Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Navigating the holidays as a grandparent can be tricky, but holding plans with open hands can make all the difference. In this episode, we talk about how to foster unity, embrace flexibility, and keep a spirit of grace at the center of holiday gatherings. Whether you're a mom of grown children or still in the thick of raising kids at home, Karen offers practical tips to help you approach the season with love and understanding.Episode Recap:4:56 Grandparents need to hold holiday plans with open hands7:45 Remember what it was like to be a young adult and all of the pressures they are facing10:00 Be open and flexible to new traditions13:00 Enjoy the kids when they are around and be okay if they are not present some years14:55 Learn how to communicate plans early 16:30 It’s okay for grandparents to spoil the grandkids and overindulge them once a year!19:30 Ask your grown children, “what can I do to make holidays easier/better for you?” 23:00 The holidays aren’t about exactly ‘when’ or ‘how,’ they are about being togetherScripture for Reflection:Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV): "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."Questions for Discussion:In what ways can you be more understanding of the pressures your grown children face during the holiday season?What new traditions could you embrace that might help create a more joyful and flexible holiday experience for everyone?How can you learn to hold your holiday traditions with open hands? Is there anything specific you know will be hard to let go of? What steps can you take to communicate our holiday plans early, while still being considerate of everyone’s needs and desires?How can you maintain a spirit of grace if plans change or things don't go as expected?Resources:Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]

Today, DeDe Wilbanks joins us to explore how we can set healthy boundaries around the technology in our homes. With John 10:10 as our guide, DeDe reminds us of our God-given role to protect our children's hearts and minds from the addictive nature of technology. While we can't control everything, we can be intentional about setting limits that nurture our families, trusting God with the rest.Episode Recap:4:30 What downtime and screen time parameters do you put on your devices? 9:43 Is there a right age to give kids a phone? 13:09 Why do screen time limits matter? 15:15 What mistakes have you made when it comes to technology in your home?19:10 I had to learn to enjoy the “no”22:00 How do you actually set limits on the iphone? 31:22 What simple practical tips can you offer to get started?Scripture for Reflection:John 10:10 (NIV) "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”Questions for Discussion:What boundaries are in place around the tech that your kids have access to? (Games, ipads, TV, phones, etc.)Have you made any mistakes with the technology you have allowed in your home? How do you model healthy technology habits for your children? What challenges do you face when setting screen time limits, and how do you handle them?What action steps are you taking after listening to this episode? Resources:Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

Election Day can bring a lot of uncertainty and even fear into our lives. Today, Karen and Emily remind us to keep our focus on God, no matter who ends up in the White House. They encourage us to pray for our leaders and show us how to foster peace, especially if our families are divided on political views. Karen shares powerful biblical truths to help us navigate the ups and downs of the election season with faith and grace, reminding us that our hope is always in Christ and that we are citizens of heaven. Episode Recap:7:12 How should Christians approach political elections?10:20 What does Jesus say about engaging with governments and politics? 13:04 Daniel 2:21 says God “deposes kings and raises up others”14:30 We have to focus our eyes on God and not our circumstances15:45 Go vote! And also, pray for our leaders17:45 Look at the story of Nebuchadnezzer, God can turn the hearts of evil leaders20:39 We can have different opinions and still love one another21:58 Your children are watching youScripture for Reflection:Romans 13:1 (NIV) "Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God."Questions for Discussion:Do you enjoy talking about politics, would you rather ignore it, or do you fall somewhere in between? Has this election season disrupted your internal peace?Do you pray for the leaders in our country? Would you be willing to commit to praying for the President Elect until Inauguration Day? Did any of the verses Karen mentioned during this episode resonate with you? What is something you can do to practically apply the message of this conversation? Resources:Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]

