Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

We've got another round-up of hot topics questions about divorce - this time we cover everything from why you need a QDRO to whether or not you need permission to change your name to common divorce mistakes. Don't forget to send us your questions to hello@exexperts.com if you'd like them answered in an upcoming episode! (Guest: Tracy Moore Grant, Divorce Attorney, Amicable Divorce Network) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

From who files first (and why it matters) to how to avoid being bullied by your lawyer, this episode goes through rapid-fire questions on what you'll want to know, for every step of the process. (Guest: Jennifer Lazor, Divorce Attorney, Lazor Rantas) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

It's the oldest question in the book...why did my spouse cheat on me? We think we know the reasons, but there is so much more involved. And since both of us (T.H. and Jess) have been there - both of our husband's had affairs - we want to help you process the feelings you have for your cheating ex and move on with your life. This is a must-hear for anyone who's been cheated on! (Guest: Erica Bennett, Empowerment Coach) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

How long do you need to take a break in dating after a breakup? A month? 6 months? A year? Is there actually a "right" or "wrong" amount of time? In this episode, we talk to Luke Entrup and Kendra Cunov, both of whom offer courses on either male or female cleansing, aka taking a break from dating. You'll hear both the guy's and girl's perspective on what every person needs after a relationship ends, to understand how they can actually find the relationship they want. Luke and Kendra have some great advice and insight that will help you understand where you are and what you actually need. (Guests: Luke Entrup, Coach and Kendra Cunov, Coach) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

It's one of those situations that sounds shocking and also probably happens more often that you think. How do you get through a situation like this? How do you work through the betrayal or feeling like you never even really knew your spouse - and most importantly, how can you move forward in a way that still allows for a productive relationship and co-parenting situation? We speak to Jessica Frew, who has been through this, and has some valuable tips and wisdom to help anyone else in this position. (Guest: Jessica Frew, Relationship Crisis Coach, The BOLD Logic) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hello Divorce. Founded by an attorney with over 16 years of experience, who was sick of the broken family law system, Hello Divorce was created to make divorce easy, kind, and affordable and completely online. Their guiding principles are to make sure both spouses feel heard, supported, and set up for success as they move into their next chapter in life. To learn more go to ⁠⁠⁠www.hellodivorce.com⁠⁠⁠. And to get a FREE call with Hello Divorce, go to www.HelloDivorce.com/exEXPERTS --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

It's easy to get caught up in dealing with the divorce settlement, and oftentimes the lawyers can even rile you up and set you off down a path that you hadn't intended. It's complicated and can get messy and emotional. But there is a different way to divorce, if you aren't planning to litigate, and we find out exactly how in this episode! (Guest: Heather MacKenzie, Hello Divorce) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hello Divorce. Founded by an attorney with over 16 years of experience, who was sick of the broken family law system, Hello Divorce was created to make divorce easy, kind, and affordable and completely online. Their guiding principles are to make sure both spouses feel heard, supported, and set up for success as they move into their next chapter in life. To learn more go to ⁠⁠www.hellodivorce.com⁠⁠. And to get a FREE call with Hello Divorce, go to www.HelloDivorce.com/exEXPERTS --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

How do you define fair versus enough? Especially when it comes to a divorce settlement, when emotions are flying high and at least one spouse if likely feeling that the final result of the negotiation should reflect their "worth." In this episode, we dig into that conversation to help people understand the difference, and how to make sure what they end up with feels both fair and is enough to move on with. (Guest: Kimberly Nelson, CDFA, Financial Advisor to High Net Worth Individuals) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello divorce. Founded by an attorney with over 16 years of experience, who was sick of the broken family law system, Hello Divorce was created to make divorce easy, kind, and affordable and completely online. Their guiding principles are to make sure both spouses feel heard, supported, and set up for success as they move into their next chapter in life. To learn more go to ⁠www.hellodivorce.com⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

