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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
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In today’s episode, we cover vulnerability and curiosity with Guy Raz. Guy is a host and correspondent who has interviewed more than 6,000 people, is the co-creator of How I Built This and the TED Radio Hour, and is now the author of How I Built This: The Unexpected Paths to Success from the World’s Most Inspiring Entrepreneurs.   Expressing vulnerability and genuine curiosity can lead to fantastic conversations, so what does it mean to be vulnerable in a conversation, how can you inspire others to open up more, and how do you choose to be more curious?   What to Listen For How did Guy Raz get his start as a podcast host? What can you do to inspire people to open up more in conversation? What can you do if you are struggling with depression and you’re not sure where to turn? Why are more and more people contending with depression and anxiety today and what can we do about it? What is the secret to happiness and why is it simpler than many of us think? How can you change the way you view risk so it doesn’t stand in your way to happiness and success? What mindsets allow you to face down adversity when you would normally give up and walk away? How can we help build resilience in children? What tips can you use to build a network that will help you find fulfillment and success? What can you do to recapture the curiosity so many of us let go of as we become adults?   A nurtured sense of curiosity is one of the most important traits you can have when it comes to engaging people in interesting conversations. A  conversation is a two way street - if someone expresses a thought or feeling, curiosity about her, or her thought or feeling, is what allows you to follow up with genuine interest in what she has to say by relating to your own experience and/or asking her follow up questions that let her know what she has to say is important.   A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Resources from this Episode Guy Raz’s website How I Built This by Guy Raz How I Built This - a podcast hosted by Guy Raz   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover how to think for yourself with Dr. Vikram Mansharamani. Dr. Vikram is a global trend-watcher who shows people how to anticipate the future, manage risk, and spot opportunities, and is the author of Think For Yourself: Restoring Common Sense in an Age of Experts and Artificial Intelligence. We’re often told to think for ourselves, but how do you separate your thoughts from the bombardment of information we receive from our devices and the people around us and what can we do to think critically about the ideas and opinions we read and hear every day?   What to Listen For What can you do to identify the influences in your life and keep them in check so you’re not constantly pushed in many different directions? How do you determine what decisions in your life are worth worrying about? What can you do to stop wasting so much time on the tougher decisions in your life so you can keep moving forward? What can you do to confuse the algorithms to help give you more unbiased information? What checks can you implement in your life to prevent blind dependence on technology? How do we decide when rules should be followed or broken? What questions can you ask to remove underlying biases for rules, recommendations, or prescriptions? What are the four types of decisions we make and how should we approach each one? What is the Cynefin framework and how can it help you in complex decision making? What is the value in being a generalist vs an expert, and how do we balance the two in our own lives? What can you do to sort through the misinformation to find the truth?   Being able to think for yourself is an increasingly important skill as we continue drowning in ideas and opinions from the people around us and screens in front of us.    A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Resources from this Episode Think For Yourself by Vikram Mansharamani Vikram Mansharamani’s website The Cynefin framework Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover getting unstuck from your busy mind with Dr. Jessica Borushok. Jessica is an award winning author and recognized expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy who has helped hundreds transform their relationship with their thoughts and optimize their world.   Busy minds keep many of us up late at night needlessly worrying, so what can we do to calm our minds so we can be more present and more productive and what does science say about why our minds race?   What to Listen For What does science say about why our minds race when we’re bored? What are the two ways we use social media and which one is detrimental to your mental and emotional well being? Has technology made our minds busier, and if so, how do we deal with it? Is an affinity for worrying a result of nature or nurture? What question can you ask yourself to figure out if you’re worrying to solve problems or just worrying because you can’t quiet your mind? What can you do to calm your mind when it’s racing? What is the best way to connect with other people? How can you know how to be authentic if you don’t know who your authentic self is? What questions can you ask yourself to decide if your present actions are helping or hurting you?   Our minds are great at manufacturing an endless stream of thoughts, but most of our thoughts are not worth our valuable attention, otherwise we would never get anything done. We also can’t just shut our minds off because it’s the mind’s job to never stop thinking, so what can you do if you feel you are constantly overwhelmed with what is going on between your ears? Most importantly, remember that you are not your thoughts - you are the observer of your thoughts. Your mind is like a roommate you can never kick out, so it’s crucial that you build a healthy relationship with it rather than trying to fight it.   A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.   Resources from this Episode The Busy Mind Psychologist - Dr. Jessica’s website Dr. Jessica on Instagram Busy Mind Reboot: 30 Days to Your Best Self   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover imposter syndrome with Dr. Jill Stoddard. Dr. Stoddard is a psychologist, author of Be Mighty, speaker, co-host of the podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, entrepreneur, and women’s advocate.    