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Welcome to The Smart Sex Podcast – Real talk about Sex, Relationships and HOT Topics. Hi! I'm your host Leslie Gustafson, licensed Sex Therapist , Marriage & Relationship Coach & Master Psychotherapist of 30 years ( I say that humbly and for credibility so you know you are in knowledgeable, experienced hands.) I have had the privilege of being FOX TV’s Sex & Relationship Expert for 5 1/2 years as well as being a guest on Access Hollywood, and all the major networks and many radio channels. It was time to start my own show and dig in more deeply and expressively.
In the coming episodes, you can expect we will be talking A LOT about Sex – how to have amazing sex, current #sexgeek facts, hot off the press research, sex enhancing tips, sex ed, and how to expand your own eroticism and intimacy.
You will hear from experts and I will be your personal expert fielding your questions in my “askthetherapist” segments. If you’ve been following me elsewhere on social media platforms you know this is something I’ve been doing for the last 6 years. It will happen here now.
You will also be hearing from couples in love. Couples willing to tell their stories and share the intimate details of their lives and include you in how they navigate their love. You will be able to listen in on conversations between women (some of my closet, most authentic girlfriends) sharing their real lives, histories, thoughts and humor regarding sex, wife-ing, mom-ing, their relationships, what they want and their big opinions about current HOT topics
And, you will hear from men - Real Men willing to talk real about what it means to be a man in the current age and how life, sex and relationships work for them and what they want and hope for. My therapist husband will show up here too at times so I can pick his big, sexy brain and you can benefit from that.
And we will have adventures where I learn about new things, try them out and let you in on the experiences. Yes. I kept that vague on purpose.
And I hope you will tune in. I hope to entertain you! If these episodes aren’t stimulating, fun, interesting and at times lol humorous, then I’ve missed the point! So whether you listen in from the privacy of your own cars or rooms with your earbuds in or whether you gather as couples, or with friends and you listen and talk among each other. Let’s expand the conversation about SEX, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS - be better, sexier and smarter for it & have a blast doing it! Pun intended.
In the coming episodes, you can expect we will be talking A LOT about Sex – how to have amazing sex, current #sexgeek facts, hot off the press research, sex enhancing tips, sex ed, and how to expand your own eroticism and intimacy.
You will hear from experts and I will be your personal expert fielding your questions in my “askthetherapist” segments. If you’ve been following me elsewhere on social media platforms you know this is something I’ve been doing for the last 6 years. It will happen here now.
You will also be hearing from couples in love. Couples willing to tell their stories and share the intimate details of their lives and include you in how they navigate their love. You will be able to listen in on conversations between women (some of my closet, most authentic girlfriends) sharing their real lives, histories, thoughts and humor regarding sex, wife-ing, mom-ing, their relationships, what they want and their big opinions about current HOT topics
And, you will hear from men - Real Men willing to talk real about what it means to be a man in the current age and how life, sex and relationships work for them and what they want and hope for. My therapist husband will show up here too at times so I can pick his big, sexy brain and you can benefit from that.
And we will have adventures where I learn about new things, try them out and let you in on the experiences. Yes. I kept that vague on purpose.
And I hope you will tune in. I hope to entertain you! If these episodes aren’t stimulating, fun, interesting and at times lol humorous, then I’ve missed the point! So whether you listen in from the privacy of your own cars or rooms with your earbuds in or whether you gather as couples, or with friends and you listen and talk among each other. Let’s expand the conversation about SEX, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS - be better, sexier and smarter for it & have a blast doing it! Pun intended.
