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Author: Andrea Owen

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Join Andrea Owen, life coach and author, as she serves up self help in a easy-to-digest way that is also practical and implementable. Andrea brings you guests as well as solo episodes on topics such as perfectionism, the inner-critic, courage, and more.
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“Narcissism” seems to be a buzzword these days and I wanted to have an expert on who can give us the low-down. According to trauma therapist, Britt Frank, everyone has shades of narcissism. She goes on to say that high-level narcissism is an addiction to self-protection by any means necessary. And for those who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist, it is a traumatic experience.  In this week’s episode, Britt joins me to discuss how to heal from traumatic relationships, including those in which narcissistic abuse is present. Britt is also a teacher and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck."  In this episode you’ll hear:  What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (6:33) Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (13:34) Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (16:07) Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (22:27) How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:03) Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (31:04) How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (38:13)  
I am doing something I have never done in any podcast episode. For the first time, I am bringing you an interview I did on another podcast, where someone interviewed me. My dear friend Rebecca Ching has a podcast called The Unburdened Leader. It was such a fantastic conversation and I am so grateful that she said, “Yes,” when I asked her if I could air it for my listeners. We talked about a lot of hard things, including grief and addiction.  On 9/27, I celebrated nine years of sobriety and recovery from alcoholism. It is something we talked about in this particular episode. I share how commitment to my values helped me maintain my continued healing and sobriety and how grief nearly brought me out of recovery.  In this episode you’ll hear:  My addiction to alcohol and what it symbolized. Why I needed to understand and heal my traumas in order to fully unburden the last of my addictions. Perfection, control, and overachieving worked until it didn’t. Drinking worked for a while until it didn’t.  The role community plays in my sobriety.
Dr. Alexandra Katehakis is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Founder of Center for Healthy Sex and she joins me to discuss the topic of healing from love addiction. While love addiction may not be something affecting your life where you need to seek treatment, it could be something to look at in terms of some unhealthy coping mechanisms affecting your life. We discuss what love addiction is, the root cause (which stems from father abandonment), and what the steps to healing look like. Dr. Alex offers amazing insight and advice about what it means to be a love addict and how to step into recovery. I hope this episode is helpful to you, in some way.  In this episode you’ll hear:  What is love addiction? And how it differs between men and women. (5:59) Women struggle with a concept called ‘mother hunger’ and therefore it is crucial for women to find support from other women in order to heal from sex or love addiction. (12:33) The root cause of love addiction. (14:45) There comes a point when we realize we are hurting ourselves, plus why going into the pain (withdrawal) is how we can heal. (18:22) What sobriety looks like for love addicts and some of the first steps someone can take to heal. (22:03) How to assert healthy boundaries for more equal relationships. (35:11)  
This September is the 10th year anniversary of Your Kick-Ass Life! Over the years, the YKAL team has evolved and grown. In this episode, Liz Applegate, our lead coach here at YKAL, joins me for a conversation about shit that matters.  We are talking about aging, perimenopause, and depression. One of the reasons I wanted to have a conversation about these topics was to shine a light on some of the ways they can show up in one’s life, especially in 2020, and the curveball we’ve been thrown this year.  In this episode you’ll hear: Liz shares her history with depression and antidepressants and how she gave herself permission to seek mental health help. (8:30) I share my experience of how a discussion with my therapist about burnout turned into one about high functioning depression. (19:33) Our thoughts and feelings (and struggle) on being middle-aged. (22:08) What we think about navigating perimenopause. (34:25)
