In this episode, Debi and Dr Tina explore how the Pause, Play Connect Flow can also be a framework for deepening intimacy and connection between couples. Sexual intimacy is a natural way that many adults like to play, however, we can get caught up in the business of life and parenting, experience traumatic sexual experiences that affect or ability to enjoy sex, and be raised in ways that don’t encourage pleasure and play. We also discuss the importance of raising our children to understand what healthy relationships look like.   Dr Tina Shameless   Dr Tina’s Website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com   https://instagram.com/drtinashameless   https://www.nwioi.com/   Visit: www.playhealing.com Links to book a call about speaking/training/consulting can be found on the website.   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Instagram: @playhealingofficial   Tiktok: @playhealing 1000 Feather Project https://www.gofundme.com/f/1000feathers?qid=9a1e5ca0b6b40e1fb64cfc7bd0bb2586   Professionals Training Course link: https://www.playhealing.com/training Intro to some exciting Play Healing news including Debi’s trip to Poland to work with Ukrainian refugee families, the release of the new PAUSE, PLAY, CONNECT for professionals course and the release of brand new PAUSE, TATTOOS to raise funds for the work in Europe and help parents and their children to practice mindfulness and breath work in a playful way.   https://www.playhealing.com/shop     Intro to Tina’s work teaching sexuality for the last 30 years.   6 min The impact of writing your Sexual Narrative as a therapist.   7min The impact of not talking about sexual shame. Self-hatred   7:30 min Understanding normal developmental sexual experiences. The impact of the abstinence education.   ‘Abstinence training was religious training in public schools.’   ‘I was seeing levels of sexual shame that I had not seen before.’   10 min the impact of repressing feelings of connection.   Women are responsible for men's bad behaviour by just being and just living.   *11:45 min How do we deal with negative sexual experiences.   ‘We’re built for connection and we’re built for pleasure. … it is hard wired in us. We may go about this   We leave out children to get their sexual education from the media .. is their body ok?   14 min. The impact of negative self image.   14:45 The symptoms of Sexual trauma locked in the body   A lot of people talk about having negative sexual experiences but their body went frozen. They didn’t   16:30 The impact of sexual trauma.   *17 min A compassionate response.   18:20 the model for healing sexual shame. 18:40 Frame, Name, Claim and Aim.   20 min learning how to claim your body as good.   20:30 breaking the cycle with our kids. How we can talk about sex with our kids.   21:15 The best sex linked to a feeling of safety   “What helps me know that I can trust myself? What helps me know that someone else is trustworthy?”   23 min Integrating the pause, play, connect framework and applying it to relationships   Pause to ask: ‘Get to know yourself and see yourself as beautiful and valuable.’ ‘What brings you pleasure?   25 min There’s safety to be who I am.,,   25 min noticing the environment and creating optimal environments for play.   25:30 min Who is that person that I am with where I want to bloom?   Experimentation and curiosity are all part of learning If we were to learn differently our pre-frontal cortex would develop differently.   28:30 min deconstructing what is sex.   In the queer world there’s so much more permission to play and be whoever you are. What are you into?   Allows for pausing and playing…   29:30 mum story …   *31 min What is the message we want to give our young people?   33 min Learning from the kink community.   34:30 Sex and flow.   36 min Tips for early relationships.   What do you want time first experience to look like for you?   *37 min We don’t really get to say yes in a relationship until we know we can say ‘no’   40 min How can we create connection in sexual relationships?   40 min Dating after a divorce and communicating our needs and capacity.   41 min Spotting signs of disconnect.   44 min Dr Tina shares two things she’d change the education system?   45 min closing remarks around shameless parenting.   Thankyou for supporting the Play Healing Podcast by listening, subscribing and/or sharing with friends.   Enjoy playing and connecting with those you love but most importantly, don’t forget to pause ;)   Grab those temporary pause tattoo’s here: https://www.playhealing.com/shop/pausetattoos    

