Zero Disturbance

As we enter the start of a new year—and what many attorneys recognize as divorce consultation season—this episode speaks directly to women who are questioning whether their marriage still fits who they’ve become. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR therapist Kambria Evans shares 10 core truths she has observed over more than a decade of supporting women through separation, divorce, and identity reorganization. Using a nervous-system and brain-based lens, Kambria explains why outgrowing a relationship is often a sign of healing—not failure—and how chronic relational stress, shame dynamics, and emotional labor impact the body, attachment system, and sense of self. Rather than telling women what to do, this episode offers clarity, validation, and practical frameworks to help listeners understand what their nervous system has been communicating for a long time. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why outgrowing a partner is neurologically normal, especially when relationships began before full brain development How chronic shame dynamics prevent secure attachment and keep the nervous system in survival mode A simple three-bucket framework (supportive, neutral, sabotaging) to assess relationship impact on your nervous system Why explanations (trauma, stress, PTSD) do not excuse adult relational behavior How prolonged emotional regression can lead to a powerful post-divorce “slingshot” effect Why women are often conditioned to outsource safety—and how reclaiming it changes everything How staying in your integrity during divorce supports long-term nervous-system regulation Why divorce doesn’t need to be perfect—just completed A guided visualization to reconnect with your felt sense of what you want next Brain-Based Therapy Perspective This episode integrates principles commonly addressed in EMDR therapy and Brainspotting, including: How unresolved shame lives in the nervous system Why relational environments shape identity and self-concept How clarity emerges when the body is no longer in chronic threat response The role of felt sense, regulation, and internal safety in decision-making Who This Episode Is For Women contemplating divorce or already in the process Women experiencing chronic confusion, exhaustion, or emotional shutdown in marriage Therapists and clinicians interested in relational trauma and nervous-system outcomes Anyone curious about divorce through a brain-based, non-shaming lens    Want to take a deeper dive? Get on the waitlist for the Brain-based Divorce Kit! This course provides a brain-based, non-shaming approach to understanding divorce, relational change, and identity reorganization. Grounded in EMDR-informed and Brainspotting-aligned principles, it reframes outgrowing a marriage as a normal neurological response to healing rather than failure. Designed for women contemplating divorce, already in the process, or feeling emotionally exhausted or shut down in their marriage, this course offers insight, validation, and a clear path forward through a brain-based, compassionate lens. LINK HERE:  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/brain-based-divorce-waitlist  Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the Why Women Go to Therapy series with a passionate, clinically grounded conversation about EMDR, readiness, and why so many people—especially women—are being incorrectly told they’re “not ready” for trauma processing. Kambria breaks down what EMDR is, how the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model works, and why strict adherence to “first and worst” traumatic targets—often emphasized in early training—can become limiting for both clinicians and clients. This episode honors the importance of EMDR basic training and standard protocol, which lays a crucial foundation for ethical, effective trauma work. At the same time, Kambria highlights how decades of clinical innovation within the EMDR framework have expanded options far beyond what was available in the 1980s—allowing therapists to work more flexibly, safely, and responsively. Kambria challenges the idea that EMDR must be intense or retraumatizing to be effective, and makes a compelling case for a rebrand of EMDR—one that emphasizes regulation, choice, and accessibility rather than fear or overwhelm. By starting with positive targets, mid-level disturbance, and nervous system capacity, EMDR can support clarity, agency, and healing for far more people. This episode is for women seeking clarity about their readiness for EMDR, clinicians who feel boxed in by rigid interpretations of protocol, and anyone curious about how EMDR can be used more ethically, flexibly, and effectively. What You’ll Learn in This Episode What EMDR really is (and what it isn’t) Why most people are ready for EMDR when it’s applied flexibly The difference between EMDR readiness and protocol rigidity Why respecting standard protocol and expanding options both matter How positive targets and low-level disturbance can be powerful entry points Why telling someone they’re “not ready” can be retraumatizing How EMDR supports clarity, power, and choice—not just trauma relief What questions to ask when interviewing an EMDR therapist Why women deserve more agency in their healing process Who This Episode Is For Women navigating divorce, loss, identity shifts, parenting, menopause, or societal pressure Clinicians trained in EMDR who feel constrained by standard protocol alone Therapists wanting to work ethically, responsibly, and flexibly within the EMDR framework Anyone curious about trauma, neuroscience, and healing beyond pathology Favorite Positive Targets Before Processing Negative Material Kambria shares several preferred positive and resourcing targets that can be used before engaging negative or high-disturbance material: Modified Resource Development Installation (RDI) – Janina Fisher (2001) Four Blinks – Tom Zimmerman Positive Affect Tolerance Protocol – Andrew Leeds 3 Figures – Laurel Parnell   If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.   