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I've got a hot episode for you today.Caterina Passarelli is a former TV News Producer turned romance author and entrepreneur from Michigan, close to Detroit. She writes in the contemporary, billionaire, and soon-to-be mafia romance genres. When she worked for the news, she was the morning Producer, so she went from writing about murders to writing about love!. Caterina gives us a behind-the-scenes look at her process of writing romance, and she talks about the complications of putting a spicy book into the world. Caterina also shares some personal thoughts about what she wants women to feel when she reads her books.We cover the benefits of reading romance and overcoming the judgment of being a romance writer. You'll even get my take on one of her books that I have read personally and how it impacted me.Caterina has written 6 novels available on Amazon, with 3 more due to be published soon. Many of her books have made it to the Top 100 of their genres.Find Caterina online!TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@caterinapassarelliInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/caterinapassarelliFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/catpassarelliJoin Caterina's book email list: http://www.caterinapassarellibooks.comShop Caterina's books on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/author/caterinapassarelli {PODCAST EPISODE SUPPORTERS} Join my FREE masterclass and get A STEP-BY-STEP Plan to break free from fear, insecurity, negative feelings and flat-lined relationships, become authentically you, radically alive and be the woman you long to be in aLL areas of your life!http://amazingyou.life/free-webinarVISIT GOLOVECBD.COM/LESLIE AND ENTER PROMO CODE "LESLIE" AT CHECKOUT FOR 10% OFF GOLOVE CBD PERSONAL LUBRICANT.
You've heard of self-esteem, but have you heard of sex esteem? What do self-esteem and sex esteem mean for men in particular? What is intrinsic and extrinsic about both concepts? How does it help or hurt us in the bedroom and in our relationship with our partner?Today I have a guest you know if you're a regular listener of The Smart Sex Podcast. Doug is not just my love, my sweet darling husband of 24 years. He is also a personal development, leadership, relationship, and emotional IQ coach, and a therapist of over 40 years.We're excited to connect and share with you today.Visit TryLGC.com and enter coupon code LESLIE at checkout for 20% off your male hormone testing kit.Eddie by Giddy is an effective way to treat performance issues in the bedroom. Visit buyeddie.com/leslie and enter code LESLIE at checkout to get $10 off the Eddie.
The show is BACK! I took a break over the summer, I am thrilled to bring you season 3 of The Smart Sex Podcast. Before we dive into the upcoming season, I want to take today to celebrate where we've been and highlight the connections we've made in the last year.We're looking back at guests who have brought expertise to subjects involving having fun, being intentional and mindful, and some difficult discussions about sexual trauma.Despite adversity and living in the middle of a world that feels so disconnected, I hope that you have found connection. I hope that you feel smarter and sexier because of the first two seasons of this podcast.I am so excited to share even more incredible guests with you. Be sure to subscribe, share if you dare, and leave your review!Thank you, as always, listeners, for being so loyal and sharing in this journey with me, and with the special guests I have here on the show. I can't wait to share what's coming up!
1Today I'm excited to have a special guest, who is also my partner, my lover, and my best friend in life.We're talking about such a timely topic. "Play" is so critical to our well-being and relationships, and it has been compromised in the pandemic.Doug and I go into play in general, play individually, as a couple, and play in the bedroom. We want to inspire you to create a playful lifestyle with your partner!VISIT GOLOVECBD.COM/LESLIE AND ENTER PROMO CODE "LESLIE" AT CHECKOUT FOR 10% OFF GOLOVE CBD PERSONAL LUBRICANT.
If there's an episode of The Smart Sex Podcast to listen to more than once, it's this one.Dr. Lea Lis takes us through the journey of sex education, from birth to adulthood in a way that will rock your world. She gives advice about age-appropriate conversations and behavior to model for our kids that will challenge us toward a healthy view of sex and sexuality.Lea pushes the envelope and even goes against what we view as cultural norms. Buckle up, listen closely, and no matter what stage of parenting you're in, take notes!Dr. Lea Lis is the 'Shameless Psychiatrist.' She is a double board certified Adult and Child psychiatrist, and Assistant Clinical Professor at New York Medical College. She has a bustling practice in the Hamptons where she sees patients from all family arrangements.Her book, “No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships,” helps people pass down intergenerational wisdom, instead of trauma, by using modern psychotherapy techniques which she perfected throughout her many years of experience. She is an expert in the field of psychology, and hopes to change the way we speak about sex.VISIT buyeddie.com/leslie and enter code LESLIE at checkout for $10 off Eddie by Giddy.LEAVE ME A VOICEMAIL! Go to thesmartsexpodcast.com and click the microphone to ask me a question confidentially that could be answered on an episode of the podcast.
