Courtship Code

Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive.  This is the opposite of what you actually want, right? Right. This behavior causes drama, pushes the man away, and prematurely ends promising relationships that could lead to deeper commitment. Instead, focus your love lens on you. In this episode you will learn the importance of not changing a man and how it can improve the quality of your life and self-love. Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com  

Want to attract commitment yet find yourself feeling burnout, in situationships or breakups? If you find yourself anxiously overthinking then your relationship patterns are sabotaging your relationship success. In this episode we explore the biggest gap in your courtship and dating process, the commitment bridge. You will learn why you have a difficult time crossing the bridge to commitment, why women with an anxious attachment more often are in kinda-sorta relationships AKA situation ships and what to do about it, and what steps and tools you can use to keep you grounded during the courtship process so you no longer attach and instead move towards commitment with your guy, side by side. To learn more about the New Love Loft VIP day experience email, "VIP" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram To get the New Free training and learn out to cross the commitment bridge and break cycles of burnout, breakups, and situationships email, "5 STEPS" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you. Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and become needy, clingy, or combative and unintentionally push the man away or try to control the courtship process in order to speed things up and get the commitment you desire. This is a fast track to ruining the path to commitment. When you are on the bridge of trust as we teach in CCC you must stop repeating past relationship patterns, allow yourself to fully connect with a man's heart, and navigate the courtship process with intention so the bridge feels safe to cross for both parties. This will help you attract love. On today's episode we're discussing how high achieving women can manage anxious attachment during the courtship process and let go of trying to control the process. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and deepen emotional connections that lead to a healthy relationship. As a woman, your feminine essence is your superpower. It allows you to influence, create safety, and captivate a man's heart effortlessly. Knowing how to tap into your super in a way that is purely authentic, heart-centered, and connected to your core will ground you in your worth and make you even more attractive to the best relationship for you. When you are reacting out of fear of hurt, guarded, or treating relationships transactionally you won't create the healthy, loving connection you desire with a man. This is Wounded Princess Energy. Potential partners won't be able to deny this aspect of your authentic value when you can fearlessly communicate and connect from your heart as the Captivating Queen you are. In this episode you will learn how to communicate and connect with a man's heart and how you can empower yourself through your feminine essence to transform your love life and all of your relationships. ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15-22. GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW. www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve. Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you deserve in a relationship, you will never have the type of relationship you deserve, even if you attract commitment. When you decide to settle, you train yourself on a subconscious level to believe you are not worthy or deserving of what your heart and soul truly desires for your love life. You can have the relationship your heart craves. You must simply decide it's inevitable and do the work required to make it happen now. In this episode you will learn the key steps to stop selling yourself on settling and get on the path to the relationship you deserve. ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW ⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠ Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process. Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet, if you have been single for some times or newly broken-up the stress of uncertainty and lack of control over the outcomes in your love life may cause you to react to situations in a way that's the total opposite of your true relationship desires. This is why getting to the root of burnout so that you don't avoid, shutdown, or make emotionally reactive decisions with potential partners can quickly transform this feeling and put you on the path to enjoying courtship, better dating experiences, and believing in love again. In this episode we discuss why you are feeling burnt out, what to do about it, and steps to burnout around moving forward. JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE: ⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠ Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner. The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options, without overthinking. By using the map, you have a simple plan to prioritize where to meet men starting with a broad approach and narrowing in. We cover online dating, conferences, long distance relationships and more with this simple approach. This way you never have to second guess where to start or feel a drought in your love life, especially during cuffing season. The Love Links strategy is at the perfect companion to your Love Loops, to make it easy to navigate the relationship market according to your relationship patterns. We provide you with the best tools and approach to meeting potential partners according to your specific Love Loops, to make dating and courtship work with you and decrease any resistance you may have to moving your love life forward. Take notes and listen now. Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code opens September 15th. Get on the Waitlist Now https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire. In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe Love Loop and the pros and cons of their particular relationship pattern. We discuss the secret to LoveMes getting their emotional needs met, increasing vulnerability and communication, and stepping into their most powerful authentic selves. You will also learn 3 simply keys to no longer shrink during the courtship process so you can get your wants and needs met. CCC FALL ENROLLMENT OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve. All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you desire and deserve. When you don't believe you are enough and that you can actually have the relationship you deserve, you will settle and find yourself feeling anxious and insecure with the men you meet. These behaviors also trickle into your personal and work relationships, resulting in experiences and relationships that don't allow you to feel safe and valued. You can turn this around. You deserve to break this loop and have the relationship of your dreams and deepest, and most authentic desires. If you have the Trophy relationship pattern this episode is dedicated to you. Listen now. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs, feelings, and actions that keeps them in the loop. Some are more difficult to break than others. Yet, they all can make courtship and dating hard, disappointing, and disempowering. By knowing your Love Loops and how to break them you can learn to navigate the dating and courtship process with confidence, clarity, and intention so that you can manifest the life and relationship you desire. In this episode, we discuss the 8 Love Loops with a brief breakdown of each of the different relationship patterns. We also dive into how Love Loops are formed, why you need to break them, and the 6 key steps of the Captivating Courtship Code that will help you break them faster. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Worthy Monthly Membership ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ The Captivating Courtship Code coaching https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist

In this episode we discuss how you can take the leap to captivating courtship this year. Zara opens up about challenges, pivots, and changes needed in order to create the most aligned vision and ways to assist women transform their relationship patterns so they can improve the quality of their love life and attract a healthy relationship. You will learn about new programs, services, and coaching options available to assist you with the most important aspects of the dating and courtship process so that you can quickly and easily take your love life to the next level. Links discussed in this episode: FREE Love Loops Roadmap: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Reading: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/3nEoRN8Q Worthy Women Community https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist The Captivating Courtship Code: https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching The Love Loft private coaching: https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? This episode is a special live coaching episode that dives into questions about making the decision to heal and prepare for marriage instead of waiting until you are in the marriage and working with your spouse to heal from past trauma. We discuss the impact itself -esteem and self-worth on your ability to attract a healthy relationship, along with thoughts around having to choose between being single and focusing on travel and career vs focusing on finding a spouse and getting married. Links mentioned in this episode: Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman Monthly Membership: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match call: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Join the next open coaching call: Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that. In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualities that she can't find in other men around her. But as she digs deeper, she realizes that she's not open to receiving those qualities from other men because she got hurt the last time she did. She also realizes that if men don't show up for her right from the beginning, she tends to lose interest and doesn't give them a chance to open up later on. This points her toward a much deeper issue: her own emotional unavailability. If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving. This often proves to be difficult because we come from a place of fear, distrust, judgment, and guarded emotions. It’s crucial to focus your mind and energy on the type of relationship you envision for yourself. In coaching with Zara, this woman reaches the conclusion that in interfaith dating, when you’re not operating in your authentic values and boundaries, things will often take unexpected turns. She realizes while processing that her key takeaway from this coaching class was just this. Determining her own authentic values because if your values are fluctuating depending on who you’re in front of, it is an indicator that you’re not operating to your full authentic worth. Take a cup of coffee and dive into this episode to process your perspective on interfaith relationships and getting over exes as you listen to this coaching episode unfold. Time Stamps for this episode: 00:00 - Introduction 00:29 - How to push past missing your ex 1:15 - What about her ex she still misses 2:50 - Not seeing the same in other men 3:30 - Believe in finding that in other men 4:12 - On not being open to receiving 5:45 - It is possible to become available even after breaking up 7:00 - Unravelling emotional unavailability 9:30 - If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving 11:55 - Honing down on the desired type of relationship 12:45 - Overcoming challenges in interfaith relationships 16:30 - What she felt was unfair 22:40 - Fear of putting herself in the same situation again 23:10 - Exercises in CCC, on guilt and shame 24:35 - Believing that you can make decisions more in alignment with yourself 25:05 - Committing to your vision of love 28:00 - Dealing with guilt: an example 32:10 - Her takeaway: determining her values 33:14 - Interfaith relationship advice Links mentioned in this episode: Register for the next open coaching session: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuceuuqz4iGN25FmjmYSe2jR4nKQr8QPCu Attract Your Match Game Plan Call www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere. Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusing solely on the outcome. This will lead to being in cycles of non-committal relationships, investing in emotionally unavailable men or toxic, narcissistic men, and hot & cold relationships. In doing this, endless time is wasted hoping for a man to commit and come around. The problem lies in how much we value our time and when we don’t value our time, how can we expect anyone else to value it? If you want love, trust, emotional connection, stability, and a partner who is authentically aligned to your personal and professional life, you have to be confident about their commitment level and you don’t have the time to waste it on convincing them to prove your worth to a man or relationship that makes you feel insecure and doubtful. High-achieving women almost always face pressure to succeed in all areas of life - career, relationships, personal commitments, and simultaneous pressure to not be weak through all of this. The obvious result is stress and stress leads them to complicate relationships and over-extend themselves physically, emotionally, and even financially. You must practice getting out of your mind and into your body, heart, and gut. Your gut is your feminine intuition and that is your superpower in the courtship and dating journey. Pay attention to whether he is using language that includes you in his future plans. Is he consistent in his investment in you? Is he respectful of the boundaries that you create or is he breaching them? It is also on you to not just create but also keep these boundaries irrespective of who comes and goes. When you spend more time reflecting on your relationship patterns and experiences, you will see long-term authentic shifts in the quality of your life and relationships. Take a deep dive into this episode to gain valuable insight into the hows and whys of not wasting your time in nowhere relationships. Time Stamps in this episode: 00:00 - Introduction 2:15 - Shifts you see once you start the inner work 4:13 - Storytime! 7:30 - Why CCC does not have scripts 12:40 - Commitment readiness 12:50 - Long-distance courtship 13:50 - Attention is not intention 14:04 - Story 2 15:55 - What often happens in Long Distance Relationships 17:52 - Learning to value your own time 20:13 - Story 3 22:17 - Are you prepared to move? 23:52 - You don’t have time to waste 25:00 - Investing time in a relationship that makes you doubtful 26:52 - 3 Shifts to Attract Commitment 27:12 - Getting out of your mind and into your body 28:18 - The process of attracting low-value relationships 31:12 - Solutions to turn this around! 31:30 - 1. Pay attention to his future plans 32:34 - 2. Is he consistent? 34:29 - 3. Making high-quality relationship decisions 35:32 - 4. Setting and keeping boundaries for the standard you deserve 37:13 - 5. Expressing your needs, desires, and expectations in courtship 38:37 - 6. Spend more time in reflection 40:36 - Surround yourself with a community of women 44:00 - Conclusion Links mentioned in this episode: 3 Shifts To Avoid Wasting Your Time And Attract The Commitment You Desire S6E13 https://captivatingcourtship.com/3-shifts-to-stop-wasting-time-and-attract-commitment-s6e13/ Attract Your Match Game Plan Call www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship. Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never been safe for a woman, especially women of color to be seen and heard. We grow with generational trauma and triggers that severely impact our understanding and expression of our most authentic selves. It is not unexpected then, that we develop the idea that we have to shrink ourselves in order to be loved, valued, and respected. If we don’t, we fear that there will be rejection and abandonment. Many women are what we would call, modern traditionalists. Women who have worked hard to create a completely modern life but the values they hold are traditional. In that case, a traditional or an anti-traditional man can again force us to shrink our boundaries, needs, and wants. If we don’t, there comes the fear of rejection again. However, although this may come across as contradictory, the truth is you can have both - balancing modernity and traditional values. Navigating the complexities of courtship can be challenging but the real problem is not external. It is the self-doubt, the insecurity of being too successful and still not being enough, it is the disbelief in the ability to have a fulfilling relationship. This happens because we place our value in external things like our home-making skills or our sex appeal or mostly, our accomplishments. The solution to this? Setting boundaries in courtship and embracing your most, authentic self, placing your value in your growth. The end goal here is overcoming self-doubt in dating, and owning your value in courtship because if you don’t, humility can keep you in a loop of compromise. Inner-work for successful women isn’t easy as you must challenge the beliefs that come up and question your worthiness, making you want to hold back and shrink but this reprogramming of how you show up in a relationship is the most important takeaway from today’s episode. Listen now! Time stamps for this episode: 00:00 - Introduction 1:33 - On Lifestyle Shifting 11:18 - Storytime! 