning: An American Prophecy - What the Cycles of History Tell Us About America's Next Rendezvous with Destiny, by William Strauss and Neil Howe (1997): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-American-Prophecy-Rendezvous/dp/0767900464  [Intro] The Fourth Turning Is Here: What the Seasons of History Tell Us about How and When This Crisis Will End, by Neil Howe (2023): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-Here-Seasons-History/dp/1982173734/ref=sr_1_1 Phone Kitten: A Cozy, Romantic, and Highly Humorous Mystery, by Marika Christian (2010):  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11222521-phone-kitten  Baby Reindeer: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13649112/  Fatal Attraction: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093010/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1  NY Post, “$4 a minute for fetishes: How the 1-900 phone-sex industry changed America” By Micheal Kaplan (2021): https://nypost.com/2021/11/12/how-the-1-900-phone-sex-industry-changed-america/  Touching Base, Inc, “NDIS And Sex Work” by unknown: https://www.touchingbase.org/ndis-and-sex-work/  _______ Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. Book cover artwork used with permission by the author.

Rachel talks about change, values, and self love before jumping into this timely conversation with this weeks’ guest, Jenny Ferrante. Jenny shares her story and talks about what self love is, the importance of self love rituals, and so much more! Episode Notes: “Self-love is accepting where I am, right now.” - Jenny Conversation with Jenny begins at 00:15:59. Follow Jenny: Website/Free Guide: https://jennyferrante.podia.com/  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Rm5EslbstK9qhwknKLvd5  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofyoursoul  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voices_of_your_soul/  Mentioned in this episode: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748  Japanese Philosophy of Ikigai: https://positivepsychology.com/ikigai/  [intro] “What’s Yer Weird Story?” Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6X88psWPMirckekseGCaGR  [intro] “Kidd and Friends” Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/60TPvp2QCe94C8xOxDeHQY  [intro] Finch App: https://finchcare.com/  [intro] The Workout Witch: https://theworkoutwitch.com/ “What would you do if you already knew you were worthy? What would you stop doing?” - Adia Gooden _______ Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel covers some odds and ends before jumping into the last interview of the season with Leah Spasova. Leah is a sex and relationship psychologist as well as the founder of the Sexperts Business Community and a new platform called Life Sexplicit. Leah and Rachel discuss sex education  and one of the biggest threats to our sex lives: censorship.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Leah begins at 00:19:28. -------- Follow Life Sexplicit:  Life Sexplicit Website: https://www.lifesexplicit.com/  Life Sexplicit Twitter: https://x.com/lifesexplicit  Life Sexplicit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_/  Life Sexplicit Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit  Life Sexplicit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lifesexplicit/  Life Sexplicit Telegram: https://t.me/lifesexplicit  Follow Leah elsewhere:  Life Sexperts Website: https://www.lifesexperts.com/  Leah on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/leah-spasova-oxford-eng/847920  Follow Leah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/ Follow Leah on Twitter: https://x.com/leahspasova  Contact form to work with Leah: https://www.lifesexperts.com/contact-us  Sexperts Business Community: https://www.sbc-int.com/  Free e-book, “‘The Big 3 Secrets for a Pleasure filled Intimate Life’’: https://www.lifesexperts.com/product-page/lifesexperts-ebook-the-big-3-secrets-for-a-pleasure-filled-intimate-life  Discussed in this interview:  The Handmaid’s Tale on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/series/565d8976-9d26-4e63-866c-40f8a137ce5f  MOR patch: https://www.morarimedical.com/ (see also, WD&69 Episode 76) McKinsey & Company, “The Dawn of the Fem Tech Revolution”, February 14, 2022: https://www.mckinsey.com/industries/healthcare/our-insights/the-dawn-of-the-femtech-revolution  The Center for Intimacy Justice: https://www.intimacyjustice.org/  Discussed in the intro (Make it make sense):  Rachel’s episode on The Sexistentialist podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ezX3G8kGl408I5fjItyQX  Betwixt App website: https://www.betwixt.life/  Betwixt YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Betwixt_App  Al Jazeera News: https://www.aljazeera.com/  USA Today, “Set them up for failure': Sex education not required in many states where abortion is or will be banned”, by Alia Wong and  N'dea Yancey-Bragg, July 2, 2022:  https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/education/2022/07/02/roe-overturn-sex-education-states-with-abortion-ban/7748267001/?gnt-cfr=1&gca-cat=p Bloomberg Law, “Full Fifth Circuit to Review Library LGBTQ+, Sex Ed Books Case”, by Patrick Ambrosio, July 4, 2024: https://news.bloomberglaw.com/ip-law/full-fifth-circuit-to-review-library-lgbtq-sex-ed-books-case  Sign the Center of Intimacy Justice Petition: https://www.intimacyjustice.org/petition Washington Post, “Meta rejected scores of women’s health ads. Democrats want answers”, by Cristiano Lima-Strong and David DiMolfetta, July 17, 2023: https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2023/07/17/meta-rejected-dozens-womens-health-ads-democrats-want-answers/ _______ Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel keeps the intro short with a few brief musings before introducing her guest, Amy Reiley, an expert on aphrodisiacs. Amy and Rachel talk all about  what an aphrodisiac is, the history of food and sex, and, of course, foods that contribute to a healthy sex life. Episode Notes: Conversation with Amy begins at 00:012:06. Follow Amy Reiley: Website: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NaturalAphrodisiacs/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/EatSomethngSexy  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/forkmespoonme/  Books:  Better Sex Bundle for Men: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/better-sex-bundle-for-men/  List of cookbooks: https://www.lifeofreiley.com/buy-cookbooks/  Mentioned in the episode:  Ten Best Foods for Men: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/10-best-foods-for-men/  Ten Best Foods for Women: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/foods-for-womens-sexual-health/  Spicy Watermelon Recipe: https://www.howsweeteats.com/2019/07/chili-lime-watermelon/  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel talks about making moves and different types of therapy before introducing her guest and friend, Brooke McCarthy. Brooke produces and performs the one-woman show, How to be an Ethical Slut, a journey of how “an unethical slut penetrates lies, STDs, triads, and orgies in her musical  journey to becoming an ethical slut.” They talk about the show, art vs life, and how performance can be a creative and liberating tool when exploring sex.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Brooke begins at 00:12:26. Follow Brooke/How to be an Ethical Slut: CATCh the show on May 31 in Charlotte, NC! Get tickets here: https://www.ticketleap.events/tickets/catch/how-to-be-an-ethical-slut#  Website: http://www.howtobeanethicalslut.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtobeanethicalslut/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobeanethicalslut \ IG for Gaslighting: https://www.instagram.com/gaslightingthemusical/  Mentioned in this episode: The Guardian, “I have OCD. Some cognitive behavioral therapy techniques were totally wrong for me”, by Angela Chen (April 30, 2024): https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2024/apr/30/cbt-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-ocd?utm_source=pocket-newtab-en-us  Psychology Today’s Guide to Types of Therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/types-of-therapy The Pleasure Garden in Philadelphia, PA -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.  Promo photo provided by Brooke McCarthy.

Rachel follows up on the last episode and talks a bit about learning and attachment styles before introducing her guest, Trevor Justice of “Attract Love and Respect”. Trevor talks with Rachel about anxious attachment and people pleasing tendencies - how to notice anxious attachment in yourself, how to cope with uncertainty, and how to work towards becoming more secure in your relationship(s).  Episode Notes: Conversation with Trevor begins at 00:12:06. Follow Trevor: Website: : https://attractloveandrespect.com/ Download the free book (and audiobook): https://get.attractloveandrespect.com/change-who-you-attract Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attractloveandrespect/reviews  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attractloveandrespect/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXV5pvueThBwNOn2mITIVKw  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attractloveandrespect  Mentioned in this episode:  Attachment Style Quiz: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/  Heidi Priebe YouTube video, “How Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us (& How To Break The Cycle)”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHrImgzzphY&list=PLhFOC1XMwCl8QxjTTAAM5Lao7qTNbyqWr&index=13  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Your host, Rachel, is the storyteller this week…she finally shares  what has been going on in her C-PTSD journey, the past, healing, and changes for the podcast going forward.  CW: sexual assault, abusive relationships, C-PTSD, PMDD Episode Notes: "InkBlot with Manan" Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4HpnU3vJ6qM6tlAQVv3rSQ EMDR: https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing  CODA (Apple TV): https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/coda/umc.cmc.3eh9r5iz32ggdm4ccvw5igiir  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel chats about Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn, and provides caution to fans leading up to the release of Taylor’s new album. Let’s not jump to conclusions and make assumptions, ok? Then, she is joined by Cindy Scharkey, a licensed nurse and sex educator! They talk all about the vagina: anatomy, the G-spot, female ejaculation vs. squirting, methods for enhancing female pleasure during penetration, and more! Episode Notes: “You can cultivate a pleasurable sex life through ALL the seasons of your life” -Cindy Conversation with Cindy  begins at 00:13:58. Follow Cindy: Website: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/  “Permission for Pleasure” podcast: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/podcast  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindyscharkey/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cindyscharkey  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scharkeycindy/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/cindyscharkey/  Email: cindy@cindyscharkey.com Article Discussed in Intro: BuzzFeed News, “Taylor Swift Fell In Love With Joe Alwyn Because He Didn’t Care About Her