Happiness. It’s 2020 and I have a feeling that many of us could use a dose of that. Right? Well, you’re in luck because Kim Strobel, happiness coach, joins me to talk about how to be happier. Happiness isn’t always born from unicorns and rainbows. In fact, you’ll hear how Kim’s happiness coaching was born out of her own trauma, darkness, and suffering.  Together we discuss toxic positivity, why turning off negative feelings isn’t helpful, and the importance of putting your happiness first. Kim also shares some of the happiness habits we can practice in order to increase happiness levels. Finally, we also explore the Arena of Bigness, what it means, and how to step into the Arena with courage and do really hard things.  In this episode you’ll hear: Kim opens up about her struggle with mental illness and what that looks like in her life now. (5:20) Why today’s culture of positivity and the conventional formula for happiness is wrong. (21:30) Putting your happiness and wellbeing at the forefront is of the utmost importance. (23:54) We all have a set baseline happiness default. Kim talks about how we can work to retrain the brain to feel happy even when struggling through tough times. (26:47) How somebody who feels as though they are living a small life can step out of that and into the Arena of Bigness. (42:08)  
This week on the YKAL podcast we’re talking about resilience and intuition. To help me unpack this topic is my guest, Dr. Andrea Pennington. She is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher, #1 international bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. Together Dr. Andrea and I discuss what it means to be resilient, how tolerating stress is not the same thing as being resilient, and how self-care plays a key role in resilience. Plus, she shares what it means to learn who you really are, how to share your personal story, and listening to your intuition. In this episode you’ll hear: Dr. Andrea shares her story of debilitating imposter syndrome and how it led her to do the work she is doing today. (9:18) What it means to be resilient and some traits of resilient people. (11:30) Tolerating stress is not the same as being resilient. (14:20) In order to embrace who you are, you must first need to learn who you are. (17:49) Dr. Andrea shares about her own struggle with depression and how music has been such an influence and help. (24:09) The power in sharing your personal story and how you can start sharing yours. (36:01)  
  Are you a woman who struggles with asking for what you want at work? This week we are talking about some of the things that hold women back in the workplace with guest, Sara Laschever! Sara is an authority on the challenges that shape women’s lives at work. She is the co-author, with Linda Babcock, of Women Don’t Ask, the groundbreaking study that first focused public attention on the forces preventing women from negotiating on their own behalf. I stumbled upon Sara’s work while doing research for my third book and I was fascinated. I am thrilled to have her on the show! In this episode you’ll hear:  Some common obstacles women confront in the workplace and some ways in which they can overcome them. (5:35) The impact of subconscious biases on women in the workplace. (13:07) Direct or controlling behavior in men at work will often go unremarked, yet with women, we tend to mark it. (18:12) Some ways in which women can go through the process of evaluating their talents and target what will make their personal and professional lives more fulfilling. (19:31) Why most women find it hard to negotiate their salaries or ask for the things they want. Plus, some small steps they can take towards asking for what they really want.(22:22) Has the culture of work changed? I asked Sara if the struggle with negotiations is more of a Baby Boomer, Gen X, Millennial, or Gen Z generation problem? Listen in to hear her answer. (30:59)  
When it comes to personal development, positivity and cheering people on is great. And…if we really want to support and love women, we have to also make room for the difficult stuff, for the traumas and the “shadow side”. That is where this week’s guest, Christine Gutierrez’s work really comes in. Christine returns to the YKAL podcast and together we discuss honoring your pain, going to the darkness in order to get to the light and living in a world where your light side and dark side can co-exist.  Christine is a Latina licensed psychothera​pist, life coach and expert in love addiction, trauma, abuse, and self- esteem. She is the author of the upcoming book, I am Diosa: A Journey to Healing Deep, Loving Yourself, and Coming Back to Your Soul. I hope you enjoy our conversation. Who is Diosa and what being Diosa is all about. (4:06) Christine’s book is broken up into three parts: The darkness, the light and the integration. She explains why she chose to write it in this way. (9:34) Why it is important to explore your emotional triggers. (14:26) How to know if you’ve experienced trauma. (16:03) Repairing your intuition after trauma and how to heal. (20:00) Why Christine walks people through a meditation journey to help them visualize their first memories of anger or sadness. (27:38)  