“You just have to last one second longer…” If you are constantly fighting discipline battles these days, we hope those words stay with you long after this episode! In this conversation, Karen tackles questions about disciplining your younger children. From chaos in the car, to rough play, to bad behavior that only happens at school, Karen offers practical advice for finding consequences that work for your child. Episode Recap:6:37 My four year old is constantly getting in trouble at school - what can we do?12:30 Car rides are the worst! How can I stop the cycle of craziness?17:00 You just have to last one second longer than they do!18:25 My son plays too rough at school - does he need therapy? 21:30 How do I know which things are discipline worthy and which things I should let go? 27:18 My son gets really angry- we don’t want to punish him for feeling emotions, but know we need to find ways to help him regulate, any advice? Scripture for Reflection:Proverbs 29:17 (NIV) “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.”Questions for Discussion:What are some of the biggest discipline challenges you face with your young children?Have you found any specific consequences that seem to work well with your child? What hasn’t worked as well?How do you decide which behaviors are worth disciplining and which ones to let go?How do you handle situations where your child gets very angry? Are there strategies that help them regulate their emotions?Resources:Send Karen your questions using the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas: https://amzn.to/48r4ZkZListen to Wire Talk episode 347 with David Thomas: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/347-raising-emotionally-strong-boys-with-david-thomasA Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3YmsRloSurvival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/3NKXXyd

Are your kids’ personalities shaped by their birth order? In today’s episode, Karen and Emily explore how birth order influences personality. They share insights from their own families and tackle questions like, “How do I help my oldest think of others before herself?” and “How can I teach my daughter to let go of things without holding on to everything?” Plus, Emily talks about how she’s using the BOAW Moms app to keep up with studies and episodes!Episode Recap:2:00 Emily is loving using the BOAW Moms app to watch studies and look up podcast episodes3:45 Karen and Emily share how their personalities were shaped by their birth order 7:13 Is it possible to avoid reinforcing birth order stereotypes as a parent?10:25 How do I help my 5 year old let go of things? She wants to hold onto all the things!15:24 How do I help my oldest daughter think of others before herself? 20:45 How do I help nurture my daughter’s kindness? 24:50 Send in your question on the app using the “Ask Karen” sectionScripture for Reflection:Galatians 6:9 (NASB) “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.” Questions for Discussion:How do you think birth order has influenced your children’s personalities? Can you see any traits that match typical birth order stereotypes?How do you encourage your child to let go of unnecessary items or habits without making them feel pressured?What did you think of Karen’s story about taking Kelsey to the Dominican Republic and the change she saw in her heart afterwards? Is that something you have done or would consider doing with your children? Karen mentioned several times that some issues we see in our kids are heart issues while others are merely maturity issues (things they will grow out of)- do you feel like you can tell the difference in your children? Resources:Check out Karen’s new study: The Counter-Intuitive Parent on Right Now Media or from the BOAW Moms store Download the BOAW Moms app: [App Store] [Google Play]Kevin Leman’s Birth Order book: https://amzn.to/3AdPCzI

“There is nothing that beats conversation with our kids.” Today we’re chatting with Erin Mashaw about the new book she co-authored, A Student’s Guide to Sexual Integrity. We touch on purity culture, pornography, and the constantly shifting cultural values around us. Erin shared the importance of having small conversations early and often and offered practical tips for getting over the awkwardness! Our hope is that you will be encouraged to engage in new conversations this week in your home and feel equipped that YOU are the best source of information for your child. Psst - pop some earbuds in for this one! Episode Recap:3:20 What is the difference between integrity and purity? 6:54 ‘The Talk’ is no longer one marathon session, it’s simpler than that! 8:30: Is it possible to make these conversations less awkward?11:37 Your mind is your most important sex organ 14:00 Teach your kids to live by the Integrity Code18:30 How do we share the truth that the historical biblical sexual ethic is loving and not exclusive with kids who are seeing something different all around them?20:30 It’s parents’ job to be the first voice speaking to our children a consistent message on sexuality24:00 What do moms need to know about protecting our (even young) kids from being sexualized online? 30:10 It’s never too late to start this conversation! 33:00 God is writing your child’s story and His Holy Spirit will guide you as you lead your kids in this area of their livesScripture for Reflection:Deuteronomy 11:18-19 (NIV): “Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Questions for Discussion:When did you begin talking with your kids about topics related to sex? If you haven’t started yet, what’s holding you back? Did this episode encourage you to initiate those conversations in your home?How do you define sexual integrity versus purity, and why do you think this distinction is important when talking with your children? What stood out to you in Erin’s explanation?How can you be proactive in protecting your children from exposure to inappropriate content online? What strategies have worked for you, or what new steps could you take based on the information shared in this episode?What does it look like to trust God with your child’s journey while still being intentional about shaping their understanding of sexual integrityResources:Check out Karen’s new study: The Counter-Intuitive Parent on Right Now Media or from the BOAW Moms store Grab a copy of A Student’s Guide to Sexual Integrity Jim Burns book, God Made Your Body, How God Makes BabiesMore resources from HomeWord ministry: https://homeword.com/ Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]

When your kids are little, the challenges of day-to-day parenting often pit one spouse against another. Today Karen and Emily are answering questions from weary moms. They discuss practical ways you can connect with your spouse, strategies for handling the stress that comes with parenting young children, and remind us of the importance of prioritizing our husband’s needs during this season of life. Episode Recap:4:50 BIG announcement coming later this month - get the app to be the first to know 10:45 How do we find time to connect as spouses with 3 little kids at home? 15:05: Help! My 3 yr old twins are pitting us against one another! 17:14 Our marriage is struggling! We need help. 22:20 Ask your spouse: what is one way I can love you better this month? 25:20 I want to move back to where my family lives. What do you think we should do?Scripture for Reflection:Mark 10:9 (NIV): “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”Questions for Discussion:How do you currently prioritize connection with your spouse while raising young children? What practical strategies have worked for you, and where do you feel there’s room for improvement?How do you and your spouse handle conflict when your children (especially young ones) try to pit you against one another? Do you feel like you have a united front, or is this something you struggle with?What’s one way you could better support your husband’s needs during this busy season of life? Have you asked him how you can show love to him in the coming weeks?When making major family decisions, such as moving or changing jobs, how do you and your spouse communicate and weigh each other’s opinions? What steps do you take to ensure that both of your voices are heard?Resources:Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]Watch the Parenting Together curriculum in the app! [App Store] [Google Play]

Understanding how your child is wired can be a key to resolving conflict in your home! In today's episode, Karen dives into the dynamics of family conflict and emphasizes how important it is to recognize your child's personality type. By taking the time to understand their unique traits, we can cultivate patience and empathy in our relationships. Join us as we explore practical ways to bear with one another instead of butting heads!Episode Recap:6:08 I’m worried about my 9 yr old son’s lack of sociability…should I be? 9:05 My daughter and I are constantly butting heads! Help!12:15 What are the four core needs of the Red personality? 14:08 How did your husband being away for so long affect your children and the home? 18:32 My 1st grade daughter’s social awkwardness is affecting her relationships, what can I do? Scripture for Reflection:Ephesians 4:2 (NIV): Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.Questions for Discussion:How well do you know each of your children’s personalities? Share with the group the personalities of each of your family members. Do any of the personalities in your family butt heads more so than others? Can you see how taking personalities into account could create a more peaceful home? Refer to the four needs of each personality type in the resource packet linked below: do any needs stand out that you could work to be more mindful of in your parenting?  Resources:Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]Not sure your child’s color? Take our Colors Personality quizPrint off the FREE personality resource packet from BOAW

Today we’re diving into the idea of being a countercultural parent. Join us as Karen shares how important it is to parent in a way that aligns with God’s will instead of seeking the approval of others. From practical tips on renewing your mind to choosing God as your guiding “North Star,” Karen offers encouragement to moms who may feel out of step with the world – but exactly in step with God’s design. Episode Recap:3:51 Karen shares about her newest curriculum, The Counter Intuitive Parent8:36 How have you seen parenting trends/choices change over the years?11:38 Were you always countercultural as a parent or did you change as you realized you needed to parent differently from the world? 16:25 What worldly patterns do you see affecting families right now? 19:05 What can a mom do today to renew her mind? 23:00 God is our “North Star” as believers26:30 There is a lot on the horizon for BOAW Moms this year! Scripture for Reflection:Romans 12:2 (NIV) – "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”Galatians 1:10 (NIV) - “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”Questions for Discussion:What parenting “trends” have you noticed in the circles you are parenting in these days? Do you feel pressure to conform to any of them? Karen spoke about renewing your mind and making choices for your family based on God’s will rather than the world’s expectations. How can you practically begin to “renew your mind” in your daily parenting?In what ways do you feel countercultural as a parent? Have there been moments where you doubted your approach because it went against what society expects?How can you make God your “North Star” in your decision-making as a parent? What are some distractions that keep you from doing this, and how can you overcome them?Resources:Download the Birds on a Wire Moms app now for FREE wherever you get your apps: [App Store] [Google Play]Check out The Counter Intuitive Parent available now through Right Now Media): https://app.rightnowmedia.org/en/content/details/883497

