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A podcast dedicated to helping Christians speak biblical truth to the shame they experience in their relationships. Sam's hope for you is that you grow in your understanding of how shame impacts you, so you can learn how to better connect with God and others. If you experience fear, hiding who you are, boundary issues, anxiety, and/or depression in your relationships, then this podcast is for you. It’s time to speak truth to your shame!
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How to Untangle the Complexities of Child-on-Child Abuse in the Context of the ChurchThis is a very difficult topic, but a necessary one to protect our families and churches. Sexual abuse in the church has taken many forms, but the complexities grow even greater when children are involved. There are psychological, medical, legal, and spiritual concerns at play, and it can be very difficult to navigate through it all. Vince Hinders did his dissertation on this topic, and he shares some helpful information on how these issues can be addressed in a wise manner. We need God's wisdom when handling these difficult issues, and Vince provides some great steps the church can take to resolve them when they arise. **If you're a pastor, counselor, ministry leader, and/or parent, this is an episode you NEED TO WATCH. If you have any questions or comments, please submit them below. You can also DM me or email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
When you think about the church, you usually don't think about Christians shaming other Christians, right? Or, maybe you do? This has definitely been the case when it comes to the church's involvement in social justice issues. Progressive Christians have strongly criticized and shamed conservative Christians for not being involved, while the concern that conservative Christians have had is that the focus on social justice involvement has moved Christians away from the Gospel of Jesus Christ and preaching the truth of God's Word.  My guest, Jon Harris, discusses the dangers of it and how Christians should be responding to social justice prompts. In this episode, we cover::- what the difference is between shame and guilt, - how more progressive churches are shaming Christians who do not take part in social justice programs or activism, - what this means for Christians and the church, and- how to keep Jesus as the focal point of the church and not social justice programs. Hope you can tune in! **To learn more about how social justice issues affect the church and the message of the Gospel, please buy Jon Harris's book, "Social Justice Goes to Church". - https://amzn.to/3lwCokw Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
When it comes to counseling, minority communities face some interesting and dynamic challenges, much of which has to do with messaging that is received from family, culture, social media, and even political sources.It also doesn't help that there is a strong stigma attached to seeking help through counseling. In this episode, John and I discuss:- what challenges are faced by Latino and African-American communities, - how history plays a critical role as to what messages are communicated to minorities about authorities, - how these issues need to be addressed at the family, cultural, and church community levels,  and - how counselors can inform and equip themselves to understand minorities when they come to counseling. Hope you can tune in! If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.  Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Dating has changed quite a bit since the early to late 2000s. In my counseling experience, there is no greater complaint I receive from Christian women about dating than when it comes to understanding whether or not they are actually in a relationship.The stages are so blurred nowadays that no one really knows how to proceed or how to define the relationship. Dating today is better described as people seeking to connect and create intimacy in their relationship while also  dealing with their insecurities that stem from previous relationships or core family wounds. In this episode, I address these issues by discussing:- timing of seeking a relationship- defining the relationship- learning to be vulnerable with each other, and - facing your fears in relationshipsThis is one you don't want to miss. If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.  Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
It's really amazing to see how much of our childhood experiences with our parents shape how we view God when we become adults. If our parents were uninvolved, harsh, or absent, then we will tend to see God the same way. If our parents were involved, loving, and present, then we can make an easy transition to seeing God be the same way. The key to understanding God, however, is not through our experiences with how our parents raised us, but rather through filtering those experiences through the truths found in God's Word. It is in and through his Word that He chooses to reveal Himself to us. On today's episode, Dr. O'Hare and I discuss: - how parents influence our view of God, - how parenting styles play a role in how we view God, - how we develop healthy and unhealthy attachments to God and others, and  - some ways to develop a secure attachment style. If you want to understand the truth about how God relates to us as his children, and how parents involvement in our lives influences that, this is a show you'll want to tune in to.Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms. If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, please SHARE this episode! :)Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Fear.It was the first emotion experienced after Adam and Eve sinned against God, and it is also the strongest emotion we experience in everyday life, though at different levels. Consequently, it has also significantly impacted how we understand ourselves in relationships. Fear stems from shame as we see in Genesis 3. And the fear that Adam and Eve experienced is that of being FULLY KNOWN which is one of the prominent fears in relationships.For those who are dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode you’ll want to tune in to.Drs. Elias and Denise Moitinho and I discuss: - fears in experiencing intimacy with others,  - fears of commitment and what that means for a relationship,  - fears of trusting others after being hurt, and lastly, - some practical steps you can take to face those fears.  If you are currently dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode you’ll want to tune in to. :)Drs. Elias and Denise Moitinho’s bookDream Home: https://he.kendallhunt.com/product/dream-home-how-create-intimate-christian-marriageHogar de tus Suenos: https://he.kendallhunt.com/product/el-hogar-de-tus-suenos-como-crear-un-matrimonio-cristiano-intimoFollow Drs. Elias and Denise on Social MediaYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MotivationandGrowth Website: http://motivationandgrowth.com/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/MotivationGrow Instagram: @motivationandgrowth Please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