Kim Boda, today's guest, is passionate about helping entrepreneurs and Realtors to level up and reach their highest potential through high-performance coaching, mindfulness, and neuroscience programs. She is a real estate expert at eXp Realty, a certified High-Performance Coach, Neurochangesolutions Corporate Trainer, and teaches "Mindfulness At Work" to organizations.Kim creates the real, strong, and legitimate link between mindfulness, sex, and intimacy.With her simple and practical tactics, she teaches us how to be connected with our mind and body. There is so much that we hold in our body, and without a doubt, we take that into the bedroom with us.Kim and I even do a little mindfulness practice in the episode. I hope you'll follow along with us.VISIT GOLOVECBD.COM/LESLIE AND ENTER PROMO CODE "LESLIE" AT CHECKOUT FOR 10% OFF GOLOVE CBD PERSONAL LUBRICANT.LEAVE ME A VOICEMAIL AND BE HEARD ON THE PODCAST: Visit www.thesmartsexpodcast.com and click on the microphone
Today's guest has a truly remarkable story of finding grit within and rising strong. After being in a terrible motorcycle accident, Amberly Lago went into a medically induced coma. She went through a painful process of 34 surgeries and a lot of physical therapy. For years she needed the assistance of a wheelchair.Today, Amberly is a health and wellness coach, TEDx speaker, podcaster, and a leading expert in the field of resilience and transformation. I'm eager for you to hear Amberly's solid advice for actually putting ourSELVES on our "to-do" list. She talks about how to impact the world around us, how to give ourselves grace through struggle, how to attract good things, and the daily practice of living in gratitude.Through her story, Amberly encourages us how to shift our perspective on life.Amberly is the best-selling author of "True Grit and Grace." She empowers people around the world by sharing her story of how she turned a tragedy into triumph. Through her book, coaching methods, and workshops, she has curated unique tools to teach others how to tap into their superpower of resilience and persevere through any of life's challenges. She offers hope and solutions for anyone (like her) living in chronic pain to live life to the fullest. Amberly has most recently been featured on NBC's The Today Show, The Doctors, Hallmark, Good Morning Lalaland, and contributed to magazines such as Shape, Fit Pregnancy, Health, and Disability Magazine.I am inspired by Amberly and her courageous spirit, and I know you will be, too.VISIT GOLOVECBD.COM/LESLIE AND ENTER PROMO CODE "LESLIE" AT CHECKOUT FOR 10% OFF GOLOVE CBD'S INTIMATE LUBRICANT.JOIN MY AMAZING YOU FACEBOOK TRIBE FOR WOMEN: www.thesmartsexpodcast.com/amazingyou
The Smart Sex Podcast is all about REAL TALK, and today's guest brings that with a side of laughter and fun. It is my honor, joy and delight to have my good friend Kathie J. join me. Kathie J. is a real life Wonder Woman. She's an Emmy award winning television host, a working mom of two beautiful girls, a wife, a daughter, a dog mom and advocate, and a #1 Morning Radio Show host of almost 20 years. She received her Best Lifestyle Host Emmy when she was co-host of Fox31's, "Colorado's Everyday Show." Kathie stays busy as a social media influencer with over 100,000 followers. Through humor, humility, and her dynamic personality, Kathie J resonates with people from all walks of life. I was a recurring guest on Kathie's show for many years and we always have a good time together.We talk about burnout, slowing down, and navigating through attaching self esteem to our work.JOIN MY AMAZING YOU FACEBOOK TRIBE FOR WOMEN: www.thesmartsexpodcast.com/amazingyou
In the identity development stage of my 20’s, many know, I struggled with body preoccupation, anorexia and bulimia which was my way of dealing with managing a loss, and feelings, particularly shame and anxiety, I felt I had no control of. It took a lot of hard therapeutic work for me to get well and ultimately shaped who I have become today.I discovered this episode’s guest on social media several years ago, and was so impressed by her knowledge and wisdom about issues that mean much so to me.Leslie Schilling, MA, RDN, CSCS, CEDRD-S, owns a Las Vegas-based coaching practice specializing in nutrition counseling for families, those of all ages with disordered eating concerns, professional athletes, and performers.In addition to running her practice, Leslie serves as the performance nutrition consultant for Cirque du Soleil® and as an expert