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Every day, when our alarms go off and our eyes open, we begin making decisions. By the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions. But we have to do it, right? The family needs to be fed, we need to go to work, and our friendships are important, so the question becomes how do we steward what God has entrusted to us without living overwhelmed by stress or filled with anxiety day in and day out. In this episode, I walk you through two simple, practical things that you can do right away to release stress and refocus your attention back on God.   Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Your childhood, what you have done, what has been done to you, what people have said to you, what people haven’t told you - every one of these sentences when answered holds pieces about who you are; a moment in your life that tried to form you into another image other than your Father’s.   Those messages have tried to form this theme: “When you show up as who God has created you to be, you are too much and not enough all at the same time.” However, over the last couple of years, after letting go of some unhealthy relationships, I am thankful for God’s kindness in showing me that who I am in Him is enough, regardless of what it looks like to other people. My hope for this episode is that you get honest with yourself and see what stories you believe about who you are based on your life versus what is based on a solid foundation of the Father’s love for you. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

I hear the pain in my coaching client's words when they say, “I feel like God is punishing me.” Many of the women who go through my programs and coaching one-to-one have been taught a view of God that is vengeful, full of wrath, and all punishment. They fear that when they don’t do something perfect God will punish them for it. If our theology of God isn’t based on His goodness, then when things happen that we didn’t expect or plan for, it’s easy to think God is punishing us. But God doesn’t bring punishment; he does, however, discipline us. In this episode, I walk through what I've learned about the differences between punishment and discipline. God will prune the parts of our lives that do not bear fruit if we allow Him to. Do you often view God as a punisher? Do you have a healthy view of discipline? Let’s talk about it. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

"Where did that thought come from?" "Why do I think like this?" Have you ever asked yourself those questions?  In this episode, I break down how a thought pattern is formed, where we get influence for our thoughts, and offer 3 tips (plus 2 bonus ones) to build a foundation to start breaking through tormenting thought patterns.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

I am very acquainted with this question - if God is good, why am I in so much pain? In this episode, I share my own story of abuse and striving. Through the years, it has been a process of renewing and redefining all the pain I have gone through with others. It’s also taken time to forgive myself for the pain I caused others and the choices I made. I had to fully receive what Jesus did for me so I could not hold myself to any other standard.  When I talk about coaching and counseling women, I don’t come from a place of having arrived or not being able to empathize. I have watched God redeem the broken pieces of my life over and over again and I know He wants to do for you too. Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Sometimes we have to be willing to love people from a distance because love doesn’t require proximity, other times we commit to love closely. The depth at which we love will be the depth which we can experience pain.  I don't know exactly what happened in your damaged relationship, but in this episode I share 3 key factors anyone will need when rebuilding trust in any type of relationship.   Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

“I don’t know how to process through what I am feeling and struggle with anxiety daily,” a coaching client of mine told me. She continued, “I have been taught my entire life to deny myself, so how do I honor God but also honor who He made me?” Maybe, like my coaching client, you have felt the same way, a world where you need to get yourself together before you can go to God. In this episode, I walk through some scriptures about denying ourselves that are commonly misunderstood and explain how denying our flesh allows our life in Christ to grow, strengthen, and develop.  I’m praying you know you can go to God with how you feel. You don’t need to pretend or deny any part of you because He already knows every part. I know this may not feel easy, but freedom is on the other side. Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Have me as a coach in your corner: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

A survivor struggles to bring together two irreconcilable realities - God and abuse. “If God is good then why did this not-so-good thing happen to me?” This is a question we ponder when the pain of what happened feels far from anything good. We can see a world where there is pain and suffering without God, but how do we live in a world with a good God AND pain and suffering?  That’s what we will be discussing in today’s episode. I want to open up the conversation around the question so many people who are hurting are asking.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Anger is an emotion that hits hard, has some of the most intense reactions, and can be felt deeply in the body. It doesn’t matter if you are someone who feels their feelings, shoves down their feelings, or has difficulty communicating them; anger is unavoidable because we are humans living in a fallen world. That is not an excuse for anger but a fact. Anger is one of the most basic emotions we, as humans, feel and experience.  I aim to help you befriend the feeling of anger instead of running from it. In this episode, I talk about what happens to our bodies when we experience anger and the normal ways we respond to it. I also offer a few techniques that can help you manage anger and biblical practices we are all called to do by God. Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

With the fast pace of this world, it’s no wonder we are finding ourselves in a constant state of anxious feelings. We think to ourselves that we will deal with it later until later never comes, and we find ourselves lying awake at night trying to process everything all at once.  The good news is that the Bible offers wisdom and encouragement in dealing with these feelings. In this episode, I'm talking through a few techniques for overcoming stress and anxiety through both a biblical and clinical perspective and offering practical examples of how to work through anxious feelings. Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Did you know by the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again tomorrow, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions? That’s a lot of decisions that can come with a lot of feelings - and not all of them are good. The fact is that our feelings are not going to go away. In this episode, I explain three differences when it comes to our feelings that we need to recognize so we can stop relying on our feelings.  Today, take the time to check in with yourself - slow down and evaluate where you are with God and your feelings. Remember, it’s about recognizing and honoring where you are and being honest with yourself. It’s about obedience and submission that gives us the strength and courage to rely on God and not our feelings.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

I know how hard it is to forgive. I think the mistake that many have many over the years is by the phrase, “forgive and forget." First, we must understand there is no limit to which we are to forgive. We don’t get to decide who is worthy of forgiveness and who is not. Despite what they have done or may do, we are called to forgive those who hurt us. Forgiveness is not an emotion. In this episode, I walk you through what it looks like to forgive the hurts that are too hard to forget. Remember, those who forgive, choose to forgive. There’s nothing automatic about forgiveness. It’s a choice of obedience out of love and relationship with God.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

I know we don't often say that we need to reconcile with someone, but it is a topic that comes up frequently in my coaching. So if your heart is hurting because someone has hurt you and you're trying to figure out how to move forward with this relationship, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I walk through six stages of rebuilding trust. Some of the stages can take longer than others - some stages we may even need to repeat. However, continually showing someone through our actions that we are committed to them, that we value them, and want to repair the trust that was broken will be the greatest gift we can give someone in the healing process.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Wouldn't life be easier if you could control the people in it? Unfortunately, it's not that simple. Relationships can be messy and difficult, so in this episode, I'm walking you through 5 ways you can handle those relationships through the lens of faith by seeing them through God's eyes, identifying stressors, and delaying our responses. I also share some biblical suggestions on how to improve the quality of your communication.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

A proper relationship with yourself starts with a proper relationship with God. If you are always judging yourself by your performance, you will have a horrible relationship with yourself and live under guilt and condemnation.  The release of our condemnation doesn’t hinge on our ability to forgive ourselves; our freedom from the strongholds we carry comes through Jesus. We aren’t striving to be set free, we are renewing our minds to stay free. We can’t forgive ourselves, but we can show compassion, patience, kindness, and gentleness toward ourselves in the healing process through the choices we make. In this episode, I explain two different types of forgiveness in scripture and walk through the differences between decisional and emotional forgiveness.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

“I’ll never be good enough.” “I’m not worthy.” “I don’t deserve to be happy.” Do any of those phrases sound familiar? When we make a mistake it’s easy to miss conviction and move straight to condemnation, which creates a cycle of self-hatred. That is not what God wants for us.  In this episode, I explain the difference between condemnation and conviction, how to break free of the weight of feeling unworthy, and what it looks like to repent.  Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

As 2023 comes to a close, I want to take a moment and thank you so much for listening! This community continues to grow and I have some exciting things coming up in 2024 including a new membership community where you can feel safe and heard while talking through scripture together. I'll also be continuing my Spiritual Growth Mentorship and adding some counseling sessions to help you discover practical ways to take care of your emotional and mental health while never losing sight of God. Join my Patreon membership community Rooting for you, Jessica Free 3-Day Study Learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way. Get my 3-day study here! Taking the First Step Do you have a hard time accepting God’s love and believing He is good to you and not just good to others?   Do you have a hard time forgiving those who hurt you?   Do you wrestle with anxiety, racing thoughts, burnout, and feeling like you are at the end of your rope?   Do you find yourself being in pain and stuck in the past?   Do you constantly question whether it’s God’s voice, the enemy, or your voice? If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to join me in my Spiritual Growth Mentorship. Five weeks of your first necessary steps to invite God’s presence into your pain! It’s the mentorship you need with the accountability you didn’t know you needed. Learn how God’s love can transform you from hurting to hopeful. Learn more at >> https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Betrayal, whether it's from a family member, spouse, friend, or co-worker can be devastating. So, how do we find hope? In the new year, I am releasing a biblical study on rebuilding trust. In it, I talk about one of the key stages in rebuilding trust in finding security in God before finding security in people. However, in this episode, I walk through scripture that informs us of why forgiveness is the first step to finding hope after betrayal. Forgiveness is not an emotion, it's an act of love and mercy that God has called us to, and the Holy Spirit anoints us to do. Forgiveness is simply the release of debt.  Jesus paid our debt that was owed.  Forgiving others starts with being forgiven. That is our hope. That we can do this, not by our might or by our feelings but through because of what Jesus did on the cross for us. That’s how we get through this - we take one step at a time.  Rooting for you, Jessica Free 3-Day Study Learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way. Get my 3-day study here! Taking the First Step Do you have a hard time accepting God’s love and believing He is good to you and not just good to others?   Do you have a hard time forgiving those who hurt you?   Do you wrestle with anxiety, racing thoughts, burnout, and feeling like you are at the end of your rope?   Do you find yourself being in pain and stuck in the past?   Do you constantly question whether it’s God’s voice, the enemy, or your voice? If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to join me in my Spiritual Growth Mentorship. Five weeks of your first necessary steps to invite God’s presence into your pain! It’s the mentorship you need with the accountability you didn’t know you needed. Learn how God’s love can transform you from hurting to hopeful. Learn more at >> https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Can you remember a time recently when you allowed someone to do or say whatever they wanted to you? Or can you remember a time when you kept someone or something in your life longer than you should have because confronting the problem felt like too much? It may have felt easier to deal with the pain of staying and holding on than communicating and letting go. If you can relate, this episode about Biblically setting healthy boundaries is for you. Sometimes we think boundaries start with rules, but they are often micro-adjustments to relationships that need them so that both people can stay in a place of respect.   Rooting for you, Jessica Free 3-Day Study Learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way. Get my 3-day study here! Taking the First Step Do you have a hard time accepting God’s love and believing He is good to you and not just good to others?   Do you have a hard time forgiving those who hurt you?   Do you wrestle with anxiety, racing thoughts, burnout, and feeling like you are at the end of your rope?   Do you find yourself being in pain and stuck in the past?   Do you constantly question whether it’s God’s voice, the enemy, or your voice? If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to join me in my Spiritual Growth Mentorship. Five weeks of your first necessary steps to invite God’s presence into your pain! It’s the mentorship you need with the accountability you didn’t know you needed. Learn how God’s love can transform you from hurting to hopeful. Learn more at >> https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Are you stressed right now? It’s easy for us to feel all the expectations from other people and, if we are honest with ourselves, the expectations we place on others to meet our needs this time of the year. However, the most important thing I have learned about stress is that it comes down to perception. What story do I tell myself every year around this time?  Do I look at everything I have to do as a chore or as something I get to do?  Do I look at this time of the year as a place of discontentment? It’s okay where you land at this time of the year. It’s hard in general, and then you add in family trauma and history with unhealthy people, and it seems like too much. But what if we could also find a more simple rhythm in our day even when stress feels high? What if we could find a way to keep our nervous system from being overloaded or heightened day in and day out?  In this episode, I share practical techniques you can use to help you ground yourself with the help of God and practice silence and solitude in the times you need it most.   Rooting for you, Jessica Free 3-Day Study Learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way. Get my 3-day study here! Taking the First Step Do you have a hard time accepting God’s love and believing He is good to you and not just good to others?   Do you have a hard time forgiving those who hurt you?   Do you wrestle with anxiety, racing thoughts, burnout, and feeling like you are at the end of your rope?   Do you find yourself being in pain and stuck in the past?   Do you constantly question whether it’s God’s voice, the enemy, or your voice? If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to join me in my Spiritual Growth Mentorship. Five weeks of your first necessary steps to invite God’s presence into your pain! It’s the mentorship you need with the accountability you didn’t know you needed. Learn how God’s love can transform you from hurting to hopeful. Learn more at >> https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com