did i talk too much?

In this episode, Tori talks to Morgan Clarke, who is married to Alpha RD Tanner Clarke. Morgan shares about her struggles with porn, masturbation and disordered eating. She explains how openness and accountability with God, ourselves and others is a crucial part of healing from secret sins. We hope this episode will remind you that you are not alone and equip you with tools to handle vulnerable conversations with friends!Resources: Biola Counseling Center Pastoral Care Spiritual Direction & the grit team! *instagrams: @tori.beth.koetsier@ariss__20 @naylahhjobeFollow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

In this episode, Tori, Ariss, and — drumroll please — Naylah, grit’s lovely social media manager, sit down to share more about themselves. They talk about irrational fears, testimonies, dream jobs, and why they wanted to be at grit this year. We hope you learn lots about these girls and their heart for this new season AND that you take them up on that offer to get coffee! *instagrams: @tori.beth.koetsier@ariss__20 @naylahhjobeFollow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

Hey guys! Welcome to a brand new season of Did I Talk Too Much? — this year, we’re stepping In the Light. Together, we’re shining honest light on the conversations Christian women often keep in the dark — the ones that feel too messy, too personal, or too “taboo” to talk about in church circles. From doubt and identity to relationships, body image, and mental health, no topic is off-limits as we seek truth, freedom, and grace in every corner of our stories.It’s time to bring it all into the light — because God meets us there.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

Starting college can be exciting, overwhelming, and everything in between. In this episode, Violet, Audrey, and Tori are talking directly to the college freshmen out there—sharing the real talk we wish someone had given us on day one. From making friends and avoiding burnout to navigating campus culture and figuring out your major, we break down the essentials with honesty, humor, and heart. Whether you're weeks away from move-in or already deep into your first semester, this episode is your unofficial guide to surviving—and thriving—in college.Biola Counseling CenterPastoral Care - Spiritual Development - Biola UniversityBiola University Center for Marriage and RelationshipsFollow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

What did it mean to be a woman in the Old Testament? How did biblical women navigate their roles, relationships, and faith in a world so different from our own? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Carmen Imes to explore the lives of women, unpacking their significance in God’s redemptive story. Join us as we discuss the cultural context of biblical womanhood, how these women demonstrated faith and resilience, and what their stories teach us today. Whether you have questions about women in the Bible, women in the church, or something else, this episode seeks to serve as insightful and encouraging.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

Love is something we all experience and yearn for, yet we all give it and receive it in different ways. Learning how you and your loved ones feel loved the most is so important for strengthening your relationships. In this podcast, Tori, Violet, and Audrey explore the five love languages - Words of Affirmation, Gift Giving, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Quality Time - and how they shape and impact our relationships with others. Whether you want to improve your communication with others or just learn how to love others well and understand how they’re showing love to you, this episode will serve you well.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

The tradwife movement is such a hot topic these days, but what exactly is a tradwife? Is it a return to traditional values, if it is truly tradition, or is it a movement against modern gender roles and expectations? Or, is it something else entirely? In this episode, Audrey and Tori unpack what a tradwife actually is and how truly “traditional” the concept is, along with talking about the influencers selling the idea. Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

Ever wonder what makes guy friendships so unique, and sometimes downright baffling? On this week's episode, Violet, Tori, and Audrey break down everything from the playful banter and unspoken rules to the heartwarming loyalty that defines guy friendships. Come with us on this lighthearted episode where we talk about what we think about having guy friends, horror stories with that, and some practical advice for navigating the world of friendship with guys.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!

Feeling like you need some relationship advice? Have your eye on someone but not sure what to do about it? Wrestling with the balance between dating for fun and seriously dating for marriage? Want some advice on guy friends and just friendships in general? Whether you’re single, dating, or in some situationship, special guest Willa Williams is on the pod to share her wisdom and advice in the area of dating and relationships and notes about the specific atmosphere of dating at Biola.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!Book Resources:true love datesboundaries in dating7 myths about singlenesstalking back to purity culturehow we lovemeaning of marriageJesus callinggentle and lowlyCenter for Marriage and Relationships and Podcast:CMR - Center for Marriage and RelationshipsUnder “Resources” you’ll find more information about the Christian perspectives and relationships class which takes place in the spring on Wednesdays 4:30-7:20.The Art of Relationships podcast site (CMR)Art of Relationships Apple Podcast link