contributor to U.S. News & World Report, sharing advice on parenting and health. With her warm, compassionate and entertaining personality, Leslie has been featured in media outlets like Health, Women's Health, Self, Pregnancy Magazine, The Yoga Journal, Bicycling, BuzzFeed, the Huffington Post and on HGTV.When she's not spending time with her family, you can find her sharing non-diet messages through media and on speaking platforms across the nation. Leslie is passionate about educating ministry, military, health, medical and fitness professionals about the harms of typical dieting behaviors. You may know Leslie best as the creator of the Born To Eat® approach and co-author of the award-winning book, Born To Eat: Whole, Healthy Foods from Baby's First Bite.Sign up for Leslie's weekly newsletter with dinner menu ideas and tips for non-diet living on her website: www.LeslieSchilling.comSome people don't even know that there is such a thing as a diet culture. Our society can be so pervasive in telling us that we have a problem that we don't have. Leslie and I dig through that, and she inspires us with a mindset shift and practical advice on how we can love our body, just the way we are.Listeners, THANK YOU for continuing to subscribe and daring to share this podcast!JOIN MY AMAZING YOU FACEBOOK TRIBE FOR WOMEN: www.thesmartsexpodcast.com/amazingyou
I have a delightful couple on this episode, and we’re going to be talking about sex, marriage, and laughter.Brittany and Ryan Ostofe cohost the podcast “The Laughing Couple,” which is #1 in Canada for Parenting and Relationships.They love to discuss the rawness of parenthood and how to create a healthy relationship through laughter and effective communication, and they did not disappoint in this conversation!By day, Brittany is the Curriculum Director for an Art company. She also runs her Instagram and Tiktok platforms with over 350,000 combined followers to empower her community of women through humor and relatability.When he’s not being an incredible Father, Ryan runs his own sales marketing business named after their two children, The Riley Cooper Group.Ryan and Brittany share with me how they manage two careers, working from home together, and how the pandemic created a breakthrough moment for their marriage in a very creative way.
My husband Doug joins me to dip into the fascinating world of fantasy and imagination in the bedroom. There are many nuances and layers to this topic, but I want you to know that you are a creative and imaginative person in and out of the bedroom! Let yourself ponder that. Considering yourself and what you want to do with your inner life enhances you personally and could potentially improve your experience as a sexual person and a sexual partner.What’s fantasy all about, and what different kinds of fantasy are there? Why would we need fantasy to enhance our sexual experience? What do couples need to do to have a healthy fantasy? Are there any you shouldn’t be having? What about the “moral” issue?Join us as we talk about all this and more, and encourage you to become smarter, healthier, and sexier!SPONSOR: trylgc.com/leslie Enter LESLIE at checkout for 20% off
In this episode, our good friend Cindy Scharkey and I talk about cultivating our sensuality as women, but guys shouldn’t be in a hurry to skip this one: there’s some good stuff in there for you too!We cover the definition of sexuality and erotic energy, how to put that into practice in one’s life and relationships, the history of what gets in our way, the need for emotional expression, mindfulness, and how to cultivate sexuality.We want to empower women and give them the freedom and encouragement to have their voice and use it to communicate what they want and need around their personhood and sexuality, even if it sometimes feels laden with fear and shame. Take up the cause of yourself, ladies. Put the work of YOURSELF on the forefront. Let yourself have what you long for: in yourself, in your life, in your sexuality, and your relationships.Cindy Scharkey, RN, BSN, is passionate about breaking the silence surrounding women’s sexuality. Through her workshops, speaking events, and private consultations, she equips women with both content and self-confidence to express, experience, and enjoy their sexuality. She also empowers parents with knowledge and confidence to be their child’s primary sexual health educator. Cindy offers sex education and resources through her free monthly newsletter and blog at www.cindyscharkey.com.
I'm bringing you a very important topic today that is very near and dear to my heart. I'm talking with an expert on love, sexuality, and dating, as it relates to Autism. Many of you may know that I have a 21-year-old son who is Autistic: high-functioning, smart, brilliant, musical, but challenged. I have wanted to do this talk, not only because it's the life stage my son is in, but there is so much to be said about this very important topic.Today's distinguished guest is my friend and colleague, Jeremy Hamburgh. Jeremy is the founder of My Best Social Life, where he is the first dating and friendship coach in the world to focus exclusively on transforming the social lives of autistic young adults. His clients make new friends, start dating, and attract a loving partner in less time than they ever thought possible. Using a science-based social strategy, Jeremy helps young adults with Autism escape their loneliness and live a vibrant social life filled with amazing friends and partners. Since 2010, his clients have met countless new people, made tons of new friends, gone on great dates, started amazing relationships, and even gotten married. Jeremy helps them do all this with a commitment to compassion and sensitivity that you won't find anywhere else.Today, Jeremy and I talk about the unique challenges that people with Autism face, what they're afraid of when it comes to intimate relationships, and Jeremy's approach to helping them discover what they want and who they want to be in relationship with, from a step-by-step, scientific approach.To learn more about Jeremy's approach to dating, go to www.mybestsociallife.comAdults with Autism who want to take his free training can visit https://joinnow.live/s/iBdW5yParents who want to take his free training can visit https://joinnow.live/s/9ZtbPk
This is part 2 of my talk with three dating experts: Connell Barrett, Anwar White, and Nate Hockstra.We’re picking where we left off, with Anwar talking about rejection and how dating is a numbers game, and then we tackle hookup culture from women’s perspective, being real and vulnerable in dating relationships, developing a blueprint for what you want sexually, the fears and hesitations women and men have around sex and dating, and some pretty cool client success stories.With over 10,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and training experience, Nate Hockstra is an expert in helping men find meaningful relationships without the use of any “pick up” or game playing. You can connect with him at Ditchthegame.comConnell Barrett is the founder of Dating Transformation and a dating coach for The League. He is the author of the forthcoming book, Dating Sucks, But You Don't, a dating guide for men in the #MeToo Era. He's also an advisor for AskMen and Elite Daily, and has appeared on "Access Hollywood,” and the Today Show, as well as in Playboy, Cosmopolitan, and O, The Oprah Magazine. You can read his weekly advice column, “Ask the Dating Coach,” at DatingTransformation.com.Anwar White is a certified dating and relationship coach whohas helped thousands of women heal their hearts, date effectively, and get their guy! You can check him out further at Get Your Guy Coaching, or book a free consultation with him at getyourguycoaching.com/apply.This episode is part one of our dating conversation. We're talking through what it takes to have a successful dating life: Do you need confidence? Do you need “game?” Do you need both, and how much? How do you even date during the time of COVID? Nate, Connell and Anwar all bring engaging, expert advice for all who are single.
I was delighted to have three handsome, incredible, knowledgeable dating coaches to talk about what single people are up against, how to navigate dating, and what the sexual culture is like today. This panel of experts is going to give you the inside scoop on what to do.With over 10,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and training experience, Nate Hockstra is an expert in helping men find meaningful relationships without the use of any “pick up” or game playing. You can connect with him at Ditchthegame.comConnell Barrett is the founder of Dating Transformation and a dating coach for The League. He is the author of the forthcoming book, Dating Sucks, But You Don't, a dating guide for men in the #MeToo Era. He's also an advisor for AskMen and Elite Daily, and has appeared on "Access Hollywood,” and the Today Show, as well as in Playboy, Cosmopolitan, and O, The Oprah Magazine. You can read his weekly advice column, “Ask the Dating Coach,” at DatingTransformation.com.Anwar White is a certified dating and relationship coach whohas helped thousands of women heal their hearts, date effectively, and get their guy! You can check him out further at Get Your Guy Coaching, or book a free consultation with him at getyourguycoaching.com/apply.This episode is part one of our dating conversation. We're talking through what it takes to have a successful dating life: Do you need confidence? Do you need “game?” Do you need both, and how much? How do you even date during the time of COVID? Nate, Connell and Anwar all bring engaging, expert advice for all who are single.Stay tuned for part two, which will air next week!
