You Are Not A Frog

Confronting anxiety is easier said than done. It’s hard enough with adults, but with children it’s even more tough. Anxiety keeps us safe, but often we over-predict that something bad will happen and under-predict our ability to cope. The key is to learn how to manage anxiety before it becomes a problem.This week’s guest is educational psychologist Nicky Odgers. She specialises in working with kids who are feeling anxious about attending school. A lot of what she helps kids with applies to adults – things like mapping thoughts and emotions to physical sensations, replacing negative thoughts with more realistic ones, and practicing techniques to help us relax.Anxiety can interfere with our lives and become a problem if it goes unaddressed. Naturally we want to avoid things that cause us anxiety, but this stops us from learning that we can cope and that the terrible thing we fear may never happen.Listen to this episode toLearn about anxiety in children and teenagers, and how it can manifest as school avoidanceGain insight into how anxiety affects adults, including healthcare professionals, and how to manage it effectivelyUnderstand the thought patterns, physical sensations, and behaviours associated with anxiety, and how to address them to prevent avoidance and build coping skillsEpisode highlights[00:03:46] Epidemic of anxiety[00:09:21] Anxiety as pathology[00:14:00] Thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and behaviours[00:20:54] Safety behaviours[00:23:26] When is it right to step in and offer help[00:29:18] Anxiety in healthcare[00:31:47] How to persuade someone their fears are unfounded[00:34:35] Mind-reading[00:41:03] Teaching people to solve problems[00:45:14] Worry time and worry monsters[00:47:14] Distracting yourself from worry[00:48:24] Helpful safety behaviour[00:49:52] Helping anxious people[00:52:48] Neurodiversity and autism[00:55:58] Nicky's tips for managing anxietyAbout the guestNicky Odgers is an educational psychologist with a particular interest in school anxiety. She helps parents and schools to support children and young people to feel less anxious about attending school, to better manage their emotions, to develop their confidence, to initiate and sustain positive relationships and be more successful in their learning. LinkedIn | WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode 22: The Perils of PerfectionismEpisode 181: Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set BoundariesSchool Anxiety Support for Parents – Facebook groupNicky’s information and resource for parents and schools about school anxiety and EBSADownload Nicky's free handout for children, young people, and parentsa...

Do you find yourself thinking "it will be better tomorrow", or believing things will improve in a few months' time “when x happens”?In this quick dip episode, Rachel reveals how waiting for outside events to occur leads to more problems – because even when tomorrow comes, we’re still the same person facing the same challenges as we were yesterday.This mindset can lead us to looking for partial solutions which ultimately keep us from solving our bigger problems. But by focusing on our zone of power, we can reclaim agency over the things we can change, instead of waiting on events we can’t control.If we don’t try and take control, we can end up in a continued cycle of waiting for tomorrow to come. This leads to more stress, burnout, and exhaustion becoming the norm. But when we’re in our zone of power, we’ll find it much easier to deal with what today and tomorrow has in store.Listen to this episode toChallenge your "it’ll be better tomorrow" mindsetLearn practical strategies for creating urgency and focusing on your zone of powerKnow when to wait and see, and when to take actionEpisode highlights[00:02:18] Making it better now[00:03:13] Going down the vortext of busiyness[00:04:20] Urgency to change[00:05:59] What is the burning platform?[00:07:26] Be in your zone of power[00:08:25] If I could wave a magic wand[00:09:36] Ignore things for a period[00:10:38] Watchful waiting[00:12:01] Take actionResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180, with Tom DillonHow to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong – Episode 179Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

