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Links to things mentioned: Yerkovich's Website: https://howwelove.com How We Love: https://amzn.to/3yLsrtB The Orgasm Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/ Our Post on the 5 Love Styles: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/05/the-5-love-styles-and-the-attachment-styles-dance/ Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: http://rwrd.io/4mf6sks?c Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/
Links to things mentioned: Fresh Start Family Podcast episode 122: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/why-connection-through-discipline-is-so-important-with-chad-hayenga/ Episode 123: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/parenting-without-punishment-with-tanya-camps/Wendy's site: http://FreshStartfamilyonline.com Discipline Class: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/disciplineclass/Strong Willed Kids help:: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/strongwilledkidsLogical Discipline Planning Guide: https://freshstartfamily.lpages.co/free-logical-discipline-planning-guide/ Jesus the Gentle Parent https://amzn.to/3M1Fuea Heartfelt Discipline https://amzn.to/3N1H4NcThe Mask You Live in Documentary: https://therepproject.org/films/the-mask-you-live-in/The Whole Story Puberty and Sex Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/ Angry Me by Sandra Feder: https://amzn.to/3FCNgJ3Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/
Links to things mentioned:Find Wendy!https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/about-wendy/https://www.instagram.com/freshstartwendy/?hl=en Our articles on Spanking Babies and the research on spanking:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/what-does-the-research-say-about-spanking/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/can-christians-please-stop-talking-about-disciplining-babies/The Gershoff Meta-Analyses of Spanking:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7992110/The problems with the book Love & Respecthttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/ The problems with how Focus on the Family talks about divorce and kids:https://youtu.be/Umy_vyuZixAhttps://lifesavingdivorce.com/fotfdivorce1/ Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/
Links to things mentioned: Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex REscue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Attachment Theory in Religion, Current Opinions in Psychology (2021): https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X2030172X
Josh Howerton's article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/christianity-not-bad/The Institute for Family Studies report that he references:https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819final.pdfKnix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/The Gilad study that found that religious women had difficulties with domestic violence:https://www.researchgate.net/publication/272301618_In_God's_Shadow_Unveiling_the_Hidden_World_of_Domestic_Violence_Victims_in_Religious_CommunitiesThe Life Saving Divorce analyzing what the Institute for Family Studies found about religiosity and abuse: https://lifesavingdivorce.com/1in4/The Whole Story Sex and Puberty course for parents and preteens:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/
Links to things mentioned:Mary DeMuthThe Most Misunderstood Women of the BibleOur podcast on the problems with the original Love & Respect question:The podcast with the problems with For Young Women Only’s question on 82% of boys going too far, and our post fixing that questionThe Podcast exploring the problems with misusing neuroscience researchThe Great Sex RescuePatreon:Here is the link with Knix.com
Links to things mentioned:Emily's blog Thriving Forwardhttps://thrivingforwardblog.com/blog/Emily on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingForwardBlogStories about the lawsuit against Bill Gothardhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2016/01/06/new-charges-allege-religious-leader-who-has-ties-to-the-duggars-sexually-abused-women/https://medium.com/iron-ladies/with-lawsuit-withdrawn-where-is-justice-for-the-victims-of-bill-gothard-and-iblp-50c12c236ea0Patreon:http://patreon.com/baremarriageHere is the link with Knix.com https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Here is the link with Knix.cahttps://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2
Links to things mentioned:Keith's post that he read: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/03/real-men-are-not-bullies-lets-talk-about-the-churchs-view-of-masculinity/The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/3JWPAvIThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex https://amzn.to/3LrTiy2Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage
Links to things mentioned:Side by side screenshot of original review and edited review:https://www.facebook.com/Sheila.Gregoire.Books/posts/526956238791404Current review of Turning Red:https://www.pluggedin.com/movie-reviews/turning-red-2022/The Whole Story Puberty Course:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/Our Period Series:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/periods-going-to-beach-teenager/Kyle Howard on Twitter:https://twitter.com/KyleJamesHoward
