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People around the world have begun to tune in on Sunday mornings to get their fix of Ameé Quiriconi's "punk rock meets mental health and parenting."One Broken Mom is an adult show and may contain adult language. The topics weave in and out of the world of childhood traumas & adversities, neuroscience and psychology as well as parenting, relationships, and self-improvement. ​Ameé has been able to speak with best-selling self-help authors like Dr. Jonice Webb, author of "Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect" as well as Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents," just to name a few. Her interview-based show are direct and honest conversations with leading therapists, researchers, and advocates in the areas of trauma, narcissistic abuse, relationships, suicide prevention, parenting, and co-dependency.The topics are serious but Ameé brings an entertaining balance of candor, boldness, empathy and even a sense of humor to each interview. From Gen X to Millennials, men and women, parents or not, people are listening, learning, loving, and sharing One Broken Mom.
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In this episode, Ameé speaks with Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, a top expert in how ADHD affects relationships, and an award-winning author.  She is the author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which was awarded "Best Psychological Book of 2010" by ForeWord Reviews.  Her latest book, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD, with Nancie Kohlenberger won three book awards, including best psychology book of 2014.Melissa has been writing and speaking about the topic since 2007, researching it since 2005.  She teaches couples, therapists, counselors, and coaches about how ADHD impacts relationships and offers private counseling to couples who wish to improve their ADHD-impacted relationships.  Her very popular couples seminar (by phone) has helped many struggling couples turn their relationships around.  Melissa blogs for Psychology Today, at this site, and guest writes for many others.   In this episode, you will hear:What is ADHD & how is it diagnosed in adultsThe surprising ways ADHD affects marriages and relationshipsRebuilding a relationship after ADHD has eroded itThe couple's seminar that is available for helpResources:https://www.adhdmarriage.com/The ADHD Effect on MarriageThe Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD
On this episode, Ameé has an amazing guest on the show. Dr. Carol Tavris's work as a writer, teacher, and lecturer has been devoted to educating the public about psychological science. Her book with Elliot Aronson, "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts" (revised edition, 2015, and most recently updated in 2020 with a new chapter--"Dissonance, Democracy, and the Demagogue"), applies cognitive dissonance theory to a wide variety of topics, including politics, conflicts of interest, memory, the criminal justice system, police interrogation, the daycare sex-abuse epidemic, family quarrels, international conflicts, and business. She speaks to many people on the topics of self-justification; science and pseudoscience in psychology; gender and sexuality; critical thinking; and anger. And on this episode, Ameé and Carol talk about cognitive dissonance, what it is and why we ALL tend to justify our actions, behaviors and beliefs, no matter what anybody tells us. In this episode, you will hear: A definition of Dissonance Theory and what it is The Pyramid of Choice that pushes people further apart over timeIdentify our pre-packaged blind spots and biases, in particular naive realism, and privilege Applying cognitive dissonance theory to all of the events of 2020, including Black Lives Matter, anti-racism, and the US Presidential electionsHow we can use social media differently if we know we really aren't going to change other people's minds & in fact, could be making matters worse How we can become more skeptical and more aware of our biases so that we can be sure we are on the right side of the coin that is truth and dishonesty  Resources:Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) Third Edition: Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful ActsAnger: The Misunderstood Emotion
Ameé has been an advocate for raising awareness about domestic violence, in part due to her personal experience with financial and emotional abuse.  While it seems help is just a phone call away for people in a domestic violence situation but there is also uncertainty of what happens when you do ask for help from strangers. And as we know from human behavior, we tend to chose the devil we know over the one we don’t. And so when we don’t understand how the resources work, we might be afraid to use them. That’s why this episode's guest is Ginny Ware, the Home Safe Program Director from New Beginnings – a Seattle area organization with a mission to empower survivors of domestic violence and to raise community aware and actions to end it. Ginny shares how these agencies and talks about what to expect when you contact them for help so that hopefully fewer people will be afraid to use them to help leave an abusive situation. In this episode, you will hear:Is there a threshold for when a person may reach out to get help with there situationWhat has changed in the service delivery for agencies like this during COVIDOverview of the services available for people in a domestic violence situationWhat happens when someone calls the 24-hour helplineHow can people support organizations like thisHow can domestic and gender-based violence be eliminated in our communitiesResourcesNew Beginnings Website 24-hour Help Line: 206.522.9472National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.7233Northwest Justice Project
