Unashamed Unafraid

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Jason Dausses returns to the show to do another session of live therapy with his clients, Sam and Mason, host and co-host of the podcast. Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:01:35 Mason Check In03:49 Sam Wants Sobriety05:15 Calling Sam's Bluff06:38 Finding a Real Why07:43 What Porn Provides09:16 Fear of Choosing Wife10:57 Grief and Letting Go13:11 Admitting You Love Porn15:00 Beyond Morality Pressure16:14 Find Your Real Why17:20 Shame And Honest Confession18:34 Multiple Whys Deeper Sobriety20:15 False Self And Agreements27:01 Acceptance Is Felt Not Thought28:32 Safety And Deeper Vulnerability30:30 Enneagram Three And Control32:14 Silver Bullet Joe33:06 Called Out And Closing Thanks

In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, the hosts discuss the “parts of ourselves” we want to kill—especially in sexual addiction recovery—and argue that shame-driven repression and white-knuckling only make things worse. Austin shares how growing up in a conservative culture led him to hide, berate, and try to “kill” his addiction, until he learned to face it with compassion: acknowledging the wounded, trauma-shaped part of himself without feeding compulsive behavior. The group explores identity, pushing back on making “addict” a permanent label, emphasizing being a son of God while distinguishing healthy desires from dark distortions. Using images like “hugging the cactus,” NF’s song “Running,” shadow work, and even Harry Potter, they describe confronting triggers, understanding what behaviors protect us from, and replacing shame and isolation with love, support, therapy, and faith.Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:00:43 Killing Parts of Yourself?01:20 Austin On Shame02:45 Hugging The Cactus03:57 Labels And Identity05:44 NF Running Trauma09:23 White Knuckling Fails09:57 Harry Potter Love12:00 Triggers And Warfare15:33 Shadow Work Advice18:08 Closing And Wrap

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Josh Bring back Michael from the Heare Bros (returning from a prior episode), who recaps his a spiritual/somatic session where he cast out the “accuser,” broke through a core belief of worthlessness, and felt transformative light and truth, then explains healing as increasing awareness, grieving wounds, and choosing connection over relapse. He discusses the process of healing and explains holotropic breathwork as a tool for accessing deeper consciousness, releasing pain, and connecting breath with spirit and God’s name, and offers resources for his Utah sessions and Hear Bros retreats.Connect with Mike:https://thelightinus.orghttps://hearebros.com/Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:01:58 Why Jesus Had to Die06:37 Meet Michael Again12:41 Repentance Redefined15:36 Guided Healing Session23:10 Infinite Worth Moment26:31 Light Truth Framework31:47 Turning Up the Light36:59 Healing Wounds Over Time39:44 Wounds Keep Surfacing40:16 Worth at the Core40:48 Turning On the Lights41:46 Grief Beneath Anger43:14 Replacing Lies With Truth44:18 Affirmations and Context45:27 Moses and Being Nothing48:42 Eastern View of Nothing50:34 Breathwork as a Tool51:30 Holotropic Breathwork Basics52:47 Theta State and Subconscious57:04 Technique and What to Expect01:01:03 Breath as Spirit and Prayer01:03:50 Name of God as Breath01:07:17 Resources and Retreats

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts discuss healthy, non-compulsive sexuality in recovery and emphasize that sex isn’t the problem—shame is. They share experiences of growing up with little guidance, early sexual curiosity and experimentation, exposure to pornography in the internet age, and how silence and shame intensified addiction. The conversation reframes sexuality as sacred and God-given, meant for connection and creation, while warning that misuse can damage relationships with God and others. They stress normalizing frank, respectful conversations, creating safety and boundaries in marriage, and seeking help through therapy and resources like Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. They explore six types of intimacy, explain how unmet emotional needs become sexualized, and challenge listeners to ask what sex means to them and if married, what their spouse hears when they request sex.Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:00:43 Is Sex The Problem?01:04 Early Shame And Silence03:46 Internet Porn And Shame06:10 Talking With Kids08:14 Sex Sacred Not Secret11:23 Healthy Sex And Humor13:32 How To Start The Conversation15:22 Resources And Cultural Shame17:25 Utah OnlyFans Joke17:49 Therapy Reframes Sex18:56 Five Month Reset20:29 Asking Without Shame22:58 Six Types of Intimacy26:06 Needs Behind Desire31:11 Safety and Boundaries34:27 Receiving Pleasure35:23 Sex Reveals Healing36:52 Challenges and Wrap Up

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts welcome Reuben Aiton, founder of Arise & Heal Recovery, who shares his background in addiction recovery coaching and his focus on helping teens and LDS clients move from external “kindling” motivations to internal, heart-based reasons for change. Reuben discusses his own story, including a pituitary tumor that delayed puberty, later struggles with pornography, and learning that sobriety can exist without true healing. He explains addiction as a disconnection issue where pornography is a “medication,” emphasizing connection with God, self, and others to raise awareness rather than fighting thoughts with more thoughts. Reuben describes a panic and claustrophobia crisis on a plane that led to new insights about stillness, surrender, and processing emotions without fixing them, and he outlines practical “primal” movement drills and daily habits to reboot the frontal lobe and reduce shame-driven relapse cycles.Take advantage of Reuben's resources here at https://ariseheal.org/Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:56 Meet Reuben Aiton04:05 Why Teens Are Hard06:06 Kindling Versus Log08:24 Porn Is Not Problem10:43 Reuben's Recovery Story16:49 Panic Attack Flight20:46 Alligator Thought Spin22:53 Turning On The Light25:21 Shame And God27:44 The Atonement Is For You29:04 Breaking Shame Goggles30:20 Identity And Limiting Beliefs32:34 Integrating Parts And Resistance34:51 Process Emotions To Heal Beliefs36:22 Urges As Pain Signals43:46 Surrender Not Willpower49:35 Resources And Contact Info50:33 Eye Of The Tiger Wrap