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In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss People's Pleasing and how it can disappoint relationships, whether within yourself and relating to others. People Pleasers are very helpful and usually don't say no when someone asks them for a favor. They spend a great deal of time doing things for others and disregard their own needs. Being a People Pleaser can cause disappointment because not everyone has the same kind heart or good intentions. They can attract people who will take advantage of their generosity. Angela and Patti share experiences of being a people pleaser, and the lessons learned. What are a few traits of a People Pleasing? * Seeks approval and words of affirmation * Fears being alone * Feelings of being selfish or guilty for not meeting the needs of others * Irritable when others don't take your advice * Being the "go-to person" when someone is in need * Covering for or taking the blame for others * Giving money away, which can lead towards depletion What are some characteristics of a people pleaser? Wants to be liked by others seek to earn it by pleasing, rescuing, giving away money and things, or flattery. They may even tell little white lies to spare people's feelings when they don't want to do something. Wants reassurance through acceptance and affection they can't express their needs openly and directly. They make others feel obligated to reciprocate. The people-pleaser may want to earn acceptance by helping others. They put other people's needs ahead of their own. When they do this, they become resentful and sometimes bitter because the other person doesn't do the same. They harbor anger, regret, and resentment from feeling used. At times they may feel responsible for other people's behavior. Saying "yes" becomes a habit, and for others, it can be an addiction that makes them feel needed in someone else's life. Feelings of security and self-confidence come from getting the approval of others. Our very first podcast episode was When to Say No and When to Say Yes! If you want to learn about Angela's kinaesthetic healing online movement classes, you can receive a free class by signing up for her newsletter here: A People Pleaser may struggle with work-life balance, and Patti has created a self-study at your own pace 21 Days to Optimal Work/Life Balance Program that addresses how to say no for people pleasers and make better boundaries, so others don't take advantage of them. If you have a topic or a question for us, please leave us a message on the Anchor App. Did you enjoy our podcasts? Please leave a review. How about becoming a monthly supporter.  Click on the support button in the Anchor App. By supporting this podcast with donations, it will help us continue to produce future episodes. Thank you so much for listening. #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #betterrelationships #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome #relationshipcoaching --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti explore criticism and how to respond without it overtaking your emotions.  When we thought about this topic - we wanted to come from the perspective on how to handle being criticized in your relationships and your work environment. No matter how awful someone treats you. Remember the concept of "hurting people hurt others." Stop, reflect, and walk away. I know it is hard to walk away when emotions overtake you. However, just because you don't react, it doesn't mean you didn't notice the behavior or accept it. The only way to stop a toxic person is not to engage with them. Address the situation later when you both have time to think it over and calm down, not in the heat of the moment if you can get a coaching session to help digest and explore the situation to resolve or how to handle it. I know there are times when things need immediate attention. Just remind yourself to keep your emotions in check and follow the tips we have given here. Sometimes responding in anger makes you look like a fool in front of others and may cost you career opportunities or relationships. If you have a topic or a question for us please leave us a message on the Anchor App.  Do you enjoy our podcasts? How about becoming a supporter.   Click on the support button in the Anchor App. By supporting this podcast with donations it will help us continue to produce future episodes.  Thank you so much for listening. #dealingwithcriticsm #criticism #workcriticism #careercriticism #howtorespondtocriticism #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks  #betterrelationships #relationshippodcast  #relationshipbuilding  #handlingcriticism --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss the benefits of journaling to save relationships.  Journaling is a great way to connect to oneself, work out solutions when struggling with personal relationships or work problems.  Patti tells how she learned about journaling when she belonged to a women’s group many years ago. One of the members Plynn Gutman, Certified Professional Coach, Reiki Master and Author gave a talk on the benefits of journaling. She has written a journaling book with prompts called Your Journal Companion 365 Writing Prompts to Heighten Awareness of Self and Others.  Plynn makes the journaling process easy with an entire year’s worth of thought-provoking writing prompts. She explains the emotional and physiological benefits of personal writing, gives instruction on several powerful writing techniques, and offers tips on “how, where, and when” to start the process. In that presentation, Plynn made journaling fun, easy, and relaxing. We did a few different journaling techniques with her, and I have been hooked on journaling ever since. What are some of the biggest challenges in starting to journal? Finding time?  2. Getting started? 3. Or not knowing how? Schedule journaling time and be consistent. You can journal anywhere. What do you need for journaling? Pen and Paper, a notebook or  journal, there are journal apps and Journaling Prompts on Pinterest, Websites, etc. Here are some Journaling prompts to deepen and save your relationships:        1.        