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Welcome to today's Episode on Joyce Chiom's Tube Podcast!Please Subscribe to this YouTube channel for more life changing episodes.In today's episode, we would be mentioning the 6 Habits you should Stop this New Year, if You want to be Happier! Most people kick off January by creating resolutions that drastically aim to add healthy habits to their daily lives (which doesn’t always work, by the way ― and that’s OK). But sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is to let some things go instead.“The new year offers a fresh opportunity, while the weight of the past keeps us in a place of inaction,” said Olecia Christie, a certified life coach and owner of Optix Communications in San Antonio, noting that it’s important to discern when to release the things that no longer serve our own growth and happiness.With that in mind, here are a few things you should consider leaving behind in the new year!1. Comparing your life to others’ on Instagram! “Rather than spending so many hours per week scrolling mindlessly, begin to actually connect with people you admire on social media. Send them a DM, ask for advice, seek out actual mentorship,” she said. “You’ll be surprised how many new friends you will acquire just by reaching out, rather than being a jealous onlooker.”2. Worrying about things you cannot control!It’s unrealistic to suggest giving up worry or stress entirely ― these feelings are a normal part of life. Instead, try to focus just on the worries you can take action on.“Focus your thoughts on things you can change. When you have a list of worry thoughts, write out what you can change and what you can’t. Work on the situation that you can change, and just release the rest. It takes a lot of time and practice to learn this skill, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll find that you’ll worry less,”For some, this is easier said than done. If you find that you’re unable to manage your excessive worrying ― especially over things out of your control ― it might be worth seeking advice from a professional. This could be a sign of an anxiety disorder, which is a very real and common condition.3. Old grudges or grievances! Research shows holding onto a grudge or anger for longer than necessary can be toxic for your physical and mental health. Right now is the perfect opportunity to work on letting go of some old baggage “by either working on repairing strained relationships or closing the chapter on relationships that cannot be salvaged.”4. What other people think of you!There’s a saying that goes “what other people think of you is none of your business.” It’s important to know what your values are and to be grounded in them, so that you’re not swayed by the thoughts of others.“The truth is that the world doesn’t end and you don’t have to be liked by everyone,” she said. “Stick to your core group of supporters who truly love and respect you, and don’t spend time worrying about the people who don’t quite get you. If they don’t get you, that’s OK. You can’t be a part of every group.”4. Letting fear hold you back from something you want to do! Anthony Freire, the clinical director and founder of The Soho Center for Mental Health Counseling in New York, said in order to release fear, shame and guilt, you must first “shine a spotlight” on them.“On your deathbed, you don’t want to be kicking yourself for not having completed your bucket list for any reason, but especially because of feelings like guilt, fear and shame — which are only problematic feelings because you’ve told yourself that you should feel that way,” he said.6. The need to be right in every conflict! We’ve all strived to win arguments; however, that can cause more stress than it’s worth. Freire said letting go of the need to win “takes up enormous energy because people tend to want to be right.”“How many times do we fight with someone and we’re simply fighting to be right?” he said. “We say things we can’t take back and later we apologize and think to ourselves ‘I overreacted’ or ‘We fought over something so stupid.’ Sometimes we don’t even remember why we were fighting to begin with. Sometimes trivial things we get stuck on are just smaller manifestations of larger underlying issues.”These kinds of interactions can often lead to “negative self-talk and anxiety as [we] overanalyze the situation and stress about the impact of the interaction,” according to Elise Hall, a licensed and independent clinical social worker in Massachusetts.Instead, try looking at a fight as a problem to be solved (experts say there’s one phrase that can easily help you do this with a partner). This can help you let go of the need to be right and put your focus on a solution.This all might be challenging, but it could be worth it to increase your joy — even just by a fraction.Thanks for Listening to today's Episode.I'm convinced You have gained much today. Next Episode Coming Up Next. Stay Tuned!!

Welcome to my YouTube channel. Please Subscribe to this channel for more life changing episodes coming up.In today's episode, we would get to see the 7 BEST THINGS IN LIFE that are Free!What if we told you that you were one of the wealthiest people in the world?Before you scratch your head and check your wallet, pause for a moment and think about the assets in your life. Not just the dollar bills in the safe, but the other valuables you have. The ones that actually matter.Sure, money can buy a lot of things -- but that's it. They're just things. Material possessions are great, but happiness doesn't come from the items we own. It comes from a toddler's giggle or your mom's cooking. It shows up on a sunny day or seeing your best friend walk down the aisle.When it comes down to it, the riches in our bank accounts don't compare to the seven riches below. Here's evidence that the best things in life don't cost a single penny.1. Hugs! Admit it, there's nothing like a warm embrace from someone you care about. Hugs can do a lot more than just make you feel good for a split moment. Research shows they may lower your blood pressure and boost your heart. Not bad for a small (and free!) gesture.2. Friends and family! It's a small price to pay when you consider the real value they add to your life. Studies suggest that friendships bring huge health perks, from increased longevity to improved mood.3. Smiles! The more you grin, the more joy you'll feel. According to one 2012 study, people who received a smile from strangers felt a greater sense of social connectedness. And who doesn't want to feel like they belong? Not to mention those "knowing smiles" you share with your best friends after an inside joke. So go on and flash those pearly whites.4. Sleep! Happiness is a satisfying nap or a good night's rest. Sometimes there's just no better feeling than crawling into a comfortable bed and letting our minds drift away to dreamland. The body and brain suffers dramatically without proper sleep. Better health for just a little more shuteye? That's invaluable.5. Laughter! It's hard not to feel your absolute best when you're in the middle of a belly-aching fit of laughter. It also has incredible health benefits. Research suggests that laughing may boost our memory and can lower stress. Hey, the giggles look good on you (and they probably cost less than that shirt).6. Happy memories! Nostalgia is one of our mind's greatest indulgences -- and it's totally OK to embrace it. Studies have found that nostalgia can decrease loneliness and anxiety. Think back on your perfect prom or your wonderful wedding day. Research shows we spend 47 percent of our waking hours daydreaming, so why not put it to good use?7. Love! All You Need Is Love." Feeling accepted is crucial to our emotional wellness. We're happier, our immune system is stronger and even our heart health is improved when we're around the people we love, Woman's Day reported. Sounds like a richer, fuller life to us.So, go hug your best friend, kiss your significant other, create good memories with your family and make a stranger feel loved with a simple smile (and then go to sleep). All without draining your pocketbook.Thanks for Listening to today's Episode. Another Episode coming up next!

Welcome to my YouTube channel. Please Subscribe to this channel for more life changing episodes coming up soon.In today's episode, we would be learning the Best techniques to stop Negative Thinking.Overcoming negative thinking is one of the major struggles you might encounter when working with the Law of Attraction. After all, even as you’re harnessing all these amazing new tools that help you to think positively and look towards a brighter future, you’re still fighting unhelpful limiting beliefs from earlier in life; many of these beliefs can creep in unbidden and start to disrupt your image of a better life.Thankfully, however, there are many practical things you can do to help yourself stop negative thinking patterns. Here are five of the most effective ways to stop negative thinking.1. Thought Stopping.5-techniques-stop-negative-thinkingWhen you notice that negative thoughts or images are starting to enter your mind, try actually say “stop!” to yourself. If you’re alone, you can try saying this out loud, but it can also be very effective when just said in your head.If you prefer, you can use language that’s stronger than “stop” (such as “Get out of my head!” or even something a bit more colorful). For people who aren’t as moved by words, images can be more powerful. The classic example is a bright red stop sign that you picture in your mind’s eye when intrusive thoughts begin to appear.There are also some more direct approaches to thought stopping. For example, you can try the old tactic of splashing your face with water or just change the direction of your thinking. Some people like to count backward from 100 to 1.2. Positive Affirmations.Positive affirmations can be used in a couple of different ways. First, they might be deployed in the same way as thought stopping techniques. In other words, you might say an affirmation as soon as you feel a negative thought coming your way.For example, if you’re working to find a new partner using the Law of Attraction and catch yourself thinking that you don’t deserve love, you can say “I am a valuable, lovable person and I will find a great relationship.”Secondly, however, saying affirmations on a daily basis starts to reshape your thinking, making them a powerful tool even when you’re already in a good mood. Design your affirmations carefully, and try making eye contact with yourself in the mirror when you recite them.3. Enforcing Boundaries.If you’ve lived with negative thinking for a very long time, you might think it’s unrealistic to just suddenly expect yourself to change your approach. In this situation, even affirmations and thought stopping techniques may seem to merely delay negative thinking for a later date.If this sounds familiar, you might want to spend a couple of weeks at least enforcing boundaries when it comes to negative thinking. The idea here is that you choose a fixed, limited period for allowing your mind to entertain negative thoughts and that you commit to forcibly stopping or fighting them at every other time of the week.When you’re reassured that you will have time to consider these thoughts, you may find they seem less powerful and have less potential to dominate your mind. Further, many people find that they can’t even think of anything when they come to their scheduled time to allow contemplation of negative thoughts and that this actually helps them to break their pattern.4. Writing and Destroying.If your negative thoughts are linked to a specific strong emotion like fear, anger or jealousy, try letting them all out in writing. Use a pen and paper, and really express all of that pent-up negativity. You can then choose a way of destroying this paper, symbolizing your commitment to moving on. For example, you could tear it up, crush it into a ball, burn it, or scribble over it.Those who aren’t as keen on using words to express themselves, artistic endeavors can have a similar impact. For example, you could sculpt a representation of your negativity, or paint it, and then destroy that (or change its shape).The point of this technique is just to get some kind of physical representation of your negativity so that you can banish it in some satisfying symbolic way.5. “Just Because.”You can also try to reason with yourself when you feel you are starting to spiral into negativity. This technique involves finding a sentence you can recite to yourself in order to acknowledge that you have power over your bodily responses and to increase that power over time.Practice this approach by taking a deep, cleansing breath and say something like “Just because I’ve had some bad relationships doesn’t mean I have to do this to my body” or “Just because I’ve struggled to find a good job doesn’t mean I will never find one in the future.”After your chosen sentence, say “Now relax” (letting the word “relax” be your cue to exhale, letting out tension and negativity).Thanks for listening to today's episode. I bet you've learned a lot on this new episode. Stay tuned.

Welcome to my YouTube channel. Please Subscribe to this channel for more life changing episodes coming up soon.In today's episode, we would be analysing how to get rid of mental and physical depression.There are a range of ways to deal with depression, and often they are best used in conjunction with each other. The primary medical options are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), antidepressant medication, and in some severe cases, Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). Education and coping strategies are also important when learning to manage your depression.Number 1. Set goals for daily activity. Plan full days of useful activity by making a list of the activities you are going to engage in at different times during the day. Try to stick to this plan as closely as possible.Number 2. What activities do you enjoy? Try to increase the amount of time you spend on these enjoyable activities.Number 3. Avoid comparing the way you are behaving or feeling now while you are depressed with the way you used to behave or feel before becoming depressed.Number 4. Reward yourself for your efforts. Ask others around you to encourage and praise you for each small step you take. Recovering from depression is a bit like learning to walk again after breaking your leg.Number 5. If a task seems too difficult, do not despair. Break the task down into even easier steps and start again more slowly.For Loss of Appetite? Eat small portions of food that you particularly like. Take your time and do not feel under pressure to finish if you are eating with others. Drink plenty of fluids.For SLEEP DISTURBANCE?Get up at the same time every morning.Avoid sleeping during the day.Reduce tea and coffee intake if excessive (no more than two or three cups per day and none after about 4:00 p.m.).Do not lie awake for more than about thirty minutes—get up and find a relaxing activity.Try relaxation exercises.WORRYING OR INEFFICIENT THINKING?Put your worry to a useful purpose. Rather than endlessly pinpointing your problems, pick out one or two that seem really important and make a decision to resolve them. You may like to ask a friend to help you.Go through the following steps:1. Say exactly what the problem (or goal) is.2. List five or six possible solutions to the problem. Write down any ideas that occur to you, not merely the good ideas.3. Evaluate the good and bad points of each idea in turn.4. Choose the solution that best fits your needs.5. Plan exactly the steps you will take to put the solution into action.6. Review your efforts after attempting to carry out the plan. Praise all efforts. If unsuccessful, start again.With assistance, the right treatment, and a solid understanding of the disorder, you can overcome depression.LOSS OF INTEREST IN SEX?Seek nonsexual activities with your partner that you still enjoy. Explain to your partner that your loss of interest and affection is a symptom of your depression, not a rejection of him or her, and that these symptoms will be temporary.MISERABLE FEELINGS, UNPLEASANT THOUGHTSThese negative thoughts and feelings tend to focus your attention on things you do not like about yourself or your life situation. These thoughts also tend to make your problems seem worse than they really are. As well as concentrating on your negative features and experiences, when you are depressed, you tend to underestimate your positive characteristics and your ability to solve problems. A number of strategies may help you achieve a more balanced view of things:Make a list of your three best features—perhaps with the help of a friend or relative. Carry the list with you and read it to yourself whenever you find yourself focusing on negative thoughts.Keep a daily record of all the small pleasant things that happen and discuss these events with your friends when you see them.Recall pleasant occasions in the past and plan pleasant occasions for the future (this may best be done in conversation with a friend).Consider alternative explanations for unpleasant events or thoughts. Although your initial explanation may be that you are at fault, rethink these conclusions and write down all other possible explanations for these events or thoughts.Keep yourself busy doing useful activities. Avoid sitting or lying about doing nothing.Thanks for listening to today's episode. Next episode coming up soon. Stay tuned!

Is your day-to-day life full of stress and chaos?Are you scrambling to find a peaceful moment in the day when you can put your feet up and relax? Are you rushed, stressed out and ready to call it quits?Why is that so? Who is responsible for it? Why have we made it so difficult?The solution is simple: simplify your life.Now here are the 5 Simple Rules to Live by, for a Successful And Fulfilling Life.It’s the implementation part that is hard, but here are the rules to live by to help you with that:Number 1. Believe in yourself , but be aware of your limitationsThe first step to accomplishing all your goals and making your dreams come true starts with this simple realisation that you are human:You are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone.Always keep things realistic. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself that you find it hard to move; trust yourself to deliver what you need to, but also be prepared to cut yourself some slack.Own up when you make a mistake. Set goals, and enjoy the journey.Number 2. De-clutter and simplifyYou have a thousand different things screaming for attention:You have to tidy up the kids’ room again; you have to do the dishes and laundry; and the never-ending household chores are waiting. You have to organize your calendar and make room for more appointments; make time to socialise; help the kids with homework; and make a gazillion school runs.Don’t even get started on what needs to be done at the office.Let’s get one thing straight—you cannot accomplish anything unless you get yourself some of the clarity that comes from creating space in your life, in your relationships and your environment.You need to reduce, cut back, simplify—Only then will you stop the feeling of being overwhelmed and rushed.Give anything you haven’t used for the past 3 years to charity. Get organizedEnjoy the concept of enjoying without owing, and appreciating without acquiring.Number 3. Use everything in moderationThis is something I live by, be it work, socializing, family commitments, overeating, shopping, or watching too much TV—it helps with every single thing.Embrace the philosophy of “having enough”:There’s no need to go to extremes, so exercise common sense and learn to curb any obsessive behaviour.Spend less money than you make. watch your diet and watch less TV.Number 4. Keep things in perspectiveI admit there will be times when nothing will go your way, and you will find yourself fighting battles, fixing problems and minimizing damage all day long.We all have those days, and it is too easy to get caught up in the drama. Get a handle on things: this, too, shall pass.Your child will get better soon, the noisy neighbourhood parties will end, your backstabbing colleague will get transferred (we can hope, can’t we?), and there will be actual days where you tick off all the items on your to-do list.Don’t sweat the small stuff. Have an open mind.And number 5. Treat others how they want to be treatedYou might end up getting in trouble if you try treating others how you want to be treated, instead of how they would like you to treat them.For instance, if you are not a phone person, you might not call your friend because you assume that they feel the same way you do, which may not be the case.Try to be sensitive to the needs of others, and occasionally going out of your way to do something for them.Try not to judge. Be generous; try to do something nice for somebody on a regular basis.These are the first 5 rules to live a normal life.Watch out for the next episode. Thanks for watching.

Welcome to my youtube channel. Click on the subscribe button and share our new episode today.In this episode, we are going to discuss 7 Differences Between How Men And Women Fall In Love, According To Science.Thinking women are the ones to develop feelings and fall in love first, the opposite may actually be true in many cases.And the reason for this is most likely related to biology. "The authors [of the study] concluded that this makes sense primarily because [...] women have to be more guarded about falling for [someone] for evolutionary reasons," the researchers claim, whereas men traditionally have less to lose. Of course this isn't the case for everyone, and may not apply to life today, but it is something to consider.Number 2. Men May Say "I Love You" First. To expand on that same idea, that study also revealed that many men in relationships with women typically say "I love you" first, which really does fly in the face of what we may think to be true.According to the study, there's this widely held belief that women are more "romantic," but the responses of study participants indicated that men reported falling in love earlier, and expressing it earlier than women reported.Again, biology may be at play here, due to the that a pragmatic and cautious view of love has adaptive significance for women, according to the study. Remember, it's certainly not a hard and fast rule, but may be a pattern that's sticking round all thanks evolution.Number 3. Women Might Say "I Love You" More Often.Women may be more likely to express their love verbally by saying "I love you" more often than men.Ashley Batz/Bustle said,Once a couple has already established how they feel about each other, however, women in relationships with men may be more likely to say "I love you" on a more frequent basis, research finds. As Forshee says, "Cross-cultural research has indicated that women tend to say 'I love you' more than men."That, and it may also be true that the phrase means more to women than it does to men, according to science. "Overall, research suggests that women list their partners' expressions of 'I love you' in their top 10 romantic acts, but men do not. If men possess knowledge that women find 'I love you' to be romantic, men may communicate what their partners want to hear with the objective of advancing the relationship," Forshee says. But will they be as likely to say it on their own accord? Maybe not.Again, biology may be at play. "From an evolutionary perspective, women saying 'I love you' may communicate commitment, and they would benefit from saying this because it would assure them the ability to pair up with a partner, especially based on the fact that they can only reproduce for a certain period of time," Forshee says.Even though these are modern times we're living in, it's something that may have stuck with some people.Number 4. Women Are More Likely To Focus Their Love.Think back to your high school or middle school days, and all those crushes you had. Did you tend to focus your love and affection on one individual? Or were you pretty much in love with everyone? While everyone's different, your gender may have played a role.One study "showed that adolescent males [attracted to women] fall in love more quickly, and do so more often, that is, falling for a variety of girls, whereas girls [attracted to men] tend more to fixate on a smaller number of guys," Jonathan and David Bennett say.Of course, this doesn't mean that all women attracted to men zero in on one man, while their male counterparts are off falling in love with every women they see. It all comes down to the individual, preferences, and so on. But is still interesting to consider all the same.Number 5. Women May Be Less Visual When Falling In LoveWomen aren't as focused on appearances when it comes to falling in love.A man can easily fall in love "from afar," and know very quickly that he's in love. But compare this to women, who may be more likely to "assess feelings of love based on physical attraction along with other factors (including a potential partner's personality)," "which means it may take longer for a woman to 'warm up' to a potential partner, and the person can grow on her over time."Men can quite literally experience the phenomenon of "love at first sight," and experience feelings without much more information, while a lady needs a bit more info. Not surprisingly, this might have to do with biology once again. According to brain studies, men tend to be more visual.That said, anyone can feel attracted to someone based on looks alone, and feel excited about the possibility of what may come next in the relationship.Number 6. Women & Men Look For Similar Qualities In Long-Term PartnersAs mentioned above, there aren't too many differences when it comes to falling in love. And that's something that seems to be reflected in the research. Studies have shown that, despite what pop culture might say, both men and women are looking fine love, settle down, and have a successful marriage in equal numbers.Both are looking for pretty much the same thing, too. "Overall, evidence reflects that men and women report similar preferences for a long-term partner, and include traits such as kindness, intelligence, understanding, and someone who loves them in return," Forshee says. And really, who wouldn't want that?Number 7. Men Are More Likely To Feel Like Their Love Isn't ReciprocatedStudies have shown that men may be more likely to feel like their love isn't reciprocated.Ashley Batz/BustleThere are so many factors that go into the feeling of falling in love, so it's no surprise that men and women can certainly differ in this arena.In fact, a 2010 study conducted by Andrew Galperin and Martie Haselton at the University of California, Los Angeles, showed that even though "women and men did not differ in either their lifetime number of loves or likelihood of falling in love first," men did report in the study a greater number "of 'loves at first sight,' as well as a higher percentage of loves that were not reciprocated, indicating men’s greater willingness to fall in love during the courtship stage."The researchers also found that for men, an over-perception of a woman's sexual interest in them was linked with more frequently falling in love, which may explain why they eventually went on to report a feeling of unrequited love.The thing to keep in mind is that love is tough to define, and thus can be difficult to research. Women and men may express themselves differently, or experience things through a different lens, but at the end of the day, love is love — and gender doesn't always play a role.

Is your day-to-day life full of stress and chaos?Are you scrambling to find a peaceful moment in the day when you can put your feet up and relax? Are you rushed, stressed out and ready to call it quits?Why is that so? Who is responsible for it? Why have we made it so difficult?The solution is simple: simplify your life.Now here are the 5 Simple Rules to Live by, for a Successful And Fulfilling Life.It’s the implementation part that is hard, but here are the rules to live by to help you with that:Number 1. Believe in yourself , but be aware of your limitationsThe first step to accomplishing all your goals and making your dreams come true starts with this simple realisation that you are human:You are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone.Always keep things realistic. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself that you find it hard to move; trust yourself to deliver what you need to, but also be prepared to cut yourself some slack.Own up when you make a mistake. Set goals, and enjoy the journey.Number 2. De-clutter and simplifyYou have a thousand different things screaming for attention:You have to tidy up the kids’ room again; you have to do the dishes and laundry; and the never-ending household chores are waiting. You have to organize your calendar and make room for more appointments; make time to socialise; help the kids with homework; and make a gazillion school runs.Don’t even get started on what needs to be done at the office.Let’s get one thing straight—you cannot accomplish anything unless you get yourself some of the clarity that comes from creating space in your life, in your relationships and your environment.You need to reduce, cut back, simplify—Only then will you stop the feeling of being overwhelmed and rushed.Give anything you haven’t used for the past 3 years to charity. Get organizedEnjoy the concept of enjoying without owing, and appreciating without acquiring.Number 3. Use everything in moderationThis is something I live by, be it work, socializing, family commitments, overeating, shopping, or watching too much TV—it helps with every single thing.Embrace the philosophy of “having enough”:There’s no need to go to extremes, so exercise common sense and learn to curb any obsessive behaviour.Spend less money than you make. watch your diet and watch less TV.Number 4. Keep things in perspectiveI admit there will be times when nothing will go your way, and you will find yourself fighting battles, fixing problems and minimizing damage all day long.We all have those days, and it is too easy to get caught up in the drama. Get a handle on things: this, too, shall pass.Your child will get better soon, the noisy neighbourhood parties will end, your backstabbing colleague will get transferred (we can hope, can’t we?), and there will be actual days where you tick off all the items on your to-do list.Don’t sweat the small stuff. Have an open mind.And number 5. Treat others how they want to be treatedYou might end up getting in trouble if you try treating others how you want to be treated, instead of how they would like you to treat them.For instance, if you are not a phone person, you might not call your friend because you assume that they feel the same way you do, which may not be the case.Try to be sensitive to the needs of others, and occasionally going out of your way to do something for them.Try not to judge. Be generous; try to do something nice for somebody on a regular basis.These are the first 5 rules to live a normal life.Watch out for the next episode. Thanks for watching.

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right.Today is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good ending.Happy New Year, more winnings.

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right.Today is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good ending.Happy New Year, more winnings.