In this episode, Ameé speaks with returning guest, Philadelphia based therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw.Liz has her own practice called A Better Life Therapy and specializes in working with couples around a variety of topics such as relationship issues, infidelity, divorce, intimacy and sexual issues, premarital counseling, and breakups. Ameé reached out to her to talk about people-pleasing. Having had some personal and professional experiences with people who went out of their way to over-commit themselves, never speak up and say how they really felt, and then watched them spiral into balls of anxiety, stress and depression as a result, Ameé wanted to find out more about why people-please in the first place. In this episode, you will hear:The definition of people-pleasingThe opposite of people-pleasingCommon traits and behaviors of people-pleasersHow attachment styles impact our tendencies to say No or Yes to peopleThe particular dangers for people-pleasers and abusive relationshipsResources:Liz's Website: https://abetterlifetherapy.com/
Recently, the U.S. Department of Justice decided to drop the appeal on a 2018 Detroit ruling that overturned the federal ban on Female Genital Mutilation (FGM).  For girls at risk of FGM, this federal ruling has put them in great jeopardy because it sent a signal to supporters of FGM that the practice is allowed, and the violence against girls, mostly around 7-8 years old in age continues. Therefore, it’s up to the states to outlaw the practice. What is female genital mutilation? Why is it practiced? How prevalent is it really? FGM is a human rights issue and is a form of gender-based violence and sexual violence against children. And it does not just happen in “other countries” or specific religions. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control, an estimated 513,000 women and girls have undergone or are at risk of FGM in the United States, including girls in families of both Christian and Muslim faiths. Survivors of this horrifying practice rarely come forward due to the taboo nature of the practice and the backlash survivors endure at the hands of their own family and community. The practice is not about religion but about upholding patriarchy and is misogynistic control over women and girls. On this episode, Ameé speaks with Maryum Saifee, a former U.S. Diplomat, FGM survivor and advocate who is speaking out against the practice of female genital mutilation. And in her words, FGM is simply child sexual assault with a sharp object and conversations need to be had to normalize talking about it so that the practice can be stopped. Sign the Petition to make Female Genital Mutilation illegal in Washington State:https://www.change.org/p/washington-state-legislators-female-genital-mutilation-is-an-american-issue-states-need-to-protect-girls-and-ban-fgm Resources:Sahiyo: https://sahiyo.com/2020/02/05/voices-series-survivors-are-more-than-their-stories/US Network to End FGM/C - https://endfgmnetwork.org/Dahlia Project: http://www.dahliaproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/1924_Female_Genital_Trauma_Report_Web.pdf
On this episode, Ameé speaks with Emily Stroia. Emily is a personal mentor for women, meditation teacher, author and speaker. When Ameé first had a chance to speak with Emily, she said something that actually made her skin tingle. And that was when Emily’s abusive father passed away a few months ago, Emily’s first thoughts were peace, not sadness. This is not uncommon but yet people don’t feel safe sharing that or even understanding it. Some in our culture demand empathy and compassion for all, and that an abuse victim is not allowed to feel or express anything other than that. But, that line of thought invalidates the real and honest feelings that come with finally being set free from a person who challenged your sense of safety and self worth. And so bringing that subject up and out of the dark, so that we can hopefully remove the shame and stigma of this topic. Resources: Into the Light by Emily Stroia, Into the Light is a story of healing from loss, trauma and darkness told through poetry. It explores spirituality, meditation, intuition and personal exploration.http://emilystroia.com/
Suicide is a national problem in the United States. Well over 40,000 people die by suicide every year, including adults and children. In those numbers are over 6,000 military veterans, most of them male. When the rates are adjusting for population differences in age and sex, in 2017, veterans died by suicide 1.5 times more than non-veterans.  This week Ameé speaks with Army vet Jonah Maddox, who has been outspoken about his own struggles with PTSD, alcohol addiction, anxiety, and suicide ideation. He shares his story and what he believes the civilian community needs to know and do to help reduce suicides in the veteran community beyond doing things like the Push-Up Challenge. If you are a veteran looking for support, type in “Veteran Service Officer near me” into your web search browser (Google or Bing, for example) to find the one closest to you.  Or click the links below. From the American Legion website: “Accredited American Legion service officers are specially trained to provide expert assistance, free of charge, to veterans and their families. While the majority of a service officer’s work involves application for VA disability benefits, these compassionate professionals also provide information, referrals and resources on education, employment and business, death benefits and other important topics.”Lifeline for Vets WebsiteList of Veteran Service Officers by StateU.S. Department of Veteran Affairs – Directory of Veterans Service OrganizationsThe American Legion – VSO SearchMake the Connection - provides information about life experiences you can relate to. You also can explore information about signs, symptoms, and conditions that are related to mental health and well-being.Veterans of Foreign WarsDisabled American Veterans (DAV)  Other Resources:Jonah’s Instagram AccountThe Push-Up Challenge Video - https://www.instagram.com/tv/CDgZ0t6DXXp/Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger
This week, Ameé speaks with motivational speaker, suicide prevention advocate and pediatrician  Dr. Uchenna Umeh. Known as “Dr. Lulu” to her pediatric patients, she is also the author of How to Teach Your Children About Racism: A Letter From A Black Mother to White Parent and added “TEDx Speaker” to her impressive list of accomplishments. In this episode, she tells Ameé why she quit her regular practice to become a full-time teen suicide prevention advocate. She also describes what her life is like as a black mother with three sons and the role racism, LGBTQ, and bullying play into reasons why children kill themselves.  In this episode you will hear:What are the reasons why teens kill themselves?ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and SuicideGenerational trauma and epigeneticsLGBTQ Teens and Suicide ratesPeer Pressure or suicide contagionThe problem with treating a child’s depression without treating the environment they are inBeing a black mother and racism todayThe things we CAN do to prevent a suicidal child from killing themselves #staywithmyson #silencekills #talksaveslives #bethe1to #endteendepression #endteensuicide #askdoctorlulu Resources:https://www.teenalive.com/https://www.facebook.com/uchenna.umeh.9https://www.bethe1to.com/https://afsp.org/
On this episode, Ameé speaks with Michelle Anhang, a coach and suicide survivor, and hears her story of grief and healing after the death of her husband by suicide. Unlike some of the other survivor stories told on One Broken Mom, Michelle shares with everyone the decision to keep the truth behind her husband’s death a secret from everyone, including her children, for over ten years and the toll it ultimately took on her. In this show, you will hear: An overview of Bipolar Disorder and Schizophrenia?The overwhelming statistics regarding suicide in the United StatesThe reasons behind keeping her husband’s suicide a secretThe impacts and consequences of keeping the secret for so longTalking with her children about mental illness and their father’s suicideHer journey to coaching and working with othersResources:Website: https://www.michelleanhangcoaching.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michelleanhangcoaching/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleanhangcoaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-anhang/https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/
Ameé welcomes to the show Richa Badami. Richa is a healer, author and survivor of father-daughter sexual abuse. Born and raised in India, Richa shares her reasons for why it would take her years to get treatment and overcome the damage from her abuse due in large part to cultural taboos within her community. She has detailed this journey in her memoir, “Coming Home to the Heart” and for the first time since she’s published her book, she tells her full story out loud. She talks about many things including her thoughts of suicide, shame, and even rejection from the psychologists at her University to help her heal from her abuse because the subject was too taboo for even them to want to involve themselves. But like many guests on the show, Richa is fighter and found a path to healing that is connected with her spiritual beliefs as well as the use of Eastern-based practices. Resources: https://richabadami.com/Click Here to Sign Up for the FREE Freedom from Trauma Summit: https://summit.richabadami.com/speaker/ameequiriconi/
Today’s guest was introduced to Ameé originally through an old high school friend who ran across her products while shopping in New Orleans. At that time, Ameé was wrapping up Season 2 and put the idea in her back pocket for Season 3. Well then a funny thing happened – Ameé and her guest, who happen to live and do business in the same small Washington town, both end up on a Zoom call discussing an open letter and call to action in the wake of George Floyd’s murder this year and the #BlackLivesMatter movement.  And that’s when Ameé said to herself, “Okay – the Universe has linked us together twice now. We gotta do this!” So, today you will meet Lacie Marsh Carroll – the owner and founder of the Malicious Women Company who makes such amazing candles like “Shit Show.” “I’m sorry my Kid is the Reason You Drink” and “Anxiety Girl.” In this episode you hear how she became an accidental entrepreneur and why she started her business after life dealt her some tremendous blows. Lacie blends business with mental health awareness activism, specifically suicide and suicide prevention awareness.Resources:https://maliciouswomenco.com/https://www.facebook.com/MaliciousWomenCandleCohttps://www.instagram.com/maliciouswomenco/https://www.pinterest.com/MaliciousWomen/
To celebrate One Broken Mom's 100th episode, Ameé brings a special guest and the number one favorite for listeners back to celebrate the occasion.Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and the follow up, "Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents"  She also writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine. In the past she has served as an adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, Virginia.In this episode, Ameé and Lindsay to talk about her first book, published 20 years ago that she has just re-issued aptly titled “Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Recovering Your Life’s Purpose."Resources:Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Life's PurposeRecovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional AutonomyAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