Describe what you want in the relationship?      2.       Describe what you don’t want in the relationship?      3.       What is the relationship like at the moment?      4.       What is working well in the relationship?      5.       What one thing can you do to make the relationship better and more of what you want it to be?      6.       What does love mean to you?       7.       What does love mean to your partner?       8.      What is meaningful about the relationship?       9.      What are some of your expectations for the relationship?      10.     What is meaningful about your relationship? Questions on feelings when you get to a block in a relationship or your feelings are hurt or coming up: 1. What am I feeling?  2. Why am I feeling this?  3. Is this my feeling - or am I picking up someone else’s feeling? In Patti’s  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop. there is a section on journaling..   #podcast #journaling #lifecoaching #relationships #betterrelationships #relationshipjournaling #plynngutman --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti discussed the fear of getting it wrong. How to accept we aren't always going to be perfect and that’s okay. Why are we so hard on ourselves when we make a mistake? Mistakes happen and owning up to them makes you a better person.  Hiding mistakes or blaming others isn’t good for your reputation or your relationships.  For some people the fear of making a mistake can paralyze them to the point of not taking any kind of action at all. Here are some questions for all of us to ponder: Why do you think people are afraid to fess up to their mistakes? Is it about looking bad in front of others? Is it that if they admit to making a mistake they feel they may lose a job or worse someone they love or admire? Is it fear of being embarrassed, mocked or teased? What are some mistakes that are better left unsaid?  Are there situations that shouldn’t be confessed? Making mistakes helps us learn what not to do, grow more knowledgeable and can lead to becoming successful.  Like the saying goes; I’ve tried that, done that, and I learned from it. How do you get over and move on from a mistake? Patti wrote a blog post in November of 2019 on workplace shaming called “Don't Be That (Guy) Person!”  “Is shaming an effective management strategy?”  Listeners - We would love to hear your thoughts on these questions. How can these circumstances of overcoming the fear of mistakes change and having the courage to admit it? When making a mistake and getting caught, why is it hard for some to admit it and apologize? Getting it wrong happens but sometimes our inner critic can beat us up to the point of being paralyzed or afraid to take action.  What can we do? ❤️Self-Reflect on what happened.  What can I do to fix this situation?  Can I fix it?  What can I do differently next time? ❤️Journal about it.  Continue to write and get out all those emotions.  The disappointment, hurt, shame, your inner critic etc. ❤️Acknowledge the mistake and be humble. ❤️Apologize, keep it simple and sincere.  I am sorry. ❤️Accept the consequences and do what it takes to fix it or make it better when possible. ❤️Recite positive affirmations and reflect on all the good things you have accomplished. ❤️Turn that negative experience into a positive by learning from it. ❤️Everyone makes mistakes. This is how we become a better person from these experiences. If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes by going to: #podcast #relationshipsathomeandwork #fearofmistakes #fearofgettingwrong #anchorpodcast #listen #thanks --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In today’s episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing the importance of work-life balance and having more play in daily life and relationships. Do you have work-life balance in your relationships? Are you spending valuable time with your family and close friends? Some say work-life balance is not achievable, while others say you can.  What is a balanced life really?  It is what you choose it to be.  There are going to be times in our lives where we think it can never be achievable.  The question may come - How do you stay balanced when you feel everything is crashing down around you? It may be time to step back and say enough and refocus on what truly matters. If you come from a life where you are expected to be serious, play can be difficult for you. Maybe you don’t allow yourself to play; maybe you need permission to play. Maybe you need a purpose for play. So give yourself a purpose for the play. The purpose for play could be “I’m stimulating my creative mind” or “discovering lateral thinking and new ways of coming up with solutions”.  What does play mean for you? What will it add to your life? This can be a great way to encourage play as an opportunity to invigorate your life. Life will be chaotic, hectic, and disappointing at times, but having some strategies will soften the experience. How we react to it is what determines happiness. Remember to put some of these suggestions into practice and not forget to step back, breathe, enjoy your life, remember to schedule playtime with family and friends, and let go of what does not matter. Live life to the fullest! Do you want more balance and play in your life? If yes, Patti has a 21 Days Work-Life Balance Program  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop. Interested in Patti’s Affirmation cards Patti also has a mini course called Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance. The link will be in the show notes as well. If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela by going to: #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #play #balance --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In today’s episode Angela and Patti will be talking about trusting your intuition and using it in your everyday life whether at home or work.  With all the talk going around about the world ending and let’s forget 2020.  Angela and I thought this would be a good topic to talk about.  Using your intuition to discern fiction from the truth.  