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Author: Jess Sands : Podcast Host, Business Owner and military wife

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The weekly InDependent Spouse podcast is a series of fun, informative podcasts for all military spouses, partners and other-halves.

The InDependent Spouse podcast was born from a need to hear something new. A need to hear from the inspirational men and women who experience service life from the ‘home-front’ while creating successful businesses, running amazing charities and taking on their own challenges.

To give a voice to those who are already achieving astonishing things, and to inspire those who dream of doing the same.

As the traditional role of the ‘military spouse’ continues to evolve in line with the military itself, it seems only fitting to reflect these changes in a modern way.

What’s also clear is the importance of developing their own role; one that gives the spouse, partner or other-half their own voice while also complimenting that of the service member.

In this series, Jess, a current military wife running a business while living the ‘magnolia wall life’, explores military life by chatting to inspiring people.

So sit back and listen to their personal stories. Hopefully one day we’ll hear from you!

Download. Subscribe. Enjoy!
33 Episodes
Hello you lovely lot, I hope you are well despite the very trying time we find ourselves in. I can’t quite believe that I am recording this during a national lock-down and a viral pandemic that is causing so much disruption. I hope that wherever you find yourself you and your loved ones are well. Series 4 wasn’t actually planned to start for a few more weeks but this episode has been recorded especially as a response to the world we find ourselves in and hopefully will offer you some support at this time. This week I have been talking to the wonderful Georgie from Chasing Lobsters But before we get started I have a very happy announcement to make. The wonderful Royal British Legion are proudly sponsoring this fourth series of the InDependent Spouse podcast. I am sure you are aware of the important work the legion do at the heart of our Armed Forces Community and they are also offering access to support for those affected by the pandemic. The Royal British Legion understand that the COVID-19 pandemic is having a devastating impact on people’s livelihoods across the country and in the Armed Forces community. Their specialist financial advisors are here to help anyone facing additional money worries because of the outbreak and help put your mind at ease. If you have financial concerns and would like support and advice contact the Legion on 0808 802 8080 and they’ll put you in touch with someone who can help. Please do contact them if you are in need.  
Hello you lovely lot, it’s the last episode of series 3 today, and this time I have been talking to the completely inspirational Dr. Emma Egging, from the Jon Egging Trust. On 20th August 2011, Flt Lt Jon Egging lost his life whilst completing a display at the Bournemouth Air Festival. He was coming to the end of his first year flying with the Red Arrows – his wife Emma was watching. Emma, along with Jons mum and friends launched the Jon Egging Trust, a charity that supports struggling children to reach their full potential. The charity website describes Jon as an inspirational person and it’s this inspiration that’s at the heart of everything they do.  The accredited programmes increase young peoples’ self-confidence, self-esteem and other vital life and work skills and empower them to become role models within their own communities. The Jon Egging Trust realises Jon’s dream of inspiring young people through his love of aviation, teamwork and leadership, helping them to overcome adversity, identify their strengths and work towards their ambitions – with Emma leading the charge. I can’t quite tell you how honoured I am that Emma shared her very personal story with me.
031 : Phoebe Hayes

031 : Phoebe Hayes


Hello you lovely lot and welcome back to another inspirational episode, this week I have been talking to Phoebe from Off the Patch. We talk a lot about setting up a business and the challenges you can face doing that, how she managed to launch a start-up during a difficult pregnancy and her husband was deployed and the similarities between a new business and a new baby. This is a great episode if you are wondering how you might have a family and a business whilst living this military life, especially if your partner is looking at shared paternity leave and how that works in the Armed Forces, especially if they are operational and on the front line. It’s not about having it all, but it’s about being flexible around military life whilst achieving your dreams. I really hope you enjoy this episode. Thanks again to Phoebe who is generally rocking business and mum life. Huge congratulations on the birth of your baby and your business – thank you for sharing your story, I know so many people will find it useful. I will be back next week with the last story of series 3. I have had the most amazing time chatting to everyone this series, and I know a lot of you have found it really inspirational. If that’s the case, can I ask a little favour? Could you subscribe and review the series? It should be easy to find on next to wherever you found this episode, and don’t forget to tell your friends all about it, maybe they know someone inspirational who might like to be in the next series.
030 : Charlotte Harker