Overcoming depression and finding our playful side again. Dr Molly explains some of the recommendations she gives the parents she works with who are struggling to connect and play with their children with practical and visual tools. She also shares about how she would change the educational system to serve the needs of our children more.   Dr Molly’s details: https://www.drmollyoshea.com/ Insta - @doctormollyoshea LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/molly-oshea-b951a27/ Debi's Details: Visit: www.playhealing.com Links to book a call about speaking/training/consulting can be found on her website. Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/ Debi loves to connect on LinkedIn and posts regularly on Instagram: @playhealingofficial And sometimes Tiktok: @playhealing Timeline: 1:30 Intro from Dr Molly 5:00 Playfulness 6:30 The other side of playfulness Perfectionist Productivity…leading to an outcome that has ‘value.’ 8 min Play Preferences - we come to play with our own preferences Taking over and leading the play… 9 min The power of non-directive play. 11.20 Finding your flow Letting play happen naturally 10:00 The power of curiosity 11:30 Building the play relationship and seeing behavior as communication. Going into their flow 12:30 How we respond and communicate affects the relationship 14:30 How anxiety affects play The power of presence - 14 min SOUNDBITE… 15 min Being the ‘banister’ and creating that sense of calm… ‘As parents, we are a tomato cage’ 15 min 45 “Strong protective framework safe space around them to rest providing them the opportunity to grow…pretending we’re more than that gives us way to much credit and frankly too much blame.” 18:00 What happens when we feel stuck and have lost our playfulness? 20:30 The power of journaling 21:10 Disconnection with our body- practical strategies …. 24:00 Playfulness and steps to overcoming depression and building connection. 26:00 Mindfulness in education - the one thing to change… 31:00 Final advice to parents who are struggling- growing in self-awareness and self compassion. 35min Contact Details for Dr Molly

Playing with VR and AR within the metaverse from a Tech Savvy Dad’s perspective Ben Fryer LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminfryer/   Diverse Interactive: https://www.diverseinteractive.com/   “We make the impossible happen…Bringing big ideas to life through technology, craft and curiosity, Diverse Interactive is an independent experience agency where epic concepts become an exciting reality.” Debi John LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Play Healing CIC: https://www.playhealing.com/   During this podcast, awesome dad and co founder of diverse interactive…Ben Prior co founder of Diverse Interactive speaks to Debi about his experience of raising two kids that have access to some pretty cool tech! Over last 7 years he has been supporting  brands to use the meta verse to it’s full extent using specialised immersive technology. In this podcast I wanted to find out more about the meta verse and how he thinks it will affect our lives and more importantly the lives of our kids in the future… Timeline: 1:50  What is the Metaverse? 2:30 Where is the Metaverse? 4:00  App Recommendations for kids? 4:20 What is Augmented Reality? 4:40 The power of Pokemon 5:10 The joy of Minecraft 5:40 How Minecraft can help you to build connection through play? 6:10 Minecraft Education. 6:45 How can we as parents connect with our kids in the metaverse? 7:10 The challenge of Fortnight! 7:45 Working together with your child with games. 8:30 Virtual Reality and our kids. 9:15 Playstation VR 9:20 Quest Headsets 9:30 Age recommendations for headsets. 11:40 Proprioception and VR Headsets. 12:15 Saving lives through VR and further applications. 12:30 VR for Education and it’s potential.    14:00 Concerns for parents around the Metaverse 15:00 The biggest concern. 16:30 The cost of virtual goods. 18:30 What one thing would you want to change in the education system today? 19:00 Worldwide impact. 19:30 Diversity and Inclusion are shared widely. 20:00 The one thing. 20:50 Outro thanks to Diverse Interactive. 21:00 Supporting parents in the corporate sector.     Disclaimer: VR Headsets are designed for older teens/adults and Play Healing CIC would recommend sticking to government guidelines with regards to the age of children using these VR devices. We would also encourage parents to be actively involved with their children when they are using VR and be aware of the content they are accessing where possible. For more information check out the link below:   The safety of virtual reality systems Government Guidelines https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/923616/safety-domestic-vr-systems.pdf  

"Hello and welcome back to Season 2 of the Play Healing Podcast. Hello I’m Debi and I’m the author of the Play Healing Flow: PAUSE PLAY CONNECTⓇ - three words that can make such a difference in our lives. I train people about the importance of PAUSING and tuning into where we are, at tuning in to where our child is at. Playing how are using the tool  to connect with children and to use their language which is PLAY to be engage them and make them feel seen and heard. In this season I’m going to be talking about how over 80% of the total the parents I work with struggle to PLAY. Either because they haven’t got the time but feel like they should or they just simply don’t enjoy it. And that’s okay because we have to start somewhere, but I know the Power of PLAY and actually PLAY is related to Joy to happiness and the opposite of PLAY can be rigidity, some people would say depression. So we want to be moving towards playfulness. We want to be moving towards enjoying the life we have in front of us and I believe that there are some very simple ways that I can step forward into this and discover the true nature and value of play in our busy lives. So, welcome to ‘Too busy not to play,’ the series that we can integrate play in giving you permission to play your way. Visit: www.playhealing.com Links to book a call about speaking/training/consulting can be found on the website.   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Instagram: @playhealingofficial     Tiktok: @playhealing

