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Find out what happens when women break the rules - those unwritten but all too real bullsh*t expectations of how we should live our lives. Cristen Conger and Caroline Ervin (formerly Stuff Mom Never Told You) tackle questions through their trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage.
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A number of feminist-branded companies, including The Wing, Man Repeller and Ban.do, are reckoning with racism and employee mistreatment. This episode, we're focusing in on the digital-media powerhouse Refinery29 and its problematic white leadership. Plus, we'll examine what the #blackatR29 movement reveals about working while Black and why seemingly woke, women-led outlets aren't immune to toxicity, inequity and top-down racism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], Oscar Mayer, and Ms. Bitch.
How to Go Braless

How to Go Braless

2020-06-2343:387

Almost as soon as pandemic lockdowns started, homebound breasts everywhere began forgoing their bras. But how is going braless still unconventional enough to inspire viral media coverage amid a public health crisis? Breast expert Jenny Burbage joins us to bust some bra myths, and author Chidera Eggerue explains why saggy boobs matter. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!
How to Lift Heavy Sh*t

How to Lift Heavy Sh*t

2020-06-1650:112

Weightlifting used to be boys-only exercise, but women are getting swole like never before. Cristen and Caroline find out why from competitive powerlifter Casey Johnston. Then Team USA weightlifter Mattie Rogers shares how she muscled her way to becoming one of the strongest — and most Instagram-famous — women in the sport.   Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.   This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Third Love [thirdlove.com], the Let's Go Together podcast.
How to Not Be a Karen

How to Not Be a Karen

2020-06-0940:534

How do you solve a problem like white feminism? Mikki Kendall knows, and the answer isn't being nice. From #solidarityisforwhitewomen to Hood Feminism, Mikki shares how uprooting racism within mainstream feminism became her mission, and why she makes white ladies uncomfortable on purpose. This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], and Third Love [thirdlove.com]. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!
How to Be Tori Amos

How to Be Tori Amos

2020-05-2642:56

Tori Amos is a piano prodigy and Gen X goddess whose music was a soundtrack of third-wave feminism. Cristen and Caroline talk to her about breaking through the early 90s airwaves and find out: Why is Tori Amos such an enduring feminist icon?   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!
'How are you doing?' has become a super loaded question in the days of COVID. So this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out how listeners are feeling, check in with Unladylike illustrator Tyler Feder and take a much-needed Zoom trip to the therapist to help us sort through our collective pandemic emotions. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you by Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com] and Best Fiends [bestfiends.com].
Contrapoints creator Natalie Wynn is among the most popular and acclaimed YouTubers, specializing in counteracting the red-pilled, radicalized voices that thrive on the platform. So why did she suddenly find herself canceled, how did she handle it, and what does it say about owning our values out loud?   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike]
How to Nail Manicures

How to Nail Manicures

2020-03-3143:202

From lesbian TikTok to a magical place called Mantrap, getting your nails done means way more than meets the eye. In this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out why writer Tembe Denton-Hurst feels her realest in fake nails, and documentary filmmaker Adele Free Pham shares the stunning story behind the rise of nail salons. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. To support nail workers who are out of work because of the coronavirus, you can donate to the Nail Salon Workers Resilience Fund or the One Fair Wage Fund.
How to Break up with Mom

