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Relationship Matters

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We believe that Relationship Matters, from the living room to the board room.
23 Episodes
Ep.6 Allyship

Ep.6 Allyship


In this episode, CRR Global faculty member Neil Edwards is talking about Allyship. An ally is any person that actively promotes and aspires to advance the culture of inclusion through intentional, positive and conscious efforts that benefit people as a whole.Neil Edwards is a soulful leader and perceptive coach who works at the intersection of leadership, relationships, wellbeing, and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Neil supports leaders and teams and focuses on self-identity, self-authority, values, and purpose. He begins with a relationship lens and draws from co-active leadership, emotional and social intelligence, adult development, leadership embodiment, and health and wellness to help his clients increase their capacity and capability to lead in any context or system.
In this episode, Marita Fridjhon deep-dives into the first of the 5 principles of Relationship Systems Intelligence (or RSI): The Third Entity.RSI involves the ability to move from seeing a group of individuals to seeing the system itself, as a living breathing entity and this is what we call Third Entity.Relationship Systems Work holds that there is more present in a relationship than the individual team members. Along with the people involved, there is also the relationship or system itself. It is useful to consider the relationship as a separate “third entity” which has its own needs and voice. In Relationship Systems Work this Third Entity is the ultimate focus.
In this episode, Katie Churchman is talking with master coach Maddie Weinreich. As well as being the past director of faculty and leader development at CRR Global Maddie currently serves as a senior Front of the Room Leader for the ORSC Program and ORSC CertificationMaddie’s passion for personal development and human potential contributes to her success in the field of relationship coaching. For more than 25 years, Maddie’s own marriage has provided her with deep insights into the joys and challenges of a committed relationship. While raising her family in New England, Maddie has developed a great aptitude for helping others to discover the gifts that come from empowering relationships. These gifts serve to transform clients’ lives and help them move forward.Maddie believes that all relationships have the potential for more growth and in this episode, Maddie discusses how to make your partner your ally.
In part 2 of Ghosts, Faith Fuller is talking about Time Spirits.Time spirits are cultural ghosts, literally spirits of the times. Time Spirits arise from potent experiences or beliefs which involve the larger societal field. Each region or country has its own time spirits, depending on its history.  For example,  the United States wrestles with the Time Spirit of 9/11 and Germany works with the Time Spirit of the Holocaust,In this episode, Faith talks about working with a Time Spirit. In order to work through a Time Spirit, we have to become aware of its impact on the relationship or team and design an alliance for dealing with it.
In Part-1 of Ghosts, Faith Fuller is talking about Ghost roles. Ghost roles are invisible third-party presences that come and go and impact the emotional field. A ghost role is present when something is clearly affecting the relationship, yet isn’t talked about, and may not even be conscious to the people in the system. Ghosts arise from our experiences in previous relationships, both personal and professional. They may be people, or they may be events and they can both negatively and positively influence our lives.In this episode, Faith talks about becoming aware of ghosts, working with ghosts and potentially turning them into allies.
In the first episode of season 2, Marita Fridjhon introduces the 5 principles of Relationship Systems Intelligence (RSI). RSI has five key principles which shape what we believe, how we engage, and the “place from which we come.” These principles underpin all of our relationships and are therefore fundamental to everything we do, as coaches, leaders and human being. Understanding and engaging in these principles can help us to better access and apply Relationship Systems Intelligences, with our clients, our teams, and with our families. Principle #1 Each Relationship System has its own Unique Entity or Marita referred to as the 3rd entity. Principle #2 Every Member of a Relationship System Is a Voice of the System Principle #3 Relationship Systems Are Naturally Intelligent, Generative and Creative Principle #4 Relationship Systems Rely on Roles for their Organization and Execution of functions. Roles belong to the system, not to the individuals that inhabit the system Principle #5 Relationship Systems Are In a Constant State of Emergence, always in the process of expressing their potential
Welcome to Season 2