One way or another, menopause affects everyone at some point. If you’re not experiencing symptoms yourself, you almost certainly know or work with someone who is. That’s why understanding its effects and being able to offer support and compassion is so important.Women going through menopause can experience a wide range of physical, psychological, and hormonal symptoms. These symptoms often go unnoticed or ignored, which can impact confidence and increase anxiety. Lack of confidence or temporary difficulty in making decisions can lead to organisations losing talented, experienced women who thought they were experiencing cognitive decline. By perpetuating the stigma and embarrassment around menopause, we prevent women from seeking help and support.But there are resources and solutions available to help women manage their symptoms and continue to thrive at work - and Dr Claire Kaye joins us this week to talk through what we can all do.It starts with becoming more aware of the symptoms of menopause and recognising when they’re affecting us or our colleagues.If you’re looking for support with menopause, lifestyle changes like sleep hygiene, exercise, and nutrition can help. There are also medications available, but coaching can have a huge impact.We can educate ourselves and others about the symptoms and resources available, and seek out support from in-house Menopause Ambassadors, as well as support groups. If you’re experiencing menopause or perimenopause, coaching and medical support is available.Listen to this episode toUnderstand more about the physical and mental symptoms of menopause, and how they can affect people's work and personal lives.Learn about the importance of awareness, education, and support for people going through menopause, especially in the workplace.Discover resources and strategies for managing menopause symptoms, including lifestyle changes, medication, coaching, and group support.Episode highlights[00:03:14] What is the menopause[00:12:18] What can women do to help themselves?[00:18:35] Caring for yourself[00:30:12] Is it a midlife crisis?[00:32:14] What we tell kids about the menopause[00:33:49] Invisibility[00:37:19] Claire's tips[00:45:46] Rachel's tipsAbout the guestDr Claire Kaye, an executive career coach who specialises in career development and perimenopause and menopause in the workplace. She works with women who are experiencing symptoms of the menopause and helps them find ways to thrive while maintaining their careers and personal lives.LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram | WebsiteResourcesBalance: free menopause and perimenopause symptom tracker appTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)Episode 124: How to Change When Change is Scary

So many of us are caught up in a vortex of busyness. We end up working harder and harder without doing anything that re-energises us, all because we feel like we have no other choice.As healthcare professionals, we feel like rest is a reward for good behaviour, but it's a basic human need, and a professional responsibility. Why? Because rest makes us better at our job, and – frankly – we deserve it.In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores ways we can give ourselves permission to rest and remind ourselves that it's not something we need to earn. When we give ourselves that space, our wellbeing and productivity will improve.Nobody else is going to give us the time or permission, so we need to do this for ourselves. It will inevitably come with some guilt, but we can acknowledge that, then put our own wellbeing first and make it a professional priority.Listen to this episode toLearn about rest and how it affects our brainsUnderstand the different zones that we operate from, and how they impact our performanceGet tips on how to prioritise rest and make time for it in your daily lifeEpisode highlights[00:02:22] What happens when we rest[00:04:34] Threat zone, drive zone, and rest zone[00:06:04] If we fail to rest[00:07:18] Why we find it so hard to rest[00:08:30] Giving ourselves permission[00:11:23] SummaryResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerRachel’s previous Facebook Lives:What puts you into the corner?What to do if you get ambushed in a meetingMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis – Episode 167Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

For people in caring professions, trauma can be something we experience on a regular basis. an event doesn’t have to be earth-shattering to be traumatic, and if we let those “little T” traumas build up over time without addressing them, we can find ourselves in a constant sate of fight, flight, or freeze.When stress and trauma accumulate over time, we can minimise what triggers us and downplay our experience. Each time we do, we deplete our battery, pushing it from the green zone of calm and energy, to the amber zone of fight-or-flight, and if we’re not careful, into the red zone where accessing empathy and compassion – and even good decision-making – is much harder. This is often when burnout appears to come “out of nowhere”.But there are ways we can disrupt the burnout pattern, and tap into our nervous system to help us in those moments when we’re triggered.Listen to this episode toUnderstand the impact of “little T” traumas on our nervous system and how they can accumulate over timeLearn about the importance of recognising and prioritising self-careHear practical tips on how to recharge and avoid burnoutEpisode highlights[00:03:49] Big T and little T traumas[00:06:35] Impact on the nervous system[00:08:51] Normalising stress and overworking[00:09:58] Giving ourselves space[00:11:04] How housekeeping can help with our stress response[00:14:27] Saying no to avoid burnout[00:15:20] Functional levels of IQ[00:17:15] Where is your battery level?[00:20:34] Burnout and trauma[00:25:05] Defining boundaries[00:28:33] Emails[00:30:33] Minimising trauma[00:32:46] Self-help strategies[00:38:08] The red zone[00:42:11] Finding safety[00:43:39] Claire's top tipsAbout the guestDr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist specialising in trauma, anxiety and burnout. Alongside her online therapy practice she creates engaging short-form videos on improving your mental health. She regularly runs online workshops for overcoming stress, procrastination and unhealthy boundaries.LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | WebsiteResourcesThe Inner Consultation: How to Develop an Effective and Intuitive Consulting Style, by Roger NeighborCan't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation, by Anne Helen PetersenBurnout: Solve Your Stress Cycle, by Emily and Amelia NagoskiHuberman Laba...

