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In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the core reasons many women seek therapy: shame. But shame isn’t just about feeling bad — it’s a manipulative system that’s often internalized from childhood, society, media, and relationships. Through personal insight and real client stories, Kambria walks listeners through how to identify, dismantle, and reclaim power from the shame system using somatic therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting. This episode is both an invitation and a call to action for women to stop outsourcing their self-worth — and start building a new, Self-Led identity from the inside out. 💡 Key Takeaways: Shame is an internal system — not a reflection of truth You weren't born with it — it was programmed into you We often give others (exes, bosses, society) the power to “mirror” who we are — even when they’re not safe or accurate EMDR and Brainspotting help dismantle shame at the body level, not just cognitively Healing isn’t about changing them — it’s about reclaiming yourself Client stories show how freedom feels when shame stops working on you You can receive feedback without shame when you're Self-Led Listener Challenge: Take a moment to notice: Where am I still using an internalized shame system that was never mine to begin with? Then ask: What would it feel like to let that go? Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we share a powerful story from a beachside restaurant in Portugal — where a loud fire alarm went off, but no one responded. This moment becomes a striking metaphor for how women often experience internal and external “alarms” from trauma, anxiety, or smear campaigns — even when they’re no longer in danger. We explore how outdated nervous system responses (like panic, overthinking, or fear) often come from childhood survival strategies or abusive dynamics. Through therapy — particularly EMDR and Brainspotting — women can learn to recognize these false alarms, reclaim their power, and stop reacting to chaos that isn’t theirs to manage. We also break down how narcissistic abuse and smear campaigns are designed to trigger alarm responses — and how women can stay grounded, neutral, and empowered in the face of that noise. Key Takeaways: Not every alarm means danger — pause, assess, and trust your clarity. Trauma can be rewired — your nervous system can learn a new way to respond. Smear campaigns are strategy, not truth — and often reveal more about the abuser. You don’t need to fight the noise — you can live fully despite it. Keep dancing, even when the alarm goes off.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

On the Zero Disturbance Podcast, in this episode of our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart — and one that might ruffle a few feathers: Why EMDR is dangerous. Now before you panic, we’re not saying EMDR is harmful — quite the opposite. EMDR is dangerous because it works. It’s powerful. It has the ability to align you with your positive beliefs of self, and when that happens, everything around you begins to shift. Your relationships, your job, your choices, your entire system — they all get shaken up. And that can feel really unsettling… but it’s also where true healing begins. Let’s talk about how EMDR contains a value system, even if it’s not named as such — a system rooted in beliefs like “I am safe,” “I have choices,” “I am worthy.” These aren’t just affirmations — they become embodied truths through the process. And as women, we’ve been conditioned to live disconnected from those truths. We also touch on real-world reasons why EMDR can be considered “dangerous” in our society: Women in legal proceedings (like assault cases) are often told not to fully heal so they can appear more “credible” in court. Clinicians are sometimes told to avoid EMDR with clients who dissociate — even though dissociation is often happening anyway. Pregnant women are discouraged from doing EMDR, as if their healing is somehow risky — when in fact, it's often exactly what they need most. But the biggest danger? The most exciting one? It’s that EMDR gives women clarity. Clarity that they are powerful. That they are enough. That they don’t have to stay in systems that don't serve them. And once you have that kind of clarity, you can’t unsee it. You start living differently — and that can feel disruptive, even terrifying. But it’s also liberating. We wrap up with a few powerful reflection questions Kambria loves to ask herself and her clients: Am I making this choice from a positive belief of self? Why not? (to check for internalized programming) Why is this right on time? (to reclaim power in difficult moments) This episode is for clinicians, for women in therapy, and for anyone ready to see themselves clearly and step fully into their self-led energy. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of Zero Disturbance, we challenge the obsession with analyzing narcissists—especially in the wake of narcissism going viral on social media. Drawing from extensive work with female clients recovering from narcissistic abuse, Kambria Evans offers a liberating message: stop trying to understand the narcissist and start reclaiming your own life. We explore how women often stay stuck in mental loops trying to dissect their partner’s behavior, history, or trauma in search of closure. But instead of answers, this rumination prolongs their pain and reinforces an unequal, trauma-informed framework. We emphasize that healthy, empathetic brains will never fully comprehend the narcissistic experience—and they don’t need to. This episode dives deep into:  - The emotional trap of trying to "figure out" narcissists - How empathy is weaponized to keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics - Why giving any attention (even negative) keeps you energetically connected to the abuse - The need to shift focus from the narcissist’s dysfunction to your own healing and power - How EMDR therapy can help women reclaim positive beliefs of self - A bold call to stop blaming survivors with language like “trauma bonding” We also zoom out to connect narcissism with broader systemic issues like patriarchy, showing how women's trauma is often socially reinforced. This episode isn’t just about healing—it's about waking up, taking back your narrative, and creating a future where therapy isn't always about recovering from trauma, but about thriving in your wholeness. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like perimenopause and menopause. We learn how EMDR therapy helps clients move from negative self-beliefs (“I have to be perfect,” “It’s my fault”) to deep somatic neutrality — the kind of empowered calm that fuels true healing and lasting transformation. We also unpack how society’s expectations, gendered emotional labor, and unspoken pressures on women intersect with hormonal shifts, and why so many women are finally saying: We do not care. Whether you're deep in midlife or just beginning to question the stories you’ve been told, this episode offers education, validation, and a call to reclaim your own nervous system and voice — one belief at a time.This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive into a transformational topic: women and urges—and how honoring our body's messages can radically shift how we live, love, and lead. We explore why so many women are disconnected from their intuition, bodies, and desires, often due to lifelong social conditioning, trauma, and internalized shame. Through the lens of EMDR therapy and somatic healing, Kambria Evans shares how recognizing and following a “full-body yes” (and saying no to a “full-body no”) can become a revolutionary act of self-love. Key topics include: The importance of somatic awareness and listening to your body's urges How EMDR therapy can help process and play out suppressed parts safely The role of trauma, societal programming, and patriarchal norms in urge repression Why midlife can spark a crisis—or awakening—of long-ignored parts of self The difference between reactive choices and intentional decisions around urges How urge exploration can reduce burnout, autoimmune issues, and chronic stress A step-by-step invitation for therapists and non-therapists to practice urge awareness Whether you're a therapist, a woman in midlife, or someone exploring deeper emotional work, this episode will validate your inner knowing and help you return to the wisdom of your body. Your urges aren’t problems—they're messages. What happens if you actually listen? The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore why so many women come to therapy feeling confused, responsible for others, and disconnected from their inner guidance system. The focus? Two of the most misunderstood emotions in healing work: anger and disgust. Drawing from experience in EMDR and Brainspotting, we discuss how women are socialized to suppress anger and collapse into sadness—ultimately cutting themselves off from their internal safety systems. But when anger is reframed as action energy, and disgust as the clarity to distance from harm, everything changes. This is especially true when leaving narcissistic, abusive relationships. This episode covers: Why anger is essential for trauma recovery and boundary setting How disgust helps women see unsafe, narcissistic people and systems clearly What it means to be Self-led and own your positive core beliefs The impact of patriarchal programming on emotional expression How therapists can help women reclaim emotional safety and power Whether you're a therapist, survivor, or someone doing deep inner work, this episode will challenge old narratives and offer a transformative framework for healing. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this thought-provoking episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue on our empowering series, Why Women Go to Therapy, by diving deep into the transformative concept of parts work. Listen as we unpack how women develop internal “parts” throughout their lives—often in response to external pressures, trauma, or survival needs—and how these parts, though created with good intentions, can become outdated and energy-draining over time. Using relatable metaphors, personal stories, and clinical insight, we highlight how understanding and honoring these parts can free women from perfectionism, caretaking burnout, body shame, and more. Drawing from modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Brainspotting to explain how therapy helps women reclaim their energy, re-author old narratives, and reconnect with their authentic Self—free from internalized societal messaging.   