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Make Your Life Magnificent is for high achieving, Generation X women, like you, who believe having it all means doing it all. The only problem is it’s making you feel exhausted, anxious and unfulfilled. This podcast is the place for Gen X women. No longer are we allowing you to be the forgotten generation. Instead, we are dedicated to tackling the issues keeping you up at night (because we know, with perimenopause kicking in, we don’t need anything else hindering us catching zzz’s.) Each week, we will cover topics such as building confidence, rekindling your marriage, finances, weight loss, worry, how to unravel your work identity and choosing a second act—all so you can reach your goals.Certified life coaches, Gen X ladies, and co-founders of The Resting Mind, Jackie Ghedine + Mimi Bishop are delivering personal coaching to you every week by leveraging the proven strategies of raising your awareness and incorporating neuroscience, positive psychology and energy leadership so that you can break free from the Gen X have it all myth. The Resting Mind Formula bridges the gap between your conscious goals—what you want, and your subconscious settings—the things that keep you stuck, so you can make your life magnificent.
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We are born a blank slate, a clean notebook with tremendous opportunity to write our story. Yet, our story isn’t really written by us. We transform based on the experiences that happen to us and around us and we carry those truths into adulthood and hold onto them as if they are our own.In this episode, we are exploring how being a Gen Xer and how we grew up plays a tremendous role in who we are today. We want to uncover the thoughts and beliefs and talk through how to unravel those that aren’t working for you.Latchkey Kid made us: Fiercely independent generation Have more guilt around being a mom and being there, alongside, almost babying our childrenWHAT TO UNRAVEL: It’s ok to ask for help Your kids are ok Financial insecurity, not as much wealth made us: Want to save money yet have had more setbacks and recessionsWorkhorses in the background and fraid to rock the boatPush to the highest of expectations, wanting us to do more, grown more and be moreWHAT TO UNRAVEL: Making purchase decisions from a scarcity point of view or mindset Automatically buying on credit thinking we need it now and this is the only way we’ll be able to afford it Feeling like we have to overwork to do a good job and prove our worth Parents who were at their jobs for a very long time made us: Think we need stability, staying in jobs longer, not asking for promotionsWHAT TO UNRAVEL: Ask for a promotion! I used to think that if I worked hard I’d be noticed… not true! Consider that stability is an illusion -- being at a job for a long time doesn’t mean you’ll retire from it Thinking we could have it all made us: Confuse having it all with doing it all to maintain it allLive up to the expectations of others or creating unrealistic expectations for ourselvesPush to be successful, financially secure, and stable over happyWHAT TO UNRAVEL: Remember we are worthy and good enough just as we are -- we don’t have to and can’t spin all the plates at once Explore what WE want -- not what everyone else thinks we should want or do WHAT TO UNRAVEL: Be aware of what stability looks like for you Be honest about what it is that you want Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCESArticles + Podcasts: The Have it All Myth (podcast)  Gen X and Our Money Mess (blog post) Balance is Bullsh*t (blog post) Free Resources:Join Our Facebook Group: Just Gen X: Talking Business, Career + Life with Brave + Bold Women  Guide: Saying No, Even When Your Inner Gen Xer Wants to Say Yes. Access it here! Are you ready to blow up your business or crush your career? Schedule your free consult with Jackie or Mimi. Click here. 
The alarm goes off and you think, 'Ugh, I just can't."You go through your morning like a zombie and tense up just thinking about walking into the office and starting all over again, looking ahead to Friday.If you're feeling this way, something's got to give. And it may not have to be your job.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about those Monday Blues and digging into how much the circumstances versus your mindset have to do with your approach to the week. How to Reprogram the Monday Blues:Preparation and Planning on Friday:Have a Sunday night wind down and prep routineGet up 30 minutes earlier. Give yourself extra time to move at your paceName three things you can notice about Mondays that are good/positive/happy every Monday. Do a Mental Health Check:How deep are your symptoms: Are you feeling blah and a bit sad on Monday mornings or do you have anxiety.Do you feel stressed knowing you have a lot to do or do you put yourself in a panic believing you can’t get anything done?How are these symptoms showing up for you: Full blown insomnia the night before, physical stomach aches, stuck in the bathroom, shaking and high blood pressure or slower than usually physically, tension in your shoulders/back.How extreme are your thoughts around them: Do you think, maybe I’ll just call in sick or do you think, maybe I’ll get COVID and be able to be out for two weeks, what about, if I just tripped and sprained my ankle badly enough, I wouldn’t have to go into the office for awhile, or really extreme, maybe I’ll get sick.How are you self-soothing: Are you upping