We’re not just service providers – we’re carers and helpers. This can make it hard to set boundaries and prioritise our workload. What we need is air cover.By working together with your colleagues, you can create agreements about what to say yes and no to, and hold each-other accountable.And you can also seek out peers outside of work, so you can share your dilemmas and feel less alone. If we keep silently struggling with saying no or setting boundaries, we can start feeling burnout, which can affect our judgement.In this quick dip, Rachel explains how we can get some protection at work, and ask our peers outside of work for support.Listen to this episode toUnderstand the concept of air cover and how it can help with setting boundaries and prioritising workloadLearn about how shared accountability and informal networks can help give us air coverGet actionable steps for finding and using air cover to make saying no easierEpisode highlights[00:02:16] We're trying to solve the wrong problem[00:03:49] What happens when we want to say "no"[00:06:36] Legal air cover[00:06:58] Finding air cover in accountability[00:09:03] Air cover from informal networks[00:12:12] How air cover helps to cope with fear[00:12:44] Air cover against complaints[00:14:41] Action pointsResourcesMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 161: The Problem with BoundariesEpisode 125: How to Say No and Deal with PushbackTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? ****Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

Do you ever feel like you're just not being heard? Or like you’re under pressure and no one understands how much you’re juggling? Especially in high-stress careers, few of us have the chance to truly be listened to – and coaching can help with that.Coaching isn’t therapy or listening to someone else’s advice. It's about exploring solutions yourself, with guidance. Coaching gives you permission to take a tricky situation and ask "If this were different, what would I notice?".Coaching allows you to “think to the end of your thoughts”, with someone who listens and asks really effective questions.Better still, by adopting a coaching mindset, you can help your teams solve problems using the skills and knowledge they already have.If you’ve felt burnt out, ignored or resentful, help is at hand. This week, transformational coach, trainer, and author Tom Dillon joins Rachel to explore how different coaching approaches can help you reclaim your agency, think more clearly, and act positively.Listen to this episode toLearn about the benefits of coaching, including how it can transform your life and provide a space for thinking and explorationUnderstand how coaching differs from therapy and mentoring, and why coaching is a valuable tool for healthcare professionalsDiscover different coaching approaches, like the person-centred and solution-focused approaches, and how they can be used to help you generate options and make your own decisionsEpisode highlights[00:02:46] What haas coaching ever done for us?[00:05:30] Coaching vs therapy[00:07:12] The power of being listened to[00:10:51] Hearing back what you've just said[00:12:43] The person-centred approach to coaching[00:14:29] Are doctors good listeners?[00:16:27] The solution-focused approach to coaching[00:23:57] When negative beliefs prevent us from imagining solutions[00:29:42] Cognitive behavioural approach[00:31:50] Somatic approach to coaching[00:34:09] Neuroscience approach[00:39:48] Gestalt coaching approach[00:45:17] Coaching "the uncoachable"[00:48:25] Taking a coaching approach[00:53:00] Work with Tom[00:53:21] Your Coaching JourneyResourcesYour Coaching Journey – Use the code FROGSPAWN for a 20% discount on Tom’s courseConnect with Tom via LinkedInFree coaching provided by the NHSEpisode 163 – Why Can’t I Say NoEpisode 67 – Bringing Your Best Self to Work, with Dr Sarah GouldingEpisode 63 – How to Survive Even When Times are Tough, with Dr Caroline WalkerDr Jill Bolte Taylor – The 90 second life cycle of an emotionSign up to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Mentioned in this...

