Dear Franny

In this conversation, Francesca Hogi and Elle J. discuss the challenges and realizations that come with approaching milestone birthdays, particularly focusing on relationships, self-worth, and the importance of connection. Elle shares her journey of seeking a committed relationship after years of prioritizing her career, the impact of COVID on her social life, and her efforts to engage more with others. They explore the complexities of vulnerability, the significance of self-love, and the need to redefine relationships beyond romantic connections. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, asking for help, and recognizing the value of all forms of love in life. In this conversation, Francesca Hogi guides Elle J. through the complexities of self-compassion, personal growth, and the fear of change. They explore the importance of embracing challenges, the emotional processing of change, and the narratives we tell ourselves about our worth and relationships. The discussion emphasizes the power of self-discovery and the need to change our beliefs to foster healthier relationships and a more authentic self. In this conversation, Elle J. and Francesca Hogi explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on self-love, breaking unhealthy patterns, and the importance of intentional dating. They discuss how personal narratives shape romantic experiences and emphasize the need for self-acceptance and clarity in what one truly desires in a partner. The dialogue encourages listeners to challenge their beliefs about love and relationships, fostering a healthier approach to dating and self-worth.   Pre-Order Franny's Book!   Join Francesca and the True Love Society community on Patreon! Join for free live monthly sessions, a library of resources and more! https://www.patreon.com/dearfranny   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi  

Special guests alert! In this engaging conversation, Francesca is joined by the AstroTwins, Ophira and Tali Edut, about their journey into astrology, their breakthrough IAM system, and how astrology can be a valuable tool for personal development and understanding relationships.  Be sure to check out their new books, The Astrology Advantage and their 2025 Horoscope guide!   Get their books HERE   Learn your IAM success archetype: https://astrostyle.com/astrology-advantage/iam-archetype-quiz/   Follow The AstroTwins on IG: @astrotwins   Join Francesca and the True Love Society community on Patreon! Join for free live monthly sessions, a library of resources and more! https://www.patreon.com/dearfranny   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk. Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