030 : Charlotte Harker


Hello you lovely lot, and welcome back to the InDependent Spouse – the voice of inspirational people doing amazing things, who also happen to be married to serving Armed Forces personnel. Today, in episode 30, I am talking to the completely lovely blogger and social media influencer Charlotte. Charlotte started her Instagram account back in 2018 depicting her daily life as a mum, illustrator and wife. It was in 2019, when going through deployment that Charlotte started to share even more of her life – how the deployment affected her son, who was 2 at the time, and how she managed her life alone without a support network and the anxiety It can cause. The profile really took off and today she has over 22k followers on Instagram. She talks openly about anxiety, body confidence and being plus-sized. She started her blog, in October which is a lifestyle blog but is centred around body confidence. This episode is a fascinating look into the real world behind being so popular on social media, and how it can help you in your business. I hope you enjoy this episode with the lovely Charlotte.
029 : Louise Goldsmith

029 : Louise Goldsmith


Hello you lovely lot, welcome back to the independent spouse podcast Today I have been talking to the wonderful Louise from Hidden Valley Bushcraft. Hidden Valley Bushcraft has gone from a small idea, and has grown organically to what it is today - an award-winning company. Louise and her husband Nick run the company out of passion and a little bit of necessity – Ex-marine Nick has complex PTSD and uses the woodland for his own mental health, as well as encouraging Veterans to join him with the Warrior Programme, now supported by the Endeavour Fund and the Duke of Sussex who I have heard is a big fan. This episode is a great look at how honest and difficult running a business. From how years of work goes into making it a success that you now see. I hope you enjoy this episode with the lovely Louise.
028 : Scott Johnson

028 : Scott Johnson


Hello you lovely lot, welcome back to The InDependent Spouse podcast series. This week I am very proud to share with you my chat with the completely amazing Scott, from Veteran Owned UK. Veteran Owned UK is a massive online community - but don't be put off, it's not just for those Veterans, it's also for us! The military spouses and partners in business. This interview is perfect for January. It's full of loads of insights and a lot of inspiration so I really hope you enjoy the episode!
027 : Gems Collins

