The Rising Lava Parenting Podcast

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Find Bryana here: instagram.com/consciousmommy ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________

SIGN UP HERE Join FREE Rising Motherhood Mornings - Daily action steps to support you in becoming the mom you want to be by doing one thing that aligns with your future self. Short morning mindful moments with Lauren. https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62acff4f5b2d08a9b95d956d Join RISE - A 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge

In this episode, we talk about how parenting teens is very similar to the strategies I talk about with young kids. Validation, normalizing... and being a safe place for big emotions is KEY in all stages and ages of children. ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________ Kristen Duke is a mentor for parents of teenagers, helping them to control their emotions and find unique ways to connect with their teenagers.

I went to a marriage retreat last month with my husband, and was blown away by the material. I don't say this lightly when I say, life-changing. The crazy thing is, a lot of it is so similar to what I teach with parenting (especially in my newer RISE series) but I needed this to really click it all together. and UP LEVEL. I don't have enough time, space or expertise to share all the things I learned in three full days for Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. But I do, want to share a few ideas. -We cannot be in a mature marriage if we are depending on someone else to meet our needs. Love languages are great and all, but throw them out the window if you are expecting someone else to meet yours to find true love. -We have to OWN OUR PART. Own our part with conflict/habits and our defense mechanisms. Are you a yeller or do you withdraw? Are you someone who is the "fixer" or do you withdraw? --For example, If my husband constantly yelled at me, of course I'd withdraw (This is not our true scenerio fyi lol). If my husband, owned is part it would look like, “hey I know I'm usually pretty intense when I bring this up and that probably makes you want to withdraw, I'm gonna try to address this differently” --or if me as the withdraw person owned her part, “hey I know I usually withdraw, but I am really wanting to connect in a more calm, peaceful way, can we try to talk about this…" So why am I telling you this? Because I see so many parallels between this information and emotionally healthy parenting. It's a lifestyle and family culture. We cannot expect our child to act a certain way to feel valuable about ourselves as parents. They are individual beings. I can only manage what's mine. We have to own our part. If we see our kids constantly reacting and fighting. Are we constantly reacting to them reacting???? Are we feeding a pattern?

Joline from MindfulMESS.mom joined us to talk about conscious parenting-- how really it's about showing up in the present moment. This means being aware of our triggers and needs, and adjusting when we do catch ourselves reacting unconsciously. Follow along here: @mindfulmess.mom __________________ Join my RISE challenge waitlist to become a more conscious parent/human here: risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge RISE is a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________

Zoom Link Record Transcribe Blog Upload Soundcould Social Media Posts Graphics Email Un-domestic mom podcast Katie is author of children’s book, your safe body, pediatric nurse, mom, body safety educator, and child abuse survivor. She helps teach body safety to children through her book, and body safety acronym, SHOUT. Social Links Katiethemomthenurse https://store.bookbaby.com/book/your-safe-body ___________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood Ad: www.gabbwireless.com code XOLAUREN for 25$ off ______________

Anxiety may look like shutting down or refusing to participate. It also could look like anger and aggression. It can look like really emotional tantrums, or just withdrawing quietly. So many behaviors with the same underlying feeling: anxiety. Learn your child's patterns of anxiety, what is happening in their body, and how to support them through these uncomfortable feelings. // ANXIETY COURSE PRE-LAUNCH: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62acff4f5b2d08a9b95d956d website: http://risingmotherhood.co/anxiety Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________

______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________ Ashley Adams is a mama of 4 and military wife for the past 15 years. She loves traveling and going on hikes with my family. They have called Missouri, Hawaii, North Carolina, Washington, and Virginia home. She's formally an early childhood educator turned conscious parenting and nervous system health advocate. Her passion is helping parents lessen the shame and guilt they have in parenting by helping them to get to know their nervous system and really start to make sense of their triggers and their story. Becoming a parent was an invitation to dive deeper and get to know those parts of her that felt not heard, seen, or witnessed in her own childhood, and finally allow them to have a voice and be understood.

Crystal is a certified life coach and homeschooling mother of four. She helps parents have better relationships with their strong-willed children through mindset + connection. Social Links @the.parenting.coach on IG, The Freedom Moms Podcast We talk about the following questions: First of all what is a trigger? How does it show up for you? How do you figure out what your triggers is about -- really? . Why is it necessary to heal when we do this parenting style? Tips for getting started into healing. ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week courses designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood

when we are reacting from a triggered state, we are reacting in a way we are not proud of, not value-driven. SO... what do we do, when we catch ourselves in the middle of this REACTION. Pause. Come Back to Calm. Make the repair. ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week courses designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood

Taran our guest today from Undomestic Mom is sharing ways to use a mother's helper to get your needs met. She goes through logistics, pricing, and how much can be accomplished with a Mother's helper. -- Taran Conwell is a mom of 3, the host of The Undomestic Mom Podcast, and on a mission to help moms discover what self-care routines are right for them and how to incorporate them into their daily life. When she’s not making Reels or supporting her clients, you can find her on adventures with her family or planning her next trip. Social Links https://www.instagram.com/undomesticmom/ https://undomesticmom.com/lava

This episode is about ELIMINATING MOM GUILT. Eliminating “mom guilt” and helping women understand that motherhood isn't a job, hobby, or identity, it is a RELATIONSHIP -- After giving birth to her daughter Lydia in 2015, Hannah had to work through a lot of her internal beliefs and misunderstandings about motherhood. 6 years, 5 kids, and a pandemic later, she has come to a very solid understanding of what motherhood actually is and what it ISN’T. Hannah is confident that helping women understand that MOTHERHOOD IS A RELATIONSHIP rather than a checklist of household tasks or caregiving will bring MORE JOY, assist in overcoming overwhelm, avoid resentment, and allow women to ditch the “mom guilt” for good. Social Links @freckledhan

JOIN RISE WAITLIST: https://risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Gentle parenting takes a conscious daily effort to rewrite our internal hard drives and show up in a way we are proud of - or make repairs when we don't. You do not have to do this alone. I have the research, and 10 years of practice (from preschool teaching, coaching to parenting myself), but when it comes down to it, I'm right here with you. I see you So many of you are operating in chronic fight/flight. You go through the motions, you get your kids to all the activities, and enjoy your time spent with them most of the time, but then, you may spill a bag of chips and are ignored for the 50th time and turn into the hulk. (We’ve all been there) Why? Because you have so much going on inside your body — your needs aren’t being met, you have unhealed wounds that are being opened and you just don’t have enough practice with those skills. It’s ok! You’re safe here. It’s time to slow down, mama. Let’s reflect on the values you want, notice your strengths, and re-parent yourself. I am about to launch something called the RISE CHALLENGE. 21 DAYS OF EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PARENTING PRACTICES TO HELP YOU RISE TO THE PARENT YOU WISH TO BE 1. Reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be 2. Reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values 3. Reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens This is the kickstart we need to reparent ourselves while already knee-deep in the world of parenting.

When our kids say mean things... Instead of looking at the top explosion and dealing with that, Look at what's going on in the lava… go to the FEELING. Let's talk through some ways to notice when a child is not in a regulated state, walk away or hold space for those emotions. THEN, come back to calm and do problem-solving and teaching. Join my free 5-Day Volcano Challenge: view.flodesk.com/pages/617309cde625581864e3f8a9 ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood

In this episode with Dr. Brad Reedy from Evoke Therapy Programs, we have an awakening chat about boundaries, triggers, and our inner beliefs/need for healing. One takeaway is: Boundaries are for me. Boundaries aren’t for someone else to change, boundaries are what YOU are ok with/not ok with. Another takeaway is: We don't need to change or fix our child, we need to heal OURSELVES. Find Dr. Brad Reedy here: https://drbradreedy.com/ https://www.evoketherapy.com/ instagram.com/drbradreedy instagram.com/evoketherapy