There is so much false information and fear flying around.  Yes, some are valid but what is real and what is false? Bob Proctor says -  Intuition is God’s way of talking to us each day.  It is through your intuition that you pick up vibrations.  Every question has an answer.  It is the intuitive mind that will pick that up. According to Google dictionary.  Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.  A gut-feeling about something or someone. Another point of view is that intuition is your soul talking to you.  An inner-knowing. What are signs of having good intuition? You’re an empath, you can quickly pick up on other people’s emotions. You’re a good judge of character. You’re a deep thinker, you have vivid meaningful dreams and epiphanies You’re open minded, you listen to your heart, and do what is right for you. Why is intuition helpful? It is a gut instinct or feeling and the understanding of something; not over thinking it or getting another opinion, it is just knowing. It’s helpful when you trust your intuition, and yourself; you avoid bad situations or relationships. What are some good daily practices to connect to your intuition?  Patti watched a short youtube video from Psych2Go Listen to your inner voice. Meditate. Be creative. Follow your heart and dreams.  Pay attention to your dreams. Spend time alone and allow yourself to day dream. Pay attention to your environment and others around you. Don’t over work yourself. Don’t attach yourself to negative situations, feelings or emotions. Creating peace and balance helps you strengthen your intuition.     10.  And you can try dance with angela movement meditation. So if you are feeling it’s the end of the world. What are you worried about and why? What in your life needs extra care? What is a priority for you? What part of your life is ending? Who in your life is important and why? What do you want to share with them? If your life was to end tomorrow what do you want to leave behind? If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela by going here: #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #intuition #trustingyourintuition --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti will discuss sensitivity towards others in the workplace and within daily personal life. Patti - How did this topic come about? (Patti) We were talking about a blog post I wrote called “What! Sensitivity Training?”  The idea came from watching the movie “Sensitivity Training”.  It caught my eye because it was about a life/business coach and her reluctant client. Questions for Listeners: Do you want an insensitive society? Are you happy being complacent when people are being ignored, hurt or treated badly? (Angela) Gentle movement has shown me that softness allows the compassionate part of us to expand, and that compassion is mostly (if not always) more often with yourself, after compassion with yourself, comes discovery, awe and other awarenesses about the gift of your body, the gift of life, the gift of breathing, the beauty of so much if you want to know more check out and sign up for the newsletter; (Patti) Reflect - Does it need to be said? Will they listen to the feedback and take it to heart or will it cause more conflict and damage to the relationship?  Do I need to end this relationship for my mental health?  Sometimes you can’t totally end the relationship but you can distance yourself and put up boundaries.  I try to remember each person we interact with may be faced with some hard life challenges that are not discussed and some are hurting so deeply with emotional wounds that have not been addressed and healed. (Patti) There are times throughout our lives and careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as a person, coworker, parent, child, sibling, spouse, manager, supervisor, and leader. Apologize when you should. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people's points of view. Be coachable. Take personal development courses and read books.  Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing.  Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around. Thank you for listening and supporting the podcast.  We would love to hear from you about this topic.  Leave us a comment or voice message on Anchor. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #SensitivityTraining #SensitivityCoaching --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti's goal is always to discuss building better relationships, whether at home, work, and within the world we live in. Today's podcast is called "Choosing cultural awareness instead of racism". How did we decide to discuss this particular topic? Angela used to live in the USA, and she’s in Australia now where she grew up and been connecting with Patti while doing these podcasts. We were sharing our thoughts and feelings about the division between people in the USA and somewhat worldwide.  What is Cultural Awareness? According to Collins Dictionary Someone's cultural awareness is their understanding of the differences between themselves and people from other countries or other backgrounds, especially differences in attitudes and values.  Programs to promote diversity and cultural awareness within the industry. How can we take that food appreciation to the next level of cultural awareness? Angela shared the story of Daryl Davis, a black musician who focuses on curing racism by talking and making friends with members of the Ku Klux Klan.  Here is the Youtube link - Angela shared about Megan Phelps-Roper, who grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church who began messaging with a man on twitter who started engaging with her about her tightly held religious and cultural views on life, and later she left the church, and they got married! (How's that for a dating strategy!) Patti wrote a blog post about  Judging and Assuming the Worst in Others back in March of 2015 and she thinks it pertains more than ever. Angela shared if you would like to experience the energy of culture through dance, I’m teaching movement meditation classes that are great for relaxing and de-stressing. The movement meditation uses music from many world cultures, and music and dance is a powerful way to experience a culture without speaking their language - the verbal language. And I share in the movement meditation the feeling the music gives to you so that you can connect to your heart, heal and feet at one with yourself. We would love to hear from you about this topic.  Leave us a comment or voice message on Anchor. Become a monthly supporter of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti a podcast.  Click on the support button in the Anchor App.  “By supporting Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti podcast with your donations this will help sustain future episodes. Thank you for listening and sharing. :) ” #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #cultureawareness  --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing change and how it can strengthen relationships. Let’s think about - What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive? Here are some possible benefits: Positive thinking attracts good things to you. A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships. Being positive decreases depression and anxiety. Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity. Being positive improves the immune system. While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn't more positive? How do we change a negative culture?  Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment  a better place too. What else can we do? Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better.  I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day.  Here is an example of an Affirmation.  “Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!”  Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud. Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about:  How am I creating more positivity in my life? Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen.  It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better.  Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction.  :) Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you.  By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well. Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them everytime you talk to them or see them.  Love can change the world.  People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life? Patti's blog post What! Sensitivity Training? If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela at or sign up for Angela's monthly newsletter at For more information about Patti's Affirmation cards click on the link. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #careerchange #lifechange #change #relationshipchange --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Today Angela and Patti will be discussing the hot topic of social media and how it can affect relationships. We are concerned about how social media can cause hurt feelings, depression, addiction to social media, and comparison. Here are some reflection questions: What makes people feel it’s okay to post things that they would most likely never say face to face or outside of social media?   Where does this boldness or insensitivity come from?   Is proving your point worth all the drama and losing friendships over? Today, we would like to explore how to manage some of those difficult behaviors. How do we relate to social media in a healthy way? Are you taking a break from social media because it is “too toxic?" What do you find frustrating about social media, what makes it so toxic to you?  We love to hear from listeners if they could share what they find disappointing about social media, why not leave us a comment. To the Listeners: What are some of the things you ENJOY seeing on social media. What do you love seeing?  Angela:  I love healing meditations and I share those because I love them. What do you love seeing?  Maybe you can share a comment on the podcast and let us know. Patti: I love seeing photos of families having fun together, vacation photos, travel adventures and cute positive memes. In a previous podcast (episode 4) we discussed going Beyond Comparison and Accepting One Self. “Cancel culture refers to the popular practice of withdrawing support for (canceling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive. Cancel culture is generally discussed as being performed on social media in the form of group shaming.” Patti wrote a blog posts similar to this subject called Don’t Be That Guy!    It is about shaming someone or making them the poster child in the workplace. When someone has committed a bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong, in some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. I feel this is similar to the cancel culture. In the blog post is a poll.  With this question - Is shaming an effective management strategy? Angela will be holding gentle movement classes Come September and to be informed  SIGN UP TO HEAR ABOUT CLASSES in the link in the show notes. For me dance and movement are an authentic way to connect to myself and others. Thank you for listening and supporting our podcast.  We would love to hear from you about this topic.  Leave us a comment or voice message on Anchor. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #socialmedia  --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Today Angela and Patti will be discussing handling moving forward with emotions and relationships after ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and menopause.  In previous Episodes 12 and 13 Angela shared her journey of recovering from ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and much more.  In this episode we will be sharing how to deal with relationships - with one-self and others after these life-changing events. Angela - stay in touch with Angela’s online movement and breath classes for those wanting to learn to breathe again and feel supported in your body by joining her newsletter here: Ted Talk - How menopause affects the brain by Lisa Mosconi Reference for show notes For more information on anything discuss go to Thank you for listening and supporting our podcast.  We would love to hear from you about this topic.  Leave us a comment or voice message on our Anchor podcast. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #survivingcancer #OvarianCancer #Hysterectomy #Menopause --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Angela:  How to set boundaries of time and space with the family. Patti: I encourage establishing a work schedule to help you move into a flow and getting things done; working from home can be challenging, especially when the family doesn’t understand your work demands, work obligations or time constraints with deadlines.  Having established set work hours. Communicating them to the family and friends. Here are the hours and days I am working this week. Another way to communicate is to post your calendar/diary on the wall/door or  give family viewable access to your personal digital calendar that reflects availability or not available.  Another approach you can make a daily or weekly calendar post in view (maybe kitchen) or text your unavailability for that day to the whole family.  There are lots of creative ways to communicate you are working and unavailable.  Sit down as a family and ask them how they want you to let them know.  This way everyone is part of the decision making.  Do you want a daily text or a do not disturb sign on the door.  Angela: I found the sign really official and makes it clear for others not to knock. In my building I used to live in, we had a lot of traffic going  past my front door. People who delivered parcels would knock on the front door, which would be picked up on my calls or recordings. However, the worst thing about the knocking on the front door was when I was doing meditation. Sounds and knocks during meditation  can actually be dangerous to your body if you are in deep meditation and give you a heart attack. That forced me to make a sign to post on my front door, “please don’t knock, meditation in progress, if possible leave parcels”. The sign also allowed some people in the building the idea to be quiet when passing the front door too (if they read the sign!)  I’m going to use another sign to the door in my office at home to be really clear about meditation time or when I’m recording, as people may have no idea what you are doing in the office and the sign makes people more aware about noise.  Angela:  Working at home with family these days, it is really valuable to look at your physical work-space. Do you have a space that’s appropriate to do your work? Do your kids have a space that’s appropriate to focus on learning?  And space is not just physical like a desk, it includes sound and light.  I’ve seen a lot of people being really creative with working at the kitchen bench, buying a fold away desk for the bedroom, and other bits of furniture like a screen or divider to section off spaces in the house or to create work spaces. Sometimes, you won’t be able to really have a work space that is quiet, and people are more forgiving in these times if they hear kids and the kitchen in the background, but how does this affect you? Are there changes you need to make without necessarily spending a lot of money, but perhaps using your house differently? What could be something that gives you flow naturally that you need to put in your schedule to help you flow with the changes that we are now facing? For me it's definitely movement and I will be sharing some of the results of my movement classes in the coming months as I plan to share these classes for more people to discover their own natural rhythm. You can stay in touch with Angela’s gentle movement classes by signing up to the newsletter: For more work-life balance strategies  go to We will have a question in our Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group relating to this episode. We would love to see your answers to the question. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #workingathome #remoteworking #workrelationships  --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, we shared about improving communication with your boss and not overworking yourself while working from home. With a lot of people working from home lately due to the virus, some find themselves working even more hours. How do you find balance?  This is a period of change in the way we work, and it doesn’t look like it is going to go back to the way it is - so more change is coming. One of the challenges I hear about is people are working from home and taking care of their children at the same time since daycare services and schools are still closed. They have become the teacher, playtime instructor, nap time enforcer, lunch, and break time scheduler, all while trying to work at home. Because of the suddenness of the change, many of us have been expected to do extra work without extra pay or support, and there has been little time to talk about the conflicting expectations or changes and how they require extra thought and extra time to implement the changes. What are some examples that you have seen? Time management skills and learning what is expected from the boss while working from home. Setting boundaries with the family while working how to do it all and keep everyone calm, productive, and sane. A routine is good. Getting up at the same time you would if going into work, eating breakfast as a family, everyone getting dressed, and starting their day. By having a routine, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and are able to get things done. School work, zoom calls, projects, breaks, lunches and dinner, free time and nap time. One of the extra duties is learning how to move things online and deal with new technology or platforms, and this includes changing how we present and share information. Now we have an opportunity to create a new normal to deal with change. When there are things that require extra thought and extra time, how do you approach your boss, co-workers, or those you work with? Are you Problem focussed or solution-focused? Often when things change suddenly, we focus on not being able to do what we used to do, and this stops us from speaking up about our needs. I’ve noticed people harboring resentments with superiors or employers because they feel they can’t speak up because there is so much change, and they just need to deal with it. But often, a business or employer will also be struggling with the change. If you can respectfully share what you see as not working and what you see as a solution to that lack - then it clarifies for everyone what are possible solutions. And it may spark others to come up with other solutions, including your employer. Avoid the trap of staying quiet because everyone is just trying to deal with the change, but share your ideas respectfully without making people wrong. Angela is looking for feedback on relationship needs people have in these times of change. Have people changed their needs and experiences of relationships? Why not share on the Building Better Relationships Facebook group what has changed in your relationships because of this virus? or email us at #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #communication #overworked #workrelationships --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, we will share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to becoming effortless relationships whether in the workplace or home life. Angela - Patti when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000’s, we used to explore movement that was effortless, and we always knew when things just flowed and we would be amazed. Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans do we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it's not because you think you should be a certain way. Angela - What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships, is the Einstein statement - “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”   Patti - How to Break Bad Work Behaviors: Identify the behavior or action Make the decision to stop Replace the habit with something positive Angela- Making things Effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking, because old habits of thought made things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed.  Instead - you want to come at things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic. If you want more relationship tips, join our Facebook Group Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti, please subscribe and like to follow this podcast. Is there a relationship topic you would like us to discuss on this podcast? Please email us at If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges  Angela and Patti both have one to one coaching packages.   Contact us at our email addresses below: email: or schedule a time here email: #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #makingrelationshipseasy #relationships --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees?  We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock - but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost - although you may have a period of grieving.  After grieving or during grieving it's important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far?  How do you feel about your life?  If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see – what is your life about? What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. – what was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility - and humility. In my case, I had setbacks - such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it's also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  Patti - what have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life?  I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with "I hate my job" self-talk.  🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?  🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  🦋  Am I positive at work?  If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.  What are some options to improve the career situation?  Use daily affirmations to get you through the day.  Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations.  What do you want our world to be?  Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: what are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #midlifechanges #midlife --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss - Just Be - Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide. We feel this topic needs to be discussed openly and not avoided because it is uncomfortable. Lives matter. How did we get this topic title? Angela and I were talking about how there has been an increase in suicide. Over the years, and how the current situation with isolation and other factors. Such as loss of a job can be a risk factor. The Risk Factors  provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website;  Alcohol and other substance use disorders Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders Hopelessness, feelings of no reason to live Depression Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies History of trauma or abuse Major physical illnesses Previous suicide attempt(s) Family history of suicide - Angela talks about breaking the chain of generational loss and hurt - How to do that. Job or financial loss Loss of relationship(s) Easy access to lethal means Lack of social support, isolation and social withdrawal The stigma associated with asking for help Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet) The Warning Signs Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves, communicating suicide intent or plan Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain Talking about being a burden to others Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly Sleeping too little or too much Withdrawing or isolating themselves Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge Extreme mood swings Making final arrangements (wills, notes, giving away personal things, etc. For immediate help, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and talk with a trained counselor at National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. For Australia Lasting Love Summit Summit starts from May 5th to 7th 2020 and you can register for free The Love Oracle on Anchor podcast - #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #suicideawareness --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing a topic request from a listener; Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip On You? How to Deal With It!  Angela is the expert on this topic being a Love and Relationship Coach and coaches on family dynamics.    Let’s look at guilt. It is the inner ward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you, but you, because these are your thoughts. Some of the thoughts could be - I'm not going to make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person. How do you go your own way without the guilt?  Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do. 1.  Why do you feel guilty? 2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt? 3. What would be the one thing that inner child would love to do or love to hear and love to express? 4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you really want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do? 5. Do you value yourself? If you want more relationship tips checkout our facebook group - Building Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti.  Ask us a relationship question in the facebook group or voice message on the anchor podcast app. Angela references Patrick Wains here is his website link --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
This topic came from a listener, How To Get Along With Your Teenager! Patti started by asking these questions to the audience. Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager.  Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right? What did you want from your parents?  Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life. What was it? Your teenager probably wants the same.   Angela talks about as a parent - you love them, but you don't like their behavior - and there’s a consequence for the behavior - follow through and don't bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts - don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off. What are some deals you can negotiate with them? Tips from book Crucial Conversations: 1.  Start with the heart. 2. Ask - What do you want for the relationship? 3. Ask - What do you want for the teen? 4. What do you want for you? 5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship? How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart? Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met. Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not. What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days - that may be similar and different to what we went through? 1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction. 2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying 3. Suicide - For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is The Love Oracle - check it out #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #familyrelationships #parentteenagerrelationships --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing surviving social isolation. We are all experiencing this first-hand due to the coronavirus epidemic. Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation. Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.   This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care. How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated? It is another way not to feel so isolated. Facetime or video chat with family and friends Adult coloring or coloring with the children Play board games with family and do a puzzle Blow bubbles outside with the children Write and draw in chalk with the kids Have a virtual meetup; Facebook, skype, or zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually Start a group text, WhatsApp with people who get you/can help you get support Here’s a journal exercise to move and release those feelings. Write down on a piece of paper 1. What you feel you have lost in this situation? 2. What you feel you need? 3. Why do you need this? 4. How could you meet this need? With the feelings - acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it's OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need - find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy! Why do you need this - when you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need - you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time. And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love...or you may realize something about your need - like its actually not that important! How could you meet this need? Is it Reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing. Look at a list of tips we are sharing. Notice which of your needs are the most important - Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it - so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy. When you send a text - put a good feeling into it - people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.    Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy  Body Prayer of Hope: #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #survivingisolation  --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation.  Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress.  The stressors: Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown.  What is a good father?   They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways.   What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York Set up healthy family boundaries: Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not. Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions Make a conscious decision to stop these behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected We would love your thoughts and comments. “What does being a good father mean to you”? Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast. If you have a topic or question, email us at, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message. #podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipsatworkandhome  #relationshipcoaching #worklifebalance #lifecoaching #listen #thanks #beingagoodfather #beingaparent  --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
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