This week on the show we are talking about emotions, which my guest, Sherianna Boyle, has a specific methodology to work through them. I was “emotionally illiterate” for a really long time, which led to lots of numbing out, so I love learning different tools to process them!     Sherianna Boyle is an international Emotional Detox Coach®, author of eight books, including her most recent Emotional Detox and Emotional Detox for Anxiety. Emotions are so much to carry sometimes. But as Sherianna said during our time together, “Emotions are not the problem, it’s our reaction to them.” She helps us understand emotions, how to process them, and honor them.    In this episode you’ll hear: How emotions support a kick-ass life. (3:26) Sherianna shares how she was drawn to work as an Emotional Detox Coach®. (6:32) Emotional detox for anxiety and what it means. (7:35) All emotions are good when you process them. There is no negative emotion. (11:25) The Emotional Detox philosophy and how it applies to triggering experiences. (15:00) How Sherianna works with people who are disconnected from their feelings. (24:39) What to do if you carry core beliefs that you are the holder of others emotions. (30:00) We discuss surrendering and how it differs from letting go. (38:33)  
Work is the number one place we make friendships as adults, according to Shasta Nelson. So why not focus on friendships where we are most of the time? Well, Shasta is back on the podcast this week to talk about this topic, one she is an expert in, friendships. Her newest book is all about friendships at work. And, this is definitely an interesting time for workplace friendships, with many working from home or working in the office but with socially distant restrictions. We can all use a little help with our relationships whether they are our personal relationships or friendships at work. I am happy to share our conversation with you. In this episode you’ll hear: The three things needed in a healthy relationship: consistency, vulnerability, and positivity. (5:43) Why having a best friend at work improves employee experience and organizational success. (9:31) How to handle the coworker friend who sucks the energy out of you and how to reduce the impact of their toxicity.  (12:04) #RelationshipGoals at work - do you have to be friends with everyone? (13:42) Workplace boundaries and your responsibility around them. (18:17) What to do or say when you are working with someone who indulges in office gossip. (21:33) Leveraging your former professional friendships to help you during a job search. (27:47)  
This week on the YKAL podcast, my guest is Leah Campbell Badertscher. She is a former attorney turned artist and Master Life coach for world-class performers and leaders in the arts, business, and movements in positive change for the social good. During our conversation, Leah asks simply, “What are you giving up if you don’t go for it?” And that is the question she pondered after graduating law school. In this episode, she shares openly her battle with her inner-critic and how she pushed forward to pursue an artistic career. Her story of wanting to follow a specific path, but experiencing push back from self-talk is common. My hope is that if you see some of yourself in Leah’s story, you will be inspired to take action in your life.  In this episode you’ll hear: Leah shares her journey from law career to artist. (4:14) Why it is important to not dismiss your intuition and instead listen to what you really want. (11:13) Leah talks about the battle with her inner critic and how she kept going. (24:58) How Leah learned to lean into self-trust. (35:30) Some of the pros and cons of the creative process. (41:26)  
Today I have a Conversation About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People (CASTMWUP as we call it over here). But, this time my guest/friend is qualified to talk about today’s topic on diversity and inclusion. CASTMWUP episodes are less interviews and more conversations between friends.  I assume people who listen to my podcast are those willing to engage in this conversation about race. I am not a race educator, but Jessica Sharp is. She has a Master’s of Public Affairs from the University of Missouri and is currently a student at William James College where she is obtaining a Doctorate in Leadership Psychology. Her work experience includes work in the non-profit sector and work in diversity & inclusion. My hope is that white women listen to Black voices who are race-educators, especially Black women. Because none of us are free until we’re all free.  
Leesa Renee Hall has helped over 33,000 leaders explore their unconscious biases using her signature process called Explore Biases Now. Author of ten books, Leesa was known as a technology pioneer before turning her attention to disrupting the misinformation hardcoded deep in the mind. I am thrilled to be able to share our important conversation with you this week!  Today Leesa and I discuss reflective writing and self-reflection as an investment in your own life and your own healing. We explore the topic of stumbling bravely through understanding and processing our humanity. And, finally, we discuss how to stay in the work of unpacking your unconscious biases so you stand with and not for, black, indigenous, and people of color.  In this episode you’ll hear: Leesa shares how she transitioned from working in tech to questioning her legacy and then moving to help others explore and unpack their unconscious biases. (3:33) By developing a habit around self-reflection, you begin to accept the nuances and complexities within yourself. (11:00) Why there is a disconnect between what we believe versus how we behave. (19:00) Leesa’s work with introverted, highly-sensitive people. (23:07) What happens to your nervous system when unpacking unconscious biases. (27:11) How to begin unpacking your unconscious biases, some first steps you can take. (43:00) Why perfectionism is a tool of white supremacy. (46:53)  
Today, I bring you a YKAL Coaching session. Katie is a proud introvert and physical therapist in Nevada. She came to me because she has a desire to reduce her work capacity so she can focus on following her passions and interests. Together we discuss what she’s been struggling with and why she has been having such a difficult time changing the trajectory of her job. We also uncover some of Katie’s fears such as being seen as imperfect or non-knowledgeable in her field.  I encourage you to listen to the entire episode because Katie’s update was really interesting. As we say in coaching, a lot of the healing happens in between sessions. And as you will hear, such was the case for Katie.  
When I met this week’s guest, I knew I needed to have her on the show, just based on her enthusiasm alone. Emily Francis is the host of the radio show All About Healing and author of the new book, Whole Body Healing: Create Your Own Path to Physical, Emotional, Energetic, and Spiritual Wellness. One of the reasons I’m pumped to introduce you to her is because I’ve never had a guest on the show who does the kind of work that Emily does.  Today we discuss how body memory leads us to carry pain, releasing your body of emotions, and leaning into joy and gratitude. I learned so much from our time together and I hope you do too!  In this episode, you’ll hear: About muscle memory and why we carry pain where we do. Muscle memory is very much like mental memory. Our bodies remember. (11:01) Some ways the body communicates its emotions - aka the body’s somatic languages. (22:00) The importance of working with the body for the release of emotions, like grief or anxiety. (29:00) How we can use tissue memory for healing. (31:00) Listening to your own body - aka the body scan. (43:36)  
How does the enneagram relate to personal development? Well, today we find out. Jessica Denise Dickson is a life empowerment Enneagram coach (and Black mermaid) who believes that when Black women heal, the world heals. She joins me to talk about the enneagram as a transformative tool for personal development.  I can’t tell you how excited I am about this topic and guest-- as I’ve wanted to have someone on for eons. Today, we discuss what the enneagram is, how it can help you become more self-aware, and help you address your blind spots. We also discuss what the enneagram has to offer during this time of global pandemic and global reckoning with systems of oppression.  In this episode you’ll hear: There are a lot of ideas about the enneagram - Jessica breaks down what it is and what it is not. (3:59) How the enneagram can help with self-awareness and empathy. (10:38) Learning your type can be a personal and private experience, as well as, one of validation. (14:20) For systems to change, it comes from doing the work. Jessica shares some information about her course for people who identify as white. (29:31) Enneagram and relationships - there are no rules for making it work between different enneagram types. (37:27) Conflict resolution through the lens of the enneagram. (42:58)  
This week I am sharing my conversation with Mike Robbins. Mike Robbins is a speaker and author of five books, including, Bring Your Whole Self to Work and We're All in This Together. I had a bunch of questions ready to ask Mike about his newest book. But our conversation went in an entirely different direction. And for that, I am grateful.In this episode, Mike and I discussed the value and importance of talking about race, white privilege, and why being vulnerable is so important, now more than ever. Being vulnerable forces us to ask of others and of ourselves, “Can I trust you with my time, my space, and my voice?” The world is divided - vulnerability is just one way we can begin to open up to talk about and take action for social justice, equality, and civil change.   In this episode you’ll hear: Mike’s idea and journey for his book, We’re All In This Together.  When he realized we are not all in this together.  Mike’s experience with understanding what white privilege means.  Acknowledging how our conversation is an example of centering whiteness.  One entry point to anti-racism can be helpful is if white people call forward other white people.  The importance of being vulnerable.  
