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Fed up with not being able to trust yourself around alcohol? Sick of the hangxiety killing your confidence to commit to that next level goal? Changing your relationship to alcohol isn’t just about NOT drinking, it’s a journey of rediscovering WHO YOU ARE on the other side of alcohol. No matter what kind of relationship you want with alcohol, there is always room for more awareness, this is where we start. From the daily mental friction of deciding to drink or not to drink, only to break your own heart again, to the days lost from the effects of alcohol...If you have been hearing a call from your higher self, that it’s time for a change, but you are confused on the what and how, Expert Holistic Alcohol Coach, Mary Wagstaff, is here to walk you through the threshold of the next phase of your life where alcohol becomes irrelevant. She ended a 20 year relationship with alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses and is helping her clients do the same. In this podcast we will explore her revolutionary approach to getting alcohol out of your way that breaks all the rules, life enhancing tools you can implement now, so YOU can stop drinking and start LIVING the life you were made for! This show is not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. Please talk to a health professional if your alcohol consumption is a risk to your mental/physical health or others. Schedule a call with Mary to find out more about her 1:1 coaching mentorship. Taking your last sip isn't' the first step, saying YES to YOU is. www.marywagstaffcoach.com
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How can the thing that causes you so much pain, also be the same thing you can't imagine living without?Breaking promises to yourself on the daily? Your not happy with the relationship you have with alcohol, but you are always giving in to your desires and can't imagine life without it? End the drama by making a choice to UNDERSTAND WHY this is happening. This is a 100% normal, you or your brain are not broken. It is simply that you haven't practiced how to process emotions. Every time you have had a specific emotion in the past, subconsciously, you have responded with a drink.You may not consciously KNOW, this is how you are solving for an emotion, and it doesn't even have to be a negative one.The act of drinking isn't the problem. It is getting comfortable with first being with an emotion and proving to yourself that a drink doesn't change your circumstances, it just masks the emotion. As a reflection for self inquiry this week:What would your life look like without alcohol?What benefits to you gain from alcohol that you aren't capable of creating your own?When you have the urge to drink, or it's time to decide: Ask yourself: What emotion am I experiencing right now? What are the sensations in my body that it is producing?To change anything in your life: You have to start making decisions you feel good about, that is the only thing that makes it "the right time".Schedule your complimentary alignment session HERE
In today's episode you hear me interview by Lyn and Erika Hicks of The Magical Holistic Healing Arts Podcast. We explore the natural discovery process of Womanhood and how to embrace our feminine essence as pleasure, purpose and privilege.  The story of how I came to "answer the calling of the Goddess."  From that point, alcohol was no longer a desirable option.  The invitation of getting rid of alcohol isn't replacing it with another label, it's filling it with more of who you are that naturally wants to come through. It is a process of self discovery and deep, deep, commitment to the sprit of the self in your own unique and miraculous way. You are a gift and alcohol is dimming your light. If you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HEREThank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 
Decisions, decisions. The better we get at making decisions, the better our lives become. We will always have a brain that wants to default to the negative until you practice observation. Ever thought in your brain, even if you BELIVE it with all your heart, creates a vibration, an emotion. When you tell yourself, I don't have the time, money, energy, even if you believe it, what EMOTION does it generate? One of fear and lack. If you try on a new thought to: I am in charge of my schedule so I can make whatever I want a priority, you can see how the vibe changes. What are your thoughts about WHY you haven't started the process of stopping> Chances are they are generating negative emotions, compounding the desire to drink and the story that to stop drinking is too hard. Ditch the story, let it stay where it is, and find some new better feeling or neutral thoughts.  And remember, there are no WRONG decisions, there are only your thoughts about them. Take this as truth and you take your power back. Happy Birthday MOM! Enjoy this New Moon Blessing. If you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HEREThank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 
How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that?  As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when they ask why you aren't drinking. To be able to love yourself, the other AND tell the truth. The aquarian age is about living 5D, where paradox is the way of life.  It's way more fun. You don't need to break the rules, there are none. The are all illusions.  It's not either or, it's both and.  The truth is, alcohol is stripping you of your life light, your prana, your grace, the holy spirit within. Whether it's one drink a week or 20, there is an unnatural alteration. We aren't saying NO to alcohol. The future of joyful living is evolving past the need to alter ones natural state of being. FAST TRACK TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL IN 40 DAYS! Get on the list, find out the detail and start the process HEREIf you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HEREThank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. NYT Article Article: Vodka in your Coffee...
For this final episode of the year, I talk about the process of commitment. The traditional New Years Resolution, comes with no parameters other than to "resolve" to change, usually the action. Something we think we should do to be better or healthier. We can not be successful in having a new , healthier relationship to alcohol by simply NOT DRINKING. To resolve to something is to learn a new way, to commit to a new process. This takes time. You have never become an expert at anything over night. You most certainly didn't develop a drinking habit over night. You must be compassionate with yourself and offer yourself time to learn a new way, seek new awarenesses, educate yourself with new tools and practice them until they become THE new way. There is no quick fix, but there is an easier way to UNLEAERN the habit of drinking. The first step, resolve to commit, not just quit.  It takes loving yourself more, and deep trust in the process of surrender. To get started on the process of getting alcohol out of your way, schedule a private call with Mary: CLICK HERE Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 