Superstardom, So He Shouldn't Be Punished For It 7 Years Later”, by Stephanie Soteriou (February 8, 2024): https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniesoteriou/taylor-swift-joe-alwyn-shouldnt-be-punished  Discussed in this Episode:  OMG, YES: https://start.omgyes.com/join  OMG, YES Study Mentioned: The Journal of Sex Research, “"OMG, Yes!": Feasibility, Acceptability, and Preliminary Efficacy of an Online Intervention for Female Sexual Pleasure” by Hensel, et al. (2022): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34176390/  4 penetrative techniques to enhance female pleasure: Pairing Shallowing Rocking  Angeling The Coital Alignment Technique: MasterClass, “Coital Alignment Technique: 4 Tips for the CAT Sex Position”   by MasterClass (2022):   https://www.masterclass.com/articles/coital-alignment-technique  Kegels: WebMD, “Kegels - Should I Do Them?”  By WebMD Editorial Contributors (2022): https://www.webmd.com/women/kegels-should-i-do-them  Pelvic Floor Therapy: Jefferson Health, “Unlocking the 5 Benefits of Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy” , by Anna Batt (2023): https://www.jeffersonhealth.org/your-health/living-well/unlocking-the-5-benefits-of-pelvic-floor-physical-therapy  Female Ejaculation vs Squirting: Journal of Clinical Anatomy, “Female ejaculation and squirting as similar but completely different phenomena: A narrative review of current research” by Pastor and Chmel (2022):  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35388532/  G Spot: AASECT, “What You Need to Know About…The G-Spot” by Steph Auteri (2014): https://www.aasect.org/what-you-need-know-about-g-spot-0  How your body/pleasure changes through the menstrual cycle: Clue,  “Sex, Sensation, and the Menstrual Cycle” by Anna Druet (2017): https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/sex-sensation-menstrual-cycle Hello Playground: https://helloplayground.com/  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Earthquakes, eclipses, epiphanies, oh my! Rachel talks about recent shakeups and shares some Gone Girl wisdom about the proverbial “cool girl” before jumping into her conversation with Keshia about combating  feminine myths, setting boundaries, and dating authentically to find your perfect partnership.  Episode Notes: “It is so ingrained in us to be dependent on others. It is so ingrained in us to seek validation and to feel like the only way we can survive is to make others happy. And yes - in some cases that is a great recipe for survival. But it’s not a great recipe for thriving.” - Keshia Rice Conversation with Keshia begins at 00:11:48. Follow Keshia: Website: http://www.keshiarice.com/  Confidently Cherished Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sXncAFEYXGWLvRmd8spOD  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keshiarice/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheKeshiaRice/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@keshiarice  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/keshiarice  Mentioned in the episode:  No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering, by Thich Nhat Hanh (2014): https://www.amazon.com/No-Mud-Lotus-Transforming-Suffering/dp/1937006859  The Atlantic, “The Real-World Consequences of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl Cliché”, by ⁠Hugo Schwyzer⁠ (2013): ⁠https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/07/the-real-world-consequences-of-the-manic-pixie-dream-girl-clich-233/277645/⁠ Salon, “How the Scathing "Gone Girl" Rant About Being the "Cool Girl" Defined the Decade”, by Mary Elizabeth Williams (2019): ⁠https://www.salon.com/2019/12/26/how-the-scathing-gone-girl-rant-about-being-the-cool-girl-defined-the-decade/⁠ Brene Brown, “Marriage is Never 50/50” clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfL4RTuC9Bk  The full “Unlocking Us With Brene Brown” podcast episode: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-comparative-suffering-the-50-50-myth-and-settling-the-ball/  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel ponders how we, as humans, change over the course of a life. She talks about changing attachment styles, the love languages, then chats a bit about the viral “Who the Fuck Did I Marry” tik tok saga. She then welcomes erotica writer Ruan Willow and the two discuss the differences between porn and erotica, how to write erotica, audio erotica, and more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Ruan begins at 00:15:24. Follow Ruan Willow:  Website: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/  Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1rmfiA8FVPG766ouQ9P3QG  I Dare You Released March 9: https://www.amazon.com/Dare-You-Saturday-Challenge-Play-ebook/dp/B0CST8K18R  Books on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ruan-Willow/author/B08ZYW6B3K Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillow/?hl=en  Medium: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow  Goodreads: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow  Substack: https://ruanwillow.substack.com/  FrolicMe: https://www.frolicmep[dot]com/erotic-authors/ruan-willow/  Discussed in this episode: Taylor Tomlinson love languages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gmK_ei4NlU  Reesa Teesa on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reesamteesa?lang=en  Full “Who the Fuck Did I Marry?” story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EC1dKx6maZ4  Gilbert Godfrey reads 50 Shades of Grey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkLqAlIETkA Shayla Black: https://www.shaylablack.com/ -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.  Promo image used with permission by Ruan Willow.

Rachel talks about how imposter’s syndrome and perfectionism play into one another and shares some musings about non-monogamy.  She is then joined by Jess, who shares her own journey to non-monogamy and all that she has learned along the way. The two of them discuss terminology, rules vs boundaries vs relationship agreements, dealing with jealousy, and so much more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Jess begins at 00:10:45. Follow Jess:  Website: www.bothandcoaching.com Instagram: IG: https://www.instagram.com/nonmonogamous_newbies/ Facebook Group “nonmonogamy newbies”www.facebook.com/groups/nonmonogamousnewbies Programs: Non-Monogamy Newbies (https://bothandcoaching.com/nonmonogamousnewbies) and Conversation Compass https://bothandcoaching.com/the-conversation-compass  Discussed in this episode:  Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship, by Eri Kardos (2016): ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Agreements-Strengthening-Communication-Increasing/dp/1540338487⁠  Rachel Wright: https://rachelwrightnyc.com/  Medium, “Why you should drop the ‘e’ in ethical non-monogamy” by Claire Louise Travers: https://clairelouisetravers.medium.com/why-you-should-drop-the-e-in-ethical-non-monogamy-32069e129df1  Decolonizing Love: https://www.instagram.com/decolonizing.love/ Sister Wives: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1721666/  What is a metamour?: https://www.polyamproud.com/post/learn-about-polyamory-what-is-a-metamour  What is kitchen table polyamory?: https://www.modernintimacy.com/what-is-kitchen-table-polyamory/  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel covers a few thoughts slightly related to today’s interview, and then jumps into her conversation with Daphne Wells. Daphne shares her story of realizing she was in an abusive relationship, how she got out, and how she used spirituality as a tool to heal. Episode Notes: Conversation with Daphne begins at 00:09:51.  Follow Daphne: Website: https://daphnewells.com  Book: DECIDE - Choose Your Own Path: Your Guide to Making Effective, Empowered Decisions, by Daphne Wells (2019): https://www.amazon.com/dp/0473505746/ref=sr_1_2 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DaphneBWells/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daphnebwells  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daphnewells  Discussed in this episode:  Clarissa Pinkola Estes: https://www.clarissapinkolaestes.com/  Numerology: https://daphnewells.com/numerology/  The Four Pillars of Destiny (Ba Zi): https://psychicscience.org/pillars  Discussed in the intro:  New York Magazine,  “Worst Roommate Ever”, by William Brennan (2018): https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/jamison-bachman-worst-roommate-ever.html  The Atlantic, “The Plight of the Oldest Daughter”, by Sarah Sloat (November 14, 2023): https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/first-born-children-eldest-daughter-family-dynamics/675986/  -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.  Promo photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash.

Rachel chats about how to maintain a healthy long-term relationship in the forms of romantic competence, EQ, and emotional regulation. She then welcomes intimacy coach Amy Color who helps men with intimacy blocks and the two of them chat about porn addiction and male intimacy.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Amy begins at 00:12:08. Follow Amy: Website: https://www.amycolor.com/  Amy’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=4s&v=UkQ6FBltdYU  Book: The Huddle: How to Score in Sex & Love, by Amy Color (2021): https://www.amycolor.com/the-huddle-book  The Intimacy Game Plan Program: https://amycolor-scheduling.as.me/TalkToAmy  If you mention WD&69 you get 10% off! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amycolorintimacycoach  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amycolor.intimacycoach/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv0kUopMmi3gxuoTE2SXd2w  Twitter: https://twitter.com/IntimateWithAmy  Discussed in this episode:  Another great TEDx Talk on the subject of porn addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYWKVAeu6Y&list=WL&index=30  CNBC, “We’ve studied over 30,000 couples—here are 6 phrases you’ll hear in the most successful relationships”, by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman (January 30, 2024): https://www.cnbc.com/2024/01/30/psychologists-say-the-happiest-couples-in-successful-relationships-always-use-these-phrases.html  Forbes, “A Psychologist Explains What It Means To Have ‘Romantic Competence’”, by Mark Travers (February 4, 2024): https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2024/02/04/a-psychologist-explains-what-it-means-to-have-romantic-competence/?sh=16f954fc39ae  Therapytips.org “Relationship Satisfaction Scale”, by Jourdan Travers, LCSW (October 10, 2023):  https://therapytips.org/personality-tests/relationship-satisfaction-scale -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.