This week I have an episode featuring Makenna Held. Makenna is someone who is wise beyond her years. She is a writer, educator, and serial entrepreneur. While she's most known for being ‘the woman who bought Julia Child’s house’, that is one of the least interesting things about her. Her business, personal, and leadership coaching is committed to exploring paradigms of the human condition including liberation, human potential, obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls, and the essence of suffering.  Today, Makenna and I discuss the inheritance of whiteness by white people and why it is our job, (as white people), to unpack and dismantle it. We also discuss putting the focus on the value you provide to people rather than putting the focus on the value of money, how to begin to dismantle the patriarchy, and sitting with the uncomfortable in with personal growth. This episode is a perfect reminder that it’s never too late to make a change.  In this episode you’ll hear: What Makenna means by “Whiteness is a sickness white people carry.” (5:00) Obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls and putting the focus on the value you provide, instead. (12:30) Where to start: dismantling the patriarchy or patriarchal structures. (18:03) Human design and why it is so important for women to trust their intuition. (32:12) How the concepts of cooking tie into personal development. (38:00)  
Before we jump into this week's episode, I want to direct your attention to what I mention in the first few minutes of the show. If you've followed me for some time, you know that I have a firm belief that as a white person, it's not okay to teach personal development and wellness without addressing and breaking down your own unconscious biases, as well as speaking up about it. No one is free until we are all free and we must use our privilege for good.    I want to make it clear what I believe in both personally and professionally, where I'm at right now, and what's in store here at YKAL. The email I mention that's coming has already been written and you can find it HERE. Have you ever considered the deeper meaning behind personal development and the self-help industry as a whole? This episode with guest Andréa Ranae is guaranteed to get you thinking (and talking), and what she talks about affects everyone, not just coaches or someone in the self-help industry. Andréa is a coach herself who wrote a blog post last summer titled, Why the Self-Help Industry Isn’t Changing The World, which went viral and has been shared thousands of times since. She believes there is a disconnect between our own industry and the work of social justice, and even offers a Coaching As Activism Program to her clients. In this episode you’ll hear: Why did her post really strike a nerve with coaches and healers alike? (5 minutes and 15 seconds)  The reasons why the work of changing the world doesn’t stop at an individual (8:15) Why the lessons of the Law of Attraction are laden with privilege - if you are not systematically oppressed (8:51) Why focus on your identity but not how we have been impacted by dehumanizing messages about women? (16:39) How limiting beliefs are instilled in you and why you have to “name it to tame it!” (19:46) As Andréa shares, “do-gooders” of the world often don’t want to bring “politics” and the stuff that’s happening around us into their work, but it’s something we can hide from. Her opinion is that self-love and self-care will not change the world, and I’m interested to hear from you about your thoughts on our conversation!
Talia Pollock is on the show this week! Talia Pollock is the author of Party In Your Plants, speaker, storyteller, plant-based chef, TV personality, and health and empowerment coach. I was a guest on Talia’s podcast, Party in My Plants, last year. She has a fantastic sense of humor, and we hit off well. Talia has a unique and refreshing approach when it comes to being healthy.  Today, Talia offers ways to take the hell out of being healthy. In Talia’s words, the world doesn’t need more recipes. Instead, she believes we need more courage, confidence, and boldness to take action and make the right choices for our health. In this episode you’ll hear: Healthy eating, yeah, it kind of sucks. Talia offers some ways to take the hell out of being healthy. (7:36) Why energy is the main benefit of eating plants. (15:48) How Talia’s work is intended to help, people thrive outside the kitchen. (17:57) Confidence is the missing piece for executing our healthy lifestyle. (23:49) What surprises Talia the most about the women she works when she takes them through this journey. (29:05)  
Comments (5)


Great podcast

Apr 28th

Lecturer Rempel Maan

please laugh less. You laugh like a demon. It's irritating.

Mar 31st

Tim BryanPC

the podcast on white supremacy and patriarchy is really out of character with what I believe this podcast was supposed to be. If I wanted to hear liberalism I watch TV if I want to hear independent thought and individualism I listen to podcast. unsubscribing thank you very much

Sep 21st

Sylvia Sargeant


Apr 19th

Luis Coppin, Jr.

Awesome podcast. Thanks you. I just signed up.

Feb 10th
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