Claim OwnershipWithout Rhyme or Reason
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© Dr. Carlos Gerardo Quijada
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It’s no longer Chronicles of a Psycho Professor, but it’s still me… trying to bring psychology down to earth and normalize conversations about mental health.
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Consider taking sixty seconds to sit without doing anything. Let your attention soften. Let your breath deepen. Let your system know that there’s nothing it needs to fix right now. Nothing needs to be tracked.Just presence.Just here.Just you.
You are allowed to change the rules you live by.
You are allowed to protect your peace.
You are allowed to say: “This is too much for me right now.”
You are allowed to want more space, more rest, more truth.You are allowed to build a life where your nervous system doesn’t always have to be on alert.And it begins with boundaries.
Not as punishment.
Not as isolation.
But as the quiet decision to matter to yourself.
When we begin to recognize anxiety as a signal, not a sentence, we give ourselves a new kind of power. The power to respond with curiosity instead of fear. The power to ask, “What is this trying to show me?” rather than, “How do I make this stop?”So maybe anxiety isn’t the problem.Maybe it’s pointing toward the problem.And maybe, when we listen—really listen—we can start to see what needs care, what needs healing, and what’s finally ready to change.
When anxiety rises, especially if it feels intense or irrational, ask yourself:· What might this be echoing?· What part of me is reacting?· And what might this feeling be trying to protect?Sometimes, anxiety isn’t here to hurt you. It’s here to help you notice. To help you remember. To help you heal. It may not be comfortable. But it is always wise.
Self-care isn’t just a bath, a walk, or a break from chaos.Sometimes, self-care is grief.It’s letting go of the version of myself I thought I had to be.It’s letting go of the life I thought I should have by now.And making peace with where I am. With who I am.With what I need today… not someday… but today.
Believe it or not, seeing psychological disorders as maladaptive responses to life’s conflicts and challenges gives us a lot to work with. This view can be truly empowering and liberating. It gives us the possibility to heal and change. It gives us hope. Because we can always learn to respond to life in a more adaptive way.
As you can see, there's a lot behind what we call a psychological disorder. There are many elements to consider before reaching a diagnosis. There's a lot happening behind the scenes. But it’s important to try to understand these conditions because understanding the problem is 50% of the solution.
The point is that there is always something we can do to improve our well-being. Always! No matter how small, no matter how insignificant it may seem, there is always something we can do to improve the quality of our lives and the lives of those around us.
It is important to learn to move towards well-being and away from distress. To recognize the factors that harm us and move away from them, and to recognize the factors that heal us and move towards them.
This understanding, that we are mind, body, soul, and family, is the first part of the puzzle. It's the first part of the answer to the question we’re trying to tackle: What is mental health?
If you are feeling stuck, if depression has been pressing down on you, ask yourself: What is it trying to tell you? What are you holding onto that is no longer yours to carry?Maybe it’s time to release the past. To forgive what has been. To trust what will be.Because sometimes, the weight we feel is not sadness—it’s resistance.And the moment we let go, we make space for what comes next.
We are all capable of growth and healing. . Saying “no” is part of that process. It’s not rejection—it’s redirection. It’s choosing to live in alignment with who we are and what we need. And when we do that, we don’t just become better for ourselves—we show up more authentically in our relationships, too.
Unprocessed pain has a way of shaping our identities and decisions, often in ways we’re unaware of. When we take the time to process our pain, we reclaim control over how those experiences define us. We learn that pain, while inevitable, doesn’t have to leave us stuck. Instead, it can become a doorway to deeper self-awareness, growth, and connection.
What I’m trying to say is that, yes, depression is hard; it is painful, and it can feel like it’s pulling you under. But it can also be a signal for change and growth.
Maybe your soul is telling you, through this experience, that you need to stop, rest, recharge, and refocus.
Maybe your soul is whispering—or yelling—that you need to take better care of yourself and start living in a way that aligns with who you truly are.
I’ve spent years trying to help others make sense of their pain.But the truth is… I’ve also been trying to make sense of my own.This podcast comes from the middle of that tension—between what I know and what I’m still learning,between the role of the healer… and the reality of the wounded.Yeah, I speak as a therapist… But also as someone who questions his own sanity… someone who sits with grief, confusion, insecurity, and fear.I talk about mental health, trauma, healing, and the parts of us we often silence.Sometimes things are clear.And sometimes… they’re not. That's why this is called Without Rhyme or Reason.
I reflect on the importance and benefits of cultivating an attitude of gratitude. Being grateful does us good.
What forgiveness is not. To forgive is not to deny the seriousness of the offense. To forgive is not to forget. Forgiveness is not a sentimental act. Forgiveness is not about the other person.
Having resentment is like carrying dead weight. This weight tires us more and more, the more we carry it. And this resentment also infects us and turns us into zombies. Then we become like the walking dead infecting everybody and everything around us.
But we have an antidote and it’s called forgiveness.
Stress is our ally if we listen to it, and our enemy if we don’t. Like the check engine light in a car, stress lets us know that something is wrong and that we need to take action.
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