Mind Tales | Life Coach Kavita Popli

I am excited to bring you another wonderful conversation in ‘Real women Real coaching series’Watch Kakoli Das, a beautiful creative talented wild soul who I lovingly call my Joy queen shares secrets of her joy in her own unique creative flavour that includes recitation of beautiful poems :) A single mother of 3 small children, 2 dogs, a sought after profesional with a full time day job, a blogger, a speaker, a writer, a poet, a creative consultant, an influencer, Kakoli is truly an inspiration She is a tight slap on the face of old beliefs - that ‘Women can’t have it all’Watch this interview to see her talking candidly about her desires, her challenges that kept her stuck & playing small and how coaching helped her get unstuck In her words - “I felt caged as I felt judged, constrained, distracted & not focused. In this coaching space, I uncaged myself. I always thought this light, easy, free flowing life I imagined as a distant reality for others that I only get to admire has become my reality today”Kakoli made this her reality by choosing to invest in her self growth over and over. And watch her explain to you why you should do that too :) It has been a pleasure to witness Kakoli’s growth over the last two years she has been coaching with me We share this conversation with the intent to help you see the possibilities that exist for you too To inspire you into a path that will lead to fulfillment of your desires and a joyful experience of your life Grab a cup of coffee and enjoy listening :) We originally recorded this as video, so you can watch the video version of this interview onh you tube here - https://youtu.be/bzc5ak5n8p4Instagram handle for Kakoli Das - https://www.instagram.com/kakoli.das/Linked in Handle for Kakoli Das - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kakolidas/If you feel inspired to prioritize your self growth and make this Joyful and fulfilled life your reality, sign up for your free consultation with me at bottom right corner of www.mindtalesconsulting.com

Have you felt attracted towards someone while in a committed relationship?Do you feel guilty when that happens? Well if you have experienced it, you are going to love this episode As I break down what really happens when you feel attracted We will talk about how attraction is a choice that you are making and how you have control over it like other choicesYou will walk away feeling empowered about making a choice that serves you, to use the attraction you feel as a way to expand your life and make it better Enjoy listening :) If you want to take this work deeper and learn to feel empowered about every aspect of your life, book your consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com

3 step process to make emotions your SUPERPOWER - Part 1 of 2 Do you wish that you never had a negative emotional experience ?I sure did I did not want to have negative emotional experiences - because they are painful and caused suffering But coaching world helped me realise the reason they were painful was because I was doing a terrible job of handling themAnd understandable as I did not know how to handle them wellNobody teaches this at schoolBut that changes now As I want to reach you what I have learnt You will realize that these emotions are actually your strength, your unique superpower You will learn a simple 3 step process to handle any negative emotion that hits you You will make your life better because you had that negative emotion Doesn’t it sound awesome ?Tune into your favourite podcasting platform (Spotify / apple podcasts / pod bean etc.) and listen to episode 88 and 89 to master your emotions If you want support to implement this in your life, book a consultation with me at www.mindtalesconsulting.comEnjoy listening :)

What would you do if you would not have to experience any negative emotion?Start your own business, ask for a raise, decline calls in evening, say no more often, turn down people’s requests, tell people exactly how you feel about them ?And so much more - Right ?You will basically do whatever you want to do if you aren’t afraid of feeling negative emotions At the heart of what holds us back from living our lives exactly as we want it is our fear of negative emotion we will experience if something happens unexpectedlyMay be you are afraid of feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like a failure/It’s our fear of negative emotions that causes us to hide from our lives and not do what we want to doIt’s only this fear of negative emotions that’s between you and your dreamsWhen you learn to make negative emotions your superpower, it fuels you into massive action with which no dream seems beyond reachLearning to make negative emotions your superpower causes you to gain an unshakable confidence in yourself Tune into this amazing episode where I teach you my 3 step process - step by step to make emotions your superpower This episode will remove your fear of negative emotions and experience a different level of confidence in yourselfEnjoy listening :)If you want to take this skill deeper and apply it to achieve your goal with ease, book your free consultation with me at bottom right corner of www.mindtalesconsulting.comThis one session will leave you with clarity you have been seeking but never been able to find :)

