honey talks podcast with katya nova (nurturingnovas)

In this episode I sit down with Rob’s new partner Nikki to discuss:  + is jealousy a part of our dynamic? + which one of us is the ‘third wheel’? + is Nikki the ‘homewrecker’? + the messy magic of our beautiful life + despacho ceremony we did on the Land + how Nikki & I both got out of long term relationships at the same time + Garden of Eden and falling in love with Rob + Nikki’s Ayahuasca experience   + how Nikki won the kids over + non conventional families in Costa Rica + Katya’s first experience with online dating + Akashic Records with Karla + what happened with A-man? + what’s happening with the Land?   CONFESSIONS OF A RECOVERING VEGAN  https://www.matriarch.love/confessions  IG: @nurturingnovas       @cosmic_conduit

In this episode: - what’s our life like in Costa Rica? - what happened with our ‘polyamory’ experiment - why we deleted the last 2 episodes of the podcast - ironic thing that happened in our relationship - what happened with my lover from 14 years ago? - did things ever get messy or ugly? - how an Ayahuasca ceremony changed everything - what happened at Garden of Eden - how Rob met the ‘second love of his life’ - is there such a thing as ‘right person wrong time?’ - epiphany on why our marriage ended - what veganism has to do with our relationship going stale - the ‘triangle’ with Nikki and why it works - honest reflections on polyamory - how clear boundaries are the key - sneak peek at what’s to come SAVE YOUR SEAT for "Confessions of a Recovering Vegan" https://www.matriarch.love/confessions Screenshot & tag us: @nurturingnovas

RECONNECTED PARENTING COURSE (affiliate link):  https://www.reconnectedbeing.life/a/22146/F2zrxfE6 get your free pass: MATRÎARCH.LOVE @nurturingnovas  @newearth.mama Discussed in the episode:  how reconnected parenting goes straight into triggers dealing with triggers in the online space Guru Jagat on being energetic beings & having authority to say no from full time ballet, to modeling, to spinning out of control in London anxiety as spiritual disconnection on hitting the wildest rock bottom longing for ritual and finding it in church “Many Lives, Many Masters” book we’re always given doors, are we going to trust we’re given guidance? what resistance to expansion means on plant medicine on Birth & trying to escape the pain miracles showing up when you can’t afford something magic of rebirthing breathwork the story of ‘first breath’ & what we spend our entire lives chasing working with air element on coming from our own childhood pain and projecting onto our children what is ours and what are we carrying? wow children organically process & why we don’t do that as adults why Emma doesn’t share challenging moments with her kids on social media on being adaptable and fluid rather than in control on moving through poverty consciousness Lacy Phillips: unlocking subconscious beliefs Chrissie’s Manifestrix Course on witnessing our ancestral line? non-linear movement: breath work for the body Liz Koch “Wild Psoas” Peter Levine “Body Keeps the Score” on sensuality, pleasure, being touched out Michaela Boehm Aimee Ripsnorter intimacy of receiving

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Did Katya have the ‘orgasmic’ birth she wanted? Find out as Katya and her dear friend Emilee of Free Birth Society take a deep dive into the beautiful birth story of Aluna Maria, Katya & Rob’s third child. Don’t forget to check out the link in @nurturingnovas instagram bio to see their unique 3-minute birth film. SEE 3-MIN BIRTH FILM: https://fknhoney.ck.page/fccafd0f17 HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM @freebirthsociety @nurturingnovas

We’re about to learn how our understanding of human sexuality has suffered due to a couple of centuries of bad science, why ‘promiscuity’ has no scientific merit, what bonobos have to do with our sex lives and who struggles more with monogamy? (The answer may surprise you) … We’ll also find out … are women really less sexual? are females wired for monogamy? what is the orgasm gap? And the sexual entitlement gap? And how do we get into Skirt Club? and more. Our PATREON https://www.patreon.com/honeytalks FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ @FKNHONEY  https://www.instagram.com/fknhoney/ HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM https://www.honeytalkspodcast.com/ Follow Dr. Wednesday Martin: @wednesdaymartinphd True Sex & Wild Love Podcast discussed in this episode: - a couple of centuries of “bad science” - are women less sexual? - are females wired for monogamy? - Dr. Martin’s biggest realization (we desensitize to stimuli over time) - who struggles more with monogamy? (The answer may surprise you) - what do bonobos have to do with human female sexuality? - a hope for matriarchy - why ‘promiscuity’ has no scientific merit - the remarkable clitoris - what is the orgasm gap? - sexual entitlement gap? - CNM … consensual non monogamy - what is Skirt Club? - why sexual fluidity was my biggest takeaway - surprising truth about sexual fluidity in men     - Jane Goodall, Sarah Hrdy book “Mother Nature”, Dr. Amy Parish - True Sex Wild Love - Whitney Miller - Sex at Dawn - David Lay - Open Love NY  - Cari Jenkins book - Lisa Diamond - Elizabeth Gilbert “City of Girls” - “Sexual Life of Catherine M” - Dr. Martin’s book “The Button” - column for Refinery … Samson bullet? - Cindy Gallo - Erika Lust

Lacey & Flynn introduce us to SEX ELEVATED, and share how they are able to have unusually amazing sex, tell us the ONE thing we all need to put on the shelf next to the bed, how to use sex as a tool / practice, how sex is like yoga, why we resist & make excuses, what the heck ‘simple sex’ is, how to use sex to manifest things, and how to generally bump up the saturation on your life! We love them so. You will too. Support us on PATREON https://www.patreon.com/honeytalks FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ @FKNHONEY  https://www.instagram.com/fknhoney/ SEX ELEVATED 6-WEEK ONLINE COURSE: https://www.laceyhaynes.com/sex-elevated  USE CODE: HONEYTALKS10 for 10% off Discussed in the episode: - how to have unusually amazing sex - the one thing we all need to put on the shelf next to the bed - intimacy for couples with kids - a simple way to learn each other’s bodies - sex as a tool or practice - how sex is like yoga - why do we resist & make excuses - how to use sex to manifest things! - ‘moistness’ as a way of being - on dominance in bed - what is simple sex? - how to bring your partner on board - how to bump the saturation on your life   @verylacey https://www.instagram.com/verylacey/

Our PATREON https://www.patreon.com/honeytalks FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ @FKNHONEY  https://www.instagram.com/fknhoney/ HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM https://www.honeytalkspodcast.com/ Trystan's (@biffandi) story went viral as he became known as the man who gave birth - but his story is so much more than that. In this episode, he shares: how he fell in love with Biff, how to keep the spark alive with 3 kids, how to use gender neutral pronouns correctly, what it’s like to tear at the fabric of sexism & ignorance, his favourite advice from our favourite relationship therapist Esther Perel; we also talk about harassment, mommy wars & judgement, misinformation around trans fertility, and the ONE thing that can change the quality of life of a trans person. @biffandi instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biffandi/ website: https://www.biffandi.com/   Discussed in this episode:   - tearing at the fabric of sexism - on falling in love - on harassment, mommy wars & judgement - the ONE thing that can change the quality of life of a trans person - misinformation around trans fertility - using gender neutral pronouns correctly - how to keep the spark alive with 3 kids - favourite advice from Esther Perl - how to name your desires

I’m 40 weeks pregnant with our 3rd baby, Aluna, and I have the incredible honour of sitting down with Emilee & Yolande of Free Birth Society.  The truth, as we’re about to find out, is that women’s bodies are brilliantly made, our babies are wise, birth is inherently safe, and, in Yolande’s words, birth is not a laborious trial from which we need deliverance, but a glorious, normal, biologically & psychologically important initiation into motherhood. Our PATREON https://www.patreon.com/honeytalks FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ FREEBIRTH COURSE https://freebirthsociety.thinkific.com/ ($50 off coupon here) SOVEREIGN BIRTH MEDITATION SERIES https://freebirthsociety.thinkific.com/courses/the-sovereign-birth-series Yolande’s podcast BAUHAUSWIFE   ON INSTAGRAM: @freebirthsociety @bauhauswife @honeytalks   Discussed in this episode: - interventions you might not have considered - what is mammalian / spontaneous / physiological / “free” birth? - why protecting the hormonal blueprint is so important? - cultural myths we’ve absorbed - why birthing in power stories are important - Yolande’s birth story teaser - pain and ecstasy in birth - what about fear? - why we birth the way we live     Mentioned in this episode: - Sarah Buckley - Michel Odent - Sovereign Birth - Yolande’s book: “Wild Pregnancy, Free Birth: A Guide to Manifesting Your Ecstatic Homebirth” (out early 2020)