In this episode, Ameé speaks with persuasion scientist and author, Dr. Christophe Morin. Christophe is the co-author of the book The Persuasion Code and CEO at Sales Brain, the first of its kind "neuromarketing" agency that uses the science to help businesses achieve better results with their marketing and advertising. Ameé had an opportunity to meet Christophe in 2019 when she attended one of his 2-day workshops and invited him to speak with her about how the brain makes decisions - because it's not well known that our rational, conscious thoughts are rarely driving our decision-making process. And in the context of current times, having a better understanding of how messaging in mainstream and social media is impacting us at a primal level, revealing this information may be very important to many people. In this episode, you will hear:What parts of the brain are stimulated during our decision-makingHow fear drives our decisions, even if we don't think that's what's happeningHow biases short-cut our thinking processesHow to make us persuasion-proof against being overwhelmed by fear-based messagingResources:https://www.salesbrain.com/The Persuasion Code 
On this episode, Ameé speaks with Michael Anthony. Michael is an author, mentor, and advocate for adult survivors of child abuse, trauma, and CPTSD. Growing up as a biracial child with racist family members, abused by drug-addicted parents, and battling his own addictions, Michael found a way to turn his life around and now his not just a trauma survivor but a Trauma Warrior, on a mission to help others do the same. In 2019, he published his book Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, and has developed workshops and coaching based on his approach to healing.  In this episode, you will hear: The trauma of racism and growing up bi-racialCutting off toxic family membersMichael’s “Mirror Moment” The importance of being accountable for changing your lifeIs forgiveness actually necessary to heal or should it be earnedWhat it means to “Think Unbroken” and Michael’s approach of “Mindset over Everything” for helping others Resources:https://www.thinkunbroken.com/Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma by Michael AnthonyMichael on InstagramMichael on YouTubeMichael on Facebook
On this week’s episode, Ameé speaks with resilience expert, TEDx speaker, and lecturer Dr. Ronda Beaman. Over her career, Ronda has been Professor of the Year at three universities, and her family was named America’s Most Creative Family by USA Today!But here’s another fun fact: She has appeared on "Don't Forget the Lyrics" with Wayne Brady. And her crowning achieve was that she did not know the third verse of "Sweet Home Alabama!" Who knew there was a third verse? But she did remember Tommy James and the Shondell's "I Think We're Alone Now."When not appearing on game shows, Dr. Ronda Beaman is Chief Creative Officer at PEAK Learning and a Clinical Professor at The Graduate School of Business, California Polytechnic University.Her award-winning book, You're Only Young Twice: 10 Do-Overs to Reawaken Your Spirit, has been printed in five languages. And she also her memoir, Little Miss Merit Badge, which is a humorous account of her achievement addiction and the childhood hijinks employed to thrive in an unusual family. In this episode, you will hear: The four dimensions of our behaviors & thoughts that determine how well we will deal with an adversity?Why someone people respond differently to difficult situation than othersHow can someone become more “adversity resistant” What role our sense of fulfillment plays into how well we handle adversity Why who we surround yourself and how they impact your abilities to harness adversity Resourceshttps://www.peaklearning.com/Adversity Quotient: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities by Paul Stoltz Little Miss Merit Badge: A MemoirYou're Only Young Twice: 10 Do-Overs to Reawaken Your Spirit
Today’s episode comes from a listener to the show who wrote to Ameé ask if she had any resources for men who have been abused by their mothers. He then shared that he has been researching on his own and can’t find anything on the topic. During her research, Ameé found today’s guest, Dr. Joe Kort.  Joe is a Detroit area-based Psychotherapist, life coach, author, and podcaster who specializes in tackling the taboo as well as the norms about our sexual health. Visit www.ameequiriconi to subscribe or ask a question.In this episode, you will hear: The taboos and societal messages responsible for the lack of information and resources for survivors of mother-son incest Understanding how women can tip the scales and assault men or their sons Understanding the differences between covert and overt abuseHow to make room in society for men to share their abuse experiencesThe resources available for men who have been abused by women and/or their mothersResources: Mother-Son Incest: The Unthinkable Broken Taboo, An Overview of Findings by Hani MiletskiThe Center for Relationship and Sexual Healthhttp://joekort.com/https://smartsexsmartlove.com/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201704/mommy-nearest?#_=_https://malesurvivor.org/index.php
