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Jimmy Hinton, a minister, and his mother, Clara Hinton, reported Jimmy's father when a victim reported to them that she'd been abused. Sadly, this is rare. Churches typically defend and protect abusers. This show is dedicated to the millions of survivors who have been mistreated or not believed by the church. Jimmy and Clara wish to bring hope to survivors and shift the current culture in the churches that are perpetuating abuse.
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Hey listeners! After over half a decade of podcasting, we've decided to make some big changes in life. We'll be making a big shift in our focus, so tune in to hear what we'll be up to and why we decided to wind the podcast down. We're so grateful to everyone who has listened to us for the past five years. Thank you isn't adequate to show our appreciation for you!Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Trauma has a very difficult effect on survivors. Unfortunately there are scammers too. We have to distinguish between people who suffer with mental illness and people who are scammers. The former need us to point them to good resources and the latter need blocked. Sometimes it's very difficult to distinguish. In this episode we use real examples.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Meet Chele Roland, the whistleblower who exposed the International Churches of Christ for decades of abuse cover-ups. After podcasting about her own abuse on WhaTheFlok podcast, Chele began getting all kinds of messages from survivors of abuse from the International Churches of Christ. The ICOC/ICC, known as "The Boston Movement," put a huge emphasis on recruiting "disciples" who were personally responsible for producing large numbers of converts to Christianity.The rules were very strict and Chele was one of the people responsible for producing converts. Her story of sexual abuse is tied to the ICOC/ICC and her conditioning kept her silent for years. After reaching out to over sixty church leaders and not receiving a single response, Chele decided to lead the way for other survivors to seek justice and stop the abuses that are still happening. Chele's story is one of courage and honor. We were so glad to have her share her story!Chele's YouTube channel and podcast, WhaTheFlok: @whatheflokcultsurvivalstor6528 https://www.whatheflok.com/*Book Chele suggests for survivors of sexual abuse:The Body Keeps Score by Vessel Van Der Kolk MDFree2b non profit for survivors to have access to resources and therapy, etc: Free2b.nonprofit@gmail.comIG: @Free2bJimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
A little over a month ago we had an episode on helping our friend in Haiti purchase a motorcycle so that he could deliver food, water, and medicine to desperate people. Not only did we meet our goal, but we actually surpassed it with enough money to purchase more food and medicine. In a world with lots of bad news, we wanted to share some good. We legitimately cannot thank you all enough. Our dear friend Julien is SO happy and has been giving daily updates. Thank you to our faithful listeners who donated, prayed, and just offered support by listening. Lives are literally being saved because of you!!Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp Support us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut Find us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport And Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12 https://twitter.com/clarahinton Intro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
We saw a recent video by Steve Harvey about the importance of stopping negative self-talk. It was so powerful, and we wanted to share how important it is to have a proper attitude to change the outcome of our lives. Our talk, both negative and positive, really can determine the direction our lives will take.Steve Harvey Video:https://youtu.be/yWDo-y-tK7kJimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Not everything is reportable when it comes to abuse. So many people feel stuck because they don't know what to do when they cannot report to police. Should you tell anyone? Who should you tell? What do you tell them? Find out in this episode.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
James MacDonald was recently arrested for felony charges of assault by means likely to produce great bodily injury. MacDonald beat up a 59 year old woman and sent her to the hospital when there was a small fender bender. People have been defending Mr. MadDonald, saying that he was framed, he's innocent until proven guilty, and that we need to focus on stories of grace and not highlight felony crimes.This episode highlights those remarks so that we can better understand how churches are likely to respond to abuse allegations.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Why in the world did the Dalai Lama ask a young boy to suck his tongue? The fact that this was called out so publicly is a great sign that people are fed up with people acting creepy toward our young children. In this episode we talk about the extremely inappropriate comment, including kissing the boy on the lips, followed by a very weak apology. This was chalked up to "innocent joking" that is routinely done with children.We believe the public is finally fed up with the excuses for these kinds of sick behaviors with our children. Even Cardi B is fed up!Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
There's one theme that runs thick among all survivors - loss. And it's not just survivors of abuse. So many millions of people have lost so much. Death is also something that we all will have to face, both among loved ones and we have to face the reality that we ourselves will die, guaranteed. Grief reaches us in tons of different ways and often we're not prepared to face it.But face it we must. We have to face pain to get better. We have to deal with it, process it, acknowledge it, and embrace it if we are going to conquer it. And it's quite possible to conquer our pain! In this episode we talk about facing our pain. We cannot ignore it, mask it, or pretend like it doesn't exist.Clara's Website:https://www.silentgriefsupport.com/Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