PORN....again!?!Yep, we're talking about it again this week, because this is an issue that has affected many marriages and families. Our hope with this episode is to bring clarity and wisdom in knowing how to biblically deal with this issue. The feelings are the same (betrayal, not being "good enough", anger, resentment, disillusionment, unworthiness, loneliness, desperation, and of course, shame), but seem to be experienced at a much greater degree. For those who are married or engaged, this will be an episode for you to tune in to. In today's episode, Dr. Thomas and I discuss:- how wives feel when their spouses use porn, - how to address it in marriage, - how to discuss the topic with your children, - shame in discussing sex with each other and where the shame stems from, and - how to develop a biblical view of sex for marriage. If you are currently dating or strongly considering to enter a relationship, this episode is for you. **You can still request Dr. Thomas's list of questions to ask a spouse or give to a married couple struggling with this so they can find healing. Email me at slconnect08@gmail.com, and I'll send it your way. Remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.Want to support the podcast? Visit your Apple Podcasts or Itunes app and Leave a Review for the podcast! I would greatly appreciate it! Book referenced:How Not to Date a Jerk - https://amzn.to/30Quhbo Follow me on social media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samlanda23/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/samlanda23 Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
PORN.Just seeing the word can trigger a lot of emotions. For women, it can often spark feelings of betrayal, "not being good enough", anger, resentment, and disillusionment. For men, it can often stir feelings of unworthiness, loneliness, desperation, and of course, shame. Pornography use has continued to increase with each passing year, and it has negatively impacted how men and women view and treat each other. Sadly, this is even the case for Christian couples. For those who are dating or thinking about dating, this is an issue that needs to be discussed. The question is, when and how? In today's episode, Dr. Thomas and I discuss:- what pornography is,- what it does to the relationship,- when and how to discuss the topic, - whether or not to break up, - myths about sex in marriage, and - practical steps to take if you’re dating a porn user.If you are currently dating or strongly considering to enter a relationship, this episode is for you. **If you would like to receive Dr. Thomas's list of questions to ask the person you're dating, email me at slconnect08@gmail.com, and I'll send it your way. Remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.If you could Leave a Review for the podcast, that would be awesome!Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Many books and works of literature have themes and storylines that address culturally-relevant issues surrounding relationships, shame, and fear, and Dr. Prior makes many of those connections for us in today's discussion. In today's episode, Dr. Prior and I discuss:how literature has elements of shame components, class discussion on cultural issues, the "Billy Graham Rule" and opposite sex relationships, and her book "On Reading Well"If you enjoy reading literature and see the many connections it makes to culture, then this is a fun episode for you to tune in to. Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms. **Dr. Prior has her book, "On Reading Well", available on Amazon which you can access by copying and pasting the following link: https://amzn.to/3gla6Hy Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
It's been said that leaders often travel alone due to feeling misunderstood, and this is especially true when it comes to ministry. Along with the feelings of loneliness and being misunderstood, there are moments where a pastor or leader may feel shame and fears in leading their teams. It is in those times when one can exercise faith and know that "even in our fears, God is at work." In today's episode, Pastor Jeff and I discuss:his book "Called to Cooperate: A Biblical Survey and Application of Teamwork,how leaders experience shame in leadership,fears leaders have when leading, and a biblical application on how to lead a team.If you're a pastor or ministry leader, this is one you won't want to miss. If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.  Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.  If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! **Pastor Jeff has his book available on Amazon which you can purchase here: https://amzn.to/3ht3Gqj Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
I hate hearing when abuse happens in the church. The reason for that is because those sins are not reflective of the bride of Christ that is described in the Bible, and every time the church fails in this, it makes Christians appear as though they don't take it seriously. Though there are various other forms in which abuse can take place, sexual and spiritual abuse seem to be the most common.  It wasn't until 4 years ago when it became a hot topic, and many types of abuses in the church started to be exposed. Today, we hear Dr. Janyne's story.  In today's episode, Dr. Janyne and I discuss:what shame is, her story on the abuse she experienced in the church,how that affected her view of God and the church, and how God used a gifted counselor to help her in the healing process. This is one you don't want to miss. If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.  Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Shame is such a powerful emotion, and it is seen everywhere, even in places where you would least expect it--the church. People who shame others are often experiencing shame themselves, and when you have a large group of hurt people, then you're likely going to see them hurt others as well.   In today's episode, Pastor Rob and I discuss:what shame is,how people can differentiate between shame and guilthow to find safe people we can be vulnerable with, If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.  Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Pastor Rob Shepherd's book, Kill the Jerk - https://amzn.to/2BQXGbB Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