Key Takeaways Women develop different “parts” over time—coping mechanisms shaped by experiences, trauma, and social conditioning. These parts aren’t bad; they were created to help—but many are now outdated and draining. You have the power to identify, reassign, or retire these parts—like a CEO managing a team. Much of what feels like your inner voice is actually internalized messaging from society, not your true Self. Therapy helps you separate who you really are from the parts you’ve had to become. Modalities like EMDR, IFS, and Brainspotting help access, heal, and integrate parts. You are not your anxiety or depression—you have parts that feel anxious or depressed. Rewriting these inner narratives brings clarity, freedom, and energy back to your system! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of Brainspotting—a brain-based, somatic therapy that helps access and heal trauma, especially the kind stored before we even had language. Kambria shares her surprising journey from EMDR skeptic to Brainspotting advocate, explaining how this technique—developed by Dr. David Grand—uses eye position to access “trauma spots” and “resource spots” in the brain. Through personal insight, clinical expertise, and rich storytelling, we outline why brainspotting can be especially profound for women navigating complex trauma, patriarchal programming, and early childhood wounds. What You’ll Learn: 1) The difference between EMDR and Brainspotting 2) How Brainspotting reaches preverbal memory networks 3) Why talk therapy may be “speaking gibberish” to younger parts of self 4) The profound shifts we experience personally through Brainspotting 5) Why combining EMDR + Brainspotting is a game-changer for therapists and clients alike If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by the pace of healing, or disconnected from your body’s wisdom—this episode is your invitation to explore something radically different! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this episode, we explore why EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is particularly powerful for women and how it serves not just as a healing tool, but as a form of personal and social revolution. Discussion on how EMDR helps clients target not only trauma and disturbing memories but also deeply embedded societal programming around safety, power, control, and worth. For women, many of these beliefs are tied to patriarchal, narcissistic structures that have historically denied them autonomy and value. EMDR offers a path to reclaim those beliefs by helping women internalize new, positive narratives in both mind and body. Key themes include: 1) Why traditional diagnoses like anxiety and depression often miss the bigger picture: these symptoms may be responses to oppressive environments, not personal defects. 2) How brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting work differently than talk therapy by including body-based processing and belief reprogramming. 3) The impact of generational trauma: many women carry survival strategies taught by mothers and grandmothers who lived with fewer rights and opportunities. 4) The feminist and activist lens of EMDR: reprogramming beliefs like “I am safe” or “I have power” is a radical act in a society that often withholds those truths from women. 5) Empowerment beyond trauma: Women aren’t just healing pain—they’re expanding into strength, clarity, and agency.  The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?” If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we deep dive into this question, exploring how so many women struggle with self-doubt and the journey to reclaim their inherent worth. Every woman is born with her own unique goodness, and that worth is non-negotiable. Despite the external pressures, criticisms, and messages we encounter throughout life, our value remains constant. In this empowering episode, Kambria challenges the idea of seeking validation from others and instead encourages us to embrace our own value system—one that is free from societal standards and rooted in our true selves. We explore how many of these feelings of inadequacy are formed early in life—often before we’re five years old—and how they can be reprogrammed through therapy. Releasing the need to prove our worth and embracing self-compassion allows us to heal from feelings of shame and inadequacy. The core message? Your goodness belongs to you, and always has. Anyone who tries to confuse that is trying to control or objectify you. We hope to inspire listeners to build their own value systems, one that’s grounded in their true selves and impervious to the judgment of others. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt like you were never enough, this episode is packed with powerful insights on how to move past those limiting beliefs and confidently live in your truth.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   What You’ll Learn: 1. The therapeutic journey of reclaiming your inherent goodness and understanding how external influences have shaped the way women perceive themselves. 2. How every woman is born with her own inherent goodness. Despite the pressures and messages, we receive throughout life, our worth is non-negotiable and always belongs to us. 3. Women are often conditioned to seek validation and approval from others, but it's essential to embrace our own value system, rather than relying on someone else's standards of "good enough." 4. How early negative beliefs about goodness are formed, and how these beliefs can be reprogrammed through therapy to help women move past feelings of shame, defectiveness, and inadequacy. 