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the relationship between time, learning, and healing — and why simply waiting for time to pass doesn’t resolve trauma. Through a fictional clinical story of a woman navigating post-separation co-parenting, we unpack how people can become “stuck in time,” how EMDR helps clarify the difference between then and now, and why healing is about intentionally creating new learning and memory networks. We also discuss symptom onset, internalized voices from early caregivers, and how EMDR (often combined with parts work) helps reduce the power of old authority figures living in our minds. This episode reframes trauma not as damage, but as learning — and highlights how expanding positive beliefs on purpose gives clients more choice, clarity, and agency in the present. Key Takeaways: Time alone doesn’t heal; learning determines whether we move forward People can be “stuck in time” without realizing it’s happening EMDR strengthens the nervous system’s distinction between then vs. now Symptoms are communication, not pathology Positive memory networks can be created intentionally Internalized voices from caregivers can be neutralized, not fought Trauma responses often contain strategies that can be repurposed Who This Episode Is For: Women healing from relational trauma or separation Therapists working with complex trauma and EMDR Clients who feel confused about why symptoms appeared “later” Clinicians wanting a clearer framework for time + learning If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

Many people believe EMDR has to be intense, overwhelming, or focused on reliving trauma — but that belief is limiting access to one of the most powerful therapeutic tools we have. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we unpack why EMDR doesn’t have to start with the “worst memory,” how beginning with lower-intensity targets in phase 4 or even positive targets (also called resource development installation) in phase 2 can be just as effective to get started, and why framing EMDR solely as a trauma modality is scaring clients away. This conversation reframes EMDR as a way of mapping learning, expanding positive beliefs, and restoring agency, choice, and power — especially for clients with complex or chronic trauma histories. Whether you’re a therapist, a client, or both, this episode offers a gentler, more expansive way to understand what EMDR can actually do. Key Takeaways: EMDR doesn’t require starting with the most intense traumatic memory “Not being ready for EMDR” is often a clinical myth rooted in limited training Starting with lower-disturbance or positive targets helps the nervous system generalize healing Focusing only on traumatic content can remove client agency and increase overwhelm EMDR is about mapping learning — not reliving trauma Expanding positive beliefs can neutralize traumatic material without directly targeting it Giving clients choice, power, and control is itself reparative Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue the series Why Women Go to Therapy by exploring a counterintuitive and often uncomfortable truth: women can be disrespectful to men by not allowing them to figure things out for themselves. We highlight how women, who statistically attend therapy at much higher rates and have been socially conditioned to be nurturers, often slip into mothering, over-functioning, and enabling male partners. This deprives men of the opportunity to develop the foundational belief “I can figure things out”—a belief essential for emotional maturity, accountability, and healthy relationship dynamics. Learn what really happens when women stop “figuring things out” for their partners—and why it’s one of the most empowering shifts you can make in a relationship. We’re calling listeners to step into a new framework: ✨ I can figure things out — and he can figure things out.From this place, women can stop managing, fixing, and rescuing, and instead shift toward clear expectations, self-responsibility, and relational self-respect. The episode encourages deeper reflection on enabling behaviors, misplaced responsibility, and the revolutionary possibility of holding men capable instead of helpless. 🎯 KEY TAKEAWAYS Women Are Often Over-Functioning in Relationships Because women attend therapy more frequently and are conditioned to be nurturers, they often take responsibility for emotional labor, change efforts, and “relationship management” that does not belong to them. When women step back, we reclaim our energy and clarity—honoring our boundaries and focusing on our own growth. The Real Disrespect: Not Allowing Men to Figure Things Out When women assume men can’t improve, regulate emotions, communicate, or take responsibility, they unintentionally infantilize them. This diminishes growth and creates inequitable relationships. When women step back, he shows who he really is—takes responsibility (or doesn’t), learns (or doesn’t), and reveals patterns. When the relationship shifts, and healthier dynamics emerge, we allow the truth about compatibility to become clear. The Most Powerful Belief: “I Can Figure Things Out” In EMDR and in life, this positive belief fosters internal safety, resilience, autonomy, and evolution. Equally important? Believing others — including men — can figure things out too.