The subject of porn is not one that many people talk about openly. As a Sex Therapist, I have talked with so many couples about this issue. We dig deep around the topic: not just for men, but also for women and couples together.Is it okay for couples to watch porn together as a way of enhancing their relationship? What about women and erotica? Does it have some of the same effects as pornography and the compulsivity that men can form around it?Together with my husband Doug, and my producer Kristen, who will be asking the questions, we’re going to uncover - or XXcavate - the truth.
There is an epidemic in our world and nation today that is of great concern to all of us. While the conversation can be hard and uncomfortable at times, there is much that needs to be known and understood about sex trafficking which is currently happening at astounding rates. I sat down with Madyson Marquette, who was trafficked for almost a decade as a porn star. Madyson has bravely spoken out about her time in the porn industry and how it altered her life and how she gained her voice and took her freedom back. Madyson was beaten, tortured, and held prisoner by people who claimed to own her. She has since broken free from that captive life and continues to fight and use her voice to help set others free from the injustice of sex trafficking. She strongly believes in the power to be heard and that if we stand together in this fight, if we rise up against it and show love, then we can change the world.I asked Madyson about the emotions of going through a life abuse from childhood and her process of breaking free. She is incredibly vulnerable and brave with her answers. It brought me to tears.I must warn you that this episode is not safe for children and it may be triggering for some, as there is discussion about trafficking, rape, and sexual abuse. If you fear someone you know may be a victim of sex trafficking, or if you need help, please call 1-888-373-7888. You can also text the word “help” to 233733.The National Human Trafficking Hotline is a national, toll-free hotline available to answer calls from anywhere in the country, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every day of the year. The Hotline is not a law enforcement or immigration authority and is operated by a nongovernmental organization funded by the Federal government.
Happy, happy birthday, to The Smart Sex Podcast! Despite the complexities and sometimes the taboo of sex, and even in the midst of a pandemic, it has been a full, rich year of discussing intimacy and hot topics with you. I am so thrilled that you have been on this journey with me, and that you are so eager to learn more about sex, sexuality, and relationships.We’ve had some extraordinary moments on the show, and I want to highlight some that you may have missed, or that just need to be repeated. We have taken a few moments from the most popular episodes and gathered them all together here, on this, the anniversary show. We’re going to cover everything from, "How long does it take for a woman to really get in the mood and have an orgasm?” to, "What is foreplay outside of the bedroom?” I even answer the question, “Does size really matter?” Spoiler alert: my answer has changed over the years!So sit back (or buckle up!) and enjoy some of the best moments of The Smart Sex Podcast so far!
On today’s episode, you’ll be hearing me interviewed by my good friend, Kristen Wheeler, producer of this show.The podcast today is for women and the guys who love them and could easily serve as a nice prompt for a mother-daughter or parent-daughter conversation about sex. We get real about sex and our sexuality as women, and WHY sex is so important for women, even when it doesn’t always feel like it. I talk about the benefits of sex, and some practical tips about how sex can actually be fun, enjoyable, and not a chore or something to check off a list.Men can (and should) pay attention, too. This episode is both a primer for a conversation about female sexuality and a sex-positive encouragement.Your listening, subscribing, and telling your friends and your partner keep this show going!
“The Girlfriends” and I talk about the impact of having kids at home 24/7 has had on their sex lives.They talk about getting creative in the bedroom when the kids are always, ALWAYS home. How can it be done? Is walking in on your parents having sex a traumatic experience or a rite of passage? We answer these questions and more, as we talk about how gaming headsets, iPads, suckers, and “prayer” all have to do with having sex.
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