How to Break up with Mom

2020-03-2445:394

Parental estrangement is surprisingly common — and commonly misunderstood. Caroline and Cristen sort fact from fiction to find out: What happens when daughters break up with their moms? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com]
How do gender, race and class color our tattoo perceptions? Comedy icon Margaret Cho breaks down the body politics of being a heavily inked Korean-American woman. Plus! Cristen and Caroline discover the original "tramp stamp," a stick-n-poke renaissance, and the origins of the ladylike tattoo taboo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by CLR Clean [CLRBrands.com], Rothy's [Rothys.com/unladylike] and Honeybook [Honeybook.com/UNLADYLIKE].
How can women advocate for workplace equality when they don't have a salaried 9-to-5 with benefits? With help from Freelancers Union founder, Sara Horowitz, Cristen and Caroline troubleshoot sexism for the self-employed, contractors and tip earners. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [thirdlove.com] and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com].
Sweet 16 doesn't hold a birthday candle to the quinceañera. But why has such a ladylike tradition and its poofy gowns kept partying on? You're invited to find out, as Cristen and Caroline unwrap how today's quinceañeras are coming of age in unladylike ways. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com].
To freeze or not to freeze? That's today's hottest fertility question. With help from Washington Post reporter Nicole Ellis, Cristen and Caroline find out why it suddenly seems like every ovary's doing it, and whether egg freezing is all it's cracked up to be. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com/unladylike], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co with code UNLADYLIKE], and Honeybook [HoneyBook.com/unladylike].
What happens when you aren't "the appropriate type of crazy?" Best-selling author Esmé Weijun Wang talks to Caroline and Cristen about living with schizoaffective disorder, how it shapes her ambition, and the subjectiveness of being 'high functioning'.
How to Spot Scams

How to Spot Scams

2020-02-1144:131

Cristen has a case of fraud fever, and the only cure for it is more scams! First, Jane Marie of The Dream breaks down why millions of women go for broke with multilevel marketing schemes, or MLMs. Then, Laci Mosley, aka Scam Goddess, revels in scam schadenfreude and spills why she's pro-petty fraud. Plus, Caroline plays Who Wants to Scam a Millionaire.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co], and Third Love [thirdlove.com].
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How to Sober Up

How to Sober Up

2020-02-0435:102

From Dry January to #sobercurious, not drinking has recently taken on new meanings and more mainstream visibility. But what really happens when women sober up? Cristen and Caroline explore the grayer layers of female sobriety that get filtered out of Instagram hashtags and Alcoholics Anonymous alike.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co], and Honeybook [honeybook.com].
Ever feel hot 'n' bothered -- and helplessly horny? Thirst Aid Kit, a podcast hosted by Bim Adewunmi and Nichole Perkins, is here for you. Cristen and Caroline let off steam with Bim and Nicole about the evolution of thirst, the hotness of Hot Priest, and lusting out loud in the #MeToo era. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by IQ Bar [eatiqbar.com].
From the children's classrooms to the Met Gala red carpet, Sinéad Burke is on a mission to tilt the lens on what accessibility looks like and whom it’s for. Cristen and Caroline find out how she navigates the world as a little person, cultivates vulnerability as a strength and boldly asks uncomfortable questions.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike], Native [nativedeodorant.com] and Ritual [http://ritual.com/unladylike].
To wrap up our winter break, Cristen and Caroline revisit their episode on fighting for the Equal Rights Amendment. C&C talk to filmmaker and activist Kamala Lopez about the century-long fight for an ERA, why we still need one, and the unladylike power we have to finally get a constitutional IUD to protect our rights from unplanned politics. Unladylike will be back on January 21st with a brand new season! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you by Ritual [Ritual.com/UNLADYLIKE].
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Kristen Elkins

Yes, I do believe that downloading this podcast app, was the best thing I've done in a while! I'm loving it!

Feb 7th
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BC

People are always surprised to find out I don't drink.

Feb 6th
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Chelsea

This is so badass!

Feb 4th
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BC

Phyllis Schlafly is awful.

Jan 2nd
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g

I did a presentation in a machine learning seminar on a paper about removing bias from a certain type of machine learning, and it was the only time the topic was ever brought up! https://github.com/glfmn/ai-safety

Jan 1st
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Whitney Rodden

Hot Girl Summer is one of her weaker tracks imo, but I love Megan! She's great. 👍

Dec 3rd
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BC

Can you use regular rubbing alcohol instead of vodka?

Dec 1st
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g

thank you!

