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Author: Dana Che - Christian Marriage Coach

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Welcome to "Rebuilding Us,” a marriage podcast helping to restore intimacy and renew hope in your relationship. Join marriage coach Dana Che on an episodic adventure and explore the transformative journey of rebuilding trust, commitment, and connection by reigniting love through faith-based principles.

Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking to enrich your relationship, 'Rebuilding Us' is here to support you on your journey to a thriving and resilient marriage grounded in grace and godly guidance."

Let the rebuild begin!

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!
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When someone we love needs support, jumping into advice-giving mode is easy. Instead, we should ask these three powerful questions before dishing out solutions: Do you need a hug? Do you need help? Do you need to be heard? Beginning conversations with these questions deepens our connection and communicates respect, trust, and genuine concern. Recently, one of my marriage coaching clients shared that he started asking his wife three questions when he felt she needed his support. I’m calling it the "hug, help, hear" framework.  Listen to today’s episode as I share personal stories about maintaining boundaries, empathic listening, and fostering genuine connections in relationships.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters Guide for Communicating in Conflict here.  Episode 89: 7 Steps to Become a Better Listener    Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Today's Q&A is from a listener who believes their marriage is at a breaking point and needs advice on how to tell their spouse they want a divorce. Knowing little about the fallout of this marriage, I first encourage every couple in this situation to re-evaluate your marriage. Oftentimes, your marriage is not as far gone as you may believe. The fact that one spouse is asking how to tell their spouse they want a divorce leads me to believe the divorce is not mutual. Listen as I share a perspective on this very important conversation.  ALSO LISTEN TO: Ep. 245: 5 Boxes to Check Before You Divorce - with Dr. Kim Kimberling Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Communicating in Conflict Here.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Many marriages face problems and losses that test the very fabric of their relationships. From communication breakdowns to deep-rooted conflicts, navigating through the complexities of a marriage can be difficult. But there is hope. In this episode, we will explore the crucial concept of tearing down and building up in the context of a struggling marriage. Ecclesiastes 3:3 says, “There is a time to tear down and time to build up.” I believe as you work on rebuilding your marriage, there are three keys to taking a marriage from destruction to restoration. Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Communicating in Conflict Here. Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
In today's digital age, many affairs start online. Today's question is from a wife whose husband looks at semi-nude pics of women online and gets angry when she confronts him. This listener wants to know how to set boundaries with her husband to change his behavior. Take a listen as I explain how boundaries work in marriage and what she can do if her husband doesn't change his behavior.  Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Send an email here or direct message me on Instagram.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Take my "Affair Proof" Quiz Here Ep. 231: 10 Warning Signs + 12 Digital Signs of an Affair  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Have you ever wondered what happens in a marriage coaching session? Will and Jo, a husband and wife married for three years need help reconnecting after a separation. They willingly discuss the challenges that led them to separate and what they're doing today to make version two of their marriage work. Jo and her husband navigated through financial struggles, boundaries, and the complexities of a blended family. Listen as I guide them through conversations on communication, finances, and the power of feedback. Through live coaching with the couple, Will and Joe, we witness the transformative potential of open communication, understanding, and willingness to rebuild a marriage. This episode is a testament to the resilience of love and the possibilities of healing and growth in relationships. Let's dive into this relatable journey of rebuilding a marriage.   Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Take the “Is My Relationship Vulnerable to an Affair” Quiz Here 🔗 Ep. 242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.     Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
One of the most powerful ways to pray is to use the Word of God in your prayers. Scripture teaches us how to enact God's kingdom here on Earth in our lives, including our marriages. Today’s question comes from a listener who listened to another episode I recently shared about prayer and wanted to know how exactly to pray the Scripture over her marriage. Take a listen and employ this simple solution to praying God’s words in faith as you expect Him to work on your behalf.    Other Helpful Episodes:  #242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either  #210: 5 Prayers to Pray for Your Husband  #208: 5 Prayers to Pray for Your Wife    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **   Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
I don’t know where you are in your marriage today, but I believe God led you to this episode for a purpose. If we’re honest, most married people have thought about divorce at some point in their relationship. Perhaps, right now, you might be about to file papers or maybe you desperately want to help a friend or loved one who is considering divorce.  Our culture says divorce is a necessary solution to a broken marriage. But what if it’s not? What if restoration is easier than you think?  Our guest today is Dr. Kim Kimberling of the Awesome Marriage podcast, and he’s going to walk us through a checklist of sorts . . . five critical things to do before you divorce.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  🔗 Learn more about Dr. Kim and his marriage resources  🔗 Take the “Is My Relationship Vulnerable to an Affair” Quiz Here 🔗 Ep. 242: I Don’t Want My Husband But I Don’t Want a Divorce Either    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Whether you have a blended family or not, agreeing on how to parent the kids can be a challenge. Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to handle when his wife is too strict with the kids. He's tried bringing the issue to her attention but she gives him the silent treatment. Listen as I share three thoughts on how to agree with your spouse on values even when you disagree on parenting methods.  ALSO LISTEN TO: 157: When You Disagree on How to Discipline the Kids Resource Mentioned in this Episode:  Take the "Is My Relationship at Risk for an Affair?" Quiz today!   Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Are you frustrated with a husband who isn't taking the lead spiritually in your marriage? In this episode, I provide practical, empowering solutions for wives, giving you the keys to unlocking spiritual intimacy and building a stronger, deeper connection with your husband. From fostering open conversations to offering support and love, I’m sharing three do’s and don’ts to help end the tension in your marriage due to mismatched spiritual paths. We also briefly discuss gender roles in Christianity and how they intersect with spiritual leadership in marriage. I believe in balanced partnership and male leadership within the marriage, inspired by the example of the Holy Trinity. This episode will encourage any wife who wants to see her husband lead spiritually.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  🔗 Ep. 185: How to Have More Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage 🔗 Ep. 210: 5 Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband 🔗 Download “Heart-to-Heart Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Have you ever experienced resentment or boredom in your relationship? A listener wants to know how to overcome feeling stuck between not wanting to be around her husband and not wanting to divorce him either. She acknowledges that while she's trying to work on communication, she's struggling to find motivation and is unsure about the next steps for her marriage. Listen in as we discuss how resentment happens, its relationship to unforgiveness, and some practical steps to take when living in a boring marriage.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Ep. 88: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships 🔗 Protect or Rebuild Your Marriage from Infidelity  Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Hormones are those sneaky, hidden chemicals that can wreak havoc on our bodies . . . and on our relationships. Our guest, Becky Yawn, is helping us understand why it's important that women, especially, understand how certain hormones affect our mood and communication. What if the conflict you're facing in your marriage is more than meets the eye? What if the internal changes in your hormones are partly to blame?  Join us for this fun and informative conversation with Bekah, a fertility coach and For the Love of Hormones podcast host. Bekah also shares about non-conventional ways to conceive without medication or drugs and shares her heartbreaking yet redemptive stories of miscarriage. Turn up the volume and bring all your personalities to this episode! For the full show notes, visit rebuildinguspodcast.com. Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Learn all about Bekah's hormone & fertility programs here. 🔗 Get on the waitlist for the Infidelity Intensive 🔗 For the Love of Hormones Podcast **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be brought to the light or are some things better off hidden? We're discussing this question and asking what the Bible says (if anything) about secrets in relationships.  Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
All is not lost after an affair. You and your marriage can become more resilient and stronger from what could’ve destroyed you. Shame says, “You are damaged. You are bad.” But that is not true. You can truly rise above shame and have hope even after an affair. Shaun is back on the podcast today, and we’re discussing what we learned from our affairs. This conversation will help all who have been affected by the impact of infidelity in your relationship and will help you believe the journey toward healing and rebuilding trust is attainable.  In this episode, Shaun and I talk about some “hidden blessings” we’ve learned along the way and encourage you to do the same. As Maya Angelou says, “I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” Your marriage may have gone through infidelity, but infidelity does not have to be the end.  My infidelity intensive course helps individuals and couples to finally heal from the shame and pain of infidelity.  Learn more about Infidelity Intensive here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **  Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Full show notes are at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Today's marriage advice is for a listener struggling with the feeling of complacency and stagnation in a long-term marriage. Here's the question she asked:  I really need good sound advice I've been with my husband for 25 yrs & I find myself thinking of a different life. Everything is the same ole same ole. Money is always tight. We work, come home, connected with our phones (more than each other). I am not sure if I can take another 25 yrs of this. He feels the marriage is fine, so clearly it's me. Any advice would be great. Many thanks, Mrs. Mathers Listen as I share with our listener four practical steps that she (yes, she) can take to get out of the marriage rut she's in.  Got a marriage or relationship question you'd like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM on Instagram.   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast!       Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Let's talk about what it takes to heal and rebuild trust after the devastating impact of infidelity. In this episode, we break down the critical steps for both the cheating spouse and the wounded spouse. You may be familiar with the main themes in this episode like the importance of open and honest communication and a no-contact rule. Other factors that fly under the radar, however, like what good boundaries are and initiated accountability aren't always so obvious, though equally essential. The cheating spouse must take the proactive approach of being humble, transparent, and responsible for their actions.  Get the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Special Offer  Get Access to the "Infidelity Intensive" Guide Here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The problem is she keeps saying that she’s sorry. I found out a few months ago that she is involved in yet another of these situations. I’m sure you can understand what that must do to a man. I love her. She’s a great mother. But I’m wondering how many times I should take her back? My heart goes out to Greg and others who find themselves locked in a revolving door marriage with other people. Infidelity is hard enough the first time; multiple affairs are devastating. Listen in as I share some challenging words of advice about how to know when enough is enough after repeated infidelity.  Have a relationship question you'd like answered on the podcast? Submit your question at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM me on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says, “I am someone bad.”  This episode is for any person who has ever suffered the betrayal of their partner and it's also for the one who has betrayed. No shame on you. Just hope and healing. Listen in.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the FREE "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz Ep. 233: Discovering Your Spouse Has Been Unfaithful: Now What? **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question:  I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happy. I know it’s important to him. I’ve listened to some of your podcast episodes in the shameless sex series. You did a while back. Are there any quick fixes you can give for those of us who struggle in this department?  Listen in as I share my suggestions using the analogy of "getting your head in the game." Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Please Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps, and the pathway to healing after the shattering revelation of a spouse’s unfaithfulness. Respond, Don’t React: In the midst of this emotional turbulence, it’s better to embrace a strategic approach – responding, not reacting. The distinction between these two responses will be critical as you navigate in the storm. Impulsively reacting, no matter how temporarily satisfying it may seem, only compounds the situation. Instead, choosing a thoughtful and intentional response lays the groundwork for healing and restoration. Listen as I share some suggestions to help accelerate the healing process.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your “Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict” guide here.  Book suggestion: Good Grief by Granger Westberg Ep. 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses:  feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is that feelings are not final, and they are fickle. They are precious but not the priority. Instead of being led by our feelings, there are healthier and more effective ways to handle our lack of feelings toward our spouse. Listen in to learn the pathway forward.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Related Episode: #80: Feelings Aren't Forever  🔗 Submit your relationship questions 🔗 Get your free "Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict" 🔗 Interested in marriage coaching? Schedule your discovery call today.   Don't miss out on insights to improve your relationships. Hit the subscribe or follow button! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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