Having a desire to serve in the church is something that many people have because we are called to serve others. However, what if God is calling me to more of a leadership role in the church? Is that my own selfish desires, or is God nudging me to serve him in a way that’s outside my comfort zone? In this episode, we invite a special guest onto the pod, Andrea Watson, who gives us some more insight into what it means to be a woman in ministry and how to listen to God’s calling in that.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!Halfway to Sunday Podcast links! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/halfway-to-sunday/id1583685375https://open.spotify.com/show/1ENlvd1ZRpZy2gLtL7nyjO?si=9774c08f6597470d

The struggle is all too real; we look out at everyone else, and then in, finding ourselves lacking or not enough. Comparison, envy, and jealousy are all things that everyone knows, and in this episode, Violet, Tori, and Audrey unpack them and uncover the biblical truth that fights them. Tune in to hear about their unique experiences with comparison on Biola’s campus, and how they seek to combat the lies of envy and jealousy with the truth of Jesus’ goodness, provision, and worthiness.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!https://jmindel.substack.com/p/thou-shalt-be-nice

Welcome back to another season of “did i talk too much?” In this episode, we re-introduce ourselves, recap the summer, and reveal the theme for this new season! Tune in to meet the GRIT Gals, hear their takes on brat summer and the Olympics, and to learn more about their vision for this next batch of episodes, which is … Biblical womanhood! The term “biblical womanhood” can be so charged with connotations of things that aren’t actually in the Bible, so the GRIT gals are digging into what it really means to be a woman who loves Jesus, and how we can live faithfully to God’s calling for our lives.Follow us on Instagram @gritatbiola!Links: https://www.today.com/popculture/music/what-is-brat-summer-charli-xcx-rcna163061

Our beloved staff members, Kaile and Jenna are saying goodbye as they look forward to graduation this weekend. They have both served the GRIT team so well the past few years and we are going to miss them dearly. They chat in this episode about their favorite college memories, their advice for underclassmen, and the many lessons they learned in their four years at Biola. 

As we grow into womanhood, we also grow into deeper relationships with other people. In this episode, GRIT gals Kaile, Eme, and Audrey discuss how their friendships and relationships have changed, and the ways in which they are adapting to that in order to fulfill God’s command to love one another. Tune in to hear their thoughts on the gift of ‘ships!

Women have long been barred from the world of academia, but now, women are getting more degrees than ever! Today, Dr Lisa Igram shares her story as a woman in the world of higher education, from how she wound up with so many degrees, to her leadership position at Biola. She offers beautiful insight to how her femininity aids her in her career, and gives advice to other women who are navigating a predominantly male educational environment.

“Do I like this because I like it, or because everyone else likes it?” It can be tricky to really know yourself: your true interests, likes, and personality. Kaile and Audrey get together to talk about the awkward but beautiful process of understanding the unique woman that God has made each of us to be! From silly chats about fangirl phases to struggles with comparison and competition, they share their experiences of “finding themselves” and give advice to anyone else going through the same phase!

Our bodies do what now?! Historically, so many women have suffered from a serious lack of knowledge around their own physical and mental health. This episode, Audrey hosts two guests from the Biola Health Center, Dr. Tamra Hocking, and nurse practitioner Sofia Kim, to answer common questions that women have about their bodies. From menstruation to mood swings, to depression and social anxiety, Sofia and Dr. Hocking discuss what’s normal and what’s not, and that seeking help is never a bad thing!To make an appointment with the Biola Health Center, use this link: Health CenterAccess the PDF of the menstrual cycle visual aid: Menstrual Cycle

Talk to any woman born before the year 2000, and you’ll find that their lives and experiences as women are vastly different than those of this millenia. Today, the whole GRIT team is on the podcast to discuss the privileges and lingering  challenges of being a woman in the 21st century. From complex social movements such as the #MeToo movement and the rise and fall of purity culture, they explore the ways in which their upbringings in the modern era shaped their identities as 21st century women.

And that’s on period? In our episode today, Jenna, Ella, and Audrey talk about the transition from girlhood to womanhood, exploring the different cultural and personal milestones that come with that, namely, periods. The GRIT gals laugh, commiserate, and share about the awkwardness and horrors of menstruating, complete with reading anonymous period stories from Biola girls! 

Happy New Year! Last fall, the GRIT gals covered girlhood, now, we’re beginning a new season! Our theme? You guessed it: womanhood! In our theme episode, Jenna and Audrey talk about New Year’s Resolutions, what this next season is going to look like, and what they love about being a woman. The GRIT team is thrilled to navigate the way our identity as women has shaped us and is continuing to shape us today!