This week Francesca coaches Mary through her personal narratives surrounding her attractivenss, her ability to meet someone, and the impact of societal standards on her confidence and relationships. Mary opens up about her experiences with trauma, the challenges of navigating the dating culture, and her journey towards self-acceptance. Apply to be coached by Franny for an upcoming episode HERE.    Join Francesca and the True Love Society community on Patreon! Join for live monthly sessions, a library of resources and more! https://www.patreon.com/dearfranny   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this episode of the Dear Franny podcast, Francesca Hogi reflects on her previous conversation with Tyler, focusing on the theme of honest communication in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of expressing one's needs and goals, particularly in the context of dating. Francesca encourages listeners to confront their fears and the potential downsides of vulnerability, highlighting that love and connection require conscious choices. She advocates for embracing emotional intimacy and the ripple effect of love in our lives, concluding with a call to action for listeners to engage in self-reflection and open-hearted communication.    Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Previous Episode  02:48 The Importance of Honest Communication in Relationships  06:05 Understanding Your Needs and Goals  09:09 Facing Fears and Downsides in Relationships  11:59 The Power of Choice in Love and Relationships  14:50 Embracing Vulnerability and Emotional Intimacy  18:04 The Ripple Effect of Love and Connection  20:55 Conclusion and Call to Action   Apply to be coached by Franny for an upcoming episode HERE.    Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this special one-time session, Tyler shares with Franny his journey of navigating self-esteem issues that have impacted his love life. He discusses a new, powerful romantic connection he has formed and his uncertainty about its future.The conversation explores the dynamics of his relationship, including the challenges of non-monogamy and the desire for clarity and alignment in their future together. Tyler reflects on his past experiences and how they shape his current understanding of love and connection. It’s a can’t miss conversation about the complexities of self-worth, people-pleasing, and more.   PLUS: Franny announces her new True Love Society community on Patreon! Join for live monthly sessions, a library of resources and more! Get 50% off your first month at https://www.patreon.com/dearfranny   Timestamps  00:00 Navigating Self-Esteem and Relationships  02:00 Exploring a Divine Connection  04:59 The Nature of Their Relationship  07:51 Clarity and Intentions for the Future  11:59 Understanding Relationship Dynamics  13:03 The Challenge of Non-Monogamy  16:59 Finding Balance in Love  19:00 The Magic Wand Scenario  20:12 Navigating Uncertainty in Relationships  28:34 Exploring Self-Worth and People-Pleasing  33:13 Navigating Relationship Dynamics and Communication  35:49 Understanding Relationship Expectations and Boundaries 41:58 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships  46:56 Growth and Self-Reflection in Relationships   Apply to be coached by Franny for an upcoming episode HERE.    Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this episode, Francesca explores the themes of self-worth, vulnerability, and relationship dynamics. Elaborating on some of the themes from last week’s 1-on-1 coaching with Allison in Episode 129, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own value, choosing the right partners, and being aware of the patterns we normalize in our relationships. Francesca encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability as a courageous act and to identify their personal 'love assignments' on the journey to meaningful connections.    Timestamps  00:00 Introduction to Love Coaching  01:54 Understanding Self-Worth in Relationships  06:23 Normalizing Relationship Dynamics  11:27 The Courage to be Vulnerable  17:04 Identifying Your Love Assignment  21:35 Conclusion and Future Episodes   Listen to Episode 129: “You Were Always Worthy” HERE.   Apply to be coached by Franny for an upcoming episode HERE.    Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this special episode, we get a front row seat to a 1-on-1 love coaching session with Franny. Allison joins the show to seek help with her dating challenges, self-perception, and emotional growth. Allison candidly opens up about patterns of abandonment she’s struggled with and her desire for a healthier, more balanced romantic relationship. Listen in as Franny helps her gain more clarity and create a plan to break her old dating patterns and love herself more in the process.  Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this episode, Francesca Hogi dives into the ups and downs of navigating life’s transitions, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Ever wonder why you’re stuck in the same dating patterns or can’t quite connect the way you want? Francesca introduces four relatable dating archetypes—Avoider, Looper, Surfer, and Sailor—designed to help you figure out your dating style and uncover the barriers on your path to finding real love. With her signature mix of insight and warmth, she shares tips on building self-awareness, practicing self-compassion, and setting dating goals that actually work.    Apply to be coached by Franny for an upcoming episode HERE.    Timestamps: 00:00 Navigating Change and Transition  01:48 Understanding Dating Archetypes  03:17 Exploring the Four Dating Archetypes  19:05 Assignments for Each Archetype  22:33 The Impact of Casual Dating  28:12 Upcoming Coaching Sessions   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi  

In this episode, Francesca Hogi discusses her upcoming book 'How to Find True Love' and emphasizes the importance of the four dimensions of love she discusses in the book — mindset, heartset, soulset, and skillset. She critiques the oversimplified dating rules of the past and advocates for a more holistic approach to relationships that includes self-discovery and intuition. Francesca highlights the significance of following one's intuition and being open to unexpected experiences that can lead to meaningful connections.   Timestamps  00:00 Introduction to True Love Journey  05:12 The Importance of Intuition in Love  22:14 Embracing the Unexpected in Relationships   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this episode, Francesca Hogi explores the concept of true love, challenging the notion that it is a rare occurrence reserved for the lucky few. She emphasizes that true love is not just about finding 'the one' but about cultivating a relationship with essential qualities such as respect, emotional intimacy, and joy. Francesca discusses the importance of self-love and personal growth in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships, encouraging listeners to recognize their own role in the dynamics of love.    Timestamps: 00:00 The Quest for True Love  09:00 Understanding True Love Dynamics  18:15 The Role of Self-Love in Relationships   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

In this episode, Francesca Hogi gets listeners thinking about their love lives with a focus on self-compassion and curiosity. She highlights how important it is to break old habits and make room for new possibilities. Francesca also dives into how life changes can affect dating and why creating personal space is key for building romantic connections. She encourages listeners to take practical steps towards improving their love lives by reflecting on their patterns and making intentional choices that move them forward towards the love they want.    Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro to Reflecting on Your Love Life 02:24 - Breaking Patterns in Dating 06:03 - Making Space for Yourself 10:50 - How Life Transitions Affect Dating 15:09 - Empowerment & Love Confidence Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk.   Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi

In this episode of the Dear Franny podcast, Francesca Hogi dives into the ups and downs of dating apps, stressing the importance of being intentional and staying true to yourself when navigating the online dating world. She talks about how dating apps have evolved, their pros and cons, and shares practical tips to help you build a standout profile and effective strategy for getting OFF the apps. Franny also reminds us that real-life connections matter too—don’t put all your eggs in the dating app basket! This episode is all about shifting your mindset to focus on deeper, more meaningful connections and taking charge of your own dating journey. Time Stamps: 00:00 – The Evolution of Dating Apps 02:09 – How to Navigate the Dating App World 03:59 – Making the Most of Your Dating App Experience 10:09 – How to Build the Perfect Dating Profile 18:07 – Intentional Dating: It’s More Than Just Swiping 26:48 – How to Take Charge of Your Dating Journey Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk. Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi 

Join us in this episode as Francesca takes us on her inspiring journey into love coaching. She talks about the spiritual nature of love and the power of self-love to empower us to take charge of our love lives. She shares practical advice on using self-awareness and intuition in dating, and why centering love in all aspects of life is key. Whether you're navigating new relationships or looking to grow within yourself, this episode will give you the tools to embrace love in a whole new way. Takeaways: Meet Francesca Hogi and hear how she found her passion in love coaching. Learn why self-love is essential to understanding and experiencing romantic love. Discover why romantic love is often misunderstood or undervalued in society. Get tips on taking control of your love life by owning your role in relationships. Explore the idea of "centering love" in your daily life. Understand the importance of self-awareness and intuition in dating. Hear Francesca’s insights on self-care and why it matters in the dating process. Find out why it's important to reflect on your preferences and patterns in love. Leave empowered to embrace love from the inside out! Timestamps: 00:00 - Meet Francesca Hogi 17:35 - How our perception of love matters Love Is Perceived & Why It Matters 30:46 - Empowering you on your love journey Listen to Franny on Your First Job.  Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk. Work with Franny:  https://linktr.ee/dearfranny Connect on social media: @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram Credits:   Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi 

In this episode, Franny continues last episode’s conversation about keeping it real when it comes to dating. She breaks down the three levels of authenticity: knowing yourself, owning your true personality, and making sure your actions line up with who you really are. Franny also points out that being genuine isn’t just key to finding the right partner—it’s also how you can experience more joy and fulfillment in your life.   Key points:   - Dating norms have shifted, and the old ways of thinking no longer match the complexity of modern relationships.   - Authenticity is essential to finding compatibility with a partner. When you know and embrace who you are, it opens the door for real connections built on shared values and perspectives.   - Authenticity has levels and is the key to a happier life - Self-compassion is the foundation for self-love and acceptance, which are the building blocks of healthy relationships.   Timestamps   00:00 - Introduction and Recap   06:44 - How Dating Norms and Societal Expectations Have Evolved   17:19 - The Three Levels of Authenticity   23:55 - Finding Compatibility by Being Real   25:17 - The Power of Being Your True Self   26:40 - Self-Compassion and Self-Love in Relationships   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   Work with Franny:    https://linktr.ee/dearfranny   Connect on social media:   @dearfranny on Instagram @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi   

Hey everyone! Welcome back to season six of the Dear Franny Podcast! 🎉 I’m Franny, and I’m super excited to kick off this new season with you all. Today, I’m diving into my journey of writing my first book, ‘How to Find True Love,’ and I’ve got some juicy insights to share.   We’re chatting about why being your authentic self is a game-changer in dating and relationships. It’s all about moving from a fear-based mindset to one that’s rooted in love. Trust me, embracing this shift can make a world of difference!   I’ll be talking about the whole love journey—why it’s important to enjoy the ride and make choices that really align with what you want. No more reacting out of fear or feeling pressured by society. It’s about being true to yourself and making decisions that reflect your desires and values.   Plus, I’m giving you a sneak peek into our next episode, where we’ll dig even deeper into the different layers of authenticity.    Here are some of the highlights:   - “Dating apps have taken so much of people’s romantic agency away from them.” - “Love is a verb, and choosing love is all about growth and learning.” - “Dating from a place of love versus fear leads to better outcomes.”   Can’t wait to dive in with you all. Let’s make this season the best one yet! 💖   Timestamps   00:00 Introduction and Book Announcement  05:42 The Importance of Authenticity 10:24 Embracing the Love Journey  14:11 Shifting from Fear to Love  21:21 The Power of Authenticity in Compatibility  25:01 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi  