5. The power of surrender—letting go of the need to prove our worth and choosing instead to embrace our goodness and self-worth as we are. 6. How to build our own value system, rooted in their true selves, which helps us develop a strong sense of self that is impervious to external judgment.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Ever felt like you’re giving so much to others that you forget to take care of you? You're not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, Kambria Evans shines a light on why so many women seek therapy—and it’s not because something’s “wrong” with us. It’s because we’ve been conditioned to ignore our own internal signals for far too long. In this eye-opening conversation, come learn why women often feel disconnected from our emotions, bodies, and true selves. From a young age, we’re taught to prioritize external validation and caregiving, leading us to lose touch with our inner needs and desires. This can leave us feeling out of sync with our own power, even as we continue to give to others. But here’s the truth: women's therapy shouldn't be about fixing an internal problem —it’s about reconnecting with our inner wisdom. We call for an updated approach to women's therapy—one that goes beyond the traditional labels and diagnoses. Instead, it’s all about tuning into your body, emotions, and intuition to rebuild trust in yourself. This isn’t just theory—it’s a call to action. This approach empowers women to trust their inner safety systems, make decisions that honor their well-being, and live in alignment with their truest selves. So, if you’re ready to hear how therapy can be the ultimate tool for self-empowerment, check out this game-changing episode. The insight will inspire you to reconnect with the most important person in your life: YOU. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   What You’ll Learn: 1. The foundational reasons why women seek therapy, emphasizing the importance of internal safety systems, self-attachment, and emotional connection. 2. How women are often taught from an early age to focus on external validation and caregiving, which can lead to a disconnection from their own internal needs, emotions, and bodies. 3. Women eventually come to therapy seeking to understand who they truly are and what their purpose is—questions that should ideally be explored throughout their lives but are often neglected due to societal conditioning. 4. It's time for an updated approach to women's therapy, one that goes beyond traditional diagnoses like those found in the DSM, which often pathologize emotions and experiences instead of seeing them as important information. 5. Therapists, it's your job to help women reconnect with their internal safety systems—tuning into their emotions, body sensations, and intuitive responses. These connections, when nurtured, empower women to trust their inner wisdom and make decisions that prioritize their well-being, safety, and peace. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

The true definition (and outcomes) of depression goes far beyond what we typically think of: someone pulling away from loved ones, extreme sadness, maybe even feeling suicidal. But the truth is that depression is often a symptom of trauma, and can manifest in individuals in so many different ways. It may be a collapse after extreme anxiety that we may not even notice because we’ve normalized living life at a high cadence. When we crash into depression, we may feel safe because we learned that there’s safety in that. However, we may not recognize this initially because that learning happened in a pre-verbal stage, before we can even remember. Because we want to rewrite what we’ve learned and decided so we can feel better, because we want to heal from past trauma, EMDR is an amazing therapeutic option for people who suffer from depression and hopelessness. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing what happens in our bodies and minds when we experience early trauma, why depression and anxiety are so linked, why there might be a medical reason for some depression, and how depression can actually feel safe for some of us. There are so many options available for people who feel depressed, especially in the winter months. EMDR is just one of the tools that can help. I urge anyone who feels an overwhelming sense of helplessness and withdrawal to seek out professional help.   When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Thanks to Gabor Maté, we know that trauma isn’t just something that happens; it’s something that happens inside of you. So when something happens to us (or doesn’t happen, like in an omission of care) and we feel anxiety, that anxiety is a result of trauma. Anxiety can come from so many things, like overextending ourselves and trying to do too much, divorce, job loss, and even things that some might perceive as positive experiences like an upcoming social event, wedding, or vacation. And often we feel this way not because we are anxious people, but because our relationship with anxiety has been wired a certain way. And we know that neuroplasticity allows us to rewire our relationship with emotions, sense of self and identity. How cool is that? When we can expand the definition of anxiety outside of what the DSM and the American Psychological Association tell us it is, we can start to see the value of EMDR treatment for people who experience anxiety. This is a beautiful thing. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, I’m talking about what anxiety and trauma actually are, and why professional associations in the psychological space need to expand their official definitions so that more people can easily access the support and treatment they need. And I’m sharing why EMDR is a great choice for people who have experienced anxiety or who have been told they “have anxiety.” This is especially important so we can create more hope for people so they don’t think they have to “have anxiety” forever, as part of who they are. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