Welcome to Season 2


In the Season 1 finale, Marita Fridjhon and Katie Churchman are talking about meeting the system. How can we make sure we are meeting the people in front us, as they are in the present moment? When we’re coaching, it can be all too easy to presume we know who we’re talking to – particularly when it comes to longer-term coaching engagements. So each and every time we meet a system, how can we try to see it with brand new eyes? So that our preconceptions and past experiences don’t cloud our vision of what’s really there?
In this episode, Faith Fuller and Katie Churchman are discussing ways we can integrate Organizational Relationship Systems Coaching (otherwise known as ORSC) into our work and into our lives. If you already have an established coaching or consultancy practice, how might you benefit from ORSC? And how can you seamlessly blend ORSC into what you’re already doing?
In this episode, Faith Fuller is talking about setting a coaching agenda. Establishing a clear agenda at the start of a coaching session is incredibly important because it sets expectations and also influences the relationship between coach and client.  It’s a powerful tool that can set the tone for everything else to follow. But it can also be the coaching session in of itself. As Faith explains- the agenda doesn’t have to be something we rush to ‘get done’ at the beginning of the session.When a client doesn’t know what they want or brings a really broad or vague ‘goal’ to a session how can we help them to get more clarity around their wants and needs?
In this episode, Marita Fridjhon and Katie Churchman are talking about reading and working with the emotional field, which is a key element of systems coaching. By closely tracking shifts in the emotional field we can start to reflect back and possibly shape the emotional climate in a given situation.You can think of it like an immediate weather report of what is happening emotionally in this moment. And just like a weather report, it’s not exact. There might be a 69% chance of rain, just in the same way you sense some awkwardness in the field. It’s subjective, ever-changing and can provide us with a lot of information. Alongside the emotional field, they discuss Metaskills, conscious intentionality, self-awareness and the intelligence of the body.
In response to the recent events in the US, Faith Fuller is asking: Where do we go from here? This is the same question Martin Luther King Jr wrote a book about in 1967 titled, ‘Where Do We Go from Here: Chaos or Community?’ And to quote king himself: ““In the days ahead we must not consider it unpatriotic to raise certain basic questions about our national character.” So in this episode, Faith questions what more we can be doing as individuals to take a stand against racism? What are the next steps we can take towards a different kind of future? Whilst one person might not change the world, what they do- or don’t do- will be having an impact and creating a ripple effect. 
During this time of upheaval and social conflict going on in the US, CRR Global and the Relationship Matters Podcast supports the stand against systemic racism, racial bias and the history of black community oppression. Relationship matters regardless of race and ethnicity. We Believe Relationship Matters.We Believe Black Lives Matter.We Believe All Voices Matter.In this episode, Marita is calling for productive dialogue around race and racism. What are the blind spots that stop us from connecting deeply in these kinds of conversations? What questions aren’t we asking? And how might we be missing… what is really being said?Below are organizations we know about in the US to learn from, get active with, and help each other:Black Lives Matters: https://blacklivesmatter.comEqual Justice Initiative: https://eji.orgAmerican Civil Liberties Union:
In light of recent events in the US, Faith Fuller is talking about our challenges with talking about racism. In this vulnerable and revealing conversation, Faith asks why so many white people struggle to talk about race and racism and interrogates her own discomfort around the subject. How can we stay in this uncomfortable space so that we can start having the kind of conversations that may lead to change?
In this episode, Faith Fuller is talking about what makes systems coaching different. What are the crossovers between pure coaching and consultancy and what is unique about systems coaching? What do we do? Why do we do it? And how does it help our clients?Over the course of this conversation we discuss the following topics:The differences between therapy and coachingThe differences between pure coaching and systems coachingBlending consultancy and coachingGiving our clients the tools to change their lives.RSI-White-Paper: An Introduction to Relationship Systems Intelligence
In this episode, Marita Frijdhon is talking about system inspired leadership and why it is needed now more than ever.  As we say in systems coaching, ‘the whole is greater than the sum of its parts’ and by utilizing this intelligence, teams of all shapes and sizes may find that they not only survive- but thrive- through challenging times. Instead of focusing on the individual mountain that we have to climb, let’s connect with the team around us, and consider what we can do together- today- to create positive change. Key takeaways from the episode: A systems inspired leader recognizes that they don’t always have to be in charge. Instead, they utilize the strengths within their team.Systems inspired leaderships is about stepping back and seeing the bigger picture. A shift from micro-management to macro-analysis.They are ‘we’ focused as opposed to ‘me’ focusedStepping into a systems perspective will not only help your team to work more effectively it will also take the pressure off you as a leader.Great leadership isn’t about having all the answers: it’s asking great questions. 
Ep 5. Transparency

Ep 5. Transparency


In this episode, Faith Fuller is exploring Transparency. Practicing real, authentic transparency can be a very powerful tool- as a coach, a leader and as a human being. Transparency can help to build trust, deepen connections and humanize conversations.This episode covers the importance of transparency when coaching systems you are a part of; being clear and upfront about hidden agendas; using transparency in emails and texts to offer clarity and also, using it as a tool for flagging intentions.
In this episode, Marita Fridjhon is talking about life-giving and life-draining behaviours. What gives you life and what drains you? And which do you bring more of to your family, colleagues and community? Over the course of the episode, Marita discusses becoming conscious of life-giving and life-draining qualities, the stages of grief and also takes a look at how the two qualities are more intertwined than we might realise. Can life-giving qualities exist within life-draining experiences, like grief?
In this episode of the Relationship Matters podcast, Faith Fuller is talking about the aftermath of an argument. Arguments are a normal part of relationship. So perhaps we should be less concerned about the amount we argue and more focused on how we argue. And if we do blow up in relationship and we have a particularly unskillful argument, how can we more consciously recover from the blow and start to repair any damage that we might have created within the relationship?  In this episode, we talk about the unwritten rules around our relationships that govern how we behave with our partners, children and colleagues. At CRR Global we refer to these social contracts as designed team alliances (which we refer to in this episode as a DTA). We also talk about how we can use fights as opportunities to learn and grow- both on an individual and an interpersonal level.  
Ep 2. Role Confusion

Ep 2. Role Confusion


Right now, many of our roles have blended together. We might be playing parent, teacher and manager all at the same time because of the lock-down measures brought in by COVID-19.Often people become identified with the job they are doing, which is what we refer to in this podcast as an “outer role” – like being CEO or cook. Or they identify with an emotional job for which they feel responsible – what we call an “inner role” like being the peacemaker, or the one who speaks up about things. So join Marita as she talks about the different types of roles and what we might learn from the overlapping of the many roles in our lives. How might we better navigate this juggling of responsibilities, jobs and parts of self? Now and also beyond a time of COVID-19…
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