Have you ever had to do something you didn't want to do? Maybe it was a task at work, a favour for a friend, or a chore at home. It can be frustrating and draining when it seems we have no say in our actions. It can make us feel powerless and stressed out. And that's not good for our work quality or our well-being.But is that true? Do we really have no choice at all?In this Quick Dip, we share how to use power language to set boundaries and take back control of your life. Keeping your work and life balance in check can be hard when you feel like your freedom is taken away. You will learn seven simple words to help you regain autonomy.Learn how to set boundaries through your language. If you want to know how to regain control of situations that drain you out, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what it means to give over connecting.Discover the importance of autonomy in motivation.Learn the seven words that will help you take back autonomy.Episode Highlights[00:37] Connecting with People Who Drain You[03:05] Taking Back Autonomy[04:55] The End Goal[05:24] Even If[07:42] Causing Inconvenience[08:30] Power LanguageResourcesDrive by Daniel H PinkMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 74: Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed PooleyEpisode 153: Think Differently About Your To-Do ListEpisode 161: The Problem with BoundariesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? ****Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work Well WebinarsFind out more about our new Work Well evening webinar subscription

In the words of today’s podcast guest, “Everyone can benefit from neurodiversity”. But how much do you understand about the way it impacts you and your colleagues?Neurodiversity can be a real strength in high-stress roles like medicine. Different ways of thinking can allow us to cope with high pressure situations, handle complex information, and perform brilliantly in ways that others couldn’t.But it also offers us challenges, both when it comes to managing our own needs but also in supporting those around us. A great example is “masking”, where people try to hide elements of themselves in order to “fit in” with those around them. It takes a huge amount of energy, and can take a significant toll on our mental and physical wellbeing.You might have a diagnosis of something like ADHD, ASD, or dyslexia, or know a colleague or family member who does. But even if you don’t, all of us benefit from understanding more about different ways of thinking and seeing the world, and knowing how to support each other better using our unique strengths and talents.In this conversation, we hear from neurodivergence coach and facilitator Matthew Bellringer who unpacks the terminology in a brilliantly clear way. He shares how you can make the most of the advantages of neurodivergence in you and your team, as well as dealing more effectively with the challenges it brings so we can support each other better.Listen to the episode if you want toUnderstand the terminology of neurodiversity and how it can benefit individuals, society, and organisationsLearn about the unique strengths and challenges that come with neurodivergence, and how to capitalise on those strengths while mitigating the costsDiscover how masking and camouflaging can take a toll on the mental and physical wellbeing of neurodivergent individuals, and how to work towards expressing oneself and one's experiencesEpisode highlights[00:03:25] Neurodiversity and neurodivergence[00:06:59] Twice-exceptional people[00:10:55] Neurodivergence and empathy[00:12:32] Superpowers vs mutant powers[00:15:51] Hyperempathy[00:18:42] Masking[00:21:13] Themes that show up for neurodivergent people[00:27:20] Neurodivergence, health, and lifestyle[00:30:07] Addiction and compulsion[00:33:00] Helpful coping mechanisms[00:35:10] When your zone of genius is outside of your role[00:38:00] How neurotypical people can help the neurodivergent[00:41:23] Get curious about your needs[00:42:32] Neurodivergence and leadership[00:43:22] Advocating for yourself[00:44:27] Seeking diagnosis and supportAbout the guestMatthew Bellringer helps people with neurodivergent traits to develop their strengths and deal more effectively with the costs. In his work, he frequently encounters frustration and anxiety as common experiences for neurodivergent people in high-stress jobs.LinksConnect with Matthew via LinkedInCurious Being - Matthew’s community for unconventional people who want to make the world a better placeWork with MatthewDelightful Dissent – Matthew’s podcast exploring assumptions

It's a fact of life that we can't please everyone. That's why one of the hardest things to do is say no and try to keep everyone happy with our decisions. Even if it's against our will, we try to give a piece of ourselves to everyone. The thing is, that takes a toll on us until resentment builds up in our hearts. So, how do you expect pushback while staying firm with your decisions?In this Quick Dip, we explore the topic of pushback, how it affects our emotions, and why we should expect it. We lay down tips on removing guilt from receiving pushback and handling other people's reactions. It's one thing to expect pushback but another to deal with it. The first step is to accept the fact that there's somebody that will always oppose your views and decisions.Stand your ground firmly but compassionately. If you want to know how to expect and deal with pushback, this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the power of expecting pushback.Find out how resentment builds up and its consequences.Discover the best ways to deal with pushback.Episode Highlights[00:29] On Pushback[02:26] Expecting Pushback[03:39] How Resentment Builds Up[04:35] Expecting Feedback[05:07] How to Deal with Pushback[07:34] Hunting for the Grain of Truth[10:32] Setting Boundaries and Expecting PushbackResourcesThink Again by Adam GrantMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback with Annie HanekomEpisode 161: The Problem with BoundariesEpisode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala HijackBeat stress at work with our Zone of Power Bitesize Pack!THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comp...