  Forgiveness in therapy is a complex and often misunderstood concept. Many clients have been pressured to forgive their abusers or "just let it go," but this approach can be harmful and retraumatizing. True healing comes from understanding that what happened wasn't your fault, processing your emotions safely, and rebuilding trust in yourself. I've seen how EMDR can help desensitize traumatic memories without forcing forgiveness. The body stores trauma, making it impossible to simply forget. Instead, we work to integrate experiences in a way that allows us to feel safe and empowered again. This episode explores alternatives to the "forgive and forget" narrative that respect your healing journey. We'll discuss how to honor your anger as a protective force, forgive the parts of yourself that feel blame or shame, and reclaim your sense of safety and trust. Your only job in therapy is to reconnect with yourself and your inherent worth. And this message is for both individuals in therapy and their therapists.Join me as we dive into this important topic and empower both therapists and clients to approach trauma healing with compassion, understanding and respect for each individual's process. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Traditional therapy often focuses on measuring changes in behaviors and emotions. While valuable, this approach may overlook some important aspects of the healing process. As an EMDR therapist, I've discovered a powerful metric that can transform how we set goals and assess progress in therapy: process outcomes. Process outcomes measure how easy, efficient, or effective it is to implement positive changes. For EMDR clients, this could mean tracking how quickly they can access coping strategies or how much emotional distress they experience when facing triggers. By focusing on these metrics, we gain a more nuanced understanding of therapeutic progress. This week, I’m sharing my "secret sauce" for goal-setting and assessment in EMDR therapy. You'll learn how decreasing disturbances in the body can lead to effortless behavioral changes and free up energy for personal growth. And we'll explore the power of neutralizing negative experiences and expanding positive resources. For therapists, this episode offers fresh perspectives on treatment planning and client progress. For therapy clients, it provides insights into what's possible with EMDR and how to advocate for a more comprehensive approach to your healing journey. Tune in to discover how EMDR and other brain-based therapies are changing the therapeutic process, offering faster, more efficient paths to lasting change. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Safety in therapy is a complex and evolving concept. As therapists and clients, we're constantly learning and adapting our understanding of what creates true safety in the therapeutic process. This week on the podcast, we explore the nuances of safety in EMDR, Brainspotting and beyond, challenging some common assumptions and opening up new possibilities for healing. Our perceptions of safety can shift over time, both in immediate situations and in retrospect. My own certainly have. From first hearing about EMDR and Brainspotting (and discounting them), to now specializing in EMDR and training other therapists in the practice. For therapists, this means constantly reevaluating our approaches and being open to new modalities that may offer deeper healing for our clients like I did. For clients, it involves recognizing and honoring your own experiences of safety and empowerment in the therapeutic journey. The conversation has recently expanded to include emerging therapies like psychedelic-assisted treatments, despite no mention of so-called “alternative” therapies during therapy training. I invite you to approach these topics with curiosity and critical thinking rather than immediate judgment. We need to discuss the importance of ongoing education and personal experience in forming well-informed opinions about therapeutic approaches. In fact, I’m so committed to growth as a clinician and as a therapy client that I’ve started a year-long training in psychedelic-assisted treatments so I can speak more on the topic. Something I never would have imagined even just a few years ago. This episode challenges both therapists and clients to examine their preconceptions about safety in therapy and to remain open to new possibilities for healing. By leaning into a spirit of continuous learning and exploration, we can create more empowering and effective therapeutic experiences. Whether you're a seasoned EMDR practitioner, a therapy client, or simply interested in the future of mental health treatment, this episode offers valuable insights into creating true safety and facilitating deeper healing in therapy. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