027 : Gems Collins


Today I have been chatting to the wonderful Gems Collins!  Gems has experienced military life in the UK growing up, and now, as the wife of a US serving member she is experiencing it all again - just stateside! This episode is a great look at the differences and similarities between our two countries and what we can learn from the US and how they're supporting their spouses. It's also packed full with business support that can help you in your own business, especially if you're just starting off. I really hope you enjoy episode 27!  
Welcome to episode 8, of series 3, this time with the wonderful Gill, from Gillian Jones Designs. This episode is such a refreshing look at how important running a business can be. Gill faces physical challenges most days, but works flexibly within her business and incests in having a team around her. This episode is so inspirational and so useful if you're running your own business so I really hope you enjoy it.
This week I have been chatting to the wonderful Andrea, from B's Clothing & Gifts.  B's Clothing & Gifts is one of those companies that is run with an awful lot of love. Andrea creates some fab merchandise that is on-trend, innovative, and most importantly won't get you in hot water with the IP officers!  She's very switched on about business and giving back, so you'll learn a lot about year one and how to add a charitable arm to commercial sales - I really hope you enjoy this episode!
'If you have an idea, or see a need - address it! Anyone can help a cause if they are passionate enough'. The Cariad Project JO was given life in 2019 by Alison Skipper. Alison moved to Jordan in 2018 taking up employment as a music teacher and volunteering with Loving Humanity UK. Whilst talking with urban refugee women she discovered that many were putting their family’s needs before their own, any materials on hand were used as makeshift pads due to having no money left to buy suitable period pads. Use of these makeshift pads mixed with a lack of menstrual health education results in an extremely high risk of infection and sickness. The Cariad Project JO collaborates with NGOs in Jordan to provide safe reusable period pads and menstrual health educational sessions, these sessions provide information about how to correctly care for reusable pads and about healthy menstruation. The main aims of the project are to empower local and refugee women through education and to alleviate the pressure on our environment caused by disposable period product waste. What Alison has created is so very important, and such a positive response to what could have been a challenging international posting. I really hope you enjoy this episode.
Claire Willsher is the founder of DR ME, a qualified PE teacher, and wife of an RAF officer. Having worked in numerous schools throughout the UK and Europe she is passionate about educating people on the benefits of whole-body health. DR ME runs interactive workshops focusing on 4 key areas: Diet, Resilience, Mind, and Exercise (DR ME). People can become their own doctor with the implementation of small, yet significant changes using the knowledge gained at DR ME workshops to increase their resistance to disease. DR ME presents workshops in both education and corporate environments. Having seen first hand her enthusiasm for health spread to children, parents and staff alike, Claire believes that DR ME workshops encourage people and those around them to make informed choices, thus transforming them into the best they can possibly be. She's also involved in setting up a co-working hub in RAF Leeming. It's something that's very important for her and stems from her research into mental health and how a lack of connections and face to face time impacts our loneliness with a risk of causing depression and anxiety. By having a collective place to work, we can all reduce the loneliness and can help re-create a sense of purpose. Claire is also a founding member of the InDependent Spouses in Business Facebook group and was one of the very first participants of the Virtual Networking events that were rolled out this summer. This episode is a great insight into year one of running a business and how important health is to running your own company. I really hope you enjoy it!
Welcome to Ep.4 of series 3, with the fabulous Jackie from #SMSpouses, a free, 12-week social media course for military spouses and partners. As we know, in this life, it can be difficult to find reliable work or build up professional skills between regular moves and deployments. Becoming a social media professional can help. This course is giving military spouses the tools to do just that. I really hope you enjoy this episode. It's a great introduction to the course and is full of handy tips for your own social media. 
Wendy Faux is the brains behind 'Not Just A Wife', a photography exhibition that aims to challenge the larger defence community in what they believe a military wife can achieve - and it's had some great reviews! Wendy comes from an experienced military background and the interview that she gave is packed full of passionate insight into her military world. We talk about her fantastic exhibition, the importance of the military patch and why the spouse is the glue that holds the Armed Forces community together.
I am back with Ep2 of S3, and this time, it's with the Wonder Woman that is Mrs Jody Jones! This is one of the most inspirational episodes I have ever recorded.  Jody Jones, Channel Swimmer, mummy, proud member of Military Wives Choirs, living with stage 4 cancer and amazing friend... I really hope you enjoy this episode! Head over to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, SoundCloud or wherever you find your podcasts and search for 'The InDependent Spouse'.
I am back, for Series 3 with the wonderful Suzy Olivier from Mothers of Enterprise. Suzy is an RAF wife and multi-business owner, newly posted to Cyprus, whose mission is to change the mindset of mothers in business. Her company, Mothers of Enterprise, supports women to help implement lasting change and success in their businesses. This episode is chock full of inspirational mindset tips to help you build a successful business, and takes a look into her own military life. I really hope you enjoy the start of Series 3.
018 - Series 3 Update