Imposter syndrome is a fact of life for anyone who is trying to push themselves and it can lead to extreme self-sabotage if left unchecked, so what can you do to overcome it, what does the science say about the topic, and how do you talk to people about it in order to move past it?   What to Listen For What is imposter syndrome and what can you do to overcome it so you don’t sabotage your own success? Where does the research suggest that imposter syndrome comes from? Why do we struggle to internalize success and what can you do to change that so you don’t feel insecure about the work you do? What are the 5 subtypes of imposters and how can knowing yours help eliminate your insecurities? What can you do to overcome the fear or concern around asking for help? What can we do to counteract feelings of imposter syndrome and move forward from them? Why is understanding your values important to overcoming your imposter syndrome and what can you do to figure out what your values are? How do you deal with imposter syndrome if you’re constantly around people who don’t respond positively to you opening up and being vulnerable? Why is it easier to connect with people who are open and honest about their flaws?   Imposter syndrome will always be a part of our lives if we are focused on improving ourselves, so while we cannot eliminate it, we can find ways to reframe it and minimize its impact on our daily lives.    A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Resources from this Episode Dr. Jill Stoddard’s website Be Mighty - by Dr. Jill Stoddard Psychologists Off the Clock - co hosted by Dr. Jill Stoddard The 5 Subtypes of Imposters by Dr. Valerie Young What are Your Core Values?   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover how to focus on what matters most with Dr. Steven Hayes. Steven C. Hayes is a professor and author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, his career has focused on an analysis of the nature of human language and cognition and the application of this to the understanding and alleviation of human suffering.   It’s easy to let your life get derailed when you don’t have a solid understanding of what matters to you, but what can you do to determine your guiding values and how can you differentiate between the important thoughts you have and those that just distract you?   What to Listen For What are the 6 processes can you implement to lead a more intentional life you find fulfilling? Why is the pursuit of good feelings and avoidance of bad feelings detrimental to the human experience? Why is it important to learn how to feel, and how do you learn how to appreciate “bad” feelings? What exercise can you do before seeing someone to put yourself in a great mood? How do you differentiate between thoughts that define you and thoughts that you’re experiencing, so you don’t have to feel like crap just because you’re thinking something negative about yourself? What can you do to define your values so you have a strong guiding compass in life and don’t get bogged down by insignificant details and failures? Should we trust our experience or our minds, and why can one lead to failure and time wasted? What are the 3 C’s that can lead you to a more clearly defined and fulfilling life? How can you deal with the thoughts that lead you to failure and avoidance?   There are an infinite number of things we could think about in a given day, but we only have 24 hours to experience them, so the thoughts we choose to focus on can have a lasting impact on not just our mental well being, but our long term happiness and success. Not having a solid foundation of guiding values can make it all too easy to fall into a trap of focusing on thoughts, feelings, and experiences that hold you back from becoming the person you want to be.   A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Whether you’re communicating with your team online or working on a project, Grammarly is the digital writing tool you can always rely on to get your message across clearly and effectively, across mobile and desktop platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at grammarly.com/charm.   Resources from this Episode A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters by Dr Steven Hayes Dr. Steven Hayes’s website   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover belief systems with Dr. Stan Beecham. Dr. Beecham is a sport psychologist, the director and founding member of the Leadership Resource Center, and the author of Elite Minds: How Winners Think Differently to Create a Competitive Edge and Maximize Success. Beliefs define how we think about ourselves and the world around us, so what can you do to examine your own beliefs and understand if they are leading you to a better life or a worse one, and how can you change your beliefs if you realize they’re leading you down the wrong path?   What to Listen For What questions can you ask yourself to better understand your beliefs and values and how they influence your behavior? Why is it important to the people around you for you to work on yourself and constantly strive to be better? Why is happiness the wrong goal to aim for if you want a fulfilling life, and what should you aim for instead? Why is it important to examine your values and beliefs? How do your beliefs and values influence your ability to pay attention and how will they prevent you from seeing a reality that will lead you to fail? How do you rewrite the beliefs that are holding you back so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities to be successful and lead a fulfilling life? How should we perceive confidence in a way that allows us to be more confident? What can you do to overcome the urge to compare yourself to others?   What you believe influences how you perceive the world around you and what you get out of life. If you want to live a better life, achieve more success, or become the best version of yourself, it’s critical that you understand what you believe and why you believe what you believe. Going through life without an understanding of your beliefs and values is like wandering through a forest with a compass without understanding what north, south, east, and west are. Sure, you can follow the arrow on the compass because that seems normal, but will that get you to where you want to be? Only by sheer luck.   