We're really don't like the term "expert" anymore. Writing a book, taking a course, or holding a certificate or political office doesn't necessarily make someone an expert. There are lots of people in every field who claim to be experts but they lack credibility. Credibility is far superior to claiming expertise, especially when it comes to trauma. Trauma experts are people who have lots of education, experience, and credibility among the people they help.That's not to say that only professionals can be helpful, but be very cautious when people claim to be experts but lack credibility or a vast amount of experience and education. It really matters, when we are processing trauma, whether someone is credible or not.CNBC article- nearly half of retirees plan to retire in debt:https://www.cnbc.com/2021/11/16/46-percent-of-americans-expect-to-retire-in-debt.htmlSocial Security Study:https://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/research-summaries/debt-trend.htmlCredit Card Debt at All Time High:https://www.cnbc.com/2023/03/09/as-credit-card-debt-hits-new-high-households-near-a-breaking-point.htmlNM Lawmakers Destroy Chile Industry:https://www.abqjournal.com/2579812/lawmakers-overreach-killing-new-mexico-chile-industry.htmlJimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Most often survivors are told to immediately forgive their abuser yet no demands are placed on the abuser. Survivors are told that this is the only way they can receive healing. We long for the day when justice is sought FIRST, then people talk about forgiveness. In the end, what keeps us all safe from abusers is when some form of justice keeps them at bay where they can no longer produce victims, contact victims, or harass innocent people. Once an abuser begins the process of repaying what they took from their victims we can begin a conversation about forgiveness.Please note that we are not attempting to convince anyone to change their views on forgiveness. We are, however, talking about what worked for us and many survivors we've spoken with. You may find these conversations difficult but that in no way diminishes your healing journey.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport And Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
You won't want to miss this story of our good friend in Haiti who needs our help. It's incredible how things come full circle and that someone we met over a decade ago has made such an impact on us. We're helping raise money for our good friend Julien for transportation so he can deliver food and medicine to people in his community.If you'd like to help, please visit the link below and share! https://www.paypal.com/pools/c/8Sn4Wq7sx6Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Very often we are contacted about churches that invite sex offenders into their worship services. We also are asked what the chances are of getting a conviction when abuse is reported. We found some recent statistics on prisons in the US and, to be honest, we were a little surprised. There is a big disparity between the number of sex offenders in prison and the number of those on the sex offender registry.Again, to our surprise, prison populations dramatically shrunk from 2019 to 2020. We do know that most sex offenders receive light sentences, so the statistics actually make sense and should cause us to be extremely vigilant.Prison population ranked by state:https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/prison-population-by-stateJimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Believe it or not, there aren't that many training courses out there on abuse prevention. Perhaps that's why we have such an epidemic of abuse.In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of in-person versus online content and look at a couple different training options that might be right for you!Jimmy and Clara's Training Videos (with more added each month!!): https://momence.com/video/plugin/30112Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
Surprisingly, we get asked a lot if we still have faith in God after all that our family has been through. The answer is a resounding YES. We had plenty of faith struggles, but we came out stronger in our belief of God.There is a lot of ugliness in the world and, unfortunately, in the church too. When everything was stripped from us, all we had left was God. He certainly looks different than he did before all of our tragedies, but that's a good thing.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
I once had the privilege to learn from former FBI agent Jim Clemente. His passion for profiling, the fact that he's a survivor of child sexual abuse, and his vast knowledge of abusers' techniques make him a leading expert. He really was a catalyst for getting me started on researching abuse techniques.Deception detection is a very important skill that FBI agents use to determine when someone is lying. Everyone is capable of learning the basics of deception detection. In this episode, we talk about the different techniques Jim Clemente teaches for detecting deception.YouTube video of Jim Clemente on Deception Detection:https://youtu.be/tpJcBozuF6AJimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
In this episode we share dos and don'ts when helping people find safe shelter. Domestic violence is the leading cause of people needing to find safe shelter. But those people are very vulnerable and often fall prey to people who are waiting to take advantage of them, making them worse off than they were before they left their abuser.It's important that we take our time to learn the dos and don'ts so that we don't send people into harms way.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro--Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro--I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
There are some troubling trends with sexual abuse, violence, and drug abuse in the US. Each year we read the Pennsylvania annual report on abuse to gauge what is happening with abuse in our state. Then we look at national statistics. Unfortunately, the numbers are not easing. There are a lot of compound traumas that families are facing.In this episode, we give our opinion for where we are heading this year and how we can help ease this epidemic of abuse.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
There has been a recent string of murder-suicides in the news since the new year. Domestic violence has been dubbed the "Shadow Pandemic" and is giving way to large numbers of calls to police. Many of the women who were murdered had a history of telling friends they felt unsafe, filing protective orders, and were making futile attempts to stay separated from their male partner.This is a troubling trend that we need to be aware of and known how to respond because chances are good that you know someone who is victim to a violent partner. In this episode we offer ways that we can be involved. We cannot wait to make a police report after the fact. When we know there is violence, we should begin advocating for victims.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside:How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Himhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
We're not even two weeks in and this year has already proven to be a monster. Just today (after this recording) I got news that a beloved friend passed away this morning. Millions of people are trying to learn how to cope with compound trauma. In this episode we talk about how grief grips us and how we have learned to embrace it.Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dpSupport us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOutFind us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthorhttps://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupportAnd Twitter:https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12https://twitter.com/clarahintonIntro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284
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It's not ok that the law protects abusers seeking custody of the kids they abused.
Thankyou Clara and Jimmy for sharing this. To every spouse that leaves, you are so brave. you survived the gaslighting, you put your kids first! I honour you. Anyone who tries to say God wants you to stay married and forgive are toxic. that abuser is a criminal and it was Jesus himself who said that it would be better for them to the a milestone around their neck and be tossed into the sea... Some spouses make me so mad they keep drinking the predator's coolaide and become their biggest defender... god help the pastor/decon that tries to tell them that they need to attend child-free service!
After taking care of two kids who grew up with an emotionally abusive father which led to both having anxiety produced health issues requiring tons of care, I get incredibly triggered by those NOT wearing a mask. I get so fearful that I will get sick, getting them sick and have traumatic care and worry over them again. I was paralyzed at first. I did quit my job because accountants are essential in my state. Luckily my employer found a way for me to work from home. Also I have a wonderful counselor and a dust allergy. I already owned a comfy N95 mask for years. I get it, I DO. But trauma can produce both results.
To me the forced isolation is normal, feels comfortable. It's the fear of unknown. The fear of what is coming next - a surprise ambush of badness and gloom. - survivor
if you ever hear of someone researching about why I left I'll happily answer a survey. But for me it was because I was tired and broke. after I took a break (i always intended to go back) there were more and more clergy abuse stories and the line between religion and politics in our nation is blurring more than I'm comfortable with, but I'm not convinced it's about pleasing Jesus driving those with the most money and power.
Wow that's an interesting list
Many people with bipolar lead normal lives once their medications and support systems are sorted. It's such a shame that your ex used people's inexperience/ lack if education to prejudice them against you. It's so sad because of the gaslighting from the person who should have had your back, had you actually had similar mental health issues.
I listened to this podcast... and had Jimmys words from this series, in my mind... It's a story that's hard to listen to but a really good one about a wolf. https://castbox.fm/vb/149750164
leaders and elders need to be aware if they protect a predator and parents find out they can and will involve the media.
I'm super keen to hear more on this topic. I was watching leaving Neverland this week and was surprised how many things you both have said was playing in my mind when listening to the survivors tell stories. there's so many similarities between Michael and your dad... the being a bit odd as a weapon, telling other people they just had dirty minds, being adored... mud that's thrown by his fans similar to mud you've also talked about in other podcasts and blogs. it's a touchy subject.
these 2 podcasts will be ones I listen to a few times. there's a lot of good information in there. I'm curious as to whether when your dad went to gaol if other predators were found such as people he was distributing the child porn to?
thankyou Alex for speaking out. you are so brave. I've just found this podcast and am listening to it a lot. things said earlier make a little more sense... but also wow mum and brother of a victim, keeping that secrect would have sucked... there are just no words! I'm curious about the tears of predators you sometimes mention and I'd like to know more about the 'classification' system. I discovered your websites a few years back and the story of the man who had a disabled son who was preyed upon and killed by a man in the church has stayed with me. I often wonder how he's doing. I read the story last night of the young man who was a pastors kid whose mother is telling everyone he's crazy though she knows the truth. swear words. keep doing what you're doing. it needs to be brought into the light and our kids need to be protected.
I'm so excited to be hearing your podcast! Clara I followed your blog and found it fascinating. Jimmy I loved hearing the conference for protection of children. years later the stories are still with me.