Amber experienced her first spiritual awakening at 7 when her mother died. She shares how her childhood lessons shaped her relationship to pain and to Spirit. Also, how (without even intending to do so), she inspired thousands of women to find power and pleasure in birth with her appearance in two documentaries. Now a mama to two boys, ages 14 and 9, she shares conscious parenting secrets to empower us all. connect with Amber: http://www.amberhartnell.com/ IG @amberalchemy our PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/honeytalks FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ @FKNHONEY  *** Discussed in the episode:   - Amber’s spiritual awakening at 7 when her mother died - learning to transcend pain as a child - what is spiral & continual expansion during birth - how to cultivate capacity to be with strong sensation - ecstatic vs orgasmic - how to build a birth field - how to create a meaningful ritual with children - raising boys to be sensually aware men - Amber’s “Embodied Resonance” attunement sessions   Mentioned in the episode:   - “Birth as We Know it” documentary - “Orgasmic Birth” documentary - Birthing from Within book

Emilee of Freebirth Society helps Katya unpack some of the reasons for having a completely Wild Pregnancy. They discuss what it means to be a Wild Woman, share menarche stories, and laugh over stories of moon time sex, breastmilk lattes, and Emilee’s #1 tip for having an orgasmic birth. https://www.freebirthsociety.com/ @freebirthsociety https://fknhoney.com/ @fknhoney FEB 3-10 2020 WOMEN'S RETREAT DOMINICAN REPUBLIC https://www.motherlovinretreat.com/ *** discussed in this episode:  - how to take up your wildness - our menarche stories - walking through rites of passage - sex during moon time - breastmilk lattes - my wild pregnancy - visions of Taino ancestors - how to call on your guides - orgasmic birth - podcast episode Witchy Wellness #24

Season 3 opens with an intimate, brutally honest wife-husband conversation about navigating this 3rd pregnancy with two small kids, our sex life, porn confessions, our vasectomy conflict, how we’re preparing for the arrival of this baby, and how we’re hoping to face the challenges of a pretty sad sex life.   Books mentioned in the episode:   "Sex at Dawn" by Cacilda Jetha & Christopher Ryan "Untrue" by Wednesday Martin "The Truth" by Neil Strauss   FKNHONEY.COM HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM

Never in a million years did I think I’d be talking to a male OBGYN about Burning Man, empowerment, patriarchy, and the spiritual side of birth and death?!  For obvious reasons, I’m extra primed to talk about birth right now, but even if pregnancy and birth are not on your radar, I encourage you to stick around, because these conversations are so important and interesting and contraversial and entertaining! FKNHONEY.COM https://fknhoney.com/ @FKNHONEY  https://www.instagram.com/fknhoney/ HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM https://www.honeytalkspodcast.com/ Discussed in the Episode: - what funny shoes have to do with heavy things - on witnessing birth and witnessing death - Nathan’s experiences with hospice & palliative care - why we’re the only species who doubt our ability to give birth - obgyn residency: so what do you expect? - why empowerment is key - what is birthing in captivity - Nathan’s story of witnessing a home birth - what it’s like to be an OBGYN’s wife - why birth control is the most patriarchal, destructive ‘tool’ - on loving Burning Man   Mentioned in the Episode: - “Why We Don’t Move on from Grief” TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it - Michel Oden - Holotropic Breathwork - Freebirth Society podcast - Nathan on Indie Birth podcast CONNECT WITH NATHAN ON IG:  https://www.instagram.com/beyondthemd/ https://www.nathanrileymd.com/

This punk rock feminist, Angela Gallo, is a visionary, a poet, and a trailblazer who creates spaces where womxn can step into their fullest power. She is a fierce motivational speaker who trains extraordinary Doulas and she’s not shy about her mission to change the world. Find out how to live from pleasure, how to say yes even when you’re uncomfortable, how to become the most epic, non-fragmented version of yourself, and so much more.   Discussed in episode:   - how can we be the ‘non-fragmented’ woman? - the whole fkn package or nothing at all - living from pleasure - why pleasure (and self-pleasure) is so important - using a crystal wand! - the Vortex project & being seen - saying yes when you’re uncomfortable - why pregnancy can be the most creative, transformative time of your life - the magic of when bodies come together - how orgasm relates to thriving, not surviving - why we will never find freedom on a conveyor belt - on healing the Mother Wound - being called to do deep soul work - on bodily autonomy - sensual birth   Books Presale “the masks we wear: the obliteration of martyrdom, misogyny and motherhood as you know it” https://angelagallo.com/read-my-books/ Upcoming Events https://angelagallo.com/see-me-speak/ Radical Resurgence Bali Retreat https://angelagallo.com/radical-resurgence-rebirth/ Dynamo Doula Online Training Program https://angelagallo.com/dynamo-doula-training/   Instagram @the_angela_gallo Facebook @TheAngelaGallo *** FKNHONEY.COM @FKNHONEY HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM

Are you an Empowered Lover? Gem take-aways: asking for what you want instead of complaining, how and why we need to rewire our nervous system together with our partner, how to fire up desire, how our cyclical nature affects sexual chemistry, the one thing that often at the heart of intense conflicts … and especially for the women listening, please stay till the end, as Achintya closes with some really powerful wisdom that might be a bit shocking for some of you, but is really, really worth hearing! EMPOWERED LOVING COUPLES COURSE (starts May 9 2019, check website for additional dates):  https://shemsheartwell.com/empoweredlovingcourse/ 10% off use code: HONEY10 *** HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS with Katya & Lacey FKNHONEY.COM *** Discussed in this episode:   - are you sure you know how to receive? - instead of complaining - ask for what you want - the one thing that’s often at the heart of intense conflicts - how & why we need to rewire our nervous system together with our partners - how to fire up desire - how sexual cycles affect sexual chemistry - why does our sexual energy decrease? - who is a priestess? - why we don’t even need to try - how to reclaim our power through our womb blood   Mentioned in this episode:   -  Empowered Loving Couples Course (begins may 9 2019) https://shemsheartwell.com/empoweredlovingcourse/ - Goddess Rising Mystery School https://www.goddessrising.org/ - Hendricks Institute https://hendricks.com/   Achintya Devi @goddess_rising https://www.instagram.com/goddess_rising/ Seems Heartwell @shemsheart https://www.instagram.com/shemsheart/    

Liz Koch is an international educator, author with almost 45 years of experience specializing in the primal psoas. Among her most celebrated books are Mother, Maiden, Crone: Our Pleasure Playlist and her latest book Stalking Wild Psoas: Embodying Your Core Intelligence. Precious wisdom about full body orgasms, why there are no ‘spinal column,’ ‘vaginal wall,’ or ‘pelvic floor;’ the magic of constructive rest, why you can’t poke the caterpillar, why and how to get our tail and tongue to ‘talk to each other,’ how to hydrate our connective tissue to stay lush and orgasmic, a special message for pregnant women, and our men. And so. much. more. $25 off Liz Koch's course (mention Honey Talks): https://coreawareness.com/events/remote-psoas-course-summer-2019/   Discussed in this episode:   - what core integrity has to do with sexual expression, full body orgasm (and relating to all life) - what & where is our psoas? - landing in our bones to connect to Mother Earth - juicy core of our being, about showing up as “you” - on having a full body orgasm - on orgasmic communion with yourself / your partner - altered states in birth? - why you can’t poke the caterpillar - how to hydrate the psoas (and why it’s so important) - how and why we should be hydrating our connective tissue - why there are no ‘spinal column,’ ‘vaginal wall,’ or ‘pelvic floor’ - getting our tail and tongue to ‘talk to each other’ - what is a ‘frigid’ woman? - what is kinaesthetic awareness? - on helping our children trust themselves - body as object vs body as expression - the magic of constructive rest - what is the fetal curl? - why we have to become resilient, not ‘strong’ - message to pregnant women! - how to stay orgasmic and lush into your seventies - how women show stress differently than men - what are men seeking in sexual union? - the psoas in men   Mentioned in this episode:   - “Women Who Run With the Wolves” - Ana Verwaal: Womb to World http://www.fromwombtoworld.com/ - Emily Conrad: Continuum - video: “Hydrating Movements for Spinal Midline and Psoas - Using a Deflated Ball   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_hBN01iEBU - Deric Stockton: Fluid Movement   HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS with Katya & Lacey FKNHONEY.COM   connect with Liz:  https://coreawareness.com/  

Soshy was born into a world where from the age of 3 she was to be covered from the neck down. The first time she broke the rules she was in her teens, by buying a pair of blue jeans and listening to non-Jewish music. Disowned by her mother at 17, Soshy went through some seriously dark times, struggling with diets, binge eating, body image issues, depression, and low self-esteem. We become fast friends, as we bare our souls about it all: confessions of secret binging behaviours in our youth, sex after motherhood, food and pleasure, what to do when we’re feeling gross, intuitive eating, loving yourself at every size, and how diet culture is effing us up, causing us to feel like we are never good enough!   CONNECT WITH SOSHY: @bodyposimommy https://www.embodynutrition.com/   Discussed in the episode:   - growing up in Hasidic Jewish Brooklyn … getting molested at 15, disowned & homeless at 17 - first time binge-eating … and no language for what was happening - trying the first diet - intuitive eating & love yourself at every size - diet & identity - Katya’s personal story of eating disorder - ‘disordered eating’ vs. eating disorder - why willpower doesn’t work? - how sugar can be medicinal - food and pleasure - healing through sensual, mindful, sacred, ancestral Ayurvedic practices - Hershey’s chocolate ritual - if you’ve wanted to start growing food - praying with food - what to do when you’re feeling gross - why we need to expand the definition of sex - sex after motherhood - how to look in the mirror -   Mentioned in the episode:   - Mark David, Psychology of Eating - Sapiens - Sex at Dawn - Miranda & cake in “Sex and the City” scene - Maya Tiwari “Path of Practice” - Odesza “Across The Room” Yung Heat Rendition     HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS with Katya & Lacey FKNHONEY.COM