The app that transforms you into a playful parenting hero   About Debi:   Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Ben Geliher   Ben Geliher, CEO and founder of Caper has been developing and project managing the Caper app for families for the last year or so thanks to seed funding from LEGO and Founders Factory. He is an ethical and highly experienced game designer with a passion to encourage connection between parent and child.   https://www.linkedin.com/in/bengeliher/   https://www.caper.co Resources  22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ If you think that working with me may be something you’d like to do then contact me at playhealing@outlook.com and we can arrange a chat.   Managing tech for emotional health course coming soon so do send me a message or check out the website for more information.     Value Bombs:      Ben: I’m not a saint being in the games industry they use a lot of the mechanics of addiction, if you look at the top grossing apps on the app store games in the chart they use elements of gambling and addiction.    There’s a lot of debate in the ethics of game design.   Extrinsic motivators are points in the game where you reward your player eg. points coins, items.    When we were looking at caper we wanted the intrinsic motivators including: Why would we want to play with our kids? What makes it fun to play with your kid?   Often it’s about pretend play, physical connection, running cuddling and playing in the space you feel comfortable in.      Often there’s an effort gap when you’ve been working to then be in a place where you are able to click into ‘play mode’ and give your child focussed attention. It can be really tough…not everyone can make up these magical worlds, not everyone is good at doing pretend play. So Caper provides a backbone a story with loveable characters and then encourage you with suggestions and starters.   Debi : Creativity is so important and a way of future proofing our kids. We don’t need them to be able to recall facts - we have google but we will need children that can think outside the box whether physically or digitally.  It’s important to give parents a framework when it comes to managing tech in a healthy way.   Ben: Lego seem to care the most about play and the philosophy of play and creativity. Lego itself has infinite possibilities.  One of the other key factors is that sometimes parents find it boring to play. Playing a board game is boring for many parents themselves.  I do not feel playful when Im feeling stressed. Some parents really find play boring so we wanted the characters to have a pixar quality that parents can also enjoy the content as well as the child. You want the parent to have fun with the kid as that aids connection.   To download the app or for more information check out: https://www.caper.co     Sponsors To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh  Special Offer for Listeners: To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com   Support the Play Healing Podcast   If you fancy treating yourself of a loved one to some Neals Yard Organics Products then support this podcast by using this link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn Podcast Production: Debi John

The Impact of Dance, Education and Parenting on Racism   About Debi:   Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Nuna Sandy:   Nuna is an amazing mum, dancer, choreographer and producer with Company 3 working creatively with young people aged 11-18. Prior to this, she worked with Zoo Nation, Plague, Boy Blue and other dance companies as well as tonnes of teaching children in dance from ages 4-18.   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nuna-sandy-23b4092b/   This is the link to the Video Nuna mentioned and recommended at the end of the podcast.  https://youtu.be/inA3G4hzryU           Support the Play Healing Podcast   If you fancy treating yourself of a loved one to some Neals Yard Organics Products then support this podcast by using this link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn       Resources    Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/   If you think that working with me may be something you’d like to do then contact me at playhealing@outlook.com and we can arrange a chat.     Value Bombs:    Dance has the power to make you think in different ways, to challenge your perception.   ‘It’s about what dance can open up for you and what it can teach you in terms of life skills. ‘   Dance transcends language   5min - Nuna explains all about the importance that youth clubs had in her life.   10 min - Nuna talks about working on transformative projects with young people.   Setting achievable goals helps to build a sense of accomplishment.   ‘Teaching challenge based routines that I knew through practice they would get it - the level of pride and accomplishment makes them want to come back and build on it…’   16 min  - The story about how her daughter struggled with racist comments about her hair and how the family helped her.    17 min -  It’s important to model celebrating our differences and thinking about how others feel with our children. 18 min - It’s important to educate our children about race and have those age appropriate conversations. 19 min - The key is not shying away from those conversations    19.30 ‘I got off the ‘train' cause I was suffering trauma cause of what I’d seen…’     20.30 min Big hair don’t care…great book.     ‘Representation matters - it starts at home but needs to be backed up by everything else we see…’     22min - A wonderful example of how a school dealt with racism.   ‘Not every black person wants the role of educator…’   27 min - It’s not about being easily offended if someone is trying to learn.     28 min - Talking about having black and white babies with our children. ‘We’re all ignorant until we ask questions and learn.’  It’s not being afraid to have conversations.  29 min having conversations about age gender in an age appropriate way…  30 min contextual safeguarding … 31min - ‘skin is colour of poo’ = a really negative connotation.      33 min Nuna’s Secret to her parenting success -  It takes a village to raise a child… Be honest and ask for help as parenting can feel isolating.  I was open to the fact that I couldn’t do it and wasn’t expecting myself to.   Sponsors   To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Special Offer for Listeners: To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com Podcast Production: Debi John

Small yet powerful changes that help to prevent tech addiction and gaming disorder. Navigating the online world safely. About Debi: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling, and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author of the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play, and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Michael Jacobus:   Michael Jacobus is a life-long, career Camp Director and youth-development specialist. An internationally recognized author, child-development professional and outdoor education guru, Michael founded Reset Summer Camp after witnessing, (within his own family) the dangers and challenges of screen-addicted youth.   Michael has assembled a team of unmatched professionals to help him coordinate this effort in the hopes of breaking the cycle of tech addiction and overuse and give our children real-world Life Skills and tools to build a solid, successful future for themselves.   https://www.resetsummercamp.com     Support the Play Healing Podcast   Shopping via the Play Healing Neals Yard Organics link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Resources    Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com 22 Screen-Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/   Introduction:    Over the last year or so I’ve been in contact with Micheal from Reset Summer Camps and have been so impressed with the holistic approach they have to tech addiction as they work with the parents as well as the kids.   The Play Healing PAUSE 12-Week Mastermind is in its last month and the feedback I’ve had so far has been really moving and so excited about the behavioral and emotional changes going on in the children’s lives due to the courage and openness of the parents who have decided to pause and consider a new way of parenting.   If you think that working with me may be something you’d like to do then contact me at playhealing@outlook.com and I’d love to hear from you.      Value Bombs:    In the situation where we have many hours of detachment between parent and child as they are gaming in their room there seems to be a clear link with this aggression and the challenging mental health issues that present themselves.   After gaming disorder has been recognized by the World Health Organisation the program was expanded as a digital detox program because many of the kids were watching YouTube or being on social media and suffering from the same side effects.   Aggression is the number 1 symptom we come across…   Aggression, lack of sleep, depression, lack of motivation are all symptoms we come across regularly.   Tip: Be engaged with the children and the families that your children are hanging out with to cut down the predator or language concerns. Instead of just hoping they're ok with their headphones in their room change the environment to keep them safe: e.g Homework in kitchen, phones out of rooms.   “It’s not just can you fix my kid, it’s can you fix the family model.”   To support the podcast go and treat yourself to something special at my Neals Yard Shop:   uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn Free 200ml shower gel for orders over £50 this week. Ethical, Vegan and altogether amazing products! Available in the UK & Jersey.   Sponsors   To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Special Offer for Listeners:   To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com   Podcast Production:   Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x 

What is attunement and why does it matter? With Mama Manon and Debi John. Why is it important to heal from past trauma? How does this affect our children? About Debi: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.  Website: https://www.playhealing.com LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/ Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Manon: Manon’s mission is to help you feel confident and at ease in your parenting and everyday life. She combine’s Aware Parenting information and mind-body trauma healing, offering long-lasting, holistic, gentle and empowering support.   https://mamamanon.com   Support the Play Healing Podcast   Shopping via the Play Healing Neals Yard Organics link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Resources    Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com 22 Screen-Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/   Introduction:    Over the last year or so I've come across Manon’s work thanks to the wonderful play therapist Zoe from Playful Parents and absolutely loved her content on social media. She is a trauma-informed parenting specialist and it was a dream come true to have her on this podcast. Manon is a breath of fresh air full of empathy and wisdom so you’re in for a real treat.   We had such a lovely long chat that I’ve had to break our conversation up into two interviews. So make sure if you haven’t already done so, to subscribe and you won’t miss the next part when it comes out in a few weeks.  The Play Healing PAUSE 12-Week Mastermind is in its last month and the feedback I’ve had so far has been really moving and so excited about the behavioural and emotional changes going on in the children’s lives due to the courage and openness of the parents who have decided to pause and consider a new way of parenting.    If you think that working with me may be something you’d like to do then contact me at playhealing@outlook.com and I’d love to hear from you.    It was the first time I met Manon so when we first got on the call We chatted about our journeys into parent coaching and she started by asking me about my experience in education, music and therapy but I’m going to start the interview just after that as time is precious.  So we’re going to launch straight in… enjoy!     Value Bombs:  For many of us even though we have the right information and know HOW we want to raise our children, many times we can’t because of unresolved trauma getting in the way. When we have dysregulation in the nervous system, this causes us to live in this fight or flight response.   It’s key to heal from our past so we can relate with our children.   Debi: “At Play Healing part of the Play Healing PAUSE Model focuses on attunement as I believe this is a game-changer for myself as a parent and the parents I work with.   I’d like to talk to you more about attunement. Attunement seems to be the game-changer…”   Manon: ‘When we don’t attune with our kids, they get angry, because their needs are not met. Usually, when there is a lack of attunement there are big rages…   It’s hard to tune to our children coming back to our body is coming back to those gut feelings telling us what is up with my child at that moment.   In my workshops, I often ask the parent: ‘How do you know that something is happening with your child?   Now tune in to your body, how are you feeling now?’   Our body is constantly communicating with us when we listen to our body again we find it easier to tune into their needs.   There often felt like a disconnect from my head to my body…   We live in a society that doesn’t respect the connection with the body. The impulse the gut feeling…we shut down that part of the body..We’ve practised shut down…   To be able to play we need to be in the safe and connected space.    I’m looking forward to the Time to Pause Event on Friday so let me know if you want to come on Facebook.   Click here to be part of the evening but I can’t guarantee samples in time now x    https://playhealing-19611.gr8.com   uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Remember to PAUSE and look after yourselves guys x Serious love to you all x Debs x    Sponsors   To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Special Offer for Listeners:   To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com   Podcast Production:   Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x 

Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast-Paced Digital Age, with Debi John    Title: Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast Paced Digital Age, with Debi John    Title: How minimalism can affect the emotional health of your family?   About Debi:   Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Tanya:    Tanya helps ambitious female entrepreneurs uncover what is really holding them back, face their fears head on and grow into their true self to flourish in life and business. Coaching virtually we go back to basics, remove all the noise and excess in your life, the clutter. We remove every item, person, commitment, food, content, distraction etc. that takes you away from what really matters.   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/thegirlwhosimplified/   Website - https://www.thegirlwhosimplified.com     Support the Play Healing Podcast   Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing   Shopping via the Play Healing Neals Yard Organics link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Resources    Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/   Value Bombs:      When the kids were not listening, I questioned my own ability to be a parent.   I’d got to breaking point. Enough was enough.   Their reaction was completely unexpected. I went up stairs to find them happily playing and saying, ‘Thankyou mummy we love it - No that was not my intention!’   When you clear you remove everything that’s not serving you…you’re clearing out the old energy.   I look at my children in such a different way now.   Small changes can be so powerful.   Outro:   Thankyou for listening to Episode 7 today, be sure to subscribe, review and share the podcast with friends and check out my website at www.playhealing.com   I’m delighted to announce that the winner of beauty sleep bubble bath is Helen she wrote: “I loved these podcasts. It is so easy to feel overwhelmed by the wealth of advice and guidance out there, describing what to do and not do if you want to be a ‘good’ parent. This offers a totally new approach with simple strategies that really do work. Listening to the play, pause and connect podcast I recognised myself in so much that was said. I am using the pause and connect model with my children and in a short time have seen my communication and bond with them strengthen.”   Have a wonderful week x Stay safe go play and connect and don’t forget to PAUSE…   If you’re in the UK and want to come to my rest and relaxation pamper evening 19th June then sign up before 12th June using the link in the show notes or contact me on Facebook or Instagram and I’ll send you out samples. Including beauty sleep concentrate…   CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP BEFORE 12th JUNE   https://playhealing-19611.gr8.com   uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Remember to PAUSE and look after yourselves guys x Serious love to you all x Debs x    Sponsors   Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/   To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Special Offer for Listeners:   To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com   Podcast Production:   Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x   

Introducing new habits from a place of connection How can I introduce new habits? About Debi: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.   About Cynthia:  Cynthia is a former corporate career woman having worked for a number of blue-chip companies including Microsoft, Merrill Lynch, Gemini Consulting, and Goldman Sachs. She holds a BA from the University of Chicago and a MBA from Stanford Business School. Most recently, Cynthia co-founded two new entities: Habyts Ltd and ADDspark. She has 3 cool kids, a patient hubby, and an adorable dog that keep her grounded – and put up with her insatiable love of knowledge and news.   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cynthia-crossley-837109/   Website - https://habyts.com   Support the Play Healing Podcast Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing Shopping online Neals Yard Organics by using this link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn   Resources  Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/   Value Bombs:  “You could have the perfect structure in your head but none of it will work if you haven’t got that CONNECTION.” Habyts PACE Approach: A step-by-step habit-building system to give you the confidence to succeed with Habyts.   Prepare Purposely– get clear on what success looks like for you and your family Automate Quickly – see how to address specific concerns in a consistent way Celebrate Smarter – make habits stick by reviewing progress and celebrating success Experiment Together – be ready to handle any setbacks (it’s actually a GOOD thing)   Incorporate Play into your rituals and over celebrate the wins.   The next step after that needed to be positive to help my child to come off their screen.   Debi: We’re using PLAY and CONNECTION as the MOTIVATION for change.   The bond you’re creating will help the child to instal that new habit.   Show Notes:   Intro: Thank you to the listeners who’ve been sharing and reviewing this Play Healing Podcast, the reviews have been seriously out of this world! Each week I’ll be announcing at the end of this podcast who I’ve chosen to receive a lovely little gift from Neils Yard. Just leave a review to be in with a chance of winning. 2.45 How Cynthia and I met. 4.05 Founders Story - I have 3 boys - 20,18 and 8 years old. Talking about her struggle with screen time as the boys were growing up and the impact on relationships and motivation. Her BIG Question when they were growing up? How do you get kids to think about the things they do to move towards the relationships and goals they want? 6.17 At Play Healing it’s all about connection. Talking about resilience.   6.45 Bigger issues we must address as parents. What are the goals, structures, rituals, routines we want to put in place?   8.11 Ned Halliwell’s research mentioned. How to develop deeper connection. ADHD Researcher.   9.40 Debi ‘The act of PAUSING to take action and change a routine or rhythm takes so much energy.’ 80% of the coping mechanisms have been stripped away - see Linkedin article. Problem solving and creativity takes energy.  https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/lockdown-parenting-from-stress-fest-revolution-debi-john   11.00 The structure needed around habit forming.   12.59 There’s a sense of security when you have that structure in place.    13.25 Talking about connecting over the dinner time with teenagers. Cynthia then adds to this structure in preparing the food together.  The developmental importance of kids being included and taking a role to do chores around the home.   18.30 The power of singing at the top of your voice! Talking about how music lifts our mood. Silliness is great.   20.00 The impact of being on your phone and computer all the time in contrast to seeing parents being playful.   21.30 The power of a 3rd party / app when we’re overwhelmed with work ourselves.   24.30 Modelling flexibility and changing things that don’t work. Including kids in the family plan/ framework.    25.29 Simplifying your life.    26.00 The emotional a practical impact of Corona19 and how flexible approach has been such a healthy approach.   28.08 Example of helping a child to come off screens and then celebrating with quality time and play. Moving from something that they were enjoying into something they also enjoy.   Outro:   This week I want to read out a very moving review from Cathy.   “Excellent calm, grounded advice. Practical ideas and tips that will really help busy parents and remind them to PAUSE and be kind to themselves. Thank you Debi for sharing your expertise. “   To thank Cathy for that lovely review I’ll be sending her a ‘Women’s Balance’ Aromatherapy Remedy to Roll - AND a White Tea Facial Mist that’s given me a boost this week during the podcast launch. uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn Remember to PAUSE and look after yourselves guys x Serious love to you all x Debs x  Sponsors Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/   To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Special Offer for Listeners: To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com Podcast Production: Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x 

Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast Paced Digital Age, with Debi John   Title: Preparing your 4-7 Year old for their return to school during the Corona virus. About your host: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in Education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Podcast Music: Written and performed by Debi John. Produced by the extremely gifted Paul Frazer. You can listen to the whole track here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RU6hw28SsY Resources   SPECIAL BONUS - ebook containing a full transcript of this podcast can be found at: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com   To support the podcast with £5 / month go to:   Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing   22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com   Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/   Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/     Show notes:   I’ve been working with a number of parents who are now thinking about their children transitioning back into school again, but are now faced with a whole new layer of fears to add to their already stressed out brains: What if they go to hug another child who has the virus? What if they have an accident and can’t be changed, due to social distancing? What if my child wants to play with another child’s toy and it’s infected? What if they need a hug?   Questions I never had to worry about when my eldest was starting school.   The first thing Debi suggests is her ever popular suggestion to PAUSE and look at how we are feeling as parents. If we are in an anxious state it will be very hard to feel relaxed enough to play, attune and connect with them.   Once we have grounded ourselves we can use Play to address some of the issues coming up for the child, whether that’s socially, emotionally, physically or academically.   Debi suggests the use of therapeutic stories including ‘While we can’t hug’ found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PnnFrPaRgY From the creators of the internationally adored ‘The Hug,’ Eoin McLaughlin and Polly Dunbar. (Faber & Faber Publishing)   This could start a conversation about all the things they can still do with their friends and will help to keep things positive.   Other suggestions include Role Play, Puppets, Drawing and Nonsense Play.   Sponsors   Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast.   To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/   To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh   Thank you to the amazingly generous people who have donated to the podcast production via Go Fund Me and to Pete Sene who has been producing these podcasts with his amazing producer skills!

Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast-Paced Digital Age, with Debi John  Title: Mindfulness in a Parenting Minefield About Debi: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home-schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.  She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/ Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer. About Emily:  Emily is a mother, wife, daughter and lifelong lover of learning. Her passion in life is helping children to realise their full potential. After years of coaching adults, she realised that if she had worked with them as children they would have had very different lives. She now pours her passion, energy and skill into working with children - tomorrow's trailblazers! Emily is a qualified NLP Trainer and Coach.  https://www.facebook.com/Mindtoolsforkids/ http://Mindtoolsforkids.com Subscribe Apple | Google | Spotify | Stitcher | iHeart Support the Podcast Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing Resources  22 Screen-Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com  Free e-book helping your child with transition back into school after Covid19: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/ Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/ Value Bombs: Emily: Being kind to yourself starts with self care and realising you're worthy of it in the first place. We need to stop putting pressure on ourselves! Putting myself first was alien to me however, I found that if I didn’t practice self-care, I can’t give to others without feeling resentful or burning out. Emily: We’re all learning on the job! And to think we can just pick a book or methodology and feel like that’s enough is setting us up for failure.  Emily: Acceptance is the first step. Debi: There is such a power in pausing - it’s so counter cultural though when everyone is burning the candle at both ends. Emily: We’re not always modelling this shiny model of how we want life to be like, but that’s ok, that’s real life. But it acts as an opportunity for our children to see that it’s ok to make mistakes and say sorry. Debi: It’s important for the child to feel safe and helps them to grow and thrive. Sponsors Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/ To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh  Special Offer for Listeners: To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com Podcast Production Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x 

What’s it like being a young actor?   About your host:   Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and completed a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/   Episode guest:   Carys John has been a professional child actor from the age of ten, having performed in Andrew Lloyd Webber’s School of Rock in the West End (the first BAME actor in the role of Bass player Katie in the UK). Carys also plays Coco, in The 4 O’Clock Club television series on CBBC.     Subscribe Apple | Google | Spotify | Stitcher | iHeart     Resources:   FREE e-book about preparing your 4-7 Year old to return to school: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com   Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/     Value Bombs:   Parenting high achieving children can be a challenge, especially when that involves your child in a demanding semi-professional vocation, such as acting or sports.   What do we do with the realisation that our child may be talented? How do we support and nurture their gift without losing our sanity?   3) The roles for children in professional theatre or television are demanding. How do we help our children rise to the demands of such challenging but amazing opportunities?   Sponsors   Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/   To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh     A Podcast Company - is the leading podcast production company for brands, organisations, institutions, individuals, and entrepreneurs. Our team sets you up with the right equipment, training, and guidance to ensure you sound amazing. - www.apodcastcompany.com and www.podcastsyndicator.com

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and completed a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play. LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/ Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/ Parenting high achieving children can be a challenge, especially when that involves your child in a demanding semi-professional vocation, such as acting or sports. What do we do with the realisation that our child may be talented? How do we support and nurture their gift without losing our sanity? 3) The roles for children in professional theatre or television are demanding. How do we help our children rise to the demands of such challenging but amazing opportunities? Sponsors Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/ To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh A Podcast Company - is the leading podcast production company for brands, organisations, institutions, individuals, and entrepreneurs. Our team sets you up with the right equipment, training, and guidance to ensure you sound amazing. - www.apodcastcompany.com and www.podcastsyndicator.com