your anti-anxiety medicines, taking more and more sleeping aids to help fall asleep on Sundays, polishing off a bottle (or two) of wine to not have to ‘think’ about the next day. If you’re finding yourself on the extreme spectrum of the Monday Blues because of your circumstances and environment, it’s time to take some new actions:Start you 5-9: There’s no time then the present. Just start the process.Write your resume: Having your resume written and ready to go will empower you to feel like you don’t have to stay in this situation any longer. Respect your mental health: Your weeks have looked the same for the last 4 months, 8 months, a year and yet you’ve don’t nothing about it. Hmmm, insanity anyone. Decide, right now, that you aren’t going to accept this. YOU have control over your destiny. What do you want?Write your new narrative: Work doesn’t have to be a grind. Work doesn’t have to make you miserable. Start to recognize work can be magical. Incredible. Empowering.RESOURCES:Podcast: The Futures Bright, How to Have ProspectionGet Unstuck is our online course for anyone who is feeling like they are waking up to the same thing every day yet hitting the pillow each night thinking, something's gotta give.Did you know Getting Unstuck is more of a mental move than an action move? You need to uncover your trepidation, the emotional handcuffs that keep you in place and learn the exact steps to take to move into a new direction.We have all of this covered for you and it's only $29! DON’T WAIT -- GO TO therestingmind.com/getunstuck TO GET STARTED. 
You never saw yourself as a complainer, heck, you still don’t. Yet, what used to be a rare occurrence based on a situation, complaining about the traffic you hit during rush hour or complaining about your co-worker after they dropped the ball on a project and left you having to work until all hours to clean it up, has now become an everyday habit.Things that should be rolling off your back are substantial and are getting a part in your play of life. It is as if your natural set point is level at complainingAre you listening to the intro and thinking, “Not me?”  then you are far more advanced than most of us humans. In this episode, we are going to explore the world that is riddled with complainers and share thoughts and ideas around how you can catch yourself and stop your complaining habit.How to stop complaining and How to deal with complainers. Set boundaries. When you hear someone complain, walk away. Don’t engage, don’t entice, don’t comment. Put as much distance from them as you can. Challenge their thinking.  Ask them, “do you feel better now that you said that out loud? What solutions do you think we can bring forth that may present a different outcome or situation?” Complaint clock. You get 30 seconds...GO! This creates walls around the complaints, allows the complainer to feel heard without anyone feeding into it. They may also finally get the hint that they are ‘on the clock’ a lot.Kill them with sunshine and sunflowers. Humor is a great equalizer. Decipher the difference between concerns vs. complaints. Concerns are about solving problems, complaints are about pointing blame.  Ask Yourself What’s the benefit?  How is complaining advancing me towards my goals?Stand on your head. Challenge yourself to go from a complainer to an examiner. Get curious and see what’s really going on here. Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I StitcherEPISODE RESOURCESThe Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level (book) Toxic People (podcast) These two words can be taking you down (blog post) Free Resources:Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindThe 8% Rule of Transformation Set another goal for yourself that you didn't reach? Well, you need our 8% Framework. Get it here. FREE!GET UNSTUCK DIGITAL WORKSHOP! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—as seen on Today with Hoda and Jenna. Get these tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Social media isn’t going anywhere. It is part of our society and while the platforms may change, evolve, and expand, online sharing has become part of the culture. In our business and in our personal lives we need to think about what and who we want to represent on our own social platforms from Facebook to LinkedIn, Instagram to TikTok. There’s so much to think about for our own personal branding.There’s also the other side of social. The darker side, where comparison can make us feel inferior, trolls can threaten our well-being and one wrong turn can stay with you...for a very long time. What happens when social media threatens your mental health and yet, it’s your business? In this week’s episode, we’re talking with Tracy Goodheart. Tracy shares her personal story and detrimental relationship with social media, her shift in the way she showed up on social to enhance her mental health instead of destroying it, and best practices for YOU as you build your personal brand online.Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCESTracy Samantha Goodheart is the founder of Socially Authentic, a personal marketing company that helps entrepreneurs, executives, and creatives market themselves with ease. Tracy has worked in and around social media for 15 years--as a journalist for TIME Magazine covering the rise of social media; as the founding editorial director of ChicagoNow.com, the Tribune's groundbreaking network of blogs; and as the director of social media strategy for Crain Communications, publisher of titles like Ad Age and Crain's' New York Business.  