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We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to feel more at home in queer spaces. Lina affirms that they’re allowed to be there, and anyone whose opinion is worth considering is probably just thinking they’re hot. Fewer queer cops, more queer fucking!!! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes and how we sort kinks into this category. Her new book Why Are People Into That?! is out now wherever books are sold. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina’s popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of conspirituality-adjacent terms like ‘divine masculine & feminine’ into sex education spaces. She also goes into why her submission doesn’t feel feminine, but an intense space to reckon with the masculine. Controversial? Probably!  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Find the excellent Conspirituality Podcast here. Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In a transmission from God’s hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie who’s playing with a doctor to enjoy the free medical care without shame. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex positive language to confuse subs? Enter: Fake Dom 2.0. In this episode, Lina shares signs you may be dealing with a Fake Dom 2.0, vetting questions to try to weed them out, and solace for those who have been victimized by these creeps. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change and ability to accept more things into our orifices. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin’, and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lube is you loving yourself. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight passing relationships, whether sexual preferences or attraction can be problematic, how to negotiate accommodation for neurodivergent and disabled people, and other ways of being sexual secure, filthy (if that’s what you want!), and thoughtful freaks. “Well, hi!” Cat  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won’t click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn’t support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you’re a koi fish in a goldfish bowl. Get in on the new Ask A Sub Office Hours offering! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered your q’s in real time just like the old days. Get info about Ask A Sub Office Hours on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire.  Catch R.O.’s Thirst Inventory here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the server. Dollie and Lina talk community building and maintenance, and how they curate the best (dare we say??) kink space on the internet. Listen on Patreon or upgrade in the Substack player. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive doing and embrace submissive being. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of the day is spitting it out - from feelings to actual fluids, comedian Alison Stevenson and Lina have you completely covered. With information. Just information and humor. Unless…? Follow Feeld on Instagram here, or download it using this link. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big feelings and occasionally get it wrong. Substack: What We Talk About When We Talk About Cucking To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of her sexuality she’s discovering in the midst of parenting. Come for the fire pregnancy nudes, stay for the warm-hearted acceptance for wherever you are in your journey. Get the full interview on Patreon for $11/month. To sign up to be notified about the release of the new course - Kink Tasting Menu To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road. Get your Sub Survival Guide for 20% off at http://www.askasub.com/courses with code AWAKENING To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead.   Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast here.    To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad