Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

If you've ever loved someone struggling with addiction, you know how lonely and difficult a journey it can be. Today's question comes from a wife who wants to know what to do about her husband's drinking, especially since he won't admit he has a problem. I share four key points and a few resources with her in hopes of encouraging her to seek help for herself even if her husband won't seek help for his addiction. If you are in a relationship with someone who is addicted to alcohol or other substances, there is hope and healing for you. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those crushed in spirit." Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Alcoholics Anonymous  Celebrate Recovery  Ep. 98 - The Difference Between Nagging & Reminding  Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict    Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Biblical submission has been misinterpreted and misunderstood for ages. Today, the topic can be taboo and controversial, which is why we’re going there! I want to bring a balanced viewpoint to a conversation that is worthy of another godly perspective. My husband, Shaun, is back for this episode, and we begin with a candid discussion about decision-making in marriage. How would you define the concept of mutual submission in marriage? The episode's engagement with biblical passages about wives' submission to husbands explores the literal interpretation and application of such scriptures in a modern context. It calls attention to the need for a nuanced understanding of biblical principles and their relevance in contemporary marriages. Visit rebuildinguspodcast.com for the full show notes & resources Helpful Resources to Continue the Conversation:  What Does Submission in Marriage Look Like? By Rev. Dr. Toornstra Take My FREE “How Connected a Partner Are You” Quiz   Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Submission in marriage is a controversial topic, especially among Christians. Should wives submit to their husbands in these days or is submission a thing of the past? A listener asked me this question, and I am addressing this topic on the podcast today. Scriptures such as Ephesians 5 can long be used to support women submitting to their husbands, so let's talk about it. Whether you believe that women should submit to their husbands or not, this episode is sure to be a great conversation piece.  Links Mentioned in this Episode:   🔗 Take My Online Course: From Conflict to Connection - How to Communicate Without Arguing   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever find yourself triggered by the thought of not being enough? Perhaps you believe your abilities fall short, your self-worth is under attack, or your identity is somehow flawed. It's a pervasive feeling that can linger in our minds, affecting both our personal and professional lives. We’re getting into the nitty-gritty of combating those "I'm not enough" thoughts in this universal struggle and shedding light on the roots of these beliefs by providing four powerful keys to overcoming the “I’m not enough” syndrome.   Links Mentioned in this Episode: Want to Learn to Communicate Without Fighting? Take My New Course - From Conflict to Connection  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast!   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Marriage counseling is a widely accepted way of receiving marriage help. However, marriage coaching is on the rise, and many couples have experienced lasting and effective results from this process. Today's podcast listener question comes from a guy who thinks his marriage is pretty good yet his wife feels they need marriage counseling. He wants to know the difference between marriage counseling and marriage coaching. Listen as I share six differences between the two and which one might benefit you the most.  Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Take My Online Course: From Conflict to Connection - How to Communicate Without Arguing  Need Marriage Coaching? Schedule Your Free Discovery Call Today   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast!   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Prayer is fundamental to any healthy, Christian marriage, so why don't more spouses pray for their marriage? Weariness, disappointment, and apathy are all obstacles we must overcome to develop loving, resilient marriages. Today, I'm sharing five ways to pray for your marriage, using the acronym C.O.V.E.R. If you practice what you hear in today's episode, I am confident your marriage will exponentially change for the better. The key to prayer is trusting in God's timing and His ways. I still remember when I prayed for the things I have now . . . that's not only a sign in my office, it's my testimony. Enjoy this sweet repeat that originally aired in January, 2023.    Linked Mentioned in this Episode:  Pray These Three Prayers for Your Life & Relationships Get Your Free Audio download: Speak Life Affirmations **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's relationship question comes from a listener who wants to hear she's on the right track healing from the emotional damage of her husband's affair. In this episode, I share five key signs to know if you're on the right track from healing from any relational hurt. I liken healing emotionally to healing physically. The effects are very similar. Remember, everyone heals at a different pace, so be gracious with yourself as you courageously journey forward to healing your broken heart after it's been wounded by someone you love.  Have a marriage-related or relationship question you want answered on the show? Email me or DM me today.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A topic that comes up most often with my marriage coaching clients is what to do when your spouse is emotionally distant. We've covered this marriage issue before on the podcast but because it's an ongoing problem in many marriages, we're bringing it back for a "sweet repeat." If your spouse has a hard time explaining or even understanding their feelings, this episode will encourage you with steps to take to bridge the disconnection gap and rebuild connection in your marriage even with an "emotionally distant" spouse.  Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Worried your partner may be having an affair? Take my free "Affair Quiz" today for a blueprint on what to do when infidelity enters your relationship. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Isn't it frustrating when you can't seem to agree on anything in your relationship? Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to get his point across without arguing with his spouse. Maybe you've wondered the same. I am sharing a very effective communication tool called the "mirror moment." This is when you explain to your spouse or partner how you feel and help them to do the same. Listen to the full episode to see how this works in action.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters Guide for Communicating in Conflict here.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Rebuilding trust in your relationship when it has been damaged or destroyed may seem like an impossible feat. However, I believe there are 12 steps every marriage or relationship can benefit from when seeking to rebuild trust. Today's episode is a "sweet repeat" of episode 107 from July, 2022. These timeless truths will help any relationship with trust issues to get unstuck and begin the healing process.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Take the "How Vulnerable is My Relationship to an Affair? Quiz here.    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When someone we love needs support, jumping into advice-giving mode is easy. Instead, we should ask these three powerful questions before dishing out solutions: Do you need a hug? Do you need help? Do you need to be heard? Beginning conversations with these questions deepens our connection and communicates respect, trust, and genuine concern. Recently, one of my marriage coaching clients shared that he started asking his wife three questions when he felt she needed his support. I’m calling it the "hug, help, hear" framework.  Listen to today’s episode as I share personal stories about maintaining boundaries, empathic listening, and fostering genuine connections in relationships.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters Guide for Communicating in Conflict here.  Episode 89: 7 Steps to Become a Better Listener    Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's Q&A is from a listener who believes their marriage is at a breaking point and needs advice on how to tell their spouse they want a divorce. Knowing little about the fallout of this marriage, I first encourage every couple in this situation to re-evaluate your marriage. Oftentimes, your marriage is not as far gone as you may believe. The fact that one spouse is asking how to tell their spouse they want a divorce leads me to believe the divorce is not mutual. Listen as I share a perspective on this very important conversation.  ALSO LISTEN TO: Ep. 245: 5 Boxes to Check Before You Divorce - with Dr. Kim Kimberling Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Communicating in Conflict Here.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Many marriages face problems and losses that test the very fabric of their relationships. From communication breakdowns to deep-rooted conflicts, navigating through the complexities of a marriage can be difficult. But there is hope. In this episode, we will explore the crucial concept of tearing down and building up in the context of a struggling marriage. Ecclesiastes 3:3 says, “There is a time to tear down and time to build up.” I believe as you work on rebuilding your marriage, there are three keys to taking a marriage from destruction to restoration. Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Communicating in Conflict Here. Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In today's digital age, many affairs start online. Today's question is from a wife whose husband looks at semi-nude pics of women online and gets angry when she confronts him. This listener wants to know how to set boundaries with her husband to change his behavior. Take a listen as I explain how boundaries work in marriage and what she can do if her husband doesn't change his behavior.  Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Send an email here or direct message me on Instagram.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Take my "Affair Proof" Quiz Here Ep. 231: 10 Warning Signs + 12 Digital Signs of an Affair  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever wondered what happens in a marriage coaching session? Will and Jo, a husband and wife married for three years need help reconnecting after a separation. They willingly discuss the challenges that led them to separate and what they're doing today to make version two of their marriage work. Jo and her husband navigated through financial struggles, boundaries, and the complexities of a blended family. Listen as I guide them through conversations on communication, finances, and the power of feedback. Through live coaching with the couple, Will and Joe, we witness the transformative potential of open communication, understanding, and willingness to rebuild a marriage. This episode is a testament to the resilience of love and the possibilities of healing and growth in relationships. Let's dive into this relatable journey of rebuilding a marriage.   Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Take the “Is My Relationship Vulnerable to an Affair” Quiz Here 🔗 Ep. 242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.     Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

One of the most powerful ways to pray is to use the Word of God in your prayers. Scripture teaches us how to enact God's kingdom here on Earth in our lives, including our marriages. Today’s question comes from a listener who listened to another episode I recently shared about prayer and wanted to know how exactly to pray the Scripture over her marriage. Take a listen and employ this simple solution to praying God’s words in faith as you expect Him to work on your behalf.    Other Helpful Episodes:  #242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either  #210: 5 Prayers to Pray for Your Husband  #208: 5 Prayers to Pray for Your Wife    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I don’t know where you are in your marriage today, but I believe God led you to this episode for a purpose. If we’re honest, most married people have thought about divorce at some point in their relationship. Perhaps, right now, you might be about to file papers or maybe you desperately want to help a friend or loved one who is considering divorce.  Our culture says divorce is a necessary solution to a broken marriage. But what if it’s not? What if restoration is easier than you think?  Our guest today is Dr. Kim Kimberling of the Awesome Marriage podcast, and he’s going to walk us through a checklist of sorts . . . five critical things to do before you divorce.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  🔗 Learn more about Dr. Kim and his marriage resources  🔗 Take the “Is My Relationship Vulnerable to an Affair” Quiz Here 🔗 Ep. 242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Whether you have a blended family or not, agreeing on how to parent the kids can be a challenge. Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to handle when his wife is too strict with the kids. He's tried bringing the issue to her attention but she gives him the silent treatment. Listen as I share three thoughts on how to agree with your spouse on values even when you disagree on parenting methods.  ALSO LISTEN TO: 157: When You Disagree on How to Discipline the Kids Resource Mentioned in this Episode:  Take the "Is My Relationship at Risk for an Affair?" Quiz today!   Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you frustrated with a husband who isn't taking the lead spiritually in your marriage? In this episode, I provide practical, empowering solutions for wives, giving you the keys to unlocking spiritual intimacy and building a stronger, deeper connection with your husband. From fostering open conversations to offering support and love, I’m sharing three do’s and don’ts to help end the tension in your marriage due to mismatched spiritual paths. We also briefly discuss gender roles in Christianity and how they intersect with spiritual leadership in marriage. I believe in balanced partnership and male leadership within the marriage, inspired by the example of the Holy Trinity. This episode will encourage any wife who wants to see her husband lead spiritually.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  🔗 Ep. 185: How to Have More Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage 🔗 Ep. 210: 5 Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband 🔗 Download “Heart-to-Heart Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever experienced resentment or boredom in your relationship? A listener wants to know how to overcome feeling stuck between not wanting to be around her husband and not wanting to divorce him either. She acknowledges that while she's trying to work on communication, she's struggling to find motivation and is unsure about the next steps for her marriage. Listen in as we discuss how resentment happens, its relationship to unforgiveness, and some practical steps to take when living in a boring marriage.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Ep. 88: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships 🔗 Protect or Rebuild Your Marriage from Infidelity  Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.