A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!   Resources from this Episode Elite Minds by Dr. Beecham Dr. Beecham on Twitter   Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover the necessity of routines with Charles Duhigg. Charles is a Pulitzer-prize winning American journalist and non-fiction author, was a reporter for The New York Times, and has authored two books on habits and productivity, titled The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business and Smarter Faster Better. Routines are more important than we give them credit for, but why, what happens if we don’t establish routines for ourselves, and how can you build a great routine even when your world has been turned upside down? What to Listen For Why are routines so important for humans? What questions can you ask to spark interesting conversations instead of small talk? How can you consume entertainment in a way that nurtures your creativity and ability to lead interesting conversations? What can you do to find and identify experts you can trust? How do you distinguish between someone who is genuinely seeking advice and someone who is just venting? Why is mindset important when it comes to learning new skills? What exercise can you start doing today if you are struggling with accepting painful events in your life? What can you do to develop empathy and why is empathy so important today? The word “routine” may evoke thoughts of mundaneness, or mindless repetition, but routines are incredibly important to us as humans. Routines allow us to remove the necessity of making difficult decisions by automating them. Going to the gym stops being about dragging yourself out the door and instead becomes the thing you do every morning because it’s your routine. Eating a healthy meal for lunch stops being a choice in suffering and instead becomes the part of your routine that leads to a healthier you and prevents you from giving in to cravings. Routines are important, and positive healthy routines are the key to supporting you on your path to living the life you dream of.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode How To! - a podcast hosted by Charles Duhigg Charles Duhig’s website The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover the All In Method with Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower. Alexandra is the bestselling author of five books, and co-creator / co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and Bob is a New York-based consultant, writer, and speaker. All of us have different values and beliefs guiding us through life, and the differences between two people can lead to damaging friction if they are not dealt with directly, so what can you do to get everyone on the same page and working toward a common goal while respecting each other? What to Listen For What is the All In Method (AIM) and how can you use it to maintain and strengthen your relationships, especially with those you work with? What questions can you ask yourself and others to develop more empathy and strengthen relationships with those you care about or work with? What is the value of boundaries and how do you start a conversation about your boundaries? Why can being rigid with your boundaries lead to worse outcomes than having no boundaries? What are the common pitfalls that teams run into when trying to reach alignment? What can examining our boundaries teach us about ourselves and the relationships we form with others? What can you do as a parent to help your children break out of their shell so their lack of social skills don’t lead to constant failure and disappointment? How do you express curiosity in conversations with people you’re not genuinely interested in getting to know? Should you write down questions before going into an important interview or date or even an appointment? The more time we spend with other people, the more likely it is that differences in personalities, values, and beliefs will lead to conflict. If that friction is not taken care of, it can destroy relationships professionally and personally. It is best to be proactive about potential problems rather than reactive, as being reactive can often mean being too late to solve a problem. And being proactive means being willing to have conversations that aren’t always easy or comfortable. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Radical Alignment by Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower Bob Gower’s website Alexandra Jamieson’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover critical feedback and how to ask for it with Steve Herz. Steve is President of The Montag Group, a sports and entertainment talent and marketing consultancy, and a career advisor to CEOs, lawyers, entrepreneurs, and young professionals. Critical feedback is important for our growth, but asking for it and receiving it can be challenging because people who care about us are generally hesitant to tell us anything negative about ourselves, so what can we do to get the feedback we need to improve? What to Listen For Why is critical feedback important to our growth and success, and how can we get better at receiving it? What can you do to get the feedback you need to grow in a culture where people seem to coddle each other out of fear of how you might respond to critical feedback? How do you ask for feedback in such a way that allows people to feel comfortable offering critical feedback rather than just saying something to make you feel good? How much of your success is determined by your proficiency versus your ability to connect with others? What steps can you take today to improve your ability to effectively communicate and connect with others so you don’t get passed up on job opportunities and promotions? What is the 360 review and how can it save you from ending up in terrible situations? Why is warmth important in building relationships and why can your aversion to it lead to failure in life? What can you do to work on your humility? How do energy and warmth work together when you are interacting with others, and what can you do to improve both while staying true to who you are? Critical feedback is important because you only have your perspective on what you are doing. So if you are always doing something incorrect while you believe it to be correct, how are you going to correct what you’re doing wrong if no one tells you. Unfortunately, the people who know us best will likely be hesitant to tell us when we’re doing something wrong out of fear of confrontation, or hurting our feelings, or just wanting to avoid a potentially awkward situation. This means we must make it easy and comfortable for the people who care about us to give us the feedback we need to be our best selves. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re communicating with your team online or working on a project, Grammarly is the digital writing tool you can always rely on to get your message across clearly and effectively, across mobile and desktop platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at grammarly.com/charm. Resources from this Episode Don’t Take Yes for an Answer by Steve Herz Steve Herz’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover what it means to achieve mastery of a subject or skill with Dr. Michael Gervais, a high performance psychologist working in the trenches of high-stakes environments with some of the best in the world, training the mindset skills and practices essential to pursuing and revealing one’s potential Mastering anything takes some talent, but it also takes consistent practice and a persistent mindset, so what can you do to cultivate the mindset required for mastery, what do you need to push through the pain along the way, and how can comparing your journey to others stop you from achieving your potential? What to Listen For What does it mean to achieve mastery of a skill or subject, and why can comparing our progress to others hinder our ability to achieve mastery? Why is it important for your mental and physical well being to live in the present moment? What steps can you take today to make sure you are focused on the present so you don’t get depressed about the past or anxious about the future? How important is your mindset if you already have talent and skill? How can you use self-talk to build your confidence so you feel comfortable taking on new challenges? What can you do to eliminate the self doubt that comes from comparing yourself to others? What question can you ask yourself to make sure you’re trying to get better rather than comparing your progress to others? How do you sort through conflicting advice on your way to mastering something? What can we do to let go of who we are now in order to become who we’re meant to be? Everyone is born with varying levels of aptitude in different areas, but just because you don’t have the genetics to be the best in the world at something, it doesn’t mean you can’t strive to master it. Mastery of a skill takes time, and if you didn’t win the genetic lottery, it’s going to take years of hard work. In order to push through the pain and suffering along the way, your mindset is as critical as your purpose, because if you don’t have a purpose guiding your mindset through the pain, the pain will win. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Compete to Create Finding Mastery - a podcast hosted by Dr. Gervais Dr. Gervais on Twitter Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover with Keith Ferrazzi what it means to lead without authority. Keith is an American entrepreneur, recognized global thought leader in the relational and collaborative sciences, and NYT best selling author of Leading Without Authority and Never Eat Alone. There is more to leadership than telling other people what to do, so what does it mean to lead without authority, what can you do today to become a better leader, and how can you inspire vulnerability and empathy in the people around you? What to Listen For What can you do as a leader to create a great space for people to be vulnerable, therefore allowing stronger bonds to form? Why are intimacy and empathy crucial to forming strong bonds with the people around you and what can you do to foster such an environment? How much vulnerability is too much when you’re in a position of leadership? What does co-elevation mean and why is it important to have co-elevating relationships with the people around us? How do you set boundaries for your generosity so you don’t get taken advantage of? What is the Blue Flame in all of us and why is it important to see it in others and nurture it so it can bloom? Being a leader doesn’t mean you tell other people what to do. It means you inspire those around you who then choose to follow you. When you are a leader, people should trust you to provide guidance for them and make the best decisions given the circumstances. You do not need to have authority over other humans in order to do any of that - but you do need trust and respect. Work on building strong relationships with the people around you and you will become a better leader. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Leading Without Authority by Keith Ferrazzi Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi Keith Ferrazzi’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover the 7 steps to unshakable confidence with David Nurse. David is an NBA life and optimization coach, future bestselling author, and worldwide motivational speaker. Confidence can be developed with consistent practice like any other skill, but what concrete steps can you take everyday to achieve the confidence you’ve always wanted? What to Listen For What is the common denominator of professional athletes that lead to success? Can you compare yourself to others in a healthy and positive way? How do you get people to be good teammates if they’re more concerned about themselves or their ego? What are the 7 steps you can take to achieve unshakable confidence?  What does it mean to vote for yourself and why should you start voting for yourself now? What can you do to remind yourself of your potential to keep you from wasting time and falling into stagnation? What tips can you use to make your mornings and evenings effective parts of your day? How do you rewire your brain for the behavior you want, so your behavior doesn’t sabotage your relationships, your work, and your life? Confidence is not something we are born with, but a skill we develop over time. That means no matter your circumstances, you have a certain level of confidence and you can apply consistent practice over time to increase it. In fact, you can take small steps every day, and after enough small steps, you’ll have made leaps in progress. But you must be consistent and keep reminding yourself that no matter how confident you are, there is always room for improvement, so arrogance is never acceptable, as arrogance implies you already know everything you need to know. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode David Nurse’s website Pivot & Go: The 29-Day Blueprint to Redefine and Achieve YOUR Success David Nurse on Twitter David Nurse on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover FOMO with the person who coined the term, Patrick McGinnis. Patrick is a venture capitalist, writer, and speaker who coined the term FOMO, which was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013. FOMO is nothing new but it seems worse now that we have endless options at our fingertips via the internet and social media, so how can we minimize the negative impacts of it and even turn it around and use it to help us make better decisions? What to Listen For What is FOMO and how does it challenge you when it comes to making small and big decisions? Does FOMO subside as we age? How has the COVID pandemic impacted our FOMO and will it be better or worse after pandemic passes? What does FOBO mean and how is it different from FOMO? Why is FOMO good for us and how do you prevent it from ruining your ability to enjoy life? When faced with a big decision and heavy FOMO, what can you do to make the best decision for your future without regretting the other options? What can you do to make time for self-development if you feel your days are consumed by other responsibilities and obligations? What is FOGO and why is it so relevant right now? The fear of missing out is nothing new, but with the evolution of the internet and social media, it can be crippling to many people who don’t live an intentional life inline with their values. If you’re always on the lookout for “THE BEST THING” then your life will be a constant cycle of dipping your toes in the water without committing to jumping in, and while dipping your toes in water can be refreshing, you are missing out on actually being in the water, getting better at swimming, making long lasting friendships, so on and so forth. The key is to figure out what you stand for and what you want out of life, so you can make simple and complex decisions without stressing too much over whether or not it’s “THE BEST” decision. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your workflow. Resources from this Episode Patrick McGinnis’s website Fomosapiens - podcast hosted by Patrick McGinnis The 10% Entrepreneur - by Patrick McGinnis Fear of Missing Out - by Patrick McGinnis Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
Do you want to have control over your mentality and reactions? On today’s episode of the Art of Charm podcast, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak are joined by Dan Harris, the co-anchor of ABC News' Nightline and author of the bestselling book 10% Happier. Dan discusses his work with 10% Happier, the importance of meditation, and it's functionality. Tune in to get in tune with your mental wellbeing.  Episode Resources: Check out Dan's books,10% Happier and Meditation For Fidgety Skeptics Listen to the 10% Happier Podcast  Try the 10% Happier App What you’ll learn: [00:01:17] What is the benefit of living in a big city during the pandemic It’s a gamble to be in cities during the pandemic with high population density as it’s easier to pass illness where more people are gathered. [00:06:55] How do you get out of the loop of uncertainty in goal orientation and accountability towards future planning and events Focusing on mental health and doing activities like meditation to assist those efforts. [00:13:39]  How did Dan’s mind become open to working with meditation There was a lot of evidence that strongly suggests that there's a lot of health benefits to meditation. [00:18:55] What are the benefits of meditation Mindfulness, calming the mind, concentration, being able to act and feel consciously, slowing your blood pressure, boosting your immune system, rewiring key parts of your brain associated with stress, self-awareness, and focus in this era of distraction. [00:28:15] Why are we in this fight or flight system currently, and why is it running so high?  It’s a human design flaw where we are inappropriately triggered by smaller confrontations. [00:31:42]  What are guaranteed method for stress reduction when you're feeling lonely, uncertain, despondent about the state of the world It’s useful to be informed but not drowning in constant updates and drama. Also giving and helping others can help make you feel validated. [00:47:18] Why does it feel so contradictory to practice mindfulness and compassion in giving you an edge in this neverending competition of life We misinterpret happiness and make assumptions. There’s a correlation to zen and passiveness. Having structure and focus in mind helps you win. [00:55:21] How can we balance being nice for selfish reasons Use wise selfishness and orient your life around service to be more successful. Boosting self-compassion can lead to compassion towards others. [01:07:56] Where do you progress once you get basic meditation down? There is no next level but to consistently work out the brain, and is effective in letting meditation keep your behavior and mindset healthy. Check-in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Send us your questions See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