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode, we reframe the viral conversation about “the male loneliness epidemic,” arguing that the issue isn’t loneliness — it’s a lack of curiosity. Men are naming their feelings more openly (which is great), but many are stopping there. Instead of asking why women are distancing themselves or leaving relationships, many men blame women, double down on old power structures, or retreat into defensiveness. We break down why this is happening, how power dynamics influence curiosity, and why women do not need to step in and fix or teach anyone. The capacity to learn exists — but curiosity must be a chosen behavior, not outsourced emotional labor. ⭐ Key Takeaways This isn’t a “male loneliness epidemic”; it’s a “male curiosity epidemic.” The information men need has always been available. Women have historically been forced to track men for safety and connection. Men have not been required to study women in the same way. Some men are doubling down on tantrums, power, and control instead of learning. This is now showing natural consequences: disconnection and loneliness. Women are not responsible for teaching grown men emotional intelligence. Curiosity is a choice, and refusing it carries its own outcomes. Real connection requires respect, mutual curiosity, and shared responsibility. Without it, relationships become performative or imbalanced. Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this game-changing episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the "Why Women Go to Therapy" series with a profound conversation on marriage, identity, and the transformative power of EMDR therapy. Drawing from over a decade of clinical experience, she explores how so many women enter marriage carrying generational programming, internalized shame, and false beliefs about what makes them "good" or "successful." In light of the recent Vogue article suggesting that “having a boyfriend is embarrassing now,” this episode offers a particularly timely lens for re-thinking relational norms. While the Vogue article highlights how in today’s culture many women are publicly distancing themselves from the traditional badge of “partner status”—and instead choosing identity, autonomy, and self-defined value, its time that divorce also got a rebrand.  Through the story of a fictional client, Betsy, we illustrate how therapy—especially EMDR—can bring clarity, reduce emotional disturbance, and empower women to reevaluate long-held narratives. We challenge the outdated stigma around divorce and offer a bold reframe: divorce, for many women, is not a failure—it's an act of self-respect. Listeners will hear an honest exploration of: - Why EMDR is so effective in helping women find clarity in relationships - The "branding of marriage" vs. the reality behind closed doors - Four essential belief buckets used in EMDR to assess relationship health - How societal and family programming creates inner conflict around leaving - Why Self-led decisions—grounded in worth, safety, and power—must guide our biggest life choices   Whether you're navigating a relationship, contemplating a major life shift, or supporting a friend through divorce, this episode offers deep insights and compassionate validation. Its important to remind us: clarity is healing, and choosing yourself is never something to be ashamed of.    Quote to Remember:  "Divorce, when chosen from a place of self-worth and clarity, is not a failure—it’s an act of self-respect."   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode, we explore the four distinct phases of therapy—with a spotlight on the often-overlooked 4th phase that can transform your healing journey. Drawing from EMDR, Brainspotting, and somatic therapy, this conversation breaks down what most therapeutic models miss and offers a path forward for deeper healing, integration, and self-leadership. 🧠 Four Phases of Therapy: Phase One – The Call to Heal: A felt sense or internal voice tells you, “Something’s not right.” Could show up as symptoms like panic attacks, IBS, migraines, or emotional overwhelm. Your nervous system is asking for help. Phase Two – Naming What’s Happening: Identifying trauma, patterns, and beliefs. Going beyond content and symptoms to explore the underlying negative beliefs of self. Using frameworks like the EMDR Beliefs Inventory to understand "Am I safe?", "Am I good?" etc. Phase Three – Understanding with Clarity: Realizing the root causes and integrating new understandings. Acceptance that positive beliefs of self likely won’t come from parents, society, or partners. Many end therapy here—but there’s more. Phase Four – Building the Self-Led System: Actively cultivating and expanding positive beliefs of self. Working with brain-based therapies to create felt experiences of worth, safety, and power. This is the transformational, empowering phase often skipped. 🌱 Key Takeaways: You deserve all four phases—not just awareness and coping. Brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting can help lock in positive beliefs at a body level. You don’t have to stay stuck at “understanding.” You can build, reclaim, and expand into a fully actualized self.  Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast and our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we bust the myth of "dopamine addiction" and dive deep into the truth about what your nervous system is really trying to do. Through powerful storytelling, neuroscience-backed insight, and trauma-informed wisdom, we reframe the language around dopamine, addiction, trauma bonding, and self-soothing. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel "addicted" to love, validation, work, or chaos—this one’s for you. Key Takeaways: Dopamine is not "good" or "bad" — it's a chemical signal tied to positive feeling states, not addiction. The real issue isn't dopamine; it’s unmet needs for self-soothing and safety. Trauma and early experiences create subconscious associations your brain tries to repeat—even decades later. EMDR and Brainspotting can help rewire those associations with intention. Predators (like narcissists) exploit your biology, but that doesn’t mean it’s your fault. Society conditions women to fall for love-bombing and dysfunctional romance, and it’s time to unlearn that. You can build a self-soothing, self-led system—on purpose.