EMDR therapy is a powerful path to healing, but many misconceptions persist about it—from medical professionals, therapists, and others. As an EMDR consultant with over ten thousand hours of sessions under my belt, I've witnessed firsthand how this brain-based therapy can transform lives when applied thoughtfully. Traditional talk therapy absolutely has its place, providing a safe space for clients to explore their narratives and build coping skills. However, EMDR takes healing to the next level by directly rewiring neural pathways associated with distressing memories and beliefs. This accelerated approach can lead to faster, more profound changes than talk therapy alone. One common myth that we need to bust is that EMDR is only suitable for severe trauma or that clients need extensive preparation before beginning. But the reality is that EMDR can be tailored to address a wide range of issues, from minor anxieties to complex PTSD. And by starting with less distressing memories and gradually building up, therapists can help clients experience the benefits of EMDR without overwhelm. This week on the podcast, I'll break down the various approaches within EMDR therapy, including standard protocol, addiction-focused techniques, and newer innovations. I'll explain how these different methods can be customized to meet each client's unique needs and comfort level. Whether you're a therapist looking to expand your toolkit or a client seeking more empowering treatment options, this discussion will equip you with the knowledge to make informed decisions about incorporating EMDR into your healing journey. This versatile, brain-based approach truly can accelerate progress and help to create lasting positive change. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+ supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Changing behavior, especially when it comes to addictive or compulsive patterns, is often misunderstood and oversimplified. Many therapists and rehab programs focus solely on modifying beliefs and behaviors, overlooking vital elements in our neurological programming. This approach can lead to frustration, repeated relapses, and unnecessary shame for those struggling to make lasting changes. This week on the podcast, we’re taking a look at a more comprehensive, brain-based perspective on behavior change. We'll discuss why traditional methods fall short and how modalities like EMDR can address the root causes of compulsive behaviors by working with our body's programming at a deeper level. Whether you're someone seeking more effective ways to create positive change in your life or a therapist looking to enhance your practice or, this conversation offers valuable insights into the complexities of human behavior and the potential for true transformation. Discover how understanding the full "code" behind our actions—including images, emotions, body sensations, urges, positive feeling states, and early life experiences—can lead to more successful and sustainable change. We'll challenge common misconceptions about willpower and addiction, and offer a compassionate, science-based approach to reprogramming unwanted patterns. This episode provides eye-opening information for both mental health professionals and individuals on their personal growth journey. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on behavior change that goes beyond simplistic advice and taps into the power of our neurological wiring. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+ supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

While many therapists identify as "trauma-informed" or "attachment-informed," these labels should be a given for any effective therapist. How so? Because any therapy work is attachment work. The reality is that we've all been shaped by our early experiences and relationships, creating programming that influences how we view ourselves and interact with others. Understanding attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - offers valuable insight into relationship patterns. However, simply labeling someone's attachment style isn't enough. The key is uncovering the specific beliefs, adaptations, and coping mechanisms developed in childhood that still drive behavior today. This week, we explore creative ways people seek attachment and connection, from "show and tell" behaviors to dramatic outbursts. It also examines how we internalize beliefs about our worth and lovability, and the importance of developing our own secure internal "mirror" rather than constantly seeking validation from others. By recognizing these attachment dynamics in ourselves and our relationships, we can start to rewire old programming and develop healthier ways of connecting. EMDR offers an effective path for installing positive beliefs at a deep level, allowing true change and growth. Tune in to learn more about attachment, trauma, and the journey toward secure connection, both as a therapist supporting clients along this path and as a therapy client. This episode provides valuable perspectives for both therapists and clients seeking to create more fulfilling relationships and lives.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in This Episode: The Client Workbook (+supporting videos) Dumb Things Therapists Say series Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.