Today Karen is answering questions from moms whose kids are in college or working and living on their own for the first time. She shares how to support them without enabling them, how to gently guide them toward wise-decision making, and how to encourage them toward maturity while simultaneously stepping back. She also reminds us that now, more than ever, is the time to get on your knees and PRAY for your kids! Moms, this season is hard, but the fruit of these years is worth the investment of time and energy. Episode Recap:3:41 How do I help my college-age daughter who is already struggling with time management while she’s away? She’s calling me in tears weekly!8:00 I feel like my son is growing apart from us as a young adult living in another state. Is this normal? How can I adjust my mindset? 13:02 My daughter calls me all the time about every little thing now that she’s living on her own. How can I help her be more confident in her decision making? 17:18 I think my son could be classified as “failure to launch” at this point in time. How can I get him to think about his future seriously?!Scripture for Reflection:Philippians 1:9-10 (NIV) – "And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ."Questions for Discussion:Were there any suggestions Karen offered during this episode that surprised you? Which ones did you love? When your young adult is constantly seeking advice, how do you balance offering support with encouraging them to develop their own confidence in decision-making?Do you struggle with feelings of separation or distance when your child is living far from home? What are some practical things you could do (besides visiting!) to close that relational gap? What are some practical ways we can support our young adults in their independence without overstepping or enabling them?In what specific ways can you be praying for your young adult as they transition into greater independence? Do you think prayer influences your ability to trust God in this season?Resources:Jump in on the Survival Guide to Motherhood study this fall! Today is the last day to register: boaw.mom/SGTMDownload the Birds on a Wire Moms app FOR FREE wherever you get your apps! Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events

Literacy coach Welsley Jongko joins us in the studio today to talk about the process of learning to read and to encourage those of us who have beginning readers at home! She explains the current reading crisis in America and the simple but effective things parents can do to support their children on their way to become lifelong readers. There are so many great tips and resources shared in the conversation today, be sure you check the links in today’s show notes! Episode Recap:2:11 Welsley is a literacy coach supporting teachers in the K-5 school system4:00 Karen shares the story of Abby’s dyslexia diagnosis 7:56 Tips for parents who are already overwhelmed by the new school year9:40 How can parents help foster a love of learning in their child? 12:12 Is there a difference between a late learner and a struggling reader?16:00 What are the red flags your child is struggling to read? 23:08 Additional early signs of dyslexia26:00 What is the problem with “whole language” instruction? 30:37 Tips and strategies for helping your beginning reader enjoy the process34:15 More resources from Welsley Jongko on learning to readScripture for Reflection: Proverbs 3:13 (NIV) “Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding.”Questions for Discussion:Did Welsley’s insights on the reading crisis in America resonate with your own experiences? Have you had or do you have a child who struggles with reading? Were there any strategies or suggestions for helping your child that stood out to you as particularly helpful?Fostering a love of learning is crucial for young readers. Does reading aloud happen regularly in your home? What are some favorite books in your family? Have you ever tried listening to audiobooks together? Is this an area you can grow in as a family? Resources:Welsley’s book, Teach Me to Read: https://amzn.to/4d1lJAeFollow Little Literacy Nook! @littleliteracynookMore resources on Welsley’s website: https://littleliteracynook.comSold a Story podcast on flawed reading instruction: https://features.apmreports.org/sold-a-story/ The reading crisis among elementary students in America: https://edtrust.org/blog/the-literacy-crisis-in-the-u-s-is-deeply-concerning-and-totally-preventable/#:~:text=Last%20year%2C%20the%20National%20Assessment,a%20proficient%20level%20in%20reading.Love Every Reading Skills Set: https://lovevery.com/pages/the-reading-skill-setCome hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsJoin our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Today Karen is answering questions from moms juggling packed schedules, managing family commitments, and trying to make a little time for themselves! From balancing kids' activities with family time to learning when to say no, in this episode you’ll hear practical advice to help you protect your energy and prioritize what matters most. Pop in those earbuds or grab a basket of laundry to fold and let's figure out what your best "yes" is for this season.Episode Recap:- 3:57 Survival Guide to Motherhood is now available as an online course! Register today- 6:14 My schedule is packed and I was recently asked to lead a group at church. I want to say no, but how can I?  - 8:37 I’m conflicted about travel sports - help! - 12:31 I’m exhausted, how do I stay connected to my husband in this season of parenting?- 15:42 How can I set boundaries now to avoid overcommitment in the future? Scripture for Reflection:Matthew 6:33 (NIV) "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”Questions for Discussion:How do you evaluate whether a commitment is a “best yes” for your family? What criteria do you use to make sure your commitments support your family’s well-being?How can you ensure that your marriage remains a priority amidst the busyness of life? Is this easy for you or is it a struggle? Karen talks about dividing your time into three categories: essentials, non-negotiables, and bonuses. How do you currently categorize your commitments? What activities or priorities fall into each category in your life? Are there any adjustments you feel called to make after reflecting on this concept?What strategies can you implement to create intentional rest and unstructured family time in your weekly routine?Resources:Register for Survival Guide to Motherhood today: www.boaw.mom/SGTM Use coupon code THRIVE for your exclusive Wire Talk listener discount.Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsJoin our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting, reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen talks about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey, addresses differences in parenting styles, and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice rooted in love and respect, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our growth.Episode Recap:5:15 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time? 7:41 Our job is to love and respect our husbands8:00 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do? 11:29 How can I get my husband to take more initiative?15:55 My husband’s moodiness brings me down! Scripture for Reflection:1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow."Questions for Discussion:Can you relate to the feeling of wanting to control your husband's spiritual walk? When has this happened in your own marriage, and how have you handled it?In what ways have you seen differences in parenting styles between you and your spouse? What strengths does your husband’s style bring to the family? What strengths does your style bring? Do you think you make a good team or is there a lack of balance?Do you ever struggle with resentment or feeling overwhelmed in your role as a wife and mother? What steps have you taken to address these feelings, and how did your husband respond?When your husband is in a "blue mood," how do you typically react? Have you found any strategies that help both of you during those times, and how do you maintain your own emotional balance?Reflecting on the idea of giving space in your marriage, how have you or your husband used space to deescalate tensions? What are some practical ways you’ve implemented this in your relationship?Resources:Check out BOAW’s curriculum Parenting Together (from Preschool to Prom): https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/studies/products/parenting-together-digital-videoCome hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsJoin our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