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the core reasons many women seek therapy: shame. But shame isn’t just about feeling bad — it’s a manipulative system that’s often internalized from childhood, society, media, and relationships. Through personal insight and fictional client stories, Kambria walks listeners through how to identify, dismantle, and reclaim power from the shame system using somatic therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting. This episode is both an invitation and a call to action for women to stop outsourcing their self-worth — and start building a new, Self-Led identity from the inside out. 💡 Key Takeaways: Shame is an internal system — not a reflection of truth You weren't born with it — it was programmed into you We often give others (exes, bosses, society) the power to “mirror” who we are — even when they’re not safe or accurate EMDR and Brainspotting help dismantle shame at the body level, not just cognitively Healing isn’t about changing them — it’s about reclaiming yourself Client stories show how freedom feels when shame stops working on you You can receive feedback without shame when you're Self-Led Listener Challenge: Take a moment to notice: Where am I still using an internalized shame system that was never mine to begin with? Then ask: What would it feel like to let that go? Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we share a powerful story from a beachside restaurant in Portugal — where a loud fire alarm went off, but no one responded. This moment becomes a striking metaphor for how women often experience internal and external “alarms” from trauma, anxiety, or smear campaigns — even when they’re no longer in danger. We explore how outdated nervous system responses (like panic, overthinking, or fear) often come from childhood survival strategies or abusive dynamics. Through therapy — particularly EMDR and Brainspotting — women can learn to recognize these false alarms, reclaim their power, and stop reacting to chaos that isn’t theirs to manage. We also break down how narcissistic abuse and smear campaigns are designed to trigger alarm responses — and how women can stay grounded, neutral, and empowered in the face of that noise. Key Takeaways: Not every alarm means danger — pause, assess, and trust your clarity. Trauma can be rewired — your nervous system can learn a new way to respond. Smear campaigns are strategy, not truth — and often reveal more about the abuser. You don’t need to fight the noise — you can live fully despite it. Keep dancing, even when the alarm goes off.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

On the Zero Disturbance Podcast, in this episode of our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart — and one that might ruffle a few feathers: Why EMDR is dangerous. Now before you panic, we’re not saying EMDR is harmful — quite the opposite. EMDR is dangerous because it works. It’s powerful. It has the ability to align you with your positive beliefs of self, and when that happens, everything around you begins to shift. Your relationships, your job, your choices, your entire system — they all get shaken up. And that can feel really unsettling… but it’s also where true healing begins. Let’s talk about how EMDR contains a value system, even if it’s not named as such — a system rooted in beliefs like “I am safe,” “I have choices,” “I am worthy.” These aren’t just affirmations — they become embodied truths through the process. And as women, we’ve been conditioned to live disconnected from those truths. We also touch on real-world reasons why EMDR can be considered “dangerous” in our society: Women in legal proceedings (like assault cases) are often told not to fully heal so they can appear more “credible” in court. Clinicians are sometimes told to avoid EMDR with clients who dissociate — even though dissociation is often happening anyway. Pregnant women are discouraged from doing EMDR, as if their healing is somehow risky — when in fact, it's often exactly what they need most. But the biggest danger? The most exciting one? It’s that EMDR gives women clarity. Clarity that they are powerful. That they are enough. That they don’t have to stay in systems that don't serve them. And once you have that kind of clarity, you can’t unsee it. You start living differently — and that can feel disruptive, even terrifying. But it’s also liberating. We wrap up with a few powerful reflection questions Kambria loves to ask herself and her clients: Am I making this choice from a positive belief of self? Why not? (to check for internalized programming) Why is this right on time? (to reclaim power in difficult moments) This episode is for clinicians, for women in therapy, and for anyone ready to see themselves clearly and step fully into their self-led energy. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of Zero Disturbance, we challenge the obsession with analyzing narcissists—especially in the wake of narcissism going viral on social media. Drawing from extensive work with female clients recovering from narcissistic abuse, Kambria Evans offers a liberating message: stop trying to understand the narcissist and start reclaiming your own life. We explore how women often stay stuck in mental loops trying to dissect their partner’s behavior, history, or trauma in search of closure. But instead of answers, this rumination prolongs their pain and reinforces an unequal, trauma-informed framework. We emphasize that healthy, empathetic brains will never fully comprehend the narcissistic experience—and they don’t need to. This episode dives deep into:  - The emotional trap of trying to "figure out" narcissists - How empathy is weaponized to keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics - Why giving any attention (even negative) keeps you energetically connected to the abuse - The need to shift focus from the narcissist’s dysfunction to your own healing and power - How EMDR therapy can help women reclaim positive beliefs of self - A bold call to stop blaming survivors with language like “trauma bonding” We also zoom out to connect narcissism with broader systemic issues like patriarchy, showing how women's trauma is often socially reinforced. This episode isn’t just about healing—it's about waking up, taking back your narrative, and creating a future where therapy isn't always about recovering from trauma, but about thriving in your wholeness. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like perimenopause and menopause. We learn how EMDR therapy helps clients move from negative self-beliefs (“I have to be perfect,” “It’s my fault”) to deep somatic neutrality — the kind of empowered calm that fuels true healing and lasting transformation. We also unpack how society’s expectations, gendered emotional labor, and unspoken pressures on women intersect with hormonal shifts, and why so many women are finally saying: We do not care. Whether you're deep in midlife or just beginning to question the stories you’ve been told, this episode offers education, validation, and a call to reclaim your own nervous system and voice — one belief at a time.This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive into a transformational topic: women and urges—and how honoring our body's messages can radically shift how we live, love, and lead. We explore why so many women are disconnected from their intuition, bodies, and desires, often due to lifelong social conditioning, trauma, and internalized shame. Through the lens of EMDR therapy and somatic healing, Kambria Evans shares how recognizing and following a “full-body yes” (and saying no to a “full-body no”) can become a revolutionary act of self-love. Key topics include: The importance of somatic awareness and listening to your body's urges How EMDR therapy can help process and play out suppressed parts safely The role of trauma, societal programming, and patriarchal norms in urge repression Why midlife can spark a crisis—or awakening—of long-ignored parts of self The difference between reactive choices and intentional decisions around urges How urge exploration can reduce burnout, autoimmune issues, and chronic stress A step-by-step invitation for therapists and non-therapists to practice urge awareness Whether you're a therapist, a woman in midlife, or someone exploring deeper emotional work, this episode will validate your inner knowing and help you return to the wisdom of your body. Your urges aren’t problems—they're messages. What happens if you actually listen? The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore why so many women come to therapy feeling confused, responsible for others, and disconnected from their inner guidance system. The focus? Two of the most misunderstood emotions in healing work: anger and disgust. Drawing from experience in EMDR and Brainspotting, we discuss how women are socialized to suppress anger and collapse into sadness—ultimately cutting themselves off from their internal safety systems. But when anger is reframed as action energy, and disgust as the clarity to distance from harm, everything changes. This is especially true when leaving narcissistic, abusive relationships. This episode covers: Why anger is essential for trauma recovery and boundary setting How disgust helps women see unsafe, narcissistic people and systems clearly What it means to be Self-led and own your positive core beliefs The impact of patriarchal programming on emotional expression How therapists can help women reclaim emotional safety and power Whether you're a therapist, survivor, or someone doing deep inner work, this episode will challenge old narratives and offer a transformative framework for healing. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this thought-provoking episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue on our empowering series, Why Women Go to Therapy, by diving deep into the transformative concept of parts work. Listen as we unpack how women develop internal “parts” throughout their lives—often in response to external pressures, trauma, or survival needs—and how these parts, though created with good intentions, can become outdated and energy-draining over time. Using relatable metaphors, personal stories, and clinical insight, we highlight how understanding and honoring these parts can free women from perfectionism, caretaking burnout, body shame, and more. Drawing from modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Brainspotting to explain how therapy helps women reclaim their energy, re-author old narratives, and reconnect with their authentic Self—free from internalized societal messaging.   Key Takeaways Women develop different “parts” over time—coping mechanisms shaped by experiences, trauma, and social conditioning. These parts aren’t bad; they were created to help—but many are now outdated and draining. You have the power to identify, reassign, or retire these parts—like a CEO managing a team. Much of what feels like your inner voice is actually internalized messaging from society, not your true Self. Therapy helps you separate who you really are from the parts you’ve had to become. Modalities like EMDR, IFS, and Brainspotting help access, heal, and integrate parts. You are not your anxiety or depression—you have parts that feel anxious or depressed. Rewriting these inner narratives brings clarity, freedom, and energy back to your system! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of Brainspotting—a brain-based, somatic therapy that helps access and heal trauma, especially the kind stored before we even had language. Kambria shares her surprising journey from EMDR skeptic to Brainspotting advocate, explaining how this technique—developed by Dr. David Grand—uses eye position to access “trauma spots” and “resource spots” in the brain. Through personal insight, clinical expertise, and rich storytelling, we outline why brainspotting can be especially profound for women navigating complex trauma, patriarchal programming, and early childhood wounds. What You’ll Learn: 1) The difference between EMDR and Brainspotting 2) How Brainspotting reaches preverbal memory networks 3) Why talk therapy may be “speaking gibberish” to younger parts of self 4) The profound shifts we experience personally through Brainspotting 5) Why combining EMDR + Brainspotting is a game-changer for therapists and clients alike If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by the pace of healing, or disconnected from your body’s wisdom—this episode is your invitation to explore something radically different! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this episode, we explore why EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is particularly powerful for women and how it serves not just as a healing tool, but as a form of personal and social revolution. Discussion on how EMDR helps clients target not only trauma and disturbing memories but also deeply embedded societal programming around safety, power, control, and worth. For women, many of these beliefs are tied to patriarchal, narcissistic structures that have historically denied them autonomy and value. EMDR offers a path to reclaim those beliefs by helping women internalize new, positive narratives in both mind and body. Key themes include: 1) Why traditional diagnoses like anxiety and depression often miss the bigger picture: these symptoms may be responses to oppressive environments, not personal defects. 2) How brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting work differently than talk therapy by including body-based processing and belief reprogramming. 3) The impact of generational trauma: many women carry survival strategies taught by mothers and grandmothers who lived with fewer rights and opportunities. 4) The feminist and activist lens of EMDR: reprogramming beliefs like “I am safe” or “I have power” is a radical act in a society that often withholds those truths from women. 5) Empowerment beyond trauma: Women aren’t just healing pain—they’re expanding into strength, clarity, and agency.  The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?” If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we deep dive into this question, exploring how so many women struggle with self-doubt and the journey to reclaim their inherent worth. Every woman is born with her own unique goodness, and that worth is non-negotiable. Despite the external pressures, criticisms, and messages we encounter throughout life, our value remains constant. In this empowering episode, Kambria challenges the idea of seeking validation from others and instead encourages us to embrace our own value system—one that is free from societal standards and rooted in our true selves. We explore how many of these feelings of inadequacy are formed early in life—often before we’re five years old—and how they can be reprogrammed through therapy. Releasing the need to prove our worth and embracing self-compassion allows us to heal from feelings of shame and inadequacy. The core message? Your goodness belongs to you, and always has. Anyone who tries to confuse that is trying to control or objectify you. We hope to inspire listeners to build their own value systems, one that’s grounded in their true selves and impervious to the judgment of others. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt like you were never enough, this episode is packed with powerful insights on how to move past those limiting beliefs and confidently live in your truth.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   What You’ll Learn: 1. The therapeutic journey of reclaiming your inherent goodness and understanding how external influences have shaped the way women perceive themselves. 2. How every woman is born with her own inherent goodness. Despite the pressures and messages, we receive throughout life, our worth is non-negotiable and always belongs to us. 3. Women are often conditioned to seek validation and approval from others, but it's essential to embrace our own value system, rather than relying on someone else's standards of "good enough." 4. How early negative beliefs about goodness are formed, and how these beliefs can be reprogrammed through therapy to help women move past feelings of shame, defectiveness, and inadequacy. 5. The power of surrender—letting go of the need to prove our worth and choosing instead to embrace our goodness and self-worth as we are. 6. How to build our own value system, rooted in their true selves, which helps us develop a strong sense of self that is impervious to external judgment.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.