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Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a regular life–regular marriage, regular careers, a regular house, and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism and emotional abuse. Unfortunately, their experience is quite regular. Sheri and Matt talk to other experts, to roundtable panels, and to each other. No subjects are off limits: The trauma of active addiction, the pain of recovery, the impact of emotional abuse, the “should I stay or should I go” question, breaking the cycles for the kids, and both emotional and physical intimacy. Matt Salis is a behavioral health writer and researcher with over a decade of experience studying addiction and emotional abuse, and a master’s degree in sexual health. He is a leading expert on the impact of addiction and emotional abuse on intimacy in committed partnerships. Sheri Salis is the hero of their story, and the star of the Untoxicated Podcast. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
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Sheri and Matt have a long list of things they expect from each other. Very few of the expectations are demands. Many expectations have developed over time, and many have been earned. But gone are the days when they think they deserve certain treatment, and they’ve both learned that demanding behaviors from another human is harmful, and a waste of time. There is a big difference between expectations and demands.
Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.
She wasn’t happy, and her intuition told her that her marriage couldn’t bring her the joy and fulfillment she knew she deserved. So she fought through her fear that her kids wouldn’t understand, and she divorced her husband despite all outward appearances of the perfect marriage. Karen writes My Midlife Divorce Diary on substack.com. To read more, please click here.
Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.
Sheri and Matt take a ride in the way-back machine and relive the relationship dysfunction of active addiction, the process of finding sobriety, individual growth, resentment processing, and emotional safety. There is no such thing as reattachment, but they talk about finding areas of mutually beneficial connection, and remind listeners that sobriety is a prerequisite and emotional safety has to be consistent to be effective.
Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
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