Tracy is also a passionate educator, having taught thousands of people how to use social media to market themselves and their businesses more effectively. She is now an adjunct faculty member at the University of Chicago, where she teaches content and social media marketing.People want to hire/do business with people they like and who are relatable. Tracy recommends going very slowly with being authentic online and suggests doing that starting with Instagram. Set your boundaries before you start being authentic. Have a friend who has your back and that you can bounce ideas off of, especially if you are concerned that a post may be too personal or polarizing. Consider your long-term goals and post content that moves your life in that direction. Free Resources:Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind The 8% Rule of Transformation We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. This robust course will provide you with the next steps to eliminate fear, doubt and blame that are holding you in place. This includes the step-by-step process to acheive goals, as seen on Today with Hoda and Jenna! ONLY $29— the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
You were part of a recent RIF at work, and you immediately start blaming your boss for not protecting you, your toxic work environment, and the crappy job market. Maybe you’re backing out of the parking spot at the supermarket while your son is incessantly talking at you and you don’t see the car coming down the aisle and you have to hit your brake...hard. You turn and get annoyed at your son for distracting you. Maybe the phone rang, and it was your mother-in-law and you forgot the cookies you were baking in the oven… now they’re burnt to a crisp.  You’re steaming at your mother in law.  The blame game is something many of us play. But it’s a bad habit and low-level energy that can hurt your ability to see beyond the immediate and more importantly, keep you stuck. In this episode, we are going to unravel blame, why we blame and how choosing to react differently can give us much better results. Why we blame:Humans point blame for self preservation: Our subconscious protects us from our truths, keeps our status in tact.Humans need to know why: Pointiing blame gives them a false understanding around why something happened.Humans like to live in black and white: The world is gray, everything isn’t easily put into a compartment or bucket, often things spill ove.How to stop blaming:Decide you no longer want to navigate life this way.Bring awareness to yourself when you start blaming. Do a blame download. Sit down and handwrite a list of everything you blame for your situation. Then start to break out the facts from the fiction. Recognize it’s never one singular event that causes a situation.Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCESManifestation Meditation on YoutubeArticles + Podcasts: The 5Ps of Success (podcast) No Judgement Zone (podcast) I’m so freaking angry I could scream! (blog post) That sucked! How to bounce back from bad (blog post) Free Resources:Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindFiction Flower Warning! You CAN'T let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. New Course! Stuck in Blame? Get Unstuck, our online self-led, digital workshop is now available for $29.You’ll learn: Why your stuck, how to navigate your emotions that keep you stuck and the steps necessary to move towards what YOU want.  3+ hours of content and worksheets all for the cost of a t-shirt. Enroll here.
Call my husband ambitious and people will envision a dapper, successful man who commands a room. Call me ambitious and people imagine a selfish woman who sacrifices her family for her job and isn’t very nice to boot.In this episode, we are going to explore the double standard around ambition and empower you to embrace who you are and step into the contribution you are here to make in the world.Ambition/n/: To strive, a strong desire to do or achieve something.Create your own mantra of what ambition is for you and OWN IT, SHOUT IT OUTDon’t apologize or make excuses for your ambition. Ambition isn't an either or scenario. You can be ambitious and have a family, and be very engaged in life, and be happy.Ambitious doesn't mean you give everything ELSE up in pursuit of success.Change your language around ambition, like Mindy Kaling says, “Why  the F##K not me?” Challenge your own assumptions. What are your beliefs around ambition or climbing the corporate ladder? Reset your Ambition and your Money Mindset. It's ok to want money and success. Ambition doesn’t have to be limited to a corporate job, look at Julia Child -- she was ambitious about her passion for cooking.Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindWhy Not Me?, Mindy Kaling (book) Tory Burch: Ambition GuidebookArticles + Podcasts: Toxic People (podcast) When You Can Avoid Having a Difficult Conversations (podcast) What Working Girl Taught Me About Work (blog post) How Dare You Ask for a Promotion (blog post) Free Resources Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. The Master Your Move Mastermind! The cart is now open for our newest group coaching program The Master Your Move Mastermind. This is a six-week program for women who want to uplevel their careers. Each week we’ll provide you with original content on a different topic followed by live group coaching calls with both of us! ONLY $599.Save your spot here! 
Why You Need a Coach