018 - Series 3 Update


I know how you are all eagerly awaiting the start of series 3 so I just wanted to give you a little update on the podcast. It’s my great pleasure to let you know Series 3 will be launching on the 9th September – and it’s going to be an amazing series! But while you’re waiting I thought I should tell you all about a very exciting online event that you can sign up to straight away. The first Virtual Networking event is happening on Wednesday the 11th of September and you can sign up by visiting the community pages on the InDependent Spouse website.  
Today I've been talking to the wonderful Pollyanna Charnley from The BeGlad Movement. In the BeGlad Movement Polly interviews inspiring people who have experienced terrible things but have found a way to move forward and she hopes that by sharing the stories of others it can help those who might still be struggling. I first met Polly when I was invited to be interviewed as part of the BeGlad Movement project. We spoke about my mums' Multiple Sclerosis and my own military life has affected me but how it has ultimately pushed me forward to create The InDependent Spouse. It was a very emotional interview and is still available to view along with over 100 others on YouTube. Polly is genuinely a wonderful person, who is always on the lookout for the best things in life. This episode is jam-packed full of her positive outlook and solutions to life's more difficult moments. I really hope you enjoy the very last episode of series 2.   Thank you so much for listening along. I am sad to say that this is the end of series two. It's been the most wonderful series and I must thank a few people. Firstly to my amazing guests on this series, thank you for trusting me with your stories. To Aviva's Community fund for helping with the cost of keeping the podcast series free. Of course a massive thank you to my sister for all her help with the audio and a big thank you to my very talented husband for being ace on a guitar! And of course you lovely lot for listening along. The series has now had over 2,000 downloads which is just brilliant. But don't worry, I will be back for Series 3 at the end of the year. We are posted again this summer but that's not going to hold me back, I'll be recording in-between packing all those boxes. In the meantime, you can keep up with the InDependent Spouse by watching the Behind the scenes of my Magnolia Wall Life Vlogs on YouTube, or you can read the blog posts all about business, and make use of the free business and deployment workbooks that are now on the InDependent Spouse website. So, that's the end of series 2 – I really hope you have been inspired. I'll be back soon, with another episode of The InDependent Spouse podcast. See you then!
016 : Alecia

016 : Alecia


Today I am talking to the completely amazing Alecia. If you've been watching Heist on Sky One you will probably recognise Alecia as the no-nonsense talking, highly skilled detective, but there's so much more to this military spouse than that. In this very open interview, Alecia shares her experiences of working as a police constable whilst her husband was deployed and how PTSD has affected their life since his return. We also get a behind the scenes look of the Heist, how she helps run Elite Air Imagery, and of course, her work to support families of Royal Marines also suffering with PTSD. This episode is jam-packed full of resilience and inspiration and is a must listen for any spouse who is living the military life. I really hope you enjoy it.
Today I’ve been chatting to some amazing women who have founded Strength Behind the Strong. Sharon, Emma and Vanessa are from the very first Military Wives Choirs in the BBC television show, The Choir with Gareth Malone. Together with a number of other military wives they volunteered their time and worked together to create the charity The Military Wives Choirs Foundation. A legacy of the success of the No.1 single ‘Wherever You Are’, the charity has gone on to support thousands of women in the military community signing in choirs. Now, led by Sharon, they are focused on bridging the gap in support of military wives and their families with Strength Behind the Strong. Strength Behind the Strong emerged out of a pursuit to inspire and support the community, and a desire for actions to speak louder than words. A desire to help women just like us in their everyday lives and in times of crisis.  I really hope you enjoy this very special episode.
Today I have been talking to Jo Milmine from Shiny Bees. Jo is a former RAF Aerospace Battle Manager who turned her love of knitting into a multi-award-winning podcast series. Since August 2012 Jo has hosted the Shiny Bees podcast, a show about knitting and yarn mixed with snippets of Jo's life and a lot of comedy goodness Originally started as a hobby to fill her time during a posting to Africa Jo built a location independent business to move wherever she was posted. She now records podcasts whilst traveling the world, and Shinybees was awarded ‘Best UK Podcast of 2016' at the New Media Europe Awards and ‘Most Engaged Audience of 2015' at the UK Podcast Awards. Jo also works as an online business strategist, helping creatives plan their businesses and so this episode is jam-packed with handy business tips, even if you never picked up some knitting needles. I loved chatting to Jo, she's funny, informative and so very inspiring so I hope you enjoy this episode with Jo Milmine from Shiny Bees.
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