In the final episode of our 3-part series on Ephesians 6:14-18, we're taking an in-depth look at verse 18 and Paul's call to pray in the Spirit on all occasions. Karen and Emily explore what it means to be vigilant in prayer and the different types of prayers we should keep in mind. They also dive into how we, as moms, can cultivate a consistent and effective prayer life and teach our kids to pray. This conversation is rich with wisdom and Scripture, so pull up a chair and have your Bible nearby as we close out this powerful series! Episode Recap:5:55 Ephesians 6:18- Paul’s admonition to the church to pray in the spirit on all occasions8:54 What are the different types of prayers we need to keep in mind? 13:20 How can we develop a consistent and effective prayer life as moms?14:41 How do we teach our kids to pray?  17:47 Putting on the armor of God empowers us21:30 Karen shares various times from her life when she depended on prayer Scripture for Reflection:Ephesians 6:18 (NIV): “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”Questions for Discussion:Reflecting on Ephesians 6:18, how do you personally practice "praying in the Spirit on all occasions"? What are some specific ways you integrate prayer into your daily routine, and how has that impacted your spiritual life?Karen and Emily discussed different types of prayers we should keep in mind.Which type of prayer do you find yourself leaning on the most, and why? Are there any types of prayers you feel you could focus on more in your life?Can you recall a time in your own life when prayer was essential in getting through a difficult situation? How did that experience strengthen your faith?What challenges have you faced in maintaining a regular prayer practice? What strategies have you found helpful in overcoming these obstacles?How have you approached teaching prayer to your children? What methods or practices have you found effective in helping them develop their own prayer lives?Resources:Check out BOAW’s 52 week prayer journal: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/moments-in-prayer-52-week-prayer-journalCome hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsJoin our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Today we're diving deep into Ephesians 6:14-18, exploring how to equip ourselves with spiritual armor needed for the daily battles we face. Karen and Emily discuss the practical steps to "put on" the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, and the gospel of peace, empowering you to stand firm against the challenges of life. This conversation is chock full of Scripture, so grab your Bible and follow along as we discover how to stand firm, knowing that God is with us in every fight.Episode Recap:4:19 Today we’re looking at Ephesians 6:14-18 together 6:54 We have to strap on the truth of Jesus Christ. We have to know what He says, which means reading our Bibles7:58 Use Scripture to combat the lies we face in our daily lives15:10 How do we practically put on the belt of truth? 17:39 What is the breastplate of righteousness and how do we “put it on” practically speaking?22:43 Let’s break down what it means to “have your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace”26:00 We can’t hold it all together, we have to open up our hands and trust that God has us and our kids34:20 Stand firm and fight, prepared with these spiritual weapons, because God is with youScripture for Reflection:Ephesians 6:14-18 (NIV): “Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”Questions for Discussion:How can we practically "put on" the belt of truth in our daily lives as mothers?Consider specific ways you can incorporate Scripture into your daily routine to combat the lies and doubts you might face.What does it mean to wear the breastplate of righteousness as a mom?Discuss how living righteously affects your parenting and the example it sets for your children. How can you model this for them?In what areas of your life do you need to trust that God "has you and your kids"?Reflect on situations where you may be trying to control too much. How can you release those burdens and trust in God's provision?How can being rooted in the gospel of peace help you navigate the challenges of motherhood? Discuss how staying grounded in God's peace can shape your reactions to stressful situations and bring a calming influence to your family.Resources:Grab Karen’s 365 day devotional Moments with God for Moms: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leatherCheck out BOAW’s 52 week prayer journal: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/moments-in-prayer-52-week-prayer-journalCome hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsJoin our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Back-to-school feels like the start of a new year for moms, so it’s a perfect time to prepare our hearts and minds. Over the next three weeks, we're diving into Ephesians to explore the armor of God, a biblical metaphor Paul uses to remind us that we are in a spiritual battle every day. This isn't about fear—it's about living a victorious life through Christ.Join us as we encourage you to wake up, equip yourself with God’s truth, and get ready to stand strong in this new season. You’ve got this, and with God’s help, it’s going to be an amazing school year!Episode Recap:4:30 Karen recaps upcoming speaking events and her travel calendar 6:00 The new school year as the real "new year" for moms9:11 Why is the armor of God crucial for spiritual battles?12:32 We don’t think about the fact that we are in a spiritual battle everyday16:43 How do we practically apply this in our families? Karen offers tangible examples22:14 ‘Stand firm’ means we have to be ready. Wake up! Expect the battles to come and be prepared.24:23 We have to retrain ourselves to see the spiritual battles around us and plug into God’s powerScripture for Reflection:Ephesians 6:10-13 (NIV):  “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.”Questions for Discussion:Why do you think Paul chose the metaphor of the armor of God to describe our spiritual battles? How does this imagery resonate with your own experiences as a mom?Karen emphasized the importance of 'standing firm' and being prepared for spiritual battles. In what areas of your life do you feel the most unprepared, and how can you start to equip yourself spiritually?In the episode, Emily mentions that we often don’t realize we’re even in a spiritual battle. What are some practical ways you can remind yourself to stay aware of this reality?How do you see the devil’s schemes manifesting in your daily life, particularly in your role as a mom? How can you counteract these schemes with the truths from Ephesians 6?Karen talks about the need to retrain ourselves to see spiritual battles and plug into God’s power. What steps can you take this week to start viewing challenges from a spiritual perspective rather than just a physical one?Resources:Grab a copy of Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/4dxAL1oCome hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/eventsConnect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