On this special episode of the Art of Charm podcast, we're digging into 5 values and how they relate to the current issues that we're facing, 5 things that we think everyone should be doing to become more informed to start taking action, and finally 5 of our favorite charities to help start pushing the social needle in the right direction. Episode Resources: Donate to the ACLU Help Fuel the Fight - NAACP Donate to Mutual Aid Support EmbraceRace Support the Equal Justice Initiative Send Us Your Questions The Art of Charm Network A Word From Our Sponsors Stop the stress and anxiety your debt is causing. Find out how you can talk to a freedom debt solutions expert and get your free personalized debt consultation today. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/CHARM Check-in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Send us your questions See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover what it means to change someone’s mind with Jonah Berger. Jonah is a marketing professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and internationally bestselling author of Contagious, Invisible Influence, and The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind. The art of persuading others goes back as far as humans have had ideas we wanted to convey to others, but what does it mean to change someone’s mind, how do we persuade people to change, and how can your understanding of persuasion save you from getting sold on bad ideas? What to Listen For Why are we as humans so resistant to changing our minds? What are the 5 roadblocks to change and how can we remove them so we and those around us can grow? What strategies can we use to get people to buy into an idea rather than trying to push the idea onto them? How can you ask the right questions to allow people to make better decisions? What can we do to create a catalyst for other people to change? Why is DropBox a great example of removing roadblocks that enable more people to try your product? Why is it important for people to feel they have a sense of agency when you’re trying to persuade them to make a change or purchase? Has it become harder to persuade people of good ideas in the age of information? How should you deal with awkward pauses in conversation? How important is body language when persuading someone and how do you take that into consideration when you’re on a phone call or Zoom meeting? Persuading others is not so much about changing people’s minds as it is conveying information and allowing people to process it to arrive at the same conclusion you have. We as humans do not like feeling as if our behavior or choices are dictated to us by someone else, so if you want to convince someone that something is a good idea, you can’t just tell them it’s a good idea and they should believe it - you have to be able to show them the same information you have and let them make up their mind about it. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind by Jonah Berger Jonah Berger’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
Technology has had an undeniable impact on our society, in good and bad ways, so what are the bad ways, how can we mitigate the damage they cause, and what can we do to use these tools for good in our lives and those around us? What to Listen For What is the ICAN acronym and how can it help you achieve a social flow state and help you be your most authentic self? What questions can you ask yourself to stay mindful as we continue integrating technology into our daily lives? What is passive browsing versus active browsing and why does one have a negative impact on your well being? What can you do if you feel your team is missing the energy and motivation you were hoping for? How can you make Zoom meetings fun and engaging when everyone seems preoccupied with what’s going on around them? What simple, free technique can you implement as a leader to improve your team’s effectiveness as well as your well being and effectiveness? What is social flow, why do you need to understand it, and how can you tap into it to be your best self? What follow up questions can you ask the men in your life when they answer with “Good” or “I’m fine”? How can we build our curiosity muscle if we find ourselves not being that curious? What things typically hold men back from emotional mastery and what can you do to work toward emotional mastery? What can you do to improve the toxic relationships in your life that always lead to arguments? We live in a state of constant experimentation to understand ourselves, each other, and the world around us. As a result, we create things with the intention of doing good, only to find out later that the results are a mixed bag. Social media and communication are great examples as they have connected the world, but led to mental health issues springing up all over the place. As we move forward, it becomes increasingly important to be mindful of what we are putting out into the world for millions or billions of people to use, and how it can impact our society as a whole. No one will be able to take everything into consideration, but it’s better than not trying and seeing what happens. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Even with a balanced diet, it’s difficult to cover all of your nutritional bases. Developed from a complex blend of 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients, Athletic Greens is a greens superfood powder designed to help fill the nutritional gaps in your diet. Visit AthleticGreens.com/CHARM to claim OUR special offer of 20 FREE daily travel packs with your first purchase, a $79 added value, and get Athletic Greens delivered straight to your door.  Resources from this Episode Andrew Horn’s website What’s the Big Idea - Andrew Horn’s podcast Tribute.co Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
Many of us have heard the phrase, “Happiness is a choice” - but what does a happiness expert think about that and what can you do if you feel like you’re unable to make that choice? What to Listen For What are the Four Tendencies and how do they determine how you respond to expectations and your ability to be happy? What’s the alternative if you feel you can’t just choose to be happy? What steps can you take in your environment that will make it easier to be happy? What does it mean for emotions to be contagious and how can your understanding of it help prevent you from feeling down? How do novelty and challenge contribute so significantly to your ability to be happy? What can you do to raise your self-awareness? What can you do if you find yourself being the victim of analysis paralysis so you don’t waste too much time thinking about a decision? Once you understand your tendency, how do you recognize the Four Tendencies in others and what is the best way to work with them or help them reach their potential on a team? We cannot make ourselves happy by focusing on our external environment, but it can help to minimize the work we have to do to be happy. Our personalities are made up of the tendencies and habits we have formed over the years, so the more aware you are of your tendencies and habits, the easier it can be for you to make the decisions which will lead to you being less miserable and more happy. Happiness is a choice, but certain things in your life can make the difference between that choice feeling easy, and that choice feeling impossible, and the more you understand yourself, your environment, and the people you spend time with, the easier that choice can be. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! The anxiety and stress caused by debt is overwhelming. Especially now. But there is a way out, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Freedom Debt Solutions has more than 400 debt experts standing by to recommend the right solution for your specific situation. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/charm and get your FREE personalized debt consultation today! Resources from this Episode Outer Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin The Four Tendencies Quiz Gretchen Rubin’s website Happier with Gretchen Rubin Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
It’s no surprise that many of us can be overwhelmed with the day-to-day events of our lives, so how are we supposed to plan for so many unforeseen events like the COVID-19 pandemic, what is upstream thinking and why is it relevant today more than ever? What to Listen For What is the difference between upstream and downstream thinking and why can one lead you to a life of cyclical misery? What is unique about the American healthcare system that has led to us only focusing downstream? What is quiet competence and why does it make us less attentive to potential catastrophes? How can we get people to think more upstream so we are not impacted so negatively by crises? What is psychological standing and how does it prevent you from doing the right thing in a wide range of situations we find ourselves in regularly? What are the 7 questions leaders need to ask themselves if they don’t want to fail miserably at handling the next upstream problem? What can you do to unite the right people to handle a complicated problem like the COVID-19 pandemic? Being able to think clearly about the future and contemplate solutions to problems likely to arise is becoming more and more important as society and technology continue evolving faster than we can keep up. This is why upstream thinking is so important - many of us are caught up in the rush of everyday life and we count on our leaders to know what to do when problems arise, but it seems our leaders are also forgetting to think far enough ahead, leading us to find ourselves in the predicam we’re in now with COVID-19. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Flowers are blooming, the grass is growing, and it’s time to mow your lawn and trim the hedges below the belt safely and efficiently. Manscaped is the only men’s brand dedicated to below the waist grooming, with precision engineered tools for your family jewels. If you subscribe to the Perfect Package soon, subscribers get TWO FREE GIFTS for a limited time! Get 20% off and FREE SHIPPING with the special discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com.  Even with a balanced diet, it’s difficult to cover all of your nutritional bases. Developed from a complex blend of 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients, Athletic Greens is a greens superfood powder designed to help fill the nutritional gaps in your diet. Visit AthleticGreens.com/CHARM to claim OUR special offer of 20 FREE daily travel packs with your first purchase, a $79 added value, and get Athletic Greens delivered straight to your door.  Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Resources from this Episode Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen by Dan Heath Dan Heath’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
In today’s episode, we cover dealing with uncertainty and stress with Dr. Domenick Sportelli. Dr. Domenick is a board certified physician in adult general psychiatry and child & adolescent psychiatry, and is widely sought-after for his expertise on the latest in medical behavioral health, child/family psychiatry, and neuropharmacology. Introduction This is an era of uncertainty we haven’t faced in this generation and it’s wreaking havoc on many of us psychologically, so what can you do to better cope with the stress and loneliness you might be feeling and what should you be doing as a parent to be a good role model for your kids? What to Listen For How do we deal with uncertainty and stress many of us are dealing with in isolation? How much of a psychological toll is the pandemic taking on medical professionals? What kind of psychological fallout will we be facing as we recover from the COVID-19 pandemic and what can we do to prepare ourselves? What should we tell our kids about COVID-19 and how do we talk to them about what’s going on? How do you find the silver lining during this crazy time of uncertainty?  Why are gratitude and resilience so important during this pandemic?  What rules can you set up to foster creativity in your kids so they don’t just resort to sitting in front of devices all day? How do we deal with the loneliness epidemic while we’re practicing social distancing? Why is having a schedule more important than ever and how should we schedule time for socializing? How do we manage all of the emotions we’re feeling just from the uncertainty of not knowing how long this pandemic will last? How do we deal with rise in tension in our relationships stemming from being isolated with each other all the time? What 3 questions can you ask yourself everyday to make your life better? Humans excel psychologically when following a consistent routine, and when the certainty of a routine is taken away it can lead to significant stress. The COVID-19 pandemic resulted in many of our routines being upended with no clear end in sight, so it’s important now more than ever to take it upon ourselves to determine our own routines. This is especially true for those of us with kids because kids need structure the most.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Dr. Domenick Sportelli on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.
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Ed

