giving (un)bothered

In this episode, we sit down with queer writer, artist, and pottery studio owner Megan Elliott-Hewson to dive into the beauty and complexity of queer marriage, building a life in creative partnership, and the unfiltered truth about writing queer fiction.👉 We talk:💍 The honest reality of queer marriage🖋️ Writing queer novels in a straight-centered industry🫖 Creating safe, soft spaces through queer pottery classes💬 Finding love, art, and community as a queer womanFind Megan Elliott-Hewson on: Instagram: @meganelliotthewsonClay wild studio Instagram: @claywildstudioFind us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships #queermarriage LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’re joined by Moe Ari Brown (they / him) —Hinge’s Love & Connection Expert and a licensed therapist—to dive deep into the complexities of queer dating in 2025.We talk about everything from label fatigue to performance pressure on dating apps, and what Hinge has learned about how LGBTQ+ people swipe, flirt, and connect differently than straight users.Moe shares insights on:How queer users are moving away from traditional identity labelsWhat it means to perform queerness on apps, often without realising itWhy the pressure to be “dateable” can lead to self-erasureWhat underrated green flags to look for in queer datingHow non-binary and gender-expansive users navigate a still-binary app cultureWe also ask Moe for practical advice on building a more authentic dating profile, understanding identity ambiguity, and flirting past stereotypes like “soft masc” and “femme top.”Read Hinge’s 2025 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E report (love beyonds labels): https://hinge.co/newsroom/2025-LGBTQ-ReportFind Moe Ari Brown on: Instagram: @loveoutproudTiktok: @loveoutproudFind us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, Hinge, hinge green flag, hinge red flag, label fatigue, identity pressure Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Being queer in your 20s means dating drama, messy breakups, and a few…questionable choices. This week, we play truth or drink and confess it all—from kinks to the ex we’re still not over.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, getting over your ex, WLW dating advice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk about it: why do anxious girlies keep falling for avoidant people?In this episode, we get personal about our own experiences dating avoidant partners while navigating anxious attachment. From spiraling over mixed signals to learning how to show up more securely, we’re unpacking what it really feels like to be in these dynamics — and how we’re slowly breaking the pattern.If you’ve ever felt clingy, overthought a text for hours, or kept giving chances to someone who couldn’t meet you emotionally — you’re not alone.🎧 Topics we touch on:anxious vs avoidant attachmentdating while anxiously attachedour personal journey toward becoming secureFind us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, attachment styles, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, secure attachment, dating avoidant, emotionally unavailable partner, how to become securely attached, attachment styles in relationships, emotionally unavailable, attachment style healing, why I chase people who don’t want me, why she’s distant in a relationship, why she pulls away Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're talking all things WLW sex in this weeks unfiltered episode!We answer YOUR most asked questions:- Is scissoring actually a thing?- How do WLW deal with long hair during sex?- What's a myth vs fact when it comes to lesbian intimacy?Plus, we dive into the serious gaps in sex education when it comes to queer relationships, and how growing up without proper info left many of us confused and googling things we shouldn’t have had to.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’re joined by queer model, actor, writer and artist Abisha for a candid and inspiring conversation. She opens up about being best friends with her ex-girlfriend—and how her current girlfriend has become part of the friendship too. We talk about meeting her girlfriend online during the pandemic, their bold U-Haul love story, and what it’s really like navigating relationships with openness and emotional maturity. Abisha also shares what inspired her to write an LGBTQ+ children’s book, the importance of representation in queer literature and she gets real about the challenges and lessons that come with dating someone in the public eye.Find Abisha on: Instagram: ⁠@abishaTiktok: ⁠@abishaofficialFind us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, best friends with ex, U-haul lesbian, online dating, queer singer-songwriter, queer artist UK, long-distance to live-in, sapphic relationships Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sapphic dating is a wild ride and we’ve made every mistake in the book. In this episode, we roast ourselves and unpack the biggest sapphic dating mistakes we’ve made so you don’t have to. From emotionally investing before even meeting IRL, to losing ourselves in situationships with women who never even knew our last names — we’ve been there, done that, and are finally learning our lessons.Listen for relatable queer dating confessions, spicy mistakes, and the growth we’ve finally found on the other side.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠#lgbt #lgbtqia #lesbianpodcast #wlw #lgbtpodcast #datingpodcast #relationships #datingandrelationships LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, queer dating mistakes, lesbian situationships Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’re getting into the messy, relatable realities of queer dating and identity from unpacking internalised homophobia to dealing with rejection in queer dating, we explore how to tell if you're genuinely into women or just curious. Plus: how the hell do you define the line between friendship and flirting between girls? 👀Whether you're newly out, questioning your sexuality, or deep in the sapphic trenches, this one’s for you.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, lesbian love signals, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic love, navigating rejection Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Breakups are hard—but sapphic breakups? They hit different. In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of ending a queer relationship. Whether you’re healing from your first lesbian breakup or navigating the messy end of a WLW situationship, we’ve got you. Expect raw advice, personal stories, and healing tips to help you move on (without texting her at 2AM).If you’ve ever Googled “how to get over a lesbian breakup” or “why do queer breakups hurt so much?”—this episode is for you.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We sit down with married queer couple Aaron and Ryan to talk about being kicked out of an Uber for being gay during Sydney Pride. We dive into the realities of LGBTQ+ discrimination, traveling while queer, and how to maintain healthy communication in relationships and marriages.From navigating homophobia while traveling to sharing tips on building strong partnerships, this episode is packed with personal stories, laughs, and important conversations about why Pride still matters in 2025. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally, this episode gives unfiltered insight into the challenges and joys of queer love and life.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all things dating — the good, the awkward, and the (un)bothered. From decoding body language and making eye contact to navigating first date etiquette (who gets there first?!), we’re covering it all.We talk about: - How to flirt like a pro- Who makes the first move — and why it doesn’t matter- How to communicate your intentions without freaking out- Why being your full self is the ultimate green flag- The art of NOT trauma dumping on the first date- How to avoid getting friend-zoned (unless that’s the vibe)- Ditching gender roles in queer relationshipsPlus, a Q&A with listener-submitted sapphic dating questions!Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we’re joined by the iconic Australian duo Aaron and Ryan with powerful, heartfelt, and hilarious stories to share. In Part 1 of this deep and chaotic two-part episode, we talk about:Their personal coming out storiesWhat it’s like growing up queer in AustraliaThe complicated relationship between religion and LGBTQ+ identityDealing with homophobia and finding chosen familyThe importance of queer representationFind us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this unfiltered episode, we're talking cheating, U-Hauling, and role-play - aka the chaotic trifecta of queer dating. Through “Would You Rather” questions and relatable scenarios, we unpack it all: What to do if your partner’s kissing style isn’t it? Thoughts on role-play and strap-ons. Is cheating always a dealbreaker? And yes… how fast is too fast to U-Haul? Whether you're deep in your situationship or just here for the tea, this episode is full of laughs, honesty, and queer chaos.Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we sit down with Zan Moon—women’s rights activist and founder of sapphic events in London. Zan takes us through her coming out story, from realising she was a lesbian in boarding school, to navigating a religious upbringing and internalised homophobia. She opens up about the challenges of finding queer community in London and why she started organising sapphic events to create safe spaces for the LGBTQ+ community. We also dive into her work as a women’s rights activist, including her role in helping British Transport Police campaigning for safer public spaces and tackling harassment. From the fight for queer visibility to advocating for safer public spaces, this episode is packed with insight, activism, and relatable LGBTQ+ experiences.Find Zan Moon on: Instagram: ⁠@zan_moon_Tiktok: ⁠@zan.moon⁠Lez Play Games tickets: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/lez-play-games-tickets-1302983060409?aff=oddtdtcreator Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we talk about how the male gaze shaped our fashion and behaviour to gain validation. Since coming out, we’ve stepped away from these influences, reclaiming our confidence and dressing for ourselves. We discuss how shedding the male gaze has allowed us to express our true identities authentically and embrace freedom in our style and behaviour. Find us on: Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Tiktok: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠Youtube: ⁠@givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.