What does God say about you? Do you know?! It is all too easy to get caught up in who the world says you are, so today Karen and Emily remind us the truth of what God says. They talk about identity, the phrase “just a mom,” and fighting against comparison. We hope today’s conversation encourages you to celebrate your unique gifts and talents and focus on the truth that you are fearfully and wonderfully made! Episode Recap:3:45 Survival Guide to Motherhood releases today! 6:30 Karen’s purpose at BOAW Moms is to be your biggest cheerleader11:50 It is critical that we base our identity and find our worth in who we are in Christ16:40 Get off social media and stay in your lane if you struggle with this! 21:15 You are fearfully and wonderfully made, start out each day by meditating on that truthScripture for Reflection:Psalm 139:14 (NIV): “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”Questions for Discussion:Are there specific areas where you’ve struggled to see yourself the way God sees you? How has your understanding of your identity in Christ changed after listening to this episode? Karen and Emily talked about the phrase “just a mom.” Have you ever told anyone you are “just a mom”? Has this episode helped you reframe that mindset?Social media can lead to feelings of inadequacy and comparison. What steps can you take to "stay in your lane" and avoid comparing yourself to others? How can focusing on your unique gifts help with this?Karen shared that her purpose in starting BOAW Moms was to be a cheerleader for other moms. How can you encourage and support other women in your community to see their worth and celebrate their unique gifts?Resources:Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood is available now! https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlDConnect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