Learn to say yes when you want to say no  Create cooperation instead of resistance 1. Focus on the things they are doing well at (fill their cup) 2. Say what you WANT THEM TO DO instead of what you DON'T want them to do 3. Offer two positive choices to get the same result 4. When _ then _ 5. SAY YES to the things that don't really even matter When their behavior is "worse," we think we need to up the discipline remember, behavior is a symptom of what is happening inside. When behaviors get harder, emotions are stronger. Overwhelm Disappointment Rejection Grief These feelings don't need a punishment... Instead of consequences or ignoring... TRY CONNECTING! One easy way to connect more: Try, Saying "Yes" to the little things Yes, mom can hold your hand. Yes, mom can carry you. Yes, you can have the purple plate. Yes, you can lay in my bed for a minute. Yes, we can watch that movie. Yes, you can bring your toys Yes, you can wear sandals over your tights. So much of the time we are saying no to things that really don't matter. Try saying, "yes" ______________ Join my free 5-Day Volcano Challenge: view.flodesk.com/pages/617309cde625581864e3f8a9 ______________ website: xolaurenpace.com/ Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/xolaurenpace ______________ Ad: www.gabbwireless.com code XOLAUREN for 25$ off

Studies have identified anger as being a secondary emotion. A secondary emotion is an emotion-fueled by other emotions. For example, if you become hurt in some way, you might express ANGER instead of emotional and physical pain – it might be easier to express anger than express hurt. When our kids become angry, we can often stay curious about that anger and figure out some other big feelings are in play. For example, when something might feel unfair, a child may feel jealous, resentful, annoyed and ANGER will surface. How do we respond: 1. Regulate Yourself 2. Go to the Feelings 3. Set a Boundary 4. Teach ways to express anger PROACTIVELY

Sometimes we will say, HOW CAN I VALIDATE MY KID'S EMOTIONS WHEN THEY ARE SOOO IRRATIONAL? Remember validation does not mean you agree Validation is a response that shows you accept another person's feelings and point of view, even if you don't agree We all have different perspectives and experiences Validation communicates… you believe their experience/emotions are valid You don't intend to correct them, minimize, change or dismiss their emotions Dismissive comments will communicate to your child that the way they're feeling is wrong. And hurts your relationships An empathetic non-judgmental response will communicate… That you hear your child and understand why they feel the way they do. It strengthens your relationship. ------------------------- Gentle Parenting is about recognizing your child as an individual and responding to their needs. Learn more in my free 10-minute training: "5-Steps to Enforce Boundaries while Accepting Emotions" https://xolaurenpace.com/free ------------------------- Join my membership for only $15 the first month ($47 after + cancel ANYTIME) with this link: https://xo-parenting.teachable.com/p/xomember?coupon_code=PODCAST ------------------------- instagram.com/xolaurenpace

I was introduced to the topic of breathwork in October, and have already had some pretty profound healing/ah-ha's. It's a SIMPLE and CHALLENGING practice all in one. Simple in that it just requires your breath -- challenging because it's HARD TO BE STILL in motherhood, in life, in work... we have a lot going on. So my challenge for you is to get conscious with your breath and help your kids see their own inhales and exhales this week. ------------------------- Audrey O'Brien builds therapeutic meditation practices on a breathwork infrastructure. Audrey is well versed and studied in the anatomical science of respiratory chemicals in the body, breathwork practices, guided meditation techniques, and well studied in several fields of behavioral science. She works with individuals and groups both in-person and remotely, and also teaches public courses and retreat work regularly. She lives in woodland UT with her lover of 24 years and mothers six humans along with any and all who find respite in the womb that is her home.  instagram @thebreathingco  site: www.thebreathingco.com ------------------------- Gentle Parenting is about recognizing your child as an individual and responding to their needs. Learn more in my free 10-minute training: "5-Steps to Enforce Boundaries while Accepting Emotions" https://xolaurenpace.com/free ------------------------- Join my membership for only $15 the first month ($47 after + cancel ANYTIME) with this link: https://xo-parenting.teachable.com/p/xomember?coupon_code=PODCAST