Nov 26th
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Dre

I LOVE THE L WORD!!!! And i’m not even a lesbian. But that show changed me - i saw it in college, downloaded it illegally with my bff and we became OBSESSED. It was everything we ever wanted and it was also super HOT! Haha! Ilene, the woman that created it is a hero for making it happen. 💓

Nov 15th
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g

my perfect bra is no bra

Nov 14th
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blues and browns

i also find your growing resentment in capitalism humorous & indicative of "hate the game not the player." you run ads, in order to make a living, I get it. though if you truly did actually have this resentment you claim to have, you'd be crowd funded & would reject ads. the minimalists podcast does so, and simultaneously practice what they preach. you girls promote a lot of "do as I say & I not as I do." you promote that women shouldn't feel they need to shave their legs, yet both of you do. why do you shave your legs? is it to appease the patriarchy that you believe oppresses you? you have promited women shouldn't have to apply smelly deodorants, to appease men, yet both of you do. I wish you were more respectable, though I'd like more fluidity between words & actions. aside from these gripes, I do enjoy the show & it's quality Level of production & presentation.

Oct 15th
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blues and browns

men's sports Garner's more $$$. one does not deserve equal pay if they can't bring in the same revenue. Brandy Chastain is also a remarkably more classy & respectable woman vs that dragon rapinoe, she's disgusting.

Oct 15th
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Julia Warren

I love changing the conversation about make-up. for me, the meaning can be different each day. sometimes it's armor, sometimes it's a way to fit in, sometimes it's a way to stand out. feminism means I get to do what I want with makeup and so should everyone else. Love it!

Aug 1st
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connie d

*hears she inspired Kamala* thinks to self: THAT WAS HER?! that's so cool! huzzah for brown women in SciFi!!!

Jun 26th
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KateSos75

LOVE this conversation! Through HS, I hated math. In college, I LOVED it! I think because the method and approach changed.

Jun 26th
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Jamie Richards

that annoying tick tock sound in the background

Jun 25th
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Cassandra Collins

What a wonderful podcast on the history of dieting, it is always useful to know where we're come from. It is time for change. Thank you

Jun 14th
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Julie Delgado

I'm so glad I finally decided to listen to this podcast!! I decided to listen to the episode on menopause. why ? no surprise I turned 50 recently. since then I have been trying to get used to the ideal that I'm old now and I need to accept it, however also I need to not just throw the towel in, and stop trying to fight aging. so thank you lady's of the show for making me laugh, but also for the info that you never really understand when you read a magazine about menopause! Hopefully we'll all survive this and hopefully live a little longer! cause I sure love being a cool grandma! Thx again, julie

May 23rd
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Becky Sautter

I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and feel so differently about the Gospel. The Church is family focused 100%. Yes it does believe, that whenever possible, a Mother should be home watching and guiding their children. This is not always possible especially in today's world where 2 incomes are almost a necessity. I know many men who stay home with the children while their wives work. You have parents who choose to both work as well. The Church does not condemn you for this. Men and women are EQUAL but so very different. When did women decide that staying home and raising your children is somehow less important? It is almost a belief that women who want a traditional home(not forced) are somehow being oppressed? I have openly questioned things that I don't understand. My Bishop encourages it. It is very naive if you don't and just follow because you think you have to. We are taught to ponder, read scriptures, and pray about concerns and questions that we have. Also, yes the Priesthood session is for men and we, the woman, have a Relief Society session. After both of these sessions, they are available to everyone(including those that are not members) to read and listen to. I may not agree with her or agree with what she did but I stand by her for her right to do it. As with anything else in life actions that we take, decisions that we make, still have consequences. I truly hope that she finds peace with the Church in one way or the other. I hope that the hate/disdain she holds(I could be wrong, my boyfriend once told me it happens a lot😁) she can be let go of.

May 8th
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Daisy Kambandu

This is one of the saddest stories. Domestic violence is a problem all over the world. In Africa where I'm from its common to hear things like 'if he beats you then it means that he loves you'

Jan 29th
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