Why You Need a Coach

2021-01-1343:08

Although you’ve listened to the podcast, joined our group and downloaded some free guides, you still haven’t taken the next step toward getting coached. You’re probably thinking a slew of things from, why would I need a coach to am I ready to be coached to how does coaching even work? In this episode, we are going to discuss the value of working with a coach to take your life and your career to the next level.“I thought coaching was about achieving your goals, I didn’t realize that it is less about the action and more about the mind. It all begins in your mind.”“The job of a coach is to give you the wings so you can fly.”“The beauty of coaching is we really get you to push yourself out of your comfort zone while still staying true to your authentic self. It’s not about throwing away your entire life and uprooting everything. It’s more about how do I morph and change and grow so I can expand myself, my expertise, my abilities, and become the woman I want to be.”“Only 19% of adults report being satisfied with their lives. I want to say, not on our watch.”“You don’t have to have the life that is status quo, that’s trudging along. You get to choose your life.”“You get to decide,  you can create it.  Little changes at a time and overtime things begin to shift in the right way.”“The reason why I became a coach is that I want to show people the possibilities they can create in their lives. I want to give them hope and possibility. I feel so strongly about that.”“Coaching is a vulnerable process.”Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindThe Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right by Atul Gawande Madeline Schwartz Coaching (Public Speaking Coach) Articles + Podcasts: Intake vs Action (podcast) Ruminating Anxiety (podcast) Free Resources Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. The Master Your Move Mastermind! The cart is now open for our newest group coaching program The Master Your Move Mastermind. This is a six-week program for women who want to uplevel their careers. Each week we’ll provide you with original content on a different topic followed by live group coaching calls with both of us! Save your spot here! 
Throw away the New Year’s Resolutions, why bother. Only 8% of people who make resolutions keep them and see them through. Mimi and I are foregoing this tradition and instead, keeping up with one of our newer traditions that we want to share with you and hopefully have you adopt, choosing a word of the year.This week, we’re going to help you choose YOUR word of the year!The word of the year as a north star, your guiding light for how you want to show up and live your life. It really is about becoming intentional and deliberate about the choices you make based on your word. LIVING INTENTIONALLY: “Gen X Women aren’t intentional enough in our world, in our life in deciding what we want. It’s about deciding how you want to show up and what you want your life to look like. Too often, as Gen X women, we let life unfold. We do what we’ve always done, even if it doesn’t make us happy.”REEVALUATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH TIME: “Take your time choosing the word of the year, don’t rush. Time is fluid, it is what you make it.”PUT IT INTO THE WORLD: “When you embody your word of the year the universe starts to align all of these things for you.”Mimi said, "I take my word of the year seriously. I journal and every morning I ask myself how I want to show up for the things I have planned for the day. “Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindThe Cru Submit Your Word of the Year! We’re going to do something interesting and different. Ladies, after you’ve decided on YOUR word of the year, we want you to email us and let us know. Email Jackie@therestingmind.com in the subject line: Word of the Year and tell us about the word you chose and why!  We can’t wait to hear all about them!And to encourage participation, we are giving away a copy of the book Brave Enough by Cheryl Strand to the most creative word of the year! This book is right in alignment with the idea of ‘word of the year’ it’s empowering and inspiring. It’s a book you can keep on your nightstand to read a page randomly when you feel like it.Articles + Podcasts: The Chicken + Egg of Confidence (podcast) Confidence in 5 Steps (article) What’s Your Word? (article) Come on Gen X Lady, Here’s How to Hit Your Goal (article) Free Resource:Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation.  Get it here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop.  Includes the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29 Enroll here.
Welcome to our FIRST ANNUAL Gen X Woman of the Year!  Our way  to acknowledge and bubble up an incredible Gen X woman every year. This year, the honor goes to  to Kerri Tannenbaum, The Resting Mind’s innaurgal  Gen X Woman of the Year! In this episode, Kerri talks about:Navigating women's’ responses to her confidence throughout her career “I’ve thought what is it about my confidence and I believe that it’s that I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin. I’ve always had a sense of who I was and what I wanted”The purposeful decision she made to intentionally develop a positive mindset. “I think positivity is a conscious effort, it’s a practice. Once you start doing it regularly it becomes second nature.”Her personal and heroic battle with Her2 Positive breast cancer, the massive decisions that had to be made and how to navigate through the most important decisions you’ll ever make. “I didn’t want to have surgery, I didn’t want to have chemo, but I had to do it, so I can move on with my life.Pivoting her career. “Everything moved me in the direction of who I’m supposed to be and where I’m supposed to be.”Kerri Tannenbaum is a professional genealogist and researcher who works with people looking to learn more about their family history. Like a detective, she investigates clues, connects the dots, and aims to solve a family mystery. Her goal is to provide new discoveries and bring their ancestors’ stories to life. Prior to turning professional over two years ago, Kerri worked in marketing and program management in the media industry for over 24 years.  When the opportunity presented itself for a career change, Kerri immersed herself in genealogy education, earning a certificate in genealogical research from Boston University and completing a one-year peer study program known as ProGen. Today, Kerri works with individual clients to build family trees and unearth their stories to pass on to future generations. Her company's name is The Family Dot Connector. Kerri attributes her success to:Deliberately staying positive, even when faced with difficulties Using a gratitude journal Recognizing it is better to be kind than right Kerri has a generous offer for listeners of Make Your Life Magnificent: 10 hours of genealogy services for the price of 8 hours ($100 savings!)Reference Offer Code:  GenXhttp://www.familydotconnector.comConnect with Kerri at: Website:  http://www.familydotconnector.comFacebook: @familydotconnectorEmail:  kerri@familydotconnector.comSubscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindThe Daily by The New York Times (podcast) Family Secrets (podcast) Ready Yet? With Erin Marcus (podcast) 
Holiday Cheer