Founder of My Sober Girl Friends, Naomi Veak, shares her beautiful journey of self discover and the joys of sobriety on the other side of a long term addiction with Pot and Alcohol. She speaks to finding the path that works for you and questioning, why do we have the need to alter the beauty of this life. It takes a simple shift of slowing down and being with what is. Approaching life from a new and different pace, to find the natural wonders and joys from this gift of life. Find more out about Naomi and My Sober Girl Friends Virtual Friendship Gatheringshttps://www.mysobergirlfriends.com/https://www.instagram.com/mysobergirlfriends/To get started on the process of getting alcohol out of your way, schedule a private call with Mary: CLICK HERE Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 
Your story around alcohol is just that, conditioned beliefs that create a judgment about what's possible. You don't need to replace them with Sober Living Is Better. You can simply allow the resistance to change and ask, can I simply let this go? Can I make space for what I KNOW deep down to be true? Then the process of shifting alcohol is allowing the resistance to feel, to change to be with how you naturally show up. One this auspicious day as time stands still, can you become quiet enough to hear the truth of your light shining through? It is enough. You don't need to replace alcohol with sobriety, you replace it with more of you.Start your journey on a private call with Mary. Schedule HERE.mary@marywagstaffcoach.comFor questions and podcast inquiries. xxoo
The way you got into your relationship with alcohol, isn't the same way you get out. If you want to live a more joyful deprivation free life that is.  When we live attached to our labels and stories of the past, we cling to the outer world to fill a void inside to create a sense of inner wholeness.  In endless pursuit of finding wholeness that can only be experienced here and NOW,  makes the desire for alcohol greater.  You use alcohol to fill the un-fillable hole, but to also numb the discomfort of the endless search for wholeness. The solution is a simple shift in perspective and the willingness to detach from all that you have identified as. This is the process I teach my 1:1 coaching clients.  How to shift into the NOW where you are whole and problems only exist if we think they do. To get started on the process of getting alcohol out of your way, schedule a private call with me and I will teach you my 3 steps process to interrupting a craving.  CLICK HERE Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show.As a member of the podcast community you are invited to: The next one will be 12/27/20Live Coaching/Q&A  Every Last Sunday of the Month at 11am PST.  This is an amazing opportunity to gain clarity around your relationship to alcohol and concepts on the show! For More Information & To Register To CLICK HERE(100% Confidential & Free)The Power Of Now, Eckhart Tolle
The first step to changing your relationship to alcohol and making it easier to say no to a drink, is to understand why you say yes in the first place. Your thoughts are what make or break any habit. You must know what your "belief story" around alcohol is, to know what you want it to become.  We don't walk around thinking all of our thoughts and beliefs are BS, but the truth is, they are our interpretation of the world and subjective.  The human brain will continue to find evidence for what it knows, to it's detriment. The most important things is not to threaten the selfie system, this is what makes the conflict grow. Rather offer compassion and curiosity to all of you. There will always be something that no longer serves us, alcohol is a double whammy with such a strong reward, but we must make friends with our habits, they are hard one and our inner critic also isn't going anywhere. Get to know her, and get to cultivate a much more intimate relationship with yourself, underneath the urge to drink just might be a woman who needs some long overdue TLC. Schedule complimentary a 1:1 mini session With Mary HERE Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show.Live Coaching/Q&A  Every Last Sunday of the Month at 11am PST. For More Information & To Register To CLICK HERE(100% Confidential & Anonymous)
If you started 2020 with a resolution to change alcohol, and didn't quite get there, I have an amazing opportunity for you to FIND FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL BEFORE 2021!JOIN MY LIVE MASTER CLASS Dec 6, 2020 11:00 AM Pacific TimeREGISTER HERE!!If you have a love/hate relationship with alcohol you may feel like you have 2 options: 1) Resign to a life of drinking, anxiety and sluggishness.2) Quit drinking and live in shame, boredom and deprivation forever.I would like to invite you to consider the third option...3) Find freedom from alcohol by dropping the judgment, getting curious, and deciding ahead of time all of your results in life.Feel amazing and inspired about what's to come, because you know a new way to solve for alcohol getting in your way.You CAN feel confident that you have a perfect plan for your drinking that you decided ahead of time and feel great about.In this class, you will take away the exact process and tools I teach my clients:-Overcome any urge/craving-Identify the real problem of why drinking less seems so hard.-Process all hard emotions rather than resist them.-How to stay committed to the journey of dismantling alcohol in your life.-Feeling confident, refreshed and excited with a Step by Step Process- Enjoy the extraordinary experience of being YOU and Living LifeJoin Holistic Alcohol Coach and Host of the Podcast Stop Drinking and Start Living, Mary Wagstaff, for an engaging action filled, class, like she has never taught before. Learn tools you can apply to your life immediately to start to get alcohol out of your way and have a fresh start before the new year even begins!Reach out with any questions. YAY! Get ready to be inspired.This is 100% confidential & private class on zoom.I can't wait to see you there, Mary WagstaffSchedule a 1:1 call with Mary HERE!
Ep. #62 Remembrance

Ep. #62 Remembrance

2020-12-0230:47

This week we talk about the felt sense of remembrance.  Different from the yearning of nostalgia, remembrance is the homecoming that reminds us of who we are truly outside of story. Alcohol covers this sentiment up from us. Remembrance is a subtle knowing of deep peace and being that only exists when we observe the mind from the place of unconditional love, rather than attach to thoughts based on fear. FIND FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL BEFORE 2021: LIVE CLASS SUNDAY DECEMBER 6TH, 2020 11AM PST! REGISTER HERELEARN MY REVOLUTIONARY 5 SHIFTS APPROACH TO DRINKING LESS FOREVERIf you have a love/hate relationship with alcohol you may feel like you have 2 options: 1) Resign to a life of drinking, anxiety and sluggishness.2) Quit drinking and live in shame, boredom and deprivation forever.I would like to invite you to consider the third option...3) Find freedom from alcohol by dropping the judgment, getting curious, and deciding ahead of time all of your results in life.Feel amazing and inspired about what's to come, because you know a new way to solve for alcohol getting in your way.You CAN feel confident that you have a perfect plan for your drinking that you decided ahead of time and feel great about.In this class, you will take away the exact process and tools I teach my clients
Chasing the BUZZ of Nostalgia is one of the BIGGEST obstacle to accept and understand when you explore your reationship to alcohol or stop drinking.  This concept is what keeps so many people in deprivation AFTER they stop drinking. It's like they are living under a spell of what alcohol NEVER WAS, but they can't snap out of it, why? Because they didn't have me as their coach! LOL. Seriously.  The nostalgia of alcohol  is actually an error in the human brain that makes NO sense. It goes to show you just how STRONG of a concentrated reward the alcohol is to make the brain completely ERASE all of the painful things about alcohol, and only remember the carols and laughter. You are in for a wild ride. Schedule your free alignment session with Mary HERE
10. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. ALCOHOL ISN’T GOING ANYWHERE, It will never be more amazing than it was the last time you drink. The alcohol doesn’t create the experience, YOU DO! Alcohol doesn’t evolve into something more sophisticated or more enlightened. You’ve done it all at this point.9. BOOST YOUR IMMUNITY8. KEEP YOUR INHIBITIONS IN CHECK7. BE THE EMOTIONALLY STABLE ONE FOR OTHERS WHO MAY NEED SUPPORT6. LEAD BY EXAMPLE (take the high road, step out of judgment into curiosity. You can love AND tell the truth) generate a list of questions that take the focus off of you. 5. SAVE YOUR ENERGY (future focus for that evening, the next day and into the week)4. EXPLORE CURIOSITY (whats your experience with your food, the music, your body etc…?)3. CREATE A NEW RITUAL: 2020 IS ALL ABOUT OUT WITH THE OLDTRADITIONS ARE ONLY USEFUL IF THEY ARE SUPPORTIVE OF EVOLUTION.WE DON’T JUST DO SOMETHING BECAUSE OUR GRANDPARENTS DID.2. FIND THE REAL MEANING OF THIS SEASON (hint: it’s not about getting wasted and missing the whole thing, you might as well just take a nap!)1.HONOR YOUR TRUTH: “Your intuition is guiding you towards your highest good for your highest good”. Laura AszmanSchedule a free alignment session with Mary HEREHula Hoop Instructor Laura Aszman on  Ep. #39 
Today we talk about Alcohol as a rite of passage into adulthood. Alcohol as a rite of passage is completely void of the tools necessary to step into the future as independent  & connected to our feminine power of emotional intelligence and embodied intuition.We need to embrace and embody these aspects to become sovereign Women, claiming personal responsibility and moving through limitations with excitement to meet the challenge, rather than fear of failure.  Honoring your life with the sacred journey of Dismantling Alcohol, and Sobriety, is the rites of passage you and only you can claim for your self to what this life and your growth mean and represent.Email Mary with Questions for the show: Mary@marywagsaffcoach.comSchedule your free alignment call with Mary HERE
Today's show is a live mini training about my 5 Simple Shifts to end the confusion around alcohol, drink less and reclaim your power. You can start applying these shifts NOW. I speak to what alcohol coaching is: A sacred container for you to explore who you are in relationship to alcohol. Different than ever before. Schedule your Free Alignment Session with Mary HEREEmail Mary with any questions: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Ep. #57 Not Wanting It

Ep. #57 Not Wanting It

2020-11-1620:56

Today we pose the question: What do you really want your relationship with alcohol to look like and why? It's good to start with a question to start to understand the process of what you want. I review the 5 shifts to  getting alcohol out of your way that I teach my clients. I also give you the recipe to my favorite holiday elixir also. For Podcast Inquiries: mary@marywagstaffcoach.comSchedule your Free Alignment session with Mary HERE!
Ep.#56 Postponement

Ep.#56 Postponement

2020-11-1522:49

Looking to the window of the future of "what if". Throughs the sense of fear or love, but never taking that leap of faith, keeps you in a feeling of stickiness. Postponement results in never being in a state of expansiveness of moving towards a brighter future on the other side of a deprivation free life. Alcohol holds an illusion of freedom, that as you know is slowing fading, in fact, it is the thing keeping you in deprivation of living life to the fullest.I mention the Netflix series: The Queens Gambit. An amazing showcase on the dullness of life alcohol and drugs steal from you. Schedule your free alignment call with Mary HEREWrite in your questions or comments to mary@marywagstaffcoach.com to be shared on the show 100% anonymously. Put in the subject line: Podcast
Ep. #55 Abundantly You

Ep. #55 Abundantly You

2020-11-1422:50

Today we explore how to create change from a place of abundance. How to look at changing your relationship with alcohol as gaining more, rather than loosing. Gaining more of you, your inner light and your unique expression. The concept of lack and poverty is a construct created by systems that power over. Life it's self is innately abundant, and so are you!Schedule your free alignment session HERE!
Everyone has their own definition of what spirit means to them in their lives, amongst the differences, the common factor is the innate state of perfection that Spirit is. Awakening to Sprit, is in the how,  we lead our lives. That no matter how tough times are, we are grounded in the unflinching faith that living through spirit is a means of a more joyful life. The habit of drinking in essence, is stating, there is something about this life, this moment, yourself, that should be different than it is. Drinking is aiming to make that which is  already perfect and whole, different. Which is where we actually create lack where there is already abundance and the illusion of their being error. Schedule a call with Mary HERE to find more about her 1:1 coaching mentorship. It takes all of the guess work from out of the HOW, and meets you where you are at, and then go next level!
Today I interview, intuitive Eating Coach Tiffany Thoen. Not only does she have an inspiring journey of recovering from alcohol at a young age, but her take on,"breaking free", of the stigmas and rules around quitting drinking, outside of the 12 step model, and living an alcohol free life, are right in line with the message of my work. We speak to the rising of the divine feminine in our culture through the evolution of emotional intelligence for all beings. It is the invitation to become more fully who we are, that makes the need for alcohol, less. Currently, she takes this same approach in to her Intuitive Eating Coaching practice, helping people find freedom and joy in their relationship to food. Tiffany's Group Intuitive Eating Program Begins: November 18th 2020 Sign Up: HERETiffany on FB Talk to Mary about her 1:1 Holistic Alcohol Coaching Mentorship Program HERE
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