When getting divorced, the first year is always the hardest. It's the time when you are figuring out what this new life will look like, for you and your kids. And it's a time when you exprience a lot of new firsts, as you learn how to navigate and adjust. In this episode, we speak to Sarah Armstrong, an executive at Google who knows how to get things done, about how she did it and why it prompted her to wrote the book "The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce". (Guest: Sarah Armstrong, Author, The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce") Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello divorce. Founded by an attorney with over 16 years of experience, who was sick of the broken family law system, Hello Divorce was created to make divorce easy, kind, and affordable and completely online. Their guiding principles are to make sure both spouses feel heard, supported, and set up for success as they move into their next chapter in life. To learn more go to www.hellodivorce.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

It's both exciting and scary to start dating again after divorce, but what are some of the warning signs to look out for? Nowadays, there are a lot of people who say they're divorced when it's not finalized yet, or who aren't totally truthful about their living situation and more. How to know if you're getting the real story? This is a must hear episode with dating stories from the one and only Carmindy! (Guest: Carmindy, Founder Carmindy Beauty, Entrepreneur) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

If you have kids, then there's a very good chance there will be some type of stepparent role after your divorce - either with your new partner and their kids or your ex's new partner and your own kids. We know it's hard to accept a stepparent in your kids' lives, mostly because we don't want someone else involved in decisions being made and of course the fear of how much our kids will like/love this new person, and how it will affect our relationships with our kids. But there are so many things to know about how to be a stepparent and how to handle your kids having a stepparent, and it really doesn't have to be the nightmare we've seen in movies. We dig deep in this episode and it will be a huge help to everyone out there trying to deal with this situation. (Guest: Maria Napatov, Stepparenting Coach) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

It's not a sexy topic, but tax time is coming and there are some specific things you need to know so you don't get hit with any penalties or fees if you're getting divorced. If your divorce wasn't finalized before the end of the year, do you file jointly or separately? If you have kids, how do you determine who claims them? We go through all the important basics so you're set up for success! (Guest: Donna Stern, CPA and Financial Expert) FYI - Divorce and Taxes Part 1 is S2, Ep 26 with Michele Spence Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

Have you ever heard of harmonious coparenting? Does the expression make you cringe or smile? If you want to know ways you can actually make peace and harmony with your coparent, then this is the episode for you. It is filled with such great, actionable tips and Jessica even used one with her own ex/coparent after we recorded it with great success! The advice here is priceless and could legit change the relationship you currently have with your ex! (Guest: Luke Entrup, Teacher and Coach) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

We have heard from so many people that need help recovering from marriages to narcissists, and this episode is a great primer on how to start your recovery and move on. There are specific coping skills that are important to understand, because these relationships are very different, often involving emotional abuse which can leave you feeling both scared and scarred. In this episode you'll learn the top tips for recovering from a narcissistic relationship - as well as what all of that even means. (Kimberly Weeks, Narcissistic Abuse Coach) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' Divorce Rulebook⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

The type of divorce you choose depends on who your ex is, but mediation is a common practice in several kinds of divorce. But who does it serve? What can go wrong? In this episode you'll learn exactly what goes on in mediation, how to best prepare for it, what can go wrong and how to prevent that so you come out feeling good about your result. This is a must-listen for anyone getting divorced! (Guest: Gabrielle Hartley, Divorce Lawyer & Mediator, Author Better Apart) Sign up for the exEXPERTS ⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠SIMPLY B ORGANIZED⁠⁠⁠. LAURIE PALAU HOSTS THE PODCAST, THIS ORGANIZED LIFE, WHERE SHE CHATS WITH EXPERTS, CELEBS, AND EVERYDAY PEOPLE (LIKE US!) ABOUT ORGANIZING EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE - WORK, PARENTING, HEALTH, FINANCES AND MORE. HEAR US AS GUESTS ON THIS ORGANIZED LIFE PODCAST ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ AND FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE OR ANY PODCAST PLATFORM. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

Do you sometimes wonder how you even married your ex in the first place? None of us get married thinking we'll get divorced, but if it happens, we all wonder how we got here - especially if you married an extremely difficult person. If you're wondering what's wrong with you or how you allowed this to happen because you wouldn't even be friends with them, then take comfort in knowing you are not alone! So many of us find ourselves asking those very same questions, and our guest in this episode will help you dig deep to find answers that can help you move forward in a positive way. (Guest: Tracy Ross, LCSW & Founder, Redefining Relationships) Sign up for the exEXPERTS ⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠SIMPLY B ORGANIZED⁠⁠. LAURIE PALAU HOSTS THE PODCAST, THIS ORGANIZED LIFE, WHERE SHE CHATS WITH EXPERTS, CELEBS, AND EVERYDAY PEOPLE (LIKE US!) ABOUT ORGANIZING EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE - WORK, PARENTING, HEALTH, FINANCES AND MORE. HEAR US AS GUESTS ON THIS ORGANIZED LIFE PODCAST ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ AND FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE OR ANY PODCAST PLATFORM. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