Holiday Cheer

2020-12-2357:42

The holidays are going to look very different for most of us this year, having to forgo ongoing traditions that have been built over decades but it doesn’t mean you can’t make the most and start a few new traditions in the process.Our podcast tackles a wide array of topics to help you on your personal development and professional development journey and sometimes, we just need to be lighter!This week we’re here to have fun with you as we talk about the holidays. Grab your glass of wine, some eggnog or a warm cup of cinnamon tea and enjoy.Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindFree Resources Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get your free copy here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Season of Friendship

Season of Friendship

2020-12-1645:47

In this hyper-connected world, when we may have hundreds or even thousands of Facebook “friends” why do so many of us feel so lonely?In this episode, we start with a simple question, “what does friendship mean to you”? Have you ever been with friends and felt lonely? You’re surrounded by a group of women and yet, there’s this emptiness that is tugging at you. Instead of feeling fueled and connected you feel like an outsider?It isn’t as uncommon as you think. Oftentimes, we aren’t really connected on a meaningful level which is where this feeling comes from. The emotions we feel when friendships change. We need to understand that we easily get attached to the original iteration of our friendship. We change throughout our lives and sometimes our values change. When they don’t align it can throw us off.Stages in life: Single vs. married vs. kids vs. huge career vs. stay at home vs. introvert vs. extrovert, finances.Surroundings change: The glue that held you together, school, job, neighborhood, kids being friends has changed.Your eyes open up - ever step away from a situation or not see someone for a while and you realize the relationship looks very different when you aren’t so emotionally involved. You realize you aren’t yourself around them (nor they themselves around you).It does get harder to make friends as we get older. But it is also very much worth the effort to seek out those friends because they will truly enrich your life. Look what becoming friends with each other did to us! Subscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting MindArticles + Podcasts: Get Happy (podcasts) Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships, Shasta Nelson TEDxLaSierra University Free Resources Get Happy! Download this FREE guide to learn how to use the PERMA model to add more happiness to your everyday life. Download it here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Google mid-life and happiness and you’ll be bombarded with article after article about how our happiness dips tremendously in our 40s.  Couple this with being a Gen X woman, where we’ve been brought up to believe we can have-it-all, and yet, even when we do, we are completely exhausted and not sure any of it is what you really wanted in the first place. This week’s episode is the second in the Get Happy series which is all about understanding what reference points are and how they tend to be the undercurrent of our unhappiness not just in middle age but at any age. Reference Points are the situations, statistics, data, and people with which we surround ourselves and compare ourselves to in our minds. The reference points literally change the way we view the world and alter how we feel.A reference point is something that confirms a person’s identity, feeling of sanity, and sense of stability, safety, and normalcy.  Your mind, is  your most important intangible reference point. It is how you interpret the physical world and make sense of it and yourself through your beliefs.Your computer, phone, home, car friends, family and other familiar things are all reference points. The way you wake, fall asleep, weather, route to work, stores, buildings anything you encounter regularly. These reference points confirm where you are and who you are.How to Manage Your Reference Points:If you’re going to use reference points, make sure they make you stretch without making you shift out of who you are. Compete with yourself. Wake up every day and decide what you can do better, how you can be better today than you were yesterday.  Decide you are where you are supposed to be in your life and take it from there.Love yourself, be accepting of who you are. Pause the good. We, as humans, become bored with things. We take them for granted and get used to them. Studies show that pausing the good and taking breaks from it allows us to appreciate them more. Always comes back to gratitude. EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  The Today Show with Hoda & Jenna The Big Leap (book)Articles + Podcasts: Get Happy: What is Happy? (podcast) How Color Can Change Your Life (article) Free Resources Get Happy! Download this FREE guide to learn how to use the PERMA model to add more happiness to your everyday life. Download it hereNew Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop where you'll learn:The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Ruminating Anxiety

