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Lina takes the mic this week to clarify a misunderstanding about the responsibility of subs in D/s dynamics, how both partners can bring 100%, and once again breaks the bad news that, yes, we have to talk to people about what we want if we want to get it (EW!). If you're looking for Halloween stuff, sign up for a paid membership on patreon or substack to get Lina and Mr. Dune talking about the Hellraiser franchise, specifically 'Hellbound: Hellraiser 2.' Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

How DO you f*ck like a girl?? Vera Blossom has the answers in her debut essay collection by the same name, a trans coming of age that reads like an epic poem made out with a tumblr blog in a public bathroom. We talk passing vs creating, being Elvis Presley's long lost son, and staring into the swirling chaos at the center of the earth through estrogen-tinted glasses. Pick your gender of the day and join us for some playful expansiveness as we crack the columns of the gender binary temple.  Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Lina is back and we're easing you back in with a medium-unhinged episode title & a discussion about how to bolster communication among the neurospicy folks in your dynamic (insert us, the caller, their partner, and all of you into the classic pointing Spiderman meme — it's all of us).  Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hey raccoons! Lina's still away on her meditation retreat so it's Mr. Dune again. Don't worry, Lina will be back next week (she's coming home tomorow 🎉) and the episode titles and descriptions will resume some semblance of capability and normalcy. But more importantly yes of course I love drag race. I have a pulse, don't I? This week, a first time long time caller rings up to ask Lina's advice on fashion, outfits, and gear when attending a big event like DomCon. As always, Lina's got the style tips stars would dream of. Ok byyyeeeeeeee. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hey ya'll, Lina's off on a meditation retreat out of cell phone range so it's Mr. Dune's job to write up the title and the podcast description for this week's episode, so please don't blame Lina for this week's cursed-ness. A very thoughtful caller rings Lina up for her musings on switches and switchiness and Lina dives fearlessly back and forth across the slash for answers and as always is wonderful and kills it with depth and humor. She's very smart and pretty and I love her very much. -Mr. D For the young kids who don't understand the reference in the title Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In honor of the Folsom Street Fair happening this weekend, we're rummaging through the Ask a Sub Supply Closet full of lube and butt plugs to bring you this gem on the history of the fair, so cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we're taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970's - San Francisco's South of Market neighborhood and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous. Check out my substack piece on the walking tour here. Here's the Folsom Street Fair's website. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!  Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com  Go here for information on how to record a voice memo   Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Ok so if kink isn't role play for you but you want to inject some role play in your kink… what the heck do you do? This Hellraiser-style puzzle box has summoned Lina from beyond the grave to ponder the ins and outs of living truthfully in imaginary circumstances, appropriate wig usage, and what to do if someone forgets to feed the cat. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener wants to enter THE THUD ZONE *guitar solo* *flames* *monster truck* and Lina activates her Special Interest mode to outline what makes a toy thuddy, why masochists love them, what to buy, and how to use them safely.  Lina & Mr. Dune's Thuddy Recs: The Ball Crop | Paddle | Lolly Crop The Reddit Thread To share your kink journey, please send me an email at lina@askasub.com  Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

When are we being too picky with our play partners? Listen, nothing is perfect, but if your ick is "doesn't respect my boundaries" or "is unsafe" … time to yeet. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux's upcoming book 'Touch Me I'm Sick' at your local indie bookstore or wherever books are sold.  Follow Margeaux: Substack | Instagram Catch Margeaux on book tour in September and October! Schedule here. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today Lina reads a piece that's popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are we horny for what scares us? Well step right up to the erotic kaleidoscope and peer in at Malin Akerman's very Victoria's Secret-coded thongs with me.  Read the article here | Get Elizabeth Rose Quinn's book Follow Me LAUREN BOEBERT AT THE THE-A-TER HONEY Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on this topic, Lina discusses the ins and outs of codependence versus interdependence, and caring for your inner child as revenge on the cunts who did this to you and the dicks responsible. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  JOIN ON THE "COLLAR CLUB + POSTCARD" LEVEL BEFORE 8/25 TO GET A POST CARD!! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

It's summer. It's hot. It's sexy. And what's more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating pool is already partnered. Answer? Maybe some people need to take a hard look at their poly saturation point!!  Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for regulation, connection, and what to do when you get super horny seeing a human doggy peeing in the gutter (FOR EXAMPLE).  Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023 | TikTok Cat Video Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hey it's the episode where you write in and ask about the light or deep kink questions that are on your mind! Today we're talking about how being a human ottoman can activate your parasympathetic nervous system, how to build confidence as a bottom, and get into Lina's deep-seated and probably problematic issues with romance novels. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. For Lina's spicy book recomendations go here. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

What do online privacy, sex work decrim, fire butt pix, and clowns have in common? Well they're all special interests of our Deep Dive guest this month — Gutter! Gutter is one of our long time moderators of the Ask A Sub Discord community (a benefit of ask a sub patreon membership), and she joined me to talk community building, masochism, and more. Join us in a clown serenity prayer. For your filthy eternal soul. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Should we keep our friendships separate from our D/s dynamics? Should we merge all our relationships, friendships, and situationships into the world's largest cuddle puddle? What can we learn, aside from the latest scientific advances in filler technology, from reality television about the monogamy/polyamory divide? Lina tackles all that in this episode and more and because we were all good boys/girls/they/thems we get a special treat from a listener who shares their personal story about why they love pet play 🐶 You're killing Independent George! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

ISN'T BEING AN OPEN-HEARTED AND EVOLVED HUMAN SO FUN??? HAHA Well this week we're talking about what to do when your partner is in love, not forcing yourself to feel compersion before you're ready, and some hot takes on boundaries (sometimes they can control the behavior of others?? Are we backsliding into toxicity on the AAS pod or innovating?? You be the judge) PLUS stick around till the end of the episode for a BRAND NEW ONGOING SEGMENT called SCENE STORIES!!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions and scene stories for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

The first brick at Stonewall. The repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell". Obergefell v. Hodges. What better way to commemorate these extremely profound and meaningful moments in the history of the struggle for LGBTQ+ rights than by chaotically (but helpfully!) talking about… butt stuff. In this chaotically good June Pride Month episode, we revisit a classic podcast answer where Lina went deep, we're talking reaaaaallll deep, into all things anal. Come away educated, excited, enlivened, and relaxed. (In the butthole) Read Dan Savage's beautifully written and juicy Thirst Inventory here Get Lina's favorite anal sex memoir The Surrender here To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

How do we advocate for our desires the same way we advocate for our limits? How do we see ourselves as valid even if we're bedroom-only? How can a safe word be heard through a ball gag? Lina has practical answers to all of the above, including a (ASMR?) demonstration for one of them…. you'll never guess which!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad