The Healing Trauma Podcast

Come join my guest Amy Nordhues and I as we talk about the journey of rediscovering the truth about who we really are after surviving childhood trauma. Amy Nordhues is a survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. She is the author of her memoir Prayed Upon. ... Support this podcast and get exclusive content in return. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Amy's Website https://www.amynordhues.comAmy’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Prayed-Upon-Br...

Welcome to the very first episode of the new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast - Faith Edition I am delighted and so very grateful to be able to share this conversation with therapist, podcast host, author and psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson. We talked about healing, safety and connection and the formation of embodied hope. And so much more. I absolutely loved it! This is a video episode. https://youtu.be/CHmkWbitCsE?si=GxaCJ8UO2GmxlUSN Hope you find it helpful 🕊️ SUPPORT this podcast and in return receive bonus content. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Find out more about Curt's work here: https://curtthompsonmd.com/https://www.instagram.com/curtthompso...https://twitter.com/curt_thompsonmdhttps://www.facebook.com/CurtThompsonMD/https://www.youtube.com/c/BeingKnownP.. Monique's website www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust. This episode is available to watch on Spotify or on Youtube https://youtu.be/gbGys_jRHCw About The book You Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource. Get the book here https://a.co/d/7MhcwNm About The Guests & Authors Tricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and follow her writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/. Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology. Jana lives in Colorado with her family. ⁠

It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. They are also the founders of The Allender Center. I really excited to sit down with them after reading the book and participating in story work. This episode is available to watch on Spotify or you listen on any of your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch the episode on video on youtube.YOUTUBE :www.youtube.com/@Thehealingtraumapodcast⁠ Paid Subscribers {FRIENDS OF THE PODCAST} Can enjoy the extended version of this episode which includes a conversation with Dr. Dan Allender where he shares some of his own story of childhood heachache and trauma and how he got into this healing work of over forty years. Subscribe here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. Coffee support: buy me a coffeehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast  Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He is a professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, speaking on trauma, sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, and intimacy. He’s a popular podcaster on The  Allender Center Podcast and the author of  multiple books, Health the Wondered Heart,The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex. Connect with Dr. Allender on Facebook or Instagram The Allender Center  Cathy Loerzel received her MA in Counseling Psychology in 2007 is the Co-Founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Your True Calling. She has spent the last 15 years developing the theory and methodology of a popular new coaching and therapeutic approach called Story Work that moves people through their past stories of heartache to heal and discover healthier ways of being in the world.  You can find her here. https://www.cathyloerzel.com

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On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you will too. Mark shares his personal journey to help others in theirs in his book, Finding My Words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Youtube: https://youtu.be/YaMyG2KR5OA To listen or watch the video episode of the extended version of this episode where Mark guides us slowly through some regulating tools that he uses in his own private practice with his clients and uses himself. You can follow along and add them to your own tool box of self care. Regulating Tools are a very important to use as work to support your nervous system to feel more present and grounded. LINK BELOW Become a friend of the podcast! Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Mark McNear's website: https://markmcnear.com/ "Finding My Words" book: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor...

Today's conversation I am joined with author and psychologist Dr. Alison Cook. We talk about healing trauma, spiritual bypassing and the need for holistic and emotionally safe trauma informed care and education in our faith communities. Many who have experienced trauma as children have learned to adapt by disconnecting from their emotions & feelings. Faith communities need to be emotionally healthy places where compassion and empathy is extended to those suffering not only spiritually but emotionally as well. Alison shares the importance of not denying one’s emotional experience, and instead to begin to gently turn towards them with curiosity and compassion. Become a friend of the podcast and get access to extended episodes and or deeper dives & and bonus content/episodes. You will also have access to the video episode if you prefer to watch and listen. Deeper dives and personal reflections go into a little more depth about some of the themes discussed in the episode. Subscribe now and get instant access to the extended version of this episode and join Alison and myself as she gently she guides us in a "practice called meeting a part." Plus listen to a bonus reflection episode where the themes of the episode go into more depth about trauma. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe “Dr. Alison Cook is a psychologist and the author of two books, including her new book, The Best of You (Thomas Nelson 2022) and Boundaries for Your Soul (Thomas Nelson 2018). For 20 years, Alison has helped women, ministry leaders, couples, and families learn how to heal painful emotions, develop confidence from the inside out, forge healthy relationships, and fully live out their God-given potential.” Connect Online: Website: dralisoncook.com Instagram: @dralisoncook Facebook: @dralisoncook Her Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-best-of-you/id1620059010

Monique shares a little bit more about why this season of The Healing Trauma Podcast is including Faith in the conversation.*This is a video episode on Spotify Faith Communities need to be safe places and trauma-informed. How essential it is to understand that trauma lives in the body and is not just in the mind and how it shows up in relationships and in daily living. How Healing happens Some ideas on upcoming episodes. Expert guests trauma and faith informed authors, therapists, psychologists, coaches, faith leaders and more. Support this podcast and get bonus content including extra episodes only available to subscribers. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe

A little conversation about The Healing Trauma Podcast *Faith -Informed Edition coming soon.

Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D., M.S., a beloved returning guest joins me on the podcast today. She is the author of six books including The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook & Treating Complex Trauma. Tamara is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, CA, where she specializes in treating adults with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma, and those who are coping with medical illness, either as a patient or affected family member. She also has extensive experience with older adults and their children regarding coping with dementia or other medical illnesses. In addition, Tamara treats couples, as well as families with adult children. Her therapeutic approach is active and engaging and she uses a variety of evidence-based techniques that focus on reducing symptoms and feeling more connected to others. She has been practicing psychology in San Francisco since 1997. As a Volunteer Full Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, Tamara spent over 12 years seeing medical patients and their families in the UCSF hospitals and clinics and has spent the last 25 years supervising psychiatry residents, psychology interns and students in a number of different training centers. Watch here: Youtube https://youtu.be/5RH3D_RTZPA?si=62pjkLIxttCExYiO Tamara’s Latest Book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-C... Her Website:https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/

We are joined again with therapist Dr. Mark McNear to discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how important it is to understand the whole person. Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words. Dr. Mark McNear's website: https://markmcnear.com/ "Finding My Words" book: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Meet with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/ Thank you Mark for sponsoring the episode.

Trigger warning: Childhood sexual abuse. On today's episode I am joined with Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words. To learn more or to purchase Dr. Marks book, head to the link below: Get his book here: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Mark's website:https://markmcnear.com⁠ This episode was sponsored by Mark M.McNear LCSW. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst.  She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we are closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. This was a very informative and rich conversation. If you can't see the video here, watch and subscribe to my youtube channel https://youtu.be/YEq9BNBD9zs Michelle's Website & Resources www.michellemays.com https://michellemays.com/braving-hope-coaching-program/ Her Book⁠ can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayal-Bind-Heal-Person-Worst/dp/1949481778/Thank you to PartnerHope LLC for sponsoring this episode Consult with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/

*Trigger warning: Talk of Sexual abuse On today's episode I sat down with Amy Nordhues, author and survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her story is detailed in her book “Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse.” During our conversation Amy touches on some of the following: The inner workings of the abuse process of adult victims  -How past childhood trauma can make an adult vulnerable to predators -Understanding how an otherwise functional adult can be duped provides much needed healing for the victim and aides loved ones in providing support -Recognizing and bringing “into the light” the defective beliefs that are causing victims to doubt their own realities and become ensnared by abusers and more. Thank you so much Amy for sharing your vulnerable and personal experiences with the world in hopes of helping others feel less alone and more empowered. Watch the episode on video on YouTube https://youtu.be/pp4WMClu7eM Thank you for your sponsorship as it helps to keep this podcast going. Link to purchase Amy's book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HR9TN3N Amy's website: www.amynordhues.com Monique’s website www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

I am still in vacation mode and have taken a little break from recording and sharing, however I was inspired to record a short video after I shared a post over on IG which says "Feeling Safe is Essential To Healing." I realized a little video may be helpful to elaborate just a tiny bit. Should be back to recording sometime in August. https://youtu.be/PayC5jfGKvQ

Today I am sharing a video episode to watch or listen to. Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us on the podcast to discuss “Emotionally Immature Parents”. Dr. Gibson has been a psychologist for over thirty years, working in both public and private practice. In the past, she has served as an adjunct assistant professor in Clinical Psychology, teaching doctoral students clinical theory and psychotherapeutic techniques. Dr. Gibson is the author of four books: Who You Were Meant to Be, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents and Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self & Live With Confidence. Lindsay’s book “ Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents” prompted me to reach out to her to ask her more. YouTube video https://youtu.be/FCN6u2Cb0Uw ***Note *** I will be taking some time away. I have some great guests conversations lined up for when we resume. Take good care everyone!

I had the absolute honor and pleasure of talking with author,counsellor, educator, activist and childhood sexual abuse survivor Rosie McMahan. I decided to share this one via video (available through spotify platform & youtube). Rosie is the author of Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Rosie and her family were one of the first families to work with renowned Trauma expert and psychiatrist Dr. Judith Herman and therapist Emily Schatzow in the 1970's. Dr. Judith Herman understood the need for survivors to take back their power and speak their truth about the impact of the abuse. With their guidance and support Rosie participated in family confrontation and disclosure where she gave her "Victim Statement." Listen as we discuss her memoir and questions around disclosure, empowerment and healing. About the book: Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Though the book begins as an all-too-common story of childhood sexual abuse, it gradually becomes a rare story of how one person heals from that early trauma. In this intimate first-person narrative, McMahan offers the reader a portrait of misery, abuse, and hurt, followed by the difficult and painful task of healing.  It’s a journey that, in the end, reveals the complicated and nuanced venture of true reconciliation and the freedom that comes along with it. Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation is a first prize winner in the 2021 Chanticleer International Journey Book Awards. First, a daughter, sister, wife, and mother, McMahan identifies as an irreverent and opinionated white cisgendered woman, who is also a survivor, a feminist, writer, educator, counselor, attending Quaker, community activist, and avid botanical enthusiast. Her poetry has been published in several journals. She works at MA Mentoring Partnership and owns and operates Optimistic Options, a private practice rooted in trauma informed care and restorative justice principles. Learn more about her book Purchase Here Rosie's website optimistic-options.com Rosie's Podcast:  Heart2Heart Listen to conversation with Dr. Judith Herman and Emily Schatzow, the two clinicians that worked with Rosie and her family. Hear what they have to say on the topic of breaking secrecy.

On today's episode I welcome back psychologist and author Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg. The complexities of caregiving through illness, aging and the end of life issues is extremely challenging when there is a history of trauma/abuse/neglect by a parent in the family. This is a huge topic and one we will only cover very briefly. Dr. Greenberg offers ideas to help you think things through when it comes to determining your capacity & involvement. Dr. Greenberg's books: https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/media-books/ Her website:https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/ Monique's website: https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/

In this episode I’m releasing an episode from 2021 with author, teacher, speaker and researcher Dr. Kristin Neff. In our conversation, Kristin explains what self- compassion is and how we can balance having both tender and fierce Self-Compassion on our journey of healing from Trauma. You can connect with Kristin www.selfcompassion. Thank you to our sponsor Dr Tamara Mc Clintock Greenberg. https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/ https://a.co/d/0OBIAkF

On today’s episode podcast I am releasing one of the past most listened to episode. Podcast host Monique Koven is talking to trauma expert Kathy Steele about Trauma-Related Dissociation. Kathy Steel is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer and author. She has co authored numerous books including Coping With Trauma- related Dissociation: Skills For Training Patients and Therapists & Treating Trauma - Related Dissociation. https://www.Kathy-steele.com www.isst-d.org Thank you to sponsor Tyndale House Publishers. Strong Like Water https://aundikolber.com/strong-like-water/?utm_source=healingtrauma&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=stronglikewater&utm_id=stronglikewater Meet with Monique www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com