Right from the childhood, we are conditioned to follow rules - rewarded to follow rules, punished if we don’tIt’s more true for us women in patriarchal societyAnd a huge implication of that is even when we become adults we do not take full ownership of our livesWe live in fear of breaking the unsaid rules and as a result limit ourselves It leads us to live a non authentic, unfulfilled life where we don’t even reach close to express our full potentialIn this episode we talk about the rules we are afraid of breaking and what is it costing us We also talk about why is breaking rules so hard for us and how to do it anywayYou are a leader. Leaders make rules, not follow them.Learning to make rules that empower us and ditch the rules that don’t empower us and to be able to differentiate between them wisely is what makes you an unstoppable leaderTune in to learn this skill and become the true leader you are meant to be. Enjoy listening :) Want to take this work deeper with meBook a consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com and let’s get you to become an unstoppable leader :)

Ditch our back up plans and take the damn leap You have a dream but you feel afraid to take the leap What if it doesn’t work out?What if you lose what you have?What if it turns out to be wrong decision If these are thoughts you have when you think of taking a leap towards what you desire You are going to love this episode I break down and talk about what is at the heart of you not taking the leap And how solving for that one thing - makes it easier for you to take that leap Life is too short for creating back up plans y friend This life is for you to want what you want and go after what you wantThere is np space for back up plans in itTune in to now to learn how to ditch the back up plans and take the damn leap And not just leap towards the big desires… leap towards smaller opportunities we face day to day Enjoy listening :)Want to take your big leap ?I can help you master the tools to gain clarity & develop the confidence that will not only make this leap easier for you but will set you up to be comfortable taking bigger leaps going forward with confidence Book your consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com to know how it works :)

How to say “No” without offending others Do you struggle to say “No” ?Do you end up doing things you don’t want to because you don’t want to offend others?Do you wish it was easier for you to get what you want without having to hurt others?Then you are in for a treat in today’s podcast episodeIn this episode I share with you the secret of saying a “No” without offending othersNot only will this help you learn how to be able to say a no with ease and confidence without offending others, it will also help you attract situations where you say a “Yes” more often and repel situations where you need to say a “No” Don’t miss this episode Enjoy listening :)And if you need help implementing this to be able to say “No” with ease and mean it, book your free consultation here www.mindtalesconsulting.com I will be honoured to help you :)

Imagine how different your life would be when you know how to influence others more effectively You can get that promotion with ease You can have a grand raise while switching companiesOr get your kid to do his home work without you needing to nudge him Being able to influence people is a skill that not only helps you professionally, it comes in handy for your personal life tooProfessionally, it helps you be an effective leader, a successful professional, Personally, it makes you a great friend and have better relationships Tune into Episode 84 to know the 3 steps that will help you influence more with easeEnjoy listening If you are an ambitious woman leader, I can help you grow and achieve your goals way faster than you even think possible. Book your consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com to know more :)

I should get up early I should spend more time with kidsI should lose the weight I should spend more time in learning I should …..Do you find yourself thinking these thoughts ?If yes, then you would really benefit from listening to this episodeAmbitious and growth focused humans like you & I use the idea of growth against ourselves We make it a reason to feel bad about ourselves And it backfiresIt keeps reinforcing this idea that we are broken in some way as if we are doing something wrong Which in turn delays our growth Because what we truly want is freedom & choiceTune into this episode to know the one and only thing you need to trump all growth. The Growth hack that gets you to grow beyond measure without putting any rules on yourself Doing this will not only liberate you, it will also help you liberate your loved ones - your kids, your spouse, your mother in lawEnjoy listening. If you need help implementing this growth hack so you not only create multi-fold impact and accomplishments but do that while feeling loved every bit of the journey, I can help. Book your consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com and et’s make your life a true celebration and you into an ultimate growth junkie :)

This episode is special It’s the first episode in “Rock star women changing the world” seriesIn this series, I am going to bring to you stories of amazing women who are committed to changing the world My intention for this series is to not only create awareness of the amazing possibilities coaching opens up for women but also bring to you inspirational stories from across globe of women who dared to dream big and are changing the world because of thatMy first guest is Melanie Childers Melanie is a Master Coach for feminist entrepreneurs based in US. She now has a 6 figure (annual revenue in USD) coaching business she built from scratch which she started while she was working in a corporate job. She helps women make more money and scale their businesses without burning out.Join the fun as Melanie and I talk about wide range of topics which include why it’s important for women to have, own and talk about their money goals to the obstacles women face when they consider starting a business to the time commitment it takes to have a business to what it takes for a woman to be successful in entrepreneurship.Or just tune in to see 2 coaches hanging out and having a fun & interesting conversation about their lives and businessesHope you enjoy this conversation as much as Melanie and I enjoyed recording it :) If you prefer watching original video conversation, its you tube link is this - https://youtu.be/KW6u1LTpCbsCheck out more about Melanie’s work at http://www.melaniechilders.com/Follow Melanie on Insta - https://www.instagram.com/theenlightenedbadass/You must check out her amazing podcast - The Bad Bitch entrepreneur on iTunes or Spotify https://podcasts.apple.com/in/podcast/the-bad-b-tch-entrepreneur/id1568845105Enjoy listening :)

Do you feel like you are on a roller coaster - oscillating between feeling high when things work out in favour of you and feeling low when they don’t ?Do you procrastinate doing things you know you should be doing or you want to be doing like working out, writing, updating your resume, finding a better job?If you said “Yes” to any of these, you are not celebrating the process enough my friend You are missing out on the opportunity to truly enjoy 90 % of your life while you hang your happiness on the outcomes that are beyond your controlTune into this episode as I share with you why is it important to learn to celebrate the process You will also learn 3 tips based on my experience of how you can make any journey full of celebration along with real stories of how Ia applied themThese tips work equally well on your kids, and the teams you are leading too. Enjoy listening If you have a big outcome you desire but it feels impossible to achieve, let me help you achieve it. Not only will you achieve that outcome, you will celebrate the process of getting to that outcome even more.Book your free consultation by visiting www.mindtalesconsulting.com Let's add more celebration to your life :)

Do you feel dissatisfied with where you are or what you have ?Do you justify or explain yourself too much ?Do you feel like you have to hide some parts of you in order for you to be acceptable ?I do. For the longest part, I continued to live in the world looking for the right answers outside of me.I looked for the right way of being, right things to say... but I am glad I realized this idea of right / wrong is flawed. But even more importantly how this fear of making mistakes, fear of being wrong stopped me from being unapologetically myselfIt kept me chasing an unrealistic idea of perfection that left me feeling discontent with myself.I was always focused on fixing my flaws so I can become better And that wasn’t an enjoyable experience and it actually delayed my growth Tune in to this podcast to know how this could be true for you too.You will learn what really stops you from being 'YOU'You will learn why unapologetically being 'You' is so important and also the key to your faster growth This was originally recorded on Insta live and its video uploaded on you tube.If you would like too watch video, you can access it on my Instagram profile using this direct link - https://www.instagram.com/tv/CPum074jhXw/Or on you tube channel with this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFWhQ6azw3gAudio version of it can be accessed directly in this podcast Want to take this work deeper with me? Book your free consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com and let’s dive deep together :)

How to make confirmation bias work for youYou can’t trust your brainIt shows you skewed version of truth What you believe might seem really logical to you but it isn’t that logical because it is skewed by confirmation bias that causes your brain to only to look for evidence that supports / confirms your original belief while completely ignoring evidence of otherwiseThis is as much good news as bad news Because who cares what the truth is. What you really want is to outcomes that are favorable like more money, more professional success, better relationships, more time.Good news is that confirmation bias can help you create these results too when you learn to use that to your advantageThis is what this episode is all about You will walk away knowing how to make this confirmation bias work in your favour rather than against you.If you want to master this super-skill to make confirmation bias work isn your favour so you can create favourable outcomes with ease, book your free consultation with me at www.mindtalesconsulting.comEnjoy listening :)

Confirmation bias is messing with you Confirmation bias is showing you a skewed / biased version of truthIt’s deluding you It’s causing you to use your brain against yourself It’s what’s keeping you away from what you desire even though you are fully capable of having it In this episode, I share with you how this confirmation bias is causing you to be blindsightedYou will hear real examples of me and my clients to see how this exactly worksKnowing this is knowing how to stop making your brain work against your interestsYou will not only learn why this is very important for you to be aware of, but also learn how to create that awareness so you can leverage your best asset to create your dream life Enjoy listening If you want to do a deep dive with me to find out how confirmation bias is affecting you in your life, book your free consultation with me at www.mindtalesconsulting.comI look forward to connecting with you :)

Imagine someone having latest i-Phone But the only thing they use it for is to call people No apps, no gaming, no using camera, nothing else - just traditional calling What a waste of iPhone you would say Yet, you are doing the same thing with your brainYour brain is a fancy i-phone with awesome features and amazing processing speed But what are you using it for what - Storage ? (remembering tasks to do lists etc.) and even worse - you are using your brain to make life hard for you. Yes, it’s true.Listen to this episode to know how your brain is ending up using you. There are two mistakes you do that cause this. Tune in to know what those mistakes are.You will also hear 3 simple steps you can take to correct these mistakes and in crease your impact multi-fold right away Want help implementing this knowledge deeper into our life?I got you. Book a consultation with me on www.mindtalesconsulting.com and let’s get you to create an extraordinary life by utilising your biggest asset i.e. your brain betterEnjoy listening :)

Love is the most basic human need (after the survival needs)Inspite of love feeling so amazing we often withdraw that love from our lives in the name of being pragmatic.In this episode I share with you how bringing bigger love can help you simplify every aspect of my life - personal or professional.You will learn that by listening real life stories of me and my clients that you will relate with Bigger love has simplified leadership, it simplified relationships, it even simplified my day to day interactions with humans The reason I love coaching so much is because it helps me tap into this bigger love every single day It requires me to love my clients so hard that I can tell them the truth every timeIt requires me to love my clients so unconditionally that O believe in them even when they don’t believe in themselvesAnd this feels authentic to me given the experiences I have had in my lifeIf you love the feeling of ‘love’ and want to have that more in your professional and personal lives, you must listen to this episode Enjoy listening If you want help implementing this and brining bigger love in your life, book your free consultation on bottom right corner of the website www.mindtalesconsulting.com

Seen a leader who seems to always get favourable outcomes from a conversation ? A leader who magically gets everyone aligned on differing perspectives Wish you had that magic skill too?Well you are in luck thenToday I share with you the one skill that leaders use to get the outcomes they want - Thought needles This is a simple technique you can learn and use to master communication - not just with other people but also your brain The more effectively you communicate with your brain, the more leverage your brain gives you Tune in to today’s episode to know how to start using thought needles to drive favourable outcomes in every conversation you are inWant to become a masterful communicator and 10 X your leadership impact, I can help. Book a consultation with me at www.mindtalesconsulting.comEnjoy listening :)

Do you wish you were able to influence people in conversations? Do you look at others and wish you could have their communication skills?
Then you will love this episode as I break down the real reason why you are not communicating as effectively as anyone else you see.It has nothing to do with skills that you are missingIn fact you already have everything you need to be the best communicator But this one mistake stops you from utilizing the skills you already have to influence conversations Learning this one thing will change the way you communicate forever and will help you influence way moreTune in to know what it is and how you can stop doing it to communicate effectively and influence more You will also hear stories of 2 of my clients who applied this and immediately became more effective communicators.If you want to become a masterful communicator and have more influence, I can help you. Book your free consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com

Do your team members feel excited and energised to contribute to the change you are leading them to work towards ?Do your team members have clarity of what would it look like once the change is implemented ? If the answer isn’t a clear “Yes” and “Yes, you must listen to this episode as I share why driving clarity in vision is the most important thing you can spend your time, effort, energy on as a leader.And what it’s costing you and team if you are not doing that.Tune in to this episode to know what you are missing out and how to change that to become an effective leader who brings out the best in her people One mistake I see leaders making is they get too involved in the “How” - the details Tune in to this episode to know the one question you can ask to determine what level of detail works best for you to get into. This episode will help you get more focused on what truly matters to be an effective leader Enjoy listening :)If you want to know the gaps in your leadership to get ready for your next leadership role, book your free consultation at www.mindtalesconsulting.com

I see leaders struggle in leading effectively Who is a leader?Leader is someone who leads a change from point A to point BThis change requires change in system, change in people but more importantly the change in the leader herself.And the change in leader comes first.Leader has to change herself first before she can inspire others for this changeIn this episode, you will know the one question you need to ask yourself every single dat in order to lead yourself and your team effectively through the change You will also hear real stories of 2 women leaders who I coached and how not leading themselves through the change first backfired for them and reduced their effectiveness in leading the change. These stories will help you think through how to lead yourself everyday If you are ready to become an an influential leader and build truly inspired teams and lead large changes with ease, I can help you.Book a consultation with me at www.mindtalesconsulting.com and let’s get you to become an inspiring influential leader that others look up to :)