High-stress and high-performance professions like healthcare often push people beyond their limits. When this happens, stress and burnout are often the unfortunate consequences.In this episode, Dr Sarah Coope joins us to discuss how to avoid burnout by embracing your capacity. She delves into finding your optimal stretching point for each of your limited resources. Sarah also examines the nature of our fear of saying no. And we explore the consequences and benefits of managing and maintaining your capacity.If you find yourself stretched too thin, then this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand your limits and capacity. Discover how to shift your mindset and avoid burnout. Learn how to embrace your guilt. Episode Highlights[10:30] Shifting Your Mindset to Embrace Your Capacity[19:30] Saying No to Avoid Overstretching Yourself[28:30] Identify Your Optimal Stretching Point[38:30] Managing Emotions and Language Usage[44:20] How to Deal with the Guilt From Saying NoResourcesIndistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir EyalConnect with Sarah on LinkedIn | TwitterEpisode 99: How to Deal with Criticism When You’ve Reached Your LimitEpisode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala HijackEpisode 171: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No ToolkitReach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our traininga...

You have brilliant ideas and solutions that can make a difference in your work. But how do you get others on board with them? It can be hard to convince others when they have different views and opinions. The thing is, you can’t change someone’s mind without knowing where they are coming from and what matters to them. You have to face it with confidence, grace, patience, and, sometimes, acceptance.In this quick dip episode, we talk about how you can influence anyone by understanding yourself and them. We then discuss the impact of focusing on your zone of power and the importance of conflict and disagreement.Find out how to tackle any challenge with skill and insight. If you want to know how to influence others gracefully, this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what things are inside and outside your zone of power.Learn how not to get stressed when influencing people.Discover why you can’t control influencing someone.Episode Highlights[00:28] Circle of Influence[02:30] What You Have Control Over in Influencing[03:09] The Zone of Power[04:35] Focus on Action[06:51] What is Behind Conflict?[07:51] How to Influence People[10:55] Focusing on Your Zone of PowerResourcesThe Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick LencioniMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 23: How to do conflict well with Jane GunnEpisode 122: How to be Happy at Work with Sarah MetcalfeTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

On this episode of You Are Not a Frog, our guest, Corrina Gordon-Barnes, joins us to discuss the challenges working mothers face in traditional family units. The conversation sheds light on the value of self-compassion, learning to navigate negative emotions, and striking a balance between work and family life. This episode is for everyone involved in parenting, not just mothers. It’s not just women who experience mum guilt!For a new perspective on mum guilt and actionable advice for a healthy balance between career and family life, don't miss out on this invaluable conversation with our guest, Karina Gordon.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Recognise and navigate feelings of shame and mum guilt in your parenting journey.Discover the role of self-compassion and reparenting in achieving a balanced life.Understand the impact of societal norms and social media on our emotional state as parents.Episode Highlights[03:39] The Challenges of Motherhood and Mum Guilt[07:50] The Impact of Perfectionism and Shame in Parenting[12:06] Challenges and Mum Guilt in Parenting[21:08] Understanding Shame and Overcoming Negative Emotions[29:57] Challenges and Strategies for Working Moms[40:56] Coping with Guilt and Shame in the Work-Life Balance Struggle[48:16] Top Tips for Overcoming Mum Guilt and ShameResourcesSolve for Happy by Mo GawdatConnect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | ​Twitter | LinkedInWant to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes: Episode 121: How to Be a Happy Working Parent Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts    We’re releasing a FREE mini-series this May and June about how healthcare teams can set better boundaries and love their work! Check it out here: THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter:a...

Disappointing ourselves and others is an awful feeling highlighted by guilt and shame. It can often lead us to act out regretfully as we attempt to mask it. Out of fear of its consequences, we resort to tiptoeing around others. This is most common in the medical field, where people tend to prioritise the needs of other people before their own. It could be why you may have difficulties saying no to people. In this quick dip episode, I will dive into how you can deal with disappointment. Learn to understand your needs and take action. Understand it's okay if you can't do everything or please everyone.If you’re a doctor struggling with stress because you are afraid to disappoint yourself and others, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover the source of your disappointment.Learn how to overcome your fears by saying no. Explore the benefits of prioritizing your needs above others. Episode Highlights[00:00] The Fear of Disappointing Others[02:08] Sources of Disappointment[7:14] Consequences of Self-Disappointment[11:01] Prioritize Yourself and Your NeedsResources:Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No ToolkitSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Join our free Masterclass for Leaders in Healthcare on June 20, 2023: "Know Your Limits, Claim Your No” Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

Does it feel like you're in a toxic work environment and can't get out? Too many doctors — both in the UK and elsewhere — find themselves in a whirlwind of work. There's always more to do, and you don't want to imagine the consequences of what happens if you fail. There seems like there's no way out, but the truth is, you always have a choice.In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Dr Dike Drummond and I dive into a topic that affects many industries but is particularly prevalent in healthcare — surviving and thriving in a toxic work environment without burning out.If you’re a doctor stuck in the whirlwind of your toxic work environment, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn what you can change in a toxic work environment.Discover ways to improve how your career serves you.Find out how doctors can care for themselves and why that helps them do their job better.Episode Highlights[00:00] Doctors as Coal Mine Canaries[13:41] How Profit Creates a Toxic Work Environment[23:34] How Doctor Training Creates a Toxic Work Environment[30:49] You Always Have a Choice[40:02] Change or Leave Your Toxic Work Environment[52:13] Bureaucracies Always Add More Work[54:48] Drummond and Morris’ Three Top TipsResourcesSign up for our free webinar on June 20th Free Masterclass For Leaders In Healthcare with Dr Rachel Morris Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit!Visit The Happy MDListen to the Physicians on Purpose PodcastGet Dike’s booksReach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com Shapes Toolkit TrainingTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: a...

Life can seem full of threats and stresses we face daily. As high-stress professionals, these types of situations are a part of daily life. All of this can place a great mental load on our brains and trigger our amygdala to not always respond in the best way. That's why it's important to learn how we can reduce these threats and manage our stress. The question now is how can we do this?Picking up where we left off, this quick dip episode dives into the last four factors of the SCARF Model. We learn more about tips and techniques that can help minimise threats and improves our response. Reward yourself and develop habits that can help you feel certain, in control, and supported even amidst all the stress.Learn how to better manage your stress and respond to difficult situations. Avoid an amygdala hijack when you listen to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what 'C,' 'A,' 'R' and 'F' stands for in the SCARF Model.Discover how being friends with everyone can lead to less stress and a better work life.Listen and learn how you can apply the SCARF Model in your work and personal life.Episode Highlights[00:44] What ‘C’ Stands For in SCARF[03:20] The ‘A’ in SCARF Model[04:34] The Power You Hold[06:26] The ‘R’ Stands For…[07:31] Everyone is a Friend[09:41] The ‘F’ in SCARF[10:55] Applying the SCARF Model[12:35] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack With HelpResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Episode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1Learn about the SCARF Model by David RockLearn more about your Zone of Power Book a call and reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a...

Our conditioning has trained us to rely on the egocentric left brain. We often overthink things, even when we have no control over them. But what if we didn't have to accept that this is simply how our brains work?This week, Dr Giles P Croft joins us to discuss his experience of having a TIA that caused his left brain to stop functioning properly. Giles shares what it’s like to access his right brain freely without any worry in mind. We discuss how our thinking left brain often gets in the way of us staying in the present moment. We also lay down simple ways to get reacquainted with our right brain.Don’t miss this episode and gain wisdom on how to be happy, calm, and connected.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how the left brain has evolved to dominate our thinking.Discover how the left and right brain consciousness works.Find out simple steps to get more connected with your right brain.Episode Highlights[03:44] Giles’s Background and Experiencing a TIA[10:17] How He Was Feeling the Entire Time[12:16] We Allow the Left Brain to Dominate[16:00] The Divided Brain[19:34] The Power of Now[23:38] Become Aware of Our Thoughts[30:17] How the Right and Left Brain Works[32:34] Tips on How to Get from the Left to the Right Brain[39:21] Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff[44:10] Facing Stress and Challenges[50:57] Giles’ Top Three TipsResourcesConnect with Giles: Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | YouTube | TwitterWellbeing Wednesdays: Website | Apple PodcastsTwo Brain FactsJill Bolte Taylor: My stroke of insightThe Divided BrainWhole Brain Living by Jill Bolte TaylorThe Power of Now by Eckhart TolleDon't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Criticism and feedback are fundamental to growing as an individual and professional. However, often, our brain perceives such conflicts as a threat. The amygdala acts upon this and kicks in our survival instincts. As a result, we check out and shut down to protect ourselves. How do we avoid acting from this place of fear and focus on working toward developing ourselves?In this quick dip episode, we uncover the overarching principle of the amygdala. We discuss how to avoid an amygdala hijack and how not to operate from our threat zone. We have a choice around how we perceive and respond to triggers. We introduce the first principle of the SCARF Model and how to get over it.Learn how to minimise threats for yourself and others. If you want to know how to avoid an amygdala hijack, this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why avoiding amygdala hijack increases performance and happiness.Discover the idea of Civility Saves Lives.Discover the 'S' in the SCARF model.Episode Highlights[00:28] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack[02:55] Civility Saves Lives[04:16] You Have a Choice[07:37] The ‘S’ in SCARF Model[08:38] Becoming Aware of How You Display Status[10:05] Getting Over Status[10:51] Being in a Higher StatusResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Ep 167: Why We Become Terrible in a CrisisCivility Saves LivesLearn about the SCARF Model by David RockTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!

This week, Jo Watkins, co-founder of The HOW People, joins us to explore entrepreneurial possibilities for doctors without leaving their day jobs. We talk about what holds us back from pursuing a business idea and how you can get started on this journey. We also discuss honing the transferable skills you already have to discover what you'd like to try.If you want to start doing something different in your life and career, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover your 'why' in life and business.Understand why you learn most by failing.Recognise and hone your transferable skills as a professional and entrepreneur.Episode Highlights[04:50] The Beginning of Jo’s Entrepreneurial Career[07:56] Worrying about the Unknown in Business[10:56] Honing the Skills Within[14:21] What Hinders Our Transferable Skills[17:41] Think about Your Why[20:00] Learning by Failing[25:21] Jo’s ‘Why’[30:32] Putting Boundaries in Place for Your Business[33:51] How to Manage the Reality of Running a Business[38:33] Getting Advice from People Who Have Done It Before[42:37] Unrecognised Transferable Skills of People in High-Stress Jobs[47:26] Making Time for Exploration[49:53] Jo’s Top Three TipsResourcesConnect with Jo Watkins: Website | Instagram | Email | LinkedInBook a 4D Coaching and Mentoring session with Jo.Help inspire the next generation of awesome humans with The HOW People. THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this...

As a medical professional, facing high-stress situations every day might make you think you can handle anything. But the truth is, decisiveness isn't always what you want when things go wrong. Not every crisis is the same. Sometimes, the best course of action is to take a step back and come back to the crisis later.In this quick dip episode, we uncover why we become terrible in a crisis, even as healthcare professionals. We explore how we typically react to stressful situations and their consequences. Then, we discuss strategies to ensure you've left the stress zone before you handle your crisis. It all begins with self-awareness and self-apprehension.Before anything, it's crucial to take a pause. If you want to know how to develop good crisis management skills for yourself and others, this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover why being in our stress zone makes us terrible at dealing with crises.Learn the best course of action when you're backed into the corner.Find out how to make your own amygdala hijack rescue pack.Episode Highlights[00:29] Dealing with Crises as a Healthcare Professional[02:42] Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis[03:25] Four Choices When You are Backed into the Corner[04:39] The Amygdala’s Job[06:19] You are Responsible for Your Reaction to a Crisis[08:23] How to Deal with Being Backed into a Corner[10:56] Knowing What’s Urgent and What’s Not[12:16] Get Out of Your Stress Zone[16:44] Investigating the Stories in Your Head[18:20] Making Your Own Amygdala Hijack Rescue PackResourcesEpisode 157: The Power of Pressing PauseHow to Say No ToolkitTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!