In the episode, Ameé speaks with return guest, Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical Psychologist and the author of the book Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression. In this episode, you will hear:How Margaret began to link perfectionism with depression and not anxietyThe links between perfectionism and suicideThe definition of depression Is all perfectionism depression The difference between having a sense of pride and feelings of accomplishment around being successful and achievements versus something unhealthy The Five Stage Process for healing & addressing PHD Resources:I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrance RealPerfectionism: A Relational Approach to Conceptualization, Assessment, and Treatment Paul L. Hewitt (Author), Gordon L. Flett (Author), Samuel F. Mikail (Author) www.drmargaretrutherford.comThe SelfWork Podcast
In Part 2, Ameé continues her conversation with Craig Miller, an award-winner author, speaker and advocate for suicide awareness and prevention.  After self-publishing his memoir, This is How it Feels, in July of 2012, Craig joined The Massachusetts Coalition for Suicide Prevention and began speaking out about his suicide attempt and his battles with mental health issues. Since then, he has shared his story with hundreds of people, speaking at bookstores, charity events, and public events as well as at The Massachusetts Suicide Prevention Conference. He has also written blogs for The American Association of Suicidology’s Attempt Survivor Blog. Most recently, he has joined Growing Out of Darkness as the organization’s Program Director. Craig’s insight into his mental health issues and the steps he took to overcome them has not only helped those who also struggle, but it has provided valuable information to professionals in the mental health field as well. In January, 2013 Craig gave a filmed interview where he talks in depth about these areas. This interview has been used in a training program for mental health clinicians and is planned to be rolled out nationwide. He is also going to be featured in an upcoming document called “The ‘S’ Word” that aims to change the landscape of suicide prevention and awareness. In this episode, you will hear:The suicide of his own mother in 2019When suicide conversations should begin with childrenPrograms he's involved with in suicide prevention and awareness Resources:Amazon link for book “This is How it Feels” Craig’s Websitehttps://theswordmovie.com/ DocumentaryGrowing Out of Darkness Website
Ameé speaks with Craig Miller, an award-winner author, speaker and advocate for suicide awareness and prevention.  After self-publishing his memoir, This is How it Feels, in July of 2012, Craig joined The Massachusetts Coalition for Suicide Prevention and began speaking out about his suicide attempt and his battles with mental health issues. Since then, he has shared his story with hundreds of people, speaking at bookstores, charity events, and public events as well as at The Massachusetts Suicide Prevention Conference. He has also written blogs for The American Association of Suicidology’s Attempt Survivor Blog. Most recently, he has joined Growing Out of Darkness as the organization’s Program Director. Craig’s insight into his mental health issues and the steps he took to overcome them has not only helped those who also struggle, but it has provided valuable information to professionals in the mental health field as well. In January, 2013 Craig gave a filmed interview where he talks in depth about these areas. This interview has been used in a training program for mental health clinicians and is planned to be rolled out nationwide. He is also going to be featured in an upcoming document called “The ‘S’ Word” that aims to change the landscape of suicide prevention and awareness. In this episode, you will hear:Craig’s personal story of mental illness and OCDWhy as a child, he kept his ‘secret’His suicide attemptWhat changed that saved his life Resources:Amazon link for book “This is How it Feels” Craig’s Websitehttps://theswordmovie.com/ DocumentaryGrowing Out of Darkness Website
Marriage vows are being tested worldwide as we are in the midst of a global pandemic that has forced billions of people to stay home. In addition, in the US, we are at 30 million people, unemployed and millions of children trying to school from home by parents emotionally unequipped to take on a burden while they themselves are trying to make sense of their own worlds, fears and concerns. Right now – many people are seeing perhaps where their greatest strengths are in their partners as well as their weaknesses. People are probably questioning their choices and wondering what to do next once the world re-opens. The traditional marriage vows we are all familiar with date back to the Book of Common Prayer, originally printed in 1549 which say "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death us depart." But how would we know if this person your are dating or married to is really the one, for example, you can be locked up in a house with for two to three months during a pandemic? That’s why Ameé has back on today Dr. Stan Tatkin – couples expert and author of many books including Wired For Love and Wired for Dating to talk about his book We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love.  In this episode, you will hear: How our unseen fears may be impacting our relationshipHow attachment affects our style of relating to one anotherHow to “Sherlock” any potential candidatesWhy a “mission statement” is important for a couple or a person Resources:Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a SecureWired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal MateWe Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love  Dr. Stan Tatkin’s Website
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Day Guzman

Dear Ameé Quiriconi THANK YOU!!! One Broken Mom is literally divine intervention and an answer to my prayers. Keep in mind my comment is solely based on your intro and browsing through the episode titles. Thanks

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