why did you delete all the old podcasts with jordan, the new stuff is crap!

Sep 3rd
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Eliseo Acosta

will be buying 2 copies of the book fellas. keep up the hard work 🍻🤠 - Eli from south Texas

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Jonathan ray

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Aug 8th
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ID19173769

This used to be a great podcast when Jordan Harbinger was hosting. Now it has become nothing but a testosterone loaded circle jerk. Maybe try having a female guest for a change.

Jul 20th
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doich mcskrim

we all strive for approval acceptance and attention low value seeks out rewards before giving...with long term problems (just a fix) high value profiles seek others likes.... suplative is begging for attention and becoming invisible it's to make themselves smaller so they can sneek under and you need a high-value individual to say stop or will repeat the same low value behavior. always blaming others giving people too much positive body language it's also supplicative you cannot reward bad behavior.... victim mentality) becoming to agreeable in fear others taking the spotlight (imposter syndrome) everyone falls victim some has to win and gained high-value behaviors. why does victim mean low value... by pointing the finger and give up responsibility resisting change. the pedestal should be earned not givin attention want attention with unattractive behaviors and a lot of the time they don't realize it. with combative mentality is taking acceptance attention approval the trolls putting others down with a big bad fluffy attitude but in times of crisis the behavior switch without us even knowing it. endless stream of negativity worrying about others rather than yourself verbally combativeness lashes back and steals the vibe. combativeness is miserable misery loves company. with competitiveness comes through physical do females competitiveness comes through personal or emotional external value scarcity mindset competition for what I have focusing on externals is an endless run superlative mindset is begging for attention. the victim mentality is to agreeable combative mentality is combative mentalities asking for acceptance with blowing up males show through physical females usually through mental

Jul 9th
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Una Ruffley

Great show! 👍

Jun 18th
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Brandon Nelson

15 minutes of ads is ridiculous

May 22nd
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Rachel Atis

The podcast dedicates this for guys, while the description says it can "help everyday people". So can this apply to females?

Apr 23rd
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Teresa Wilkinson

not at toolbox but a bunch of tools

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Alf Ehrlund

lyssna

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designconsortium2003@yahoo.com

Not worth the Time . Just 3 guys blabbering on and on . It's all a big Mutual Masterbation on how wonderful each guy is .

Dec 18th
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Isaac Broberg

Worst podcast I've ever listened to, full of commercials, boring nonsense to make it really long so they can plug more commercials.

Dec 10th
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First Name

I really like this guy

Nov 25th
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First Name

i really like this month's topic, keep the great work!

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Reyna Elizabeth

My favorite episode so far 👍🏻

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First Name

I love this topic

Oct 16th
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Mike

is it just me or does anyone else think Eric Weinstein has terrible social skills? it seems to me like he is interrupting, not listening properly, patronising and condescending the guys. It's funny to see the contrast between AJ and Johnny and him.

Aug 15th
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blues and browns

after this interview, I'm not a fan of Bill Nye. narcissist & obsessed with Fame & himself

Jul 31st
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Wisly Michel

:-$(^^)

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Patrick Blake

Im

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