The topic of race is such a sensitive topic to discuss in almost any circumstance, but when you have a solid foundation of trust between the two individuals who are discussing it, it actually makes for an honest and productive conversation. In today's episode, we discuss the following:how the black community experiences racism, how culture affects how we talk about it, and exploring whether or not there is a potential shift in how we view race relations in our country.If you've been having these conversations with your friends, then this is one you don't want to miss. Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms. If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Reading through the book of Genesis, specifically through the first four chapters, I found that one of the first emotions experienced after the fall was shame. I then noticed that there were 3-4 characteristics of shame, and these are each experienced by us through different experiences in our lives. As I pondered this earlier this year, I made the decision to change the name of the podcast to focus more on these elements of shame.   In today's episode, I discuss:what shame is,what Genesis 3 teaches us about shame and relationships, and discuss what topics you can expect for this season.If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.   Remember to subscribe and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.   If you'd like to support my show, please feel free to donate below. Thank you! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
The Gospel. The most important truth a person needs to believe and accept as part of their lives to become a Christian. Then, they must live in obedience as they learn to make Jesus not just their Savior but their Lord. Today, the Gospel has been perverted by many false teachers both from the pulpit and from within the church, and my friend Josh and I discuss how we can protect the church from false teaching and what to do when it is identified. Josh provides some great insights as to how believers can identify the lies that permeate many churches today, how to prepare ourselves in handling it, and makes a great emphasis on our need to defend the Gospel and share that truth with others. Hope you can tune in! Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
One of the most surprising things I often hear about Christian couples is how they briefly (or sometimes never) discussed the key areas they should agree on before getting married. The three most important ones that I've identified are faith, future, and family. Most hope that with time these things will just work themselves out, but it often ends up leading to frustration and disappointment due to unfulfilled expectations. Avoiding these discussions often leads to plenty of confusion in dating later down the line, and can lead to some strong disagreements later on in marriage. In today’s episode, I elaborate on each of these three key areas. I discuss when is the “right” time to have “the talk”, what questions to ask, some red flags to watch out for, and some final thoughts. Hope you can tune in! Follow me on my pages listed below: FB: https://bit.ly/39kSG9IInstagram: https://bit.ly/2UyNeLaSupport the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
For years, marriage has been under attack, and the culture has slowly but surely redefined what it is and what it should look like. Instead of reading the Scriptures and putting into practice the prescription for marriage that has been given to us, many Christians have begun to contemplate that maybe it doesn’t have to be the way the Bible tells us. Maybe it can be something else. Maybe it can mean what they want it to mean. However, this can be more dangerous than we think it is and I explain why in today’s episode. Today, I will discuss the following:1. where we obtain our views on dating and marriage,2. personal experience does not trump biblical prescription,3. the Bible is our guide for what roles look like in marriage, and4. the battle for leadership is the real issue at hand.Hope you can tune in!I would greatly appreciate if you could Subscribe to my podcast and Leave a Review in your Itunes or Apple Podcast app. If you have any questions, you can email them to slconnect08@gmail.com. Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
Church. Politics. Two words that should probably not ever be in the same sentence, but because of where we are in our history, they seem to always be linked to each other in some way shape or form. The concern for me has been, why does it bring so much division? Shouldn’t we be in “full agreement” and of “one mind” when it comes to the issues we must defend and stand for as Christians? Are we not encouraged in the Scriptures to seek unity? If so, then what’s the problem?Today, my friend, John Reid, and I discuss why there is division in the church, what issues we should be agreeing on, and then discussing ways in which we can reach agreement on those issues. Hope you can tune in. Follow me below:Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/?modal=admin_todo_tourInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samlanda23/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/samlanda23 Follow John W. Reid:Facebook: http://bit.ly/37DOmlo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnwesleyreid/Twitter: https://twitter.com/johnwesleyreidSupport the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
The fall had a detrimental effect on the history of mankind. Most significantly, it impacted how we relate to God and each other. We find that Adam and Eve's first reaction after the fall was fear and shame, and these feelings are all too familiar for us in relationships today. For us to understand what to do in our relationships, we need to understand how to address the core problem, and the core problem is our thinking and emotions is centered so much around ourselves that we actually distance ourselves from God and others. Dr. Kevin Corsini, President of San Diego Christian College, and I will be discussing what relationships were like before the fall, what changed after the fall, and what implications it has on our current relationships. Hope you can tune in!Remember to Subscribe and Leave a Review on your Itunes app. Follow me at:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/?modal=admin_todo_tour Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/samlanda23/?hl=en Twitter - https://twitter.com/samlanda23 Support the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
The Five Love Languages will be impossible to accomplish if the following principles are not established first.  These principles set the right foundation in order for these love languages to be displayed in your relationships. The following passage will set the remainder of this discussion for us.  Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12Compassion - sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate itKindness – of a sympathetic or helping nature3.      Humility - freedom from pride or arrogance4.      Gentleness - free from harshness, sternness, or violence5.      Patience - bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaintSupport the show (http://paypal.me/slandajr)
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