There's one thing both a new year and divorce have in common...and it's that both make you start thinking about who you are and who you want to be. Divorce is a huge change, but there are so many meaningful lessons to be learned about how to trust yourself, how to understand what it is you're looking for, and how to fully invest yourself in what you want. In this episode you will learn how to actually reintroduce yourself to you - what would you say? This concept will have a huge impact on your life. (Guest: Cheldin Barlatt Rumer , CEO of This is It Network) Sign up for the exEXPERTS Divorce Rulebook! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠SIMPLY B ORGANIZED⁠. LAURIE PALAU HOSTS THE PODCAST, THIS ORGANIZED LIFE, WHERE SHE CHATS WITH EXPERTS, CELEBS, AND EVERYDAY PEOPLE (LIKE US!) ABOUT ORGANIZING EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE - WORK, PARENTING, HEALTH, FINANCES AND MORE. HEAR US AS GUESTS ON THIS ORGANIZED LIFE PODCAST ⁠HERE⁠ AND FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE OR ANY PODCAST PLATFORM. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

Finding yourself suddenly single sucks, no matter how old you are. But it can also be a time for reinvention, inspiration and rediscovery. In this episode, we hear about how one woman's divorce propelled her into a new business and into a second phase in life, and how her own story has inspired others to follow their own path. (Guest: Jennifer Polt, Making Up for Glossed Time) Sign up for exEXPERTS in your inbox for weekly updates, events and tips you can't afford to miss! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY SIMPLY B ORGANIZED. LAURIE PALAU HOSTS THE PODCAST, THIS ORGANIZED LIFE, WHERE SHE CHATS WITH EXPERTS, CELEBS, AND EVERYDAY PEOPLE (LIKE US!) ABOUT ORGANIZING EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE - WORK, PARENTING, HEALTH, FINANCES AND MORE. HEAR US AS GUESTS ON THIS ORGANIZED LIFE PODCAST HERE AND FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE OR ANY PODCAST PLATFORM. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

Having kids switch back and forth between parents and homes is challenging, no question. And if they're very young, you may feel like you're constantly missing out on many important moments. It was this exact challenge that inspired Fiona Kong to create Home Sweet Homes journal, which is specifically designed for children and co-parents. Hear how this ingenious journal can help make co-parenting much easier! (Guest: Fiona Kong, Home Sweet Homes Journal) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

In this special episode, we invite Jessica's ex to come on and face the music...we mean share his feelings and opinions about their marriage and divorce. Hear from both of them on what worked, what didn't, and what they think of each other as exes today. (Guest: Daren Herzberg, Jessica's ex husband) Sign up for exEXPERTS in your inbox for weekly updates, events and tips you can't afford to miss! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SOBERLINK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: If you're co-parenting with an ex-partner who abuses alcohol, Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system can provide evidence that they aren't drinking during parenting time. The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. For more information and to get $50 off your device, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠soberlink.com/etc⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message

There's a new trend we're hearing about when it comes to dating after divorce - mate poaching. This isn't cheating, exactly, but it's when someone sets up a situation with the ultimate goal of stealing someone's partner. The crazy part is that the one being poached has no idea...and it has real consequences and ruins relationships. One of our favorite relationship and dating coaches explains all the details, how to know if you're being poached and what you can (and should!) do to stop it. (Guest: ⁠Jennifer Hurvitz, Doing Relationships Right⁠) Sign up for the exEXPERTS Divorce Rulebook! ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram. SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠SOBERLINK⁠⁠⁠⁠: If you're co-parenting with an ex-partner who abuses alcohol, Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system can provide evidence that they aren't drinking during parenting time. The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. For more information and to get $50 off your device, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠soberlink.com/etc --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/divorceetc/message