Links to things mentioned:The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Grouphttps://streaklinks.com/A9slQrDFhYUQaoQ1AQPYigQ5/https%3A%2F%2Fpatreon.com%2FbaremarriageAndrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/Carl Thomas: https://amzn.to/3Hsssn7https://xxxchurch.com/
Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast!Links to things mentioned:Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook GroupPre-Order our two new books--The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great SexThe podcast on the Sexual Response CycleThis week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sexHere is the link with Knix.com https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Here is the link with Knix.cahttps://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2
Please use these affiliate links if you're interested in trying Knix!Here is the link with Knix.com https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Here is the link with Knix.cahttps://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Elizabeth Fisher Good:https://www.freewithe.com/The Great Sex Rescuehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Articles this week about men and how the teachings affected them:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/02/how-can-men-fix-their-sex-lives-if-theyve-gone-downhill/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/03/who-believed-the-toxic-sex-teachings-more-husband-or-wife/
Links to mentioned items:When Shame Gets Real by Carl Thomashttps://amzn.to/3Hsssn7XXX Church: xxxchurch.comPatreon: http://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our launch team! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-launch-team/
Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future!Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts!Pre-Order The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex or The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and you can get our pre-order bonuses: awesome Evangelical Sex Report Card and an invitation to join our launch team!Our original birth control series plus the book Taking Charge of Your FertilityPatrick Weaver’s Facebook Page and his Instagram
Here are the links to the resources mentioned in the episode!The Intimately Us app!The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs’ reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower respondsThe Dunning Kruger Effect: Article 1 and Article 2Pre-Order The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and/or The all new Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex! And then send us your receipt to get the preorder bonuses and/or join the launch team!The Sexual Response Cycle articleThe 990 Tax Forms for Emerson Eggerichs’ non-profit for 2019
We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in. Links to things mentioned:The Intimately Us App! Download the free version right now–and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine’s Day!https://r.intimately.us/tlhvCT Article about Domestic Violence in Brazil:https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2022/january-web-only/brazil-domestic-violence-church-women-pastors-men.htmlPodcast about Emerson Eggerichs:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/the-podcast-where-emerson-eggerichs-ignores-marital-rape/Patreon:https://patreon.com/baremarriage
Research study about remarriage after divorce:Remarriage: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/four-in-ten-couples-are-saying-i-do-again/Great Sex Rescue:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Keith's article on the boiling waterhttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/keiths-manifesto-misogyny-evangelical-church/Owen Strachan's tweet:https://twitter.com/ostrachan/status/1360257958526001153
Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too.Our Patreon--support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research!Connor's post detailing all our problems with Emerson Eggerichs' podcast episodeOur Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Emerson Eggerichs and Love & RespectOur original series about Love & RespectPre-order The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the new and revamped Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex--with tons of detail about the sexual response cycle (and, no, housework is not an element of the sexual response cycle, Emerson Eggerichs).The Great Sex Rescue--the book we were inspired to write when we saw how toxic Love & Respect wasOur Love AND Respect merchandise (mugs, stickers, tote bags, T-shirts, and more--because healthy people need both love AND respect).Our Duty Sex isn't Sexy podcast, all about obligation sex and marital rape
Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respecthttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/Download our scorecard and rubric for how we scored the books:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-rubric/Ngina Otiende's blog, Intentional Today:https://intentionaltoday.com/My post about Christopherhttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2016/08/im-okay-20-years-son-died/Our Patreon:https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Lucy Maud Montgomery’s short story The Strike at PutneyOur Love AND Respect Merch
Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays!Links to things mentioned:https://twitter.com/scott_m_coley/status/1470964828206477320https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827
Comments (28)

Sparrow Wings

at some point can we get Conner his own podcast? he cracks me up and he's so on point (although all of you are to be fair)

Apr 9th
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Sparrow Wings

"If we apply ourselves, we can be just as tough as women." <- Connor is the best! 😄

Oct 28th
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Sparrow Wings

Men and boys don't have a problem expressing themselves at all. They express joy, anger, depression very well. And ones who get violent are absolutely expressing themselves. Let's no longer pretend that's men's issue instead of the WAY men choose to do it. also, heartily disagree that women don't appreciate men enough. Wives make post after post after post about how blessed they are because for horribly bare minimum stuff like their husbands not cheating, not abusing them, or putting the dishes away like he's supposed to.

Oct 7th
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Sparrow Wings

re: secular people, for the most part that's not true at all. the women come back because they like the guy or are desperate (since we're taught we're not worth much without male validation). or more sinisterly, the guy is very manipulative, possibly a red piller or PUA, pretending he'll love her if she sleeps with him, or using games (pretending he's unimpressed with her so she'll work to do what he wants). also, many men don't really care if other men don't make their wives/gfs orgasm and some even admit this. the failure will fall on the women, not the men

Aug 26th
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Sparrow Wings

"why is [him being bad at pleasing her] never an option?!" because society raises men to be sexually selfish, see his own orgasm as the point of sex. :(

Aug 26th
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Sparrow Wings

you're not "supposed" to want sex; it's not a duty. it's completely up to the couple

Aug 17th
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Sarah Poffenroth

This episode is amazing! Well done Sheila for standing up for what is right.

Aug 16th
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Sparrow Wings

Holding your wife responsible for your anger is not just dangerous for her but demeaning to their relationship! What are they, a couple or a mother with her child?

Jul 10th
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Sparrow Wings

"If he wanted to, he would." He can see that pile of dishes; he just doesn't want to do them. that's not "man bashing", that's lazy person bashing.

Jul 9th
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Sparrow Wings

I love suits too but the guy is right, it's not comparable to formfitting leggings. It's the equivalent to a cocktail dress or evening gown. Think Grace Kelly's stunning costumes in her Hitchcock roles! I have never met a woman ever who was physically aroused by suits. Attracted? Absolutely. But a woman a man finds hideous can still turn him on if she's got a body type he likes and is wearing leggings.

Jul 6th
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Sparrow Wings

the proverb about dripping rain is actually not as bad as it sounds initially. as Giselle from Nagging Thoughts wisely pointed out, it's a woman trying hard to fix a problem that her husband is deliberately ignoring, much like the widow consistently coming at the judge to fix her problem like he should.

Jun 23rd
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Sparrow Wings

"withholding" implies she has something he is owed. no man on earth is entitled to sex or any part of a woman's body.

Jun 22nd
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Sparrow Wings

thank you so much Rebecca!! that is precisely why I dressed somewhat immodestly in some of my teen years. I had been bullied before over my looks and clothes and it left me anxiety ridden. Dressing that way was how I tried to protect myself.

Jun 22nd
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Sparrow Wings

That commenter was so right on! and yeah, I think if most men actually cared about their wives' needs, they would ask. If he cared, he'd make an effort. Men aren't stupid. Women have been patiently explaining ourselves till we're blue in the face and told we're wrong about our own needs, bodies, and sexualities and of course God. If he wanted to, ladies, he would! I love Sheila but I do think she's a bit too nice to men, and in a way male authors rarely are to women.

Jun 18th
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Sparrow Wings

That "ENTJ" is 100% not a ENTJ. Can't commit? Craves adventure? A thousand hobbies? That the exact opposite of high Ni. Ni focuses on a singular goal and finds it super hard to waver. They are committed,particularly when combined with Te. He is clearly an ESFP. The wife could be an ISFP but in guessing she is an ISFJ because she sounds- from what I can guess from the limited info- focused more on group harmony (Fe) than values (Fi). this is why we study the functions 😄👍

Jun 18th
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Sparrow Wings

also Sheila I'm quite sure you're an ESFP or ESTJ! xNTJs are very rare and most people mistype as them. I think you work well in the moment and are a genius at reading the room, you judge things by your values and it's great!

Jun 18th
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Sparrow Wings

hey! I know this is a little off topic but as a huge mbti fan, I'd like to say please do not take those online quizzes seriously. They're heavily biased against sensors, extroverts and feelers, and greatly mistype women as "feelers" and men as "thinkers" due to sexist stereotypes and gender roles. I mean, I'm an ISFP and it typed me as an ISFJ! Please, everyone, study the cognitive functions! It's not only much more it but accurate and be far less likely to mistype! I'm better this lady is no more a feeler than her husband. Men have just been trained to think they're inherently more logical which obviously untrue.

Jun 18th
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Sparrow Wings

There's a huuuge difference between a tiring job and giving birth!

Jun 15th
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Sparrow Wings

but sex IS optional. we don't need it like air or food. what are asexuals supposed to do, never marry? what about people who physically can't do it? doesn't this sound like duty sex?

Jun 10th
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Sparrow Wings

Conner sounds like an A+ husband! Wish more Christian men were like him!

Jun 7th
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