Are you raising confident kids? Today Karen encourages moms to take a step back so our kids can step up. She and Emily discuss the pitfalls of doing things for our kids and the reasons we often fall into that trap. They also talk about the difference between nurturing and enabling and share the critical connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids! Episode Recap:6:40 Why is there a whole chapter on confidence in this book? 8:32 Where are moms missing the mark when it comes to raising confident kids?12:56 What role do chores play in confidence? 14:04 Small, practical ways you can allow your children to grow in confidenceScripture for Reflection:Galatians 6:5 (NIV): "For each one should carry their own load."Questions for Discussion:Can you identify any specific behaviors or actions where you might be enabling your child rather than nurturing their independence? What changes could you make to shift from enabling to nurturing?Reflect on a recent situation where you stepped back and allowed your child to handle something on their own. How did it go, and what did you learn from the experience?How do you incorporate chores into your child's routine? How have you seen chores impact your child's sense of responsibility and confidence?What are some small, practical steps you can take to help your child grow in confidence? How can you implement these steps in your daily routine?Resources:- Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD- Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

In this third part of our series on Karen's new book, "Survival Guide to Motherhood," Karen and Emily discuss the importance of raising kids with a strong foundation in biblical principles, even when it goes against the grain of today's world. They chat about how teaching kids to obey their parents leads to a more peaceful home in the long run. Don’t miss Karen’s prayer at the end of the episode asking for wisdom, courage, and blessings for all the families tuning in! Episode Recap:6:29 Discipline is hard and different for every child and in every season7:43 Discipline has to be taught - it does not come naturally to children11:42 Discipline has to be consistent.13:00 The 3 stages of discipline each require a different focus from parents 17:07 The “B”s of discipline are: Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear18:08 In the later years, we have to give our kids the “why” behind the noScripture for Reflection:Hebrews 12:11 “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”Questions for Discussion:Are there any negative behaviors you see in your child now that you are tempted to ignore, thinking they will grow out of it? Karen mentioned the idea that "pain now will equal peace later" when it comes to parenting. Have you experienced this in your own life? How have you seen this in your parenting journey? Which stage of discipline are you in right now? (Laying the Foundation, Teaching the ‘Whys’, The Coaching Years)Do you think the pace of your life is preventing you from disciplining effectively? How so? Of the three “B”s (Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear), which do you struggle with most? Have you ever prayed and asked for wisdom to know how to discipline your child? Pray together as a group today for the wisdom to discipline effectively. Resources:Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlDMore Wire Talk episodes on discipline: Laying the Foundation, The Middle Years, The Coaching YearsFind ALL the episodes we’ve ever recorded on discipline HERE. Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

How do you make sacrifices for your kids without sacrificing yourself in the process? In today’s conversation, Karen and Emily explore this question and Karen offers wisdom on knowing when it’s time to prioritize yourself. We'll dig into taking care of your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health because a healthy mom equals healthy kids! Episode Recap:(3:31) There is a difference between sacrificing for others and sacrificing yourself in the process(5:42) Surround yourself with the wise counsel of those who are ahead of you on the journey(10:19) Good emotional health for a mom results in good emotional health for her children(15:26) Take care of your spiritual health and invest in a resource to help youQuestions for Discussion:Can you share a time when you felt you were sacrificing too much of yourself for your children? How did you recognize this, and what steps did you take to find a better balance? If you’re in the middle of this right now, can you share more about what’s going on?Karen mentions the importance of surrounding yourself with wise counsel. Who are the people in your life that provide you with wisdom and support, and how have they helped you navigate motherhood?Karen shares that emotional health is passed from parent to child. What was the emotional climate in your home growing up? What effect did that climate have on you and the way you respond emotionally now? How do you want to change or maintain that climate in your home now as a parent?On a scale of 1 (not at all) to 10 (all of the time) how well do you think you are prioritizing your physical health? What changes if any do you need to make in this area?How are you nurturing your faith right now, and what resources or practices have you found most beneficial in staying connected to God during this season of life?Resources:Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlDGrab a copy of Karen’s Six Truths of Motherhood and use code WTSix for free shippingPick up the Moments with God for Moms daily devotional or Karen’s weekly prayer journal for your quiet time. Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms