The Feminine Rebellion: Pleasure, Power + Unapologetic Living for Midlife Women

This episode discusses hormones, menopause, sexual health, hormone replacement therapy, and supplements. It is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Erika Siegel is a physician, but she is not your physician. Please consult a qualified healthcare practitioner who knows your personal history before starting, stopping, or changing any treatment or supplement.Low libido in perimenopause. If you're there, you know. You love your partner. You want to want it. And everything feels a little bit different. This week, Dr. Erika Siegel is back on the show. She's 52 and in perimenopause herself, and this is a real woman-to-woman conversation about what happens to our desire right now, and the really simple things that help.What you'll hear:🔥 Why it takes longer to warm up now, and how that part can actually be fun🔥 The loop so many of us get stuck in: it takes longer, it feels like more work, so we stop wanting it🔥 How to talk to your partner about low libido, before the silence turns into "she doesn't want me" and "he's not interested anymore"🔥 Setting the stage all day: dinner without the TV, the drive-home download, and the texts Erika sends her husband before he walks in the door🔥 The hormone shifts behind it all, and exactly what Erika is doing for herself at 52The framework: This episode lives in The Reclamation. The Patriarchal Playbook told us desire winds down in midlife. We're taking it back.Mentioned in this episode:The Menopause Society [menopause.org]Dr. Mary Claire Haver, The New Menopause [check here]FemGuard+Balance [click here]Your homework: one conversation. Tell your partner what's shifting for you, and one thing you're craving more of. Then come tell us how it went in our free community: https://thefemininerebellion.com/communityLoved this episode? Send it to the woman who wants to want it again. And a 5-star review is how another woman finds this show. Love you madly. LFG, Natty.

In 2015, I sat in my therapist’s office and asked for a divorce. Something happened that day that changed the trajectory of my life and sent me on a ten-year journey into what the fuck is holding women back from living fuck yes lives.The Feminine Rebellion is a weekly podcast for midlife women who are READY. Not someday ready. Right-now ready. Hosted by me, Natty Frasca.Every Friday, I sit down woman to woman with powerful women with powerful stories, like Cindy Gallop, Anushay Hossain, and Molly Roden Winter. We talk sex, pleasure, desire, rage, rest, and all the shit holding us back from stepping into our power. No fluff. Real talk. Sometimes raw. And when it’s just me, you get my wisdom and tools for your midlife rise.Because I believe it is women, specifically midlife women, who will change this mad, mad world.New here? Start with Episode 81, How Do You Want to Feel? That’s where you’ll hear what happened in that therapist’s office.Hit follow PLEASE so you never miss a Friday.❤️ Want to hang out with me + meet other cool women? ⁠Join The TFR Community⁠Follow us on Instagram for even more good stuff: @thefemininerebellion

Join the Community: www.thefemininerebellion.com/communityFor nearly a decade, there was a punching bag in my basement. It was my son's kickboxing bag, and at some point I married it with a baseball bat. Guns N' Roses on, bat in hand, the most amazing rage sessions of my life. Here's what I know now that I didn't know then: I was doing the thing women have been told for centuries not to do. I was letting my rage out. This week's solo episode is about what the patriarchy taught us about our anger, what we did with it instead, why so many of us eventually crack, and why your rage, once you put it into action, is sacred.What you'll hear:🔥 Hysterical, unhinged, too much, "is it that time of the month?": the words that turn a woman's anger into proof that something is wrong with HER (and the Greek word for uterus hiding inside "hysteria")🔥 Elizabeth Packard, the Illinois wife committed to an asylum in 1860 for disagreeing with her husband, and what she did once she got out🔥 The Yale study that found an angry man gets a reason and an angry woman gets a label, even when she's the CEO🔥 What rage actually does in your body, why it's rocket fuel, and what decades of swallowing it costs women between 40 and 60 (our bodies keep the receipts)🔥 The phone call this August when I finally cracked, and the conversation that changed things after🔥 Rage Alchemy: the three-step tool for turning your anger into action, plus the furious mother whose rage changed the drunk driving laws in all 50 statesThe framework: This episode lives in The Reclamation. We're taking back the anger they trained us to swallow, and putting it to work.Your homework: one session, one action. The next time your rage raises its beautiful head, let it move through you, finish the sentence, then ask your anger what it wants you to do, and go do it. Then come tell us in our free community. We'll hold it with you and cheer you on: https://thefemininerebellion.com/communityAudre Lorde wrote in 1981 that anger, "focused with precision," can become "a powerful source of energy serving progress and change." A woman's anger can move mountains. So go move one.Loved this episode? A 5-star review is how another woman finds this show. Thirty seconds, and it matters. And send this one to the woman who's a little ragey right now. She needs it.

Four days, loves. This episode is the pre-game: me, Dr. Nan Wise (sex therapist, neuroscientist, and the woman who taught me the phrase healthy hedonism), and Natasha, the former legal aid attorney behind @votingshoes, one of the most joyful voting accounts on Instagram. Nan reached out to Natasha and Natty and the Women Take Charge Collective was born. This conversation is what happened when the three of us got in a room: a complete voting plan for Tuesday, a crash course in the down ballot races that touch your daily life most, and the neuroscience of why joy, connection, and pleasure are not a distraction from the work. They ARE the work.What you'll hear:🔥 Why these midterms are Congress's two-year job evaluation ("Congress works for us, and we can fire them")🔥 Down ballot 101: school boards, state legislators, local judges, county commissions, and how to research yours fast before Tuesday🔥 The voting plan, step by step: find your polling place today, vote early, what to do if anything goes wrong at the polls, your rights in line, and how to track your ballot🔥 Dr. Nan on co-regulation and the seeking system: why overwhelm freezes voters, why curiosity breaks the freeze, and why talking to your neighbor is a political act🔥 Pleasure activism and its lineage, from Audre Lorde's "Uses of the Erotic" to Toni Cade Bambara's charge to make the revolution irresistible to adrienne maree brown's Pleasure Activism, and what joy as resistance looks like four days before an electionThe framework: This episode lives in The Rise. Three women met on a Zoom and became a collective. That's how it starts.Make your plan (do this today):Find your polling place and early voting locations: visit your Secretary of State's website  (google your state + secretary of state) or from your phone: 866-OUR-VOTE (866-687-8683)If you're in line before polls close, you have the right to vote, no matter how long it takesAbout half the states offer same-day or Election Day registration; check yoursTuesday: wear shoes that mean something, take the photo, tag @votingshoesJoin us: the Women Take Charge Collective is live on Instagram; DM the word "JOIN" to Dr. Nan [https://www.instagram.com/askdoctornan/] and you're in. One goal a week, together, with pleasure. And our free community is always open: https://thefemininerebellion.com/communityAbout the guests: Dr. Nan Wise is a sex therapist, neuroscientist, and author. Natasha of @votingshoes is a former legal aid attorney and voter protection volunteer whose account turns voting into a celebrationLoved this episode? Send it to your voter buddy right now, and a 5-star review is how another woman finds this show. Thirty seconds, and it matters.

Bootstraps. Power through. Chin up. Show no weakness. Nobody ever sat me down at the kitchen table and read me the rules of my house. Nobody had to. I knew them in my bones, and so did you. This week's solo episode is about those rules: the ones you absorbed from your mom's face when the doorbell rang, the ones you're still obeying at 45, at 50, at 62, and the ones I was still obeying this past March, fifty years old, feet throbbing in ski boots I had hated for three seasons, because somewhere in me a little girl still believed that if it hurts, it's probably good for you.What you'll hear:🔥 Walk it off, Jimmy: the bleachers where so many of us learned that getting hurt is embarrassing and crying is worse🔥 The ski boots I wore for three seasons of pain, and the chairlift conversation that ended it ("that's how deep these rules go")🔥 The rules your community named, and mine: keep it pretty on the outside, suffer to deserve anything good, everyone's feelings are your job, and the one that ties them all together: choose yourself, enjoy the guilt🔥 Why breaking a rule still sets off alarms in your body decades later, and how your body learns something new ("I told the truth and I didn't die")🔥 The House Rules Rewrite: the tool for finding your five rules and writing the law of YOUR house, plus the story of a woman whose one "no, thank you" rewrote a rule that had run her since childhoodThe framework: This episode lives in The Unbinding, the first stage of this work. The second you can see a rule, you get a choice: is this mine? Do I want to keep it?Your homework: one rule, one week. Then come into our free community and tell us which rule you're rewriting. We'll hold it with you, that's what we do in there: https://thefemininerebellion.com/communitybell hooks wrote that learning to love our female selves is where our search for love must begin. This episode is what that looks like in real life. One rule. Rewritten. By you.Loved this episode? A 5-star review is how another woman finds this show. Thirty seconds, and it matters. And send this one to the woman who still manages everybody's mood; she needs it.