Ruminating Anxiety

2020-12-0243:50

You had a great interview except for one question where you felt your answer wasn’t succinct enough. Instead of thinking about how you could answer a similar question better next time, you replay the interview over and over in your head and start second-guessing more and more of your answers.Maybe you’re a school teacher who had to deal with a parent issue and instead of putting it behind you, you ruminate on the conversation.In this week’s episode, we are going to explore ruminating on the past, harm your future, and ups your anxiety.How to Stop Ruminating Activate your neural pathways about the good over the bad. Instead of homing in on what didn’t go right, think about what did go right. Get out of the negative neural loop. Recall when things worked, when you did well, and purposefully shift your thoughts.Distract yourself from the thoughts in your head. When we are anxious, we tend to feed those thoughts.  You feel yourself going down the rabbit hole, shift your energy somewhere else:Go for a walk with a friend.Get to work, start a new project.Get literal. Look around the room and start naming objects. What you’re doing is bring your mind into the present moment.Write down what you could have done differently. Just putting pen to paper will get the ideas out of your brain and keep it from trying to problem-solve in the background.Ask yourself some simple questions:How are these thoughts benefiting me?Is what I’m thinking about even in my control? Can I change it?Recognize that yes, you do make mistakes and accept your human and not perfect.Put on a timer. If you need time to worry, limit it! Put a timer on and give yourself 5 minutes to think about everything. Once the timer goes off, you need to switch off your mind.EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  The Today Show with Hoda & Jenna Articles + Podcasts: Watch Your Mouth The Power of Language (podcast) The 5Ps of Success (podcast) Why are we so Afraid of Fear? (article) These Two Words May Be Taking You Down (article) 
Here in the United States, we are celebrating Thanksgiving. A time when we actively participate in giving thanks and gratitude for all we have.  But what if you feel like you’ve got nothing to be grateful for? In this week’s episode, we’re going to talk about what you may be thinking and afraid to say out loud. What if I don’t feel grateful right now? And it’s ok -- and very human. So if you are feeling this way, especially this year -- give yourself the space to feel those feelings. Why gratitude is important. Gratitude can be a pinprick that allows some light to come back into your life. It also puts us at a much higher energy level and trains the brain. Gratitude decreases anxiety and depression. When you practice gratitude you release a number of chemicals in our brain that is positive. It releases dopamine, the feel-good neurotransmitter that makes us want to dance. Research shows there is a correlation with better sleep, energy, low cellular inflammation and helps with depressive symptoms. It releases Serotonin; which is the mood-enhancing chemical.Opens up your creativity It helps you change your perspective. You become empathetic to others. It creates a more positive natural outlook in lifeIt connects you to your higher selfIt propels you to achieve and hit your goals.Make it a practice and actively seek things out.Write down one thing you’re grateful for each morning.Mentally list three things you’re grateful for each night before falling asleepBe grateful to those around you. In traffic or waiting in a line? Look around and see how many things you can be grateful for.Stop yourself.  Shift to your conscious mind and look for ways to be gratefulEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza Survey! Tell us what you want. Please CLICK HERE. Articles + Podcasts: How to Surrender (blog post) 14 Health Benefits of Practicing Gratitude According to Science (article) The Neuroscience of Gratitude (article) Free Resources Are you ready for a change? Download The 8% Rule of Transformation. It’s your FREE guide to getting out of your rut and getting results. Get it here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of TransformationAll of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Dating After 40

Dating After 40

2020-11-1834:24

Gen X Ladies the dating game has changed since the1980’s. Dating after 40 isn't easy, especially when we've created so many stories around dating that we hold as our truths. In this week’s episode, we’re bringing you dating and relationship expert Renee Suzanne to talk about how to find true love. Renee is talking about:  The importance of being honest about what we want in dating, examining what you'd like the outcome to be and absolutely owning it without apologyHow to vet your dates so you waste less time Recognizing the warning signs and tapping into your gutUnraveling the habits of being singleSeparating the stories about dating over 40 versus the factsHelps navigate the fear of being hurt and why it’s worth putting yourself out there Her two tips for when you’ve been ghosted #1. Be compassionate to yourself #2. Take a look at how you may have ignored the signs  Renée Suzanne helps women who are sick of the dating scene find true love by teaching them to date effectively.Want more love in your life? Check out her free video at reneesuzannecoaching.com.You can also follow her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/reneesuzannecoaching/.EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Free Resources + Guides: Are you ready for a chance? Download the 8% Rule of Transformation—your guide to getting out of your rut and getting results.New Course! Get Unstuck $29 Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here CLICK HERE. 
No Judgment Zone

No Judgment Zone

2020-11-1139:46

Judgment just feels awfulIf I’m doing the judging (yes, I’m human) or I feel like I’m being judged (yes, because others are human) it feels yucky.We know how hurtful it can be to feel judged or how we all worry about being judged, it places us in this hierarchical relationship with someone who, in many instances, is our peer.In this episode, we're going to open up your perspective on judgment and shine a new light on these ideas.How to Stop Judging Others Bring awareness to the situation: If you find yourself thinking about the choices others are making, consider where it’s coming from. Instead of pushing out negative energy on their choices bring in positive energy with curiosity and interest.Make situational attributions not personal ones. Maybe the person is having a bad day, maybe they have no confidence and are making statements to overcompensate. Maybe they aren’t prepared at work because their infant daughter was crying all night.Am I mirroring? There’s a number of research studies that prove what we judge in others are actually reflections of what we don’t like in ourselves. If we find someone’s parenting to be questionable, it usually means we aren’t feeling like we’ve got ours under control. Own your own choices: If we have confidence in ourselves we don’t use judgment as a way to put other people’s choices, behaviors, or appearances down. EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Free Resources + Guides: Rediscovering YourselfIf you’re struggling with emotions that keep getting in your way, schedule your 90-minute power coaching session. work with either Jackie or Mimi to break through the things that have been keeping you stuck. go to our website www.therestingmind.com or reach out to us directly at jackie@therestingmind.com or mimi@therestingmnd.com. Articles + Podcasts: When we Judge Others’ We Judge Ourselves (article) Snap Judgment Science (article) Toxic People in Disguise, It’s Not Just Negative Nancy (article) Ladies, Stop Knocking of Each Other’s Crowns (podcast) Confidence Gap 
Agree to Disagree

Agree to Disagree

2020-11-0429:55

We have become a divided and heightened society.Whether it’s the way we view politics or our beliefs around COVID or thoughts around virtual learning or the Black Lives Matter movement the world has gotten excessively more divisive with opinions becoming polar opposites. In a world where everyone has an opinion (and has the agency to do so), it is shocking to me how extreme people can get around their own beliefs. One may call it passion while others may call it stubborn and others call it being closed-minded.In this episode, we’re exploring how our world has divided, not only around big issues but around the small things too.  What's the difference between varying beliefs, having an opinion, and being extremely close-minded. Where do you fall?Open-Minded People vs. Closed-Minded PeopleClosed-minded people don’t want their ideas challenged. They prefer to be right than to really be right!  Open-minded people have opinions, strong opinions about things. Having an open mind doesn’t infer that you’re wishy-washy or don’t have strong convictions, it just means they are more open to learning, to be curious about the other side, and to actually listen to other, differing opinions.Don’t Decide Someone’s Entire Character Based on Their Beliefs. This is just one thought, don’t place them in a bucket.  Disagree respectfully: Approach with curiosityAcknowledge and respect their opinion Never use but, it dismisses what they saidShare your thoughts without putting down someone’s opinionWalk away, know when it just isn’t worth itWhat happens when the closed-minded person encroaches on your territory?Set strong boundaries When you’re sucked into the vortex, respectfully disengage. Stay true to yourselfBe polite and firmSubscribe: Apple Podcasts I Spotify I Google Podcast I SticherEPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Articles + Podcasts: When You Can Avoid Having a Difficult Conversation (podcast) Toxic People (podcast) I’m so Freaking Angry I Could Scream! (article) Free Resources Are you ready for a change? Download The 8% Rule of Transformation. It’s your FREE guide to getting out of your rut and getting results. Get it here. New Course! Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck, s self-led digital workshop.You’ll learn: The who, what, and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here.
Did you know that our 40s—specifically ages 42 and 49—are the time in our lives when we are building the foundation for the rest of our lives? And our 50’s (5) in numerology is all about change.  How are you preparing for the most magical years?In this week’s episode, we talk with two Gen X women Dena K. Martines and Megan E.  Fox about how we can use numerology to make our lives, well magnificent. Dena and Megan are co-founders of GenXWoman, which is a destination site for entertainment, education, and inspiration tailored to the amazing women of Generation X. EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  The Life You’re Born to Live (book) iGenXWomanInstagram: @genxwomanFacebook: @genxwoman Free Resources + Guides: Rediscovering Yourself
Walking with Fear

Walking with Fear

2020-10-2136:23

You decide to go skydiving and right before you board the plane, fear grips you and keeps you from getting on board.You interview for this great job, which would be a huge promotion. Rounds 1 and 2 go extremely well but as you’re heading into round three, fear creeps in making you question if you’re capable of doing the job or you’re afraid how your life might change if you get the job.Fear’s job in these instances is very different, yet it appears the same way.In this episode, we are discussing all the intricacies of fear, how to distinguish fear from instinct and ultimately how to neutralize it so you can squash your fears.MAIN POINTS OF EPISODE:We aren’t here to tell you to turn your back on fear, instead we want to open your eyes to how you can investigate your fear and neutralize it instead of letting it overrun you.Examine your fear:Where is it really coming from?How does your body feel?Identify what triggers your bring fear.Expose yourself to what you’re afraid of for 2-3 minute intervals at a time. Consider how your fear is holding you back.  Neutralize your fear:Recognize that is can walk alongside you but it doesn’t control youTalk nicely to it, personify your fear as your frightened younger cousin in a haunted houseThink about the actuality of your fear really happeningEPISODE RESOURCES: Today with Hoda and Jenna CLIPNew Course! Get Unstuck $29 Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital workshop. You’ll learn: The who, what and why of being stuck The emotions of transformation How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-shirt! Enroll here  CLICK HERE. Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Articles + Podcasts: I’m freaking out again! (article) Your addiction to worry can kill you (article) Quarterback your emotions (podcast) Managing fear and anxiety during uncertain times (podcast) Are you having a worry tantrum (podcast) Free Resources + Guides: Rediscovering YourselfSurvey! Tell us what you want. Please CLICK HERE. 
5 P's of Success

5 P's of Success

2020-10-1435:45

You start with the best intentions, you want to be more confident, so you take an online course on confidence yet you still question all of your decisions.You’re ready for a career transition, so you read dozens of blogs about how and yet, six months later you’re sitting at the same desk without even your resume updated.Some call this a personal-devel-aholic. Others may say best-laid plans are unfulfilled.In episode 33, we dove into intake vs. activate. In this week’s episode, we are starring change and personal development right in the face and giving you the 5 P’s to you can get to success. Why self-improvement is important:It makes us become self-aware. Self-improvement cannot happen without awareness. Increased awareness literally unlocks our ability to grow.We become aware of our own limiting beliefsWe become commitment when we have awareness of our WhyThe more we take ourselves off of autopilot and make conscious decisions in alignment with our goals, the more overall success we will have.95% of our day is spent on autopilot -- so we need to make sure that we are actively taking ourselves off of autopilot and optimizing our autopilot aka subconscious so that we get the best results.What Personal Development Isn’tPersonal development is not akin to learning about history, where you can read to understand.Instead, personal development is more in line with playing an instrument, it needs to be experienced, it is active learning.The 5P's of SuccessPrecision: The first step in personal development is precision, understanding, and pinpointing exactly what you want to work on and be as specific as possible. Planning: You cannot dive right into what you want to achieve. You need to consider what the process will look like. When is the best timing to start? What bumps will you hit in the road? How am I going to be challenged along the way?  Practice: Just like learning a new instrument, you need to put into practice the concepts and tools that will facilitate the results you are looking to achieve. This has to be done daily, which is why planning ahead of time is so critical. Personal development is absorbed by doing, not by reading. Persistence: It takes approximately 21 days to form a habit, which means, within the first three weeks, you will have to stay dedicated and persistent to see your development through.  Patience: You will not see change overnight, or within a few days, it isn’t realistic.  Here is where you must trust yourself and trust the process. Limited Spots: Group Coaching Program:Are you at a crossroads in your career? Join us for the Make Your Move Mastermind. It’s a six-week group program led by Jackie + Mimi for women who are finally ready to get unstuck and figure out their next move. Save your spot here. EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind  Articles + Podcasts: Intake vs. Activate (podcast) How to Achieve Your Goals (article) The PERMA Model of Happiness (article) Free Resources + Guides: Rediscovering YourselfUrgency Matrix 
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Linda Baiera

Someone recommended this podcast when I was struggling with some work issues and I binged all three episodes at once. Can't wait to hear what's next.

Jan 16th
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