She grew up in the Canadian Rockies and spent a decade teaching yoga, tantra, and dance. Blaire is now a coach and educator specializing in embodiment, sensuality, and women's sexual health. She is living in dreamy Playa del Carmen, Mexico with her husband. GIFT FROM BLAIRE: The Pleasure Path Online Course ($500 value)    HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS  FKNHONEY.COM   Discussed in this episode: - what is somatic experiencing? - where to start with our trauma - yoga & sexuality - tantric school in India & living on a tantric island - why knowing yourself spiritually and sexually are equally important - how brokenness can be powerful motivation - what sexual energy can create - when your life force is freed up - the most important practice to start with - how to tell our partner what we want / like - two main types of orgasms to understand - what’s “edging”? - self-pleasure or self-care - what affects our lubrication - unshaming pleasure - you can’t shame away shame - feminine rising on the planet   Mentioned in this episode: - Peter Levine - Agama Yoga, Rishikesh - Language of Sensation - “9 1/2 weeks” fridge scene :)  - Blaire's Spotify playlist CONNECT WITH BLAIRE:  WEBSITE: https://blaire-lindsay.com/ IG: @blairelindsay

Sophie Jaffe is a Los Angeles-based health and wellness expert, a certified raw food chef and yoga teacher. She’s also a mom of 3 and a brilliant entrepreneur who started the superfood brand Philosophie … but we actually didn’t talk about any of that. Sophie’s marriage has been a rollercoaster, taking her and her beloved husband Adi on quite a ride. They co-host their own podcast, IGNTD, where they openly talk about how their marriage almost didn’t survive Adi’s cheating and sex addiction … but after 15 years, their love is as strong as ever. Sophie opens up about their MDMA healing sessions, which are like 6 months of therapy in just one night; she tells us about the one thing that actually saved their marriage, how they spice it up and keep the fire burning even after 3 kids, and so much more. 10% off all Philosophie superfoods with the code "PhilosophieLove" connect with Sophie @sophie.jaffe   Discussed in this episode: - postpartum: sweet and slow, 3rd time's the charm - intimacy after 3 kids - when he doesn’t notice my naked body after 15 years together - how to connect when you work together and “don’t have time” in day to day life - MDMA couples therapy: 6 months of therapy in one night - how to have an intentional experience - what it’s like to be married to a sex addict - what actually heals relationships: on radical transparency - rule around sexuality with other people - how to allow new experiences without hurting the relationship - "same room at the same time" - how to spice it up: letting someone else in? - journey with veganism & getting away from moralization of food - how to stand up, say what you need, and make your own rules     Mentioned in the Episode: - IGNTD podcast - The Abstinence Myth by Dr. Adi Jaffe   HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS with Katya & Lacey FKNHONEY.COM

GOLD breakthroughs. So many couples are suffering - couples who love each other deeply, but intimacy is bleh. Lacklustre. We live in a culture obsessed with sex, but most of us are not sexually satisfied, not truly fulfilled and fed. We place impossible expectations on our partners and harbour resentment and hurt. We have no language to ask for what we want, and we place our erotic desires at the bottom of our priority list, somewhere below work, parenting, and laundry. BUT THERE'S HOPE! Here's what happened at a private workshop with two Sex and Relationship therapists.  HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM FREE MASTERCLASS with Lacey & Katya FKNHONEY.COM   Discussed in this episode:   - what it’s like to get a lingam massage - Daoist ancient massage practices - deep dive: couples intimacy, touch techniques, sensation play - our biggest breakthroughs - why slowing down and continuous touch are the key - learning yoni massage - what is trigger talk? - do we touch the way we want to be touched? - why we should colour-code sensual play - bloopers   CONNECT WITH KAMILA: Luminesceorganicspa@gmail.com