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Twice as Less Not Perfect: A Messy Marriage Podcast

Author: Nathan & Emily

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Ah, wedded bliss! The charming melodies of your partner chewing, every dirty dish stacked to perfection, passionate dialogue that is definitely NOT yelling! Real-life couple, Emily & Nathan explore the mirth and the myths of long term relationships.
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You've Got Personality

You've Got Personality

2021-06-2301:16:03

If you're like us, you love taking silly Facebook quizzes that tell you which Hogwarts House you belong to. (We're proof that a Gryffindor and Slytherin can make it work!) But this week we take it to a whole other level with the Myers Briggs test from 16Personalities.comWe dive into what makes us tic, how annoying it is to have a computer call you out for your worst traits, and how it affects our relationship. Does the test have our number or is it way off, and even more importantly, what can we do when we're not happy with our results? How much can you change your personality, when parts of it can be detrimental to your personal growth, your relationship, and your parenting style?Take the test and let us know what you learn about your personality.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Fatherhood Freakout!

Fatherhood Freakout!

2021-06-0901:12:17

In this week's episode, Emily asks Nate all about what it's like to be the other guy. Ya know, the anchor, the support person, the often overlooked partner in the pregnancy duo. What's it like finding out you're going to be a parent?  Is sympathy pregnancy a real thing? And how does it feel knowing your partner is going through a total body transformation and and a potentially dangerous and (at it's easiest) a pretty traumatic and inevitable labor experience and there's not a damn thing you can do about it?We know all the attention is typically on Mom, so this week Nate is here to give us the down and dirty on what it feels like to become a Dad!Check out this awesome article, The Science of How Fatherhood Transforms You from todaysparent.comIf you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Well we did it y'all. 10 trips around the sun with each other. 5,256,000 Minutes (That's Ten Rent's of marriage!Nate & Emily sit down on their anniversary and revisit what the last 10 years has taught them, how is has surprised and challenged them.They open up about how it was nothing like they anticipated, yet richer than they could have ever anticipated. As they close out this chapter of their marriage and prepare to enter the next as parents, they reflect on what the last year has taught them.They also celebrate a year of "Twice as Less Not Perfect". As a tribute to that first episode,  where they read their vows and thought about what had changed, they up the ante and rewrite their vows for the next ten years.A big thanks to all the listeners who joined us for the journey.  If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
This week Emily & Nate recount the adventure of their BabyMoon.  What is a BabyMoon? How does one do it? Well we’ve got answers apparently, because a registered OB in Key West chased us down the street to ask us all about it. The final trip as a duo is a great chance to reflect on where you’ve been as a couple and look forward to how the new addition to your family is going to change everything. All of that was great, but like  most things in marriage, it wasn’t without its messes. From coming out of quarantine, 3rd trimester symptoms, and finding themