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Want to know how to close the orgasm gap? Riding your hormonal rollercoaster blindfolded? Can’t find contraception that works for you? You’re not the only one. Ladies, We Need To Talk is a show for women, by women, and dives head first into the tricky and taboo topics we often avoid talking about. Join host Yumi Stynes as she tears open the sealed section on life. Or contact us at ladies@your.abc.net.au
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Women are still expected to be primary caregivers — but what happens when they choose to walk away from this role? In season one we heard from women who "broke the motherhood contract". They were no longer living with their kids and felt society judged them harshly for it. We check back in to see how those women are going now.
At a certain point in life, making friends gets trickier and feels super awkward. Many of us want and need new friends though — so how do you do it? At a live recording of Ladies, We Need To Talk, Yumi Stynes and a panel of amazing women chat about why having good friends is so important and give advice for making new ones.
The patriarchy of poo

The patriarchy of poo

2019-08-1200:29:475

Do you feel embarrassed if you have to poo in public? You're not alone. Whether it's poo, farts, discharge or sweat — women are constantly self-conscious about our odour because it's considered 'unladylike' to smell. But if everyone on the planet needs to poo to survive, why do we have such poo shame? And if poo is on top of the list of things we feel awkward talking about, how do we know when something's going wrong with our bowels? So, Ladies, let's talk about poo.
How do you tell a mate your friendship isn't working? Or a partner you can't stand the way they kiss? Hard conversations are tough to have but sometimes necessary. Psychotherapist Esther Perel is the world's best known couples counsellor and she gives Yumi a lesson on how to navigate difficult conversations.
We're totally spoilt for choice when it comes to birth control. There are 12 different types of contraception to choose from and about 30 different brands of the pill. Having all these options is awesome, but how do you know you've chosen the right one for you?
In season one, we looked at why so many Australian women drink at risky levels. Yumi Stynes revealed her battle with drinking and quit alcohol. We also met Jo, who drank at really risky levels. This episode, we check back in, to see how they're going, plus show you how to cut down your drinking if you'd like to sub the wine for kombucha.
Footloose and childfree

Footloose and childfree

2019-06-1700:29:247

Grow up, find a partner, have kids — we’ve been doing it for thousands of years. But more and more women are choosing to ignore that path. And the latest research says they’re actually happier for it. So why do we judge women without kids?
Have you ever felt like a massive failure when you've looked in the mirror or felt depressed about the size of your thighs? You're not alone — research says almost 80 per cent of Australian women are unhappy with their weight. And nearly one million Australians have an eating disorder, most of them, women. What can we do to feel better about our bodies?
Lots of women are really self-conscious about the way their vaginas smell. We quickly hide our undies the second we take them off and up to a third of us wear a panty liner every day. But how much do you actually know about discharge? What should it smell like? What should it look like? And should we just stop dissing our discharge?
If you’re in your 30s and have had an abortion or are going to, you’re not going through it alone. It’s a myth that only the young and reckless have abortions. The stats show that older women, and those who already have kids, are having more abortions in Australia than teenagers. So if they’re the facts, why is abortion shrouded in shame, judgement and silence for older women?
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Nicole Ezzy

Thankyou I love this podcast so much

Sep 11th
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Lis Stanger

Great podcast

Sep 10th
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Amy

such a brilliant, eye-opening, helpful and practical ep! thank you !

Jul 30th
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Oz Ahmed

So helpful.

Jun 10th
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BaBee01

lol, Thankyou ladies! Yeah what is this white shitbin my grundies? ive had my man accuse me of cheating when hes seen my black dirty grotty grundies! if we all blooody get it, why the heck is it sooooo taboo? cant we make it a top trending hashtag with pics?

May 31st
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Amedee

your loved ones look upon with bewilderment and betrayal. Nothing can prepare you for the havoc it wreaks and the fall out that your life becomes before you discover what is wrong, and once you do, how little control you gain by discovery. The thing is that even though I know that hormones are the cause, it does nothing to alter the reality that a third of my life is spent on the brink, in retreat from social interaction, in depression, exhausted by hopelessness and vivid suicide ideation while the other two thirds are spent scrambling to contain the wreckage while well enough to function and building excess for Hyde to tear apart. My period has become the most precious thing in life it frees my consciousness from its prison, from days passed in agony, aware and observant but unheeded and paralyzed. On behalf of all the women who have undoubtedly, from time immemorial, experienced and still experiencing some version of my life, I want to explain that dismissive attitudes do us all such a disservice. The label of PMS is both infantilizing (because it causes irrational feelings, we are irrational for experiencing them) dismissive (because your feelings arise from an irrational place, we have no entitlement to feel them). The end result is a perception that it is a personal failing if a woman succumbs to the feelings that she knows are irrational and unfounded and if a woman fails to control her response to those feelings, it is appropriate to shame her, as though she has lost control through carelessness, when she never had agency over her feelings and body at all..

Mar 28th
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Amedee

Thank you so much for this. I am a woman who knows that pmdd is no joke, it is life shattering and if dismissed or misunderstood, possibly life ending. Nothing can prepare you for sudden adult onset that transforms you from Jekyll to Hyde, unrecognizable, usurped by a body snatching doppelganger who i

Mar 28th
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James Black

I have found women to have no skill with giving pleasure also ..as a man you have to take responsibility for your own pleasure..or you don't get what you need ...time for women to upgrade skills at giving pleasure ...that will help

Mar 26th
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Lee Lee Wilson

love love this stressful job getting recognised and exposed. I played this to my partner and saw the penny drop.... as he dropped me to work he said 'make sure you ring our Mason (our son) and remind him to take his key to school. l said back 'its me that needs to that is it?' and shut the car door and walked into work.....

Mar 15th
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Wanjuhi Njiiri

Interesting to learn... at 50 it evens out!

Feb 25th
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Fiona Whitehead

Thank you so much for 'The pelvic flaw in all of us '. I didn't know so much! After listening I saw a pelvic physio. I didn't even know they existed. Discovered a minor prolapse (who knew heavy lifting with a weak pelvic floor could cause issues!), and have now had corrective surgery! I can cough and sneeze without stress! Thank you.

Jan 3rd
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Julia Eva

More please! This podcast is SO important. Thank you for the fantastic episode.

Aug 28th
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Julia Eva

Such an important podcast. Always great to listen!

Aug 27th
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Ashlee McElligott

I love this podcast so much! I love how it brings taboo topics to life and challenges cultural, political, human and gender issues.

Aug 2nd
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Olivia Preston

Omg Jennifer it is FATE / DESTINY that I happened upon your comment and the details of your life mirrored in mine. I’m only just starting today to pull myself out of the black hole. We have basically lived the same existence in so many ways. I’m trying to escape DV atm. Please contact me! I’m in Sydney, Australia but we can talk anytime thanks to the wonderful internet. My name is Olivia Preston. On Snapchat I am TheoliviaP83 (not that I really use it!) lol on most social media I am under TheOliviaPreston xxxxx

Jul 10th
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Sharleen James

definitely appreciate a podcast for women about being single! its nice to hear about the marriage and kid stuff so I can relate to friends but this one was definitely relatable for me! only downside i find of being single, when I want take out pizza and garlic bread but only for one meal, when will they make single serving sizes??

Jun 12th
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linda ho

yaaas! #careersingleperson

Jun 7th
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Jennifer Grace Hebel

thanks for this episode. (the contract of motherhood). you're absolutely right-this is one of the biggest conversation taboos. after having my second, I found myself in an extremely dark postpartum depression, it was actually postpartum psychosis, which, my awful self esteem got the best of n me and I started hallucinating about my partner cheating. I honestly thought he was gaslighting me (I'm still not 100percent, that's how real it was). I hated myself and the fat old woman I had become, and I had just finally lost the baby weight from the first. when I got pregnant, I gave up my very much loved alternative lifestyle completely (I worked as a high class call girl which I loved probably more than I care to admit) and settled down with her father, who I'd only just started dating. the pregnancy was unplanned and I have struggled with a lot of resentment, as well as fear, as my older daughter lives, and has lived for all but the first year of her life, with my parents across the country (they're in Michigan and I'm in California and I only see her once a year at most). whenever I tell people she isn't with me, the judgement I get is horrible. when my parents took custody, I was amazed....after the incredibly painful grieving period, I felt this sense of relief, where a huge weight was lifted and I was given a second chance to go back to my lifestyle (I will not work as a c all l girl when I have my girls....I don't want to bring that risk down upon them and I don't want them facing any stigma because of my decisions. WOW, and after rambling for way too long and not really having a point, I will stop. but, just saying that those ladies aren't alone in their regret. I love my girls , and now that the first year is over with my little one, I'm beginning to adjust to being Mom again. but it was not easy

May 15th
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Olivia Preston

Jennifer Grace Hebel Sent b4 finishing. I’m in Australia - but please contact me. I’ll try and find you elsewhere on social media. I got this gate/destiny feeling when I just randomly decided to click on this podcast and read the comments! Please contact me! I’m trying to escape a violent gaslighting partner atm! It’s hell. Only TODAY did I make my first step towards chsnge by enrolling into community college/TAFE to finish my hair/nail/beauty/dermal science courses. I haven’t stepped foot out of the house since regaining all this weight- I used to be HOT ! (And same industry).... I feel like a monster when I go to put my cute size small clothes on now and I can get them on or fastened... mostly just ON fullstop... that’s AFTER leaving him- losing ALL the weight returning to the industry and then going back to him and returning to comfort eating and in less than a year stacking on 30 kilos or just under. I hate myself. But am planning on leaving in next two weeks. My daughter is 15 (I’m 34) and she too lives 1200km away with my mother - evil narcissistic bitch she is too (my ‘mother’).... my daughter plans on coming to live with me again when she’s 16 so that’s why I’m starting to get my shit and self esteem together! I wish I could hug you and we could talk! I wish you lived here! I have NO ONE to talk to! All my friends have been cut off!

Jul 10th
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Olivia Preston

Jennifer Grace Hebel Sent b4 finishing. I’m in Australia - but please contact me. I’ll try and find you elsewhere on social media. I got this gate/destiny feeling when I just randomly decided to click on this podcast and read the comments! Please contact me! I’m trying to escape a violent gaslighting partner atm! It’s hell. Only TODAY did I make my first step towards chsnge by enrolling into community college/TAFE to finish my hair/nail/beauty/dermal science courses. I haven’t stepped foot out of the house since regaining all this weight- I used to be HOT ! (And same industry).... I feel like a monster when I go to put my cute size small clothes on now and I can get them on or fastened... mostly just ON fullstop... that’s AFTER leaving him- losing ALL the weight returning to the industry and then going back to him and returning to comfort eating and in less than a year stacking on 30 kilos or just under. I hate myself. But am planning on leaving in next two weeks. My daughter is 15 (I’m 34) and she too lives 1200km away with my mother - evil narcissistic bitch she is too (my ‘mother’).... my daughter plans on coming to live with me again when she’s 16 so that’s why I’m starting to get my shit and self esteem together! I wish I could hug you and we could talk! I wish you lived here! I have NO ONE to talk to! All my friends have been cut off!

Jul 10th
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KateSos75

Great content on "12 week rule". under discussed topic, but much needed!

May 11th
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Sakunthala Sambanthan

truly enjoyed breaking the motherhood contract

Apr 27th
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