Hello! We’re back with a surprise bonus episode introducing Franny’s new love manifestation offering, Believe and Receive.    If you’re ready to bridge the gap between belief in the abundance of love and having a true love relationship, this 6-month mentorship program is for you! Learn more and sign up at: https://dearfranny.com/believe   Keep in touch!   Watch Franny’s TED talk: Franny’s TED talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   Credits:  Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi  

In the final episode of 2023, Franny lays out the six most common perspectives on dating that block you by making dating much more difficult. Learn how to make your love journey more fulfilling in 2024 and beyond.  If you’re ready to go deeper and make 2024 your year of true love, join Franny for her new 6 class series that will teach you how to put love at the center as you date with more success than ever!    Get $50 off The True Love Series when you sign up by December 31st: https://dearfranny.com/love   WATCH Franny’s TED talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   Keep in touch!    Join Franny’s free community for single women, The True Love Society, by clicking HERE.   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   @dearfranny on Twitter   @dearfranny on TikTok   Francesca’s Website    Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta  

As 2023 comes to a close Franny reflects on the year and the advantages of setting a yearly theme. Her 2023 theme was intention, and she reflects on the impact it had on her 2023 manifestations, from her TED talk to a book deal. Franny invites you to reflect on what your 2024 has in store!    WATCH Franny’s talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   ***Franny’s 21-Day course, How to Date With Intention is 50% off for a limited time! Get your copy HERE.***   Keep in touch!    Join Franny’s free community for single women, The True Love Society, by clicking HERE.   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   @dearfranny on Twitter   @dearfranny on Clubhouse   @dearfranny on TikTok   Francesca’s Website    Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romansanta Cover art graphic design by Francesca Hogi Theme music by Origamibeats Episode graphics and show notes by Francesca Hogi  

The wait is over! Franny’s TED talk about a world where everyone has true love is finally live! In this episode, she talks about manifesting this talk, as well as how, by embracing love holistically, we can make true love inevitable.    WATCH Franny’s talk at: https://go.ted.com/francescahogi   ***Franny’s 21-Day course, How to Date With Intention is 50% off for a limited time! Get your copy HERE.***   Keep in touch!    Join Franny’s free community for single women, The True Love Society, by clicking HERE.   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   @dearfranny on Twitter   @dearfranny on Clubhouse   @dearfranny on TikTok   Francesca’s Website    Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romansanta Cover art graphic design by Francesca Hogi Theme music by Origamibeats Episode graphics and show notes by Francesca Hogi  

Franny is back! With lots of major life and career updates. One of them being the release of her Ted Talk on December 8th! This episode is a brief preview of some of the topics discussed in that conversation. Including exposing some of the ways that the Fairytale Industrial Complex sets us up for romantic dissatisfaction, such as the importance we put into diamond rings, setting folks up for romance scams, and simply unrealistic relationships.   ***Franny’s 21-Day course, How to Date With Intention is 50% off for a limited time! Get your copy HERE.***   Keep in touch!    Join Franny’s free community for single women, The True Love Society, by clicking HERE.   @dearfranny on Instagram   @dearfrannypodcast on Instagram   @dearfranny on Twitter   @dearfranny on Clubhouse   @dearfranny on TikTok   Francesca’s Website    Credits:    Edited and produced by Bex Carlos Cover art photography by Matt Romansanta Cover art graphic design by Francesca Hogi Theme music by Origamibeats Episode graphics and show notes by Francesca Hogi