15:55 - Is it okay to not be heard? 17:08 - Generational impacts of trauma 19:03 - Wanting to be enough 19:22 - Modern traditionalist in relationships 21:55 - Trophy partners and the problem with looking at them as a prize 24:48 - The reason why humility does not serve successful women in dating and courtship 26:58 - Problem 1: Self-doubt and insecurity in your own worth and value Problem 2: Fear of rejection and abandonment 30:35 - The solution to these two problems 32:00 - Embracing Your Authentic Self in Courtship 33:30 - Honoring and enforcing your boundaries 35:42 - Reclaiming Your Worth: Ending the Cycle of Settling for Less in Relationships 36:53 - The changes you will notice once you start the inner-work 37:47- 5 Tips for Cultivating Self-Worth: Building Confidence to Pursue a Fulfilling Courtship 37:53 - 1. Identify & challenge limiting beliefs 39:32 - 2. Create new routines 40:30 - 3. Work on building effective communication skills 41:45 - 4. Practicing sharing and communicating with a community of women 47:17 - 5. Prioritizing and Investing in personal development and growth 49:00 - Accelerating your courtship process 49:41 - Humility - the virtue that can become a vice 50:00 - Conclusion Links Mentioned in This Episode: Attract Your Match Game Plan Call www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast! If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is because there is somewhere in you a lack of confidence in your own ability to feel valued, loved, and respected. There is thus a high level of urgency and you don’t trust any man, no matter how valuable to take his time to make the decision to commit to you. The problem, to begin with, is ourselves. If we don’t truly believe in the value we bring to the table, how can we expect to be able to qualify a man? This could look like a disaster, but these human mistakes need action. You need clarity to first know and then own your authentic value, you need to open up your social circles and tap those social resources for your courtship process too to meet these valuable men around you (believe us when we say there are plenty). You have to very necessarily take the effort to go through the courtship process in a way that is intentional and will lead to commitment. This is where knowing how to get courted, and stepping back into your feminine energy comes into the picture. It’s not a rule but this is why at Captivating Courtship, we focus on getting to know how men think and their perspective in commitment psychology. It truly could be life-changing for your courtship process. The Love Loft is a tool that has the power to transform your framework, shake and reconstruct your belief system and most importantly get you commitment-ready so you can meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men. Take a plunge into this insightful episode and know what not to do when you’re trying to court for commitment! Time Stamps For This Episode: 00:00 - Introduction 1:55 - Comparison is the thief of joy 2:50 - Why you deserve an authentically aligned partner 4:04 - Importance of understanding commitment ready levels 5:00 - Mistakes 3&4 introduction 5:13 - 2 processes to help attract quality men 7:00 - There actually are valuable commitment-ready men around 7:20 - Importance of understanding the way he thinks 9:44 - High-achieving women vs high-achieving men 13:08 - What a man truly wants 16:27 - The 4 big problems 21:00 - The Love Loft Introduction 21:54 - The signature 6-Step Process 22:03 - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs 23:13 - Attracting from a place of distrust 23:40 - Helping you embody the Queen energy 24:15 - Helping you to meet men 24:57 - Knowing how to move through a courtship that ends up in commitment 25:08 - Getting grounded in your favorite energy 25:38 - Make commitment decisions & conversations 26:36 - The Love Loft - A deeper look 30:00 - Conclusion Links Mentioned in This Episode: Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself. A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily. There are cold guys, warm ones, and hot guys. Cold guys are inconsistent, rejecting, and emotionally unavailable. You only attract the hot & ready ones when you yourself are self-secure and fully commitment ready. There can be endless debate on the third type of guy - the warm guy. Warm guys who are valuable and ready to explore are tough to decipher. Not courted with intent and knowledge, warm guys can even turn cold. Then there are men who are valuable and warm but they’re not commitment-ready. Many women get stuck in these grey spaces with valuable and warm guys who they think are hot guys. The underlying truth is you can’t expect every man you meet to be “The One”. We are actively working in the Captivating Courtship Code to break these stereotypes. The common thing about all three types of guys is: they come to teach you. You must be open to receiving and learning from each man you meet. The more experience you gain, the more value you show up with, in the ultimate relationship that later turns into a successful and valuable marriage. Dive into this episode to learn about the three types of men, three things that could happen when you meet these men, and what you can do when you meet a warm, valuable guy. Time Stamps for the episode: 00:00 - Introduction 1:40 - What is a commitment? 2:10 - Check-In with Yourself 4:00 - You have to be able to receive a commitment 4:33 - Three Types of Guys 10:20 - What to expect from guys in the relationship market? 14:02 - Every man you meet is not going to be your husband 15:18 - 3 things that could happen when you get out there and meet men 16:55 - More on the 3 types of men| 20:20 - How Warm Guys Are Different 22:28 - Conclusion Links Mentioned In This Episode: Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men. Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable.  It became clear they had no real idea how to identify a man of value and how to focus their energy on being courted by them. Even if they had attracted these types of men in the past, they didn’t actually know why they attracted them, or how to meet more men they actually desire to partner with. The big problem for these women, and maybe even you, is that valuable men meet women with the same accolades often. Women who are successful, educated, and attractive. That’s not enough to feel emotionally moved to commit. You must understand the psychology of commitment. Why they want to commit to a woman and how the process of commitment works so the relationship naturally and authentically moves in that direction, or you will find yourself in hot-cold relationships and situationships. Two important things women need to consider: Valuable men want women like you and there are lots of valuable men available, right now. Today's podcast breaks it down and provides a clear understanding and perspective of the shifts necessary to focus your energy on valuable men so that you can attract the types of men you deserve. Time Stamps for this episode: 00:00 - Introduction 3:15 - Not attracting commitment 4:15 - What is a valuable man? 7:21 - Building an authentic connection 7:30 - Logical Attraction 9:00 - How successful women will sometimes fear a valuable man's circle of influence 9:35 - Accolades aren't enough to move a man to commit 10:13 - Not understanding commitment psychology 10:35 - Do you believe you're worthy of a valuable relationship or do you question it? 11:11 - You are already worthy enough to attract a valuable partner 11:49 - Successful women are often the first of their kind 14:15 - How you will notice shifts in your life once you start working on yourself 15:25 - Holding the initial interest beyond the initial desire 15:57 - Low value thoughts and emotions arising in courtship 17:00 - Valuable men actually want women like you 17:42 - What makes a valuable man feel supported? 19:42 - You already have the qualities that you value in someone else 21:26 - The odds are in your favor 22:07 - Envisioning life with a valuable partner 23:00 - Attract Your Match Game Plan Call 23:26 - Two reasons you're not attracting commitment ready men 24:00 - Conclusion Links mentioned in this episode: Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan call www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Take Assessment to Discover Your Path to Love www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship Apply to coaching www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Questions? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship

You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep. Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like many other women in this community did. When you repeat the same actions and expect different results, you disappoint yourself and get stuck in the Loop of Distrust. However, changing your courtship actions and decisions can be a first step to having valuable relationships with a man worthy of your time and effort. This episode gives us a quick and impressionable glance at 6 courtship mistakes made by successful women like you and how you can correct them. Tune right in and click on the link below for a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call which will guide you with actionable steps on starting your courtship journey right. Time Stamps For This Episode: 00:00 - Introduction 1:25 - Envisioning Valuable Men 4:02 - Spending more time living your vision 5:00 - Making different courtship decisions 7:40 - Shifting the focus of your energy 8:59 - First Mistake 9:52 - Quality men vs Valuable men 11:01 - Second Mistake 12:07 - Third Mistake 13:07 - Fourth Mistake 14:30 - 5 Steps for commitment 15:08 - Fifth Mistake 16:19 - Sixth Mistake 17:30 - Conclusion: Attract Your Match Game Plan Call Links Mentioned In This Episode: Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process? This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your relationships and your love life. In this episode, Zara J. interviews Jasmine Filiatrault, who is an ER Nurse and a specialist on Hormonal Health and Relationships, who takes us on a journey of how her mother had Endometriosis, her struggles with her cycles as a young woman and how she discovered the path to feminine wellness. We learn about hormonal health, PMS, uterus alchemy, period cramps, birth control methods, their pros and cons AND fertility which is a concern to many women listening to this podcast because you’re looking to start a family or you see commitment and marriage in your future plans! Take away life changing knowledge and tips from this enlightening episode of Captivating Courtship Podcast. LISTEN NOW! Time-Stamps for the Episode: 0:00 - Intro 2:58 - Jasmine’s background and life 4:12 - Jasmine’s painful period cramps, is that normal? 4:32 - What happened to her body on birth control pills 7:07 - Birth Control stopped, IUD started 14:26 - Why do doctors insist on other solutions outside hormonal balance and nutrition? 17:55 - Jasmine specializing in hormonal health 19:05 - Women pick better partners, make better decisions when not on birth control 19:35 - Certification in Australia 21:25 - Do we inherit period/hormonal issues from our mothers? 24:02 - Over-working out 25:55 - Why is hormonal health something that matters? 30:26 - What is one of the biggest misconceptions some women have about their hormones? 31:29 - Can you have COFFEE? 33:45 - How Jasmine assessed Zara and her hormones! 35:05 - 3 to 5 big things YOU’RE ignoring! 40:43 - Funny Story by Zara 43:15 - Cancer, Breast Cancer 46:36 - How your hormonal imbalances are directly impacting YOUR LOVE LIFE! 49:37 - Misconception you might have about hormonal health or fertility! 53:13 - Tips for someone NOT ON BIRTH CONTROL! 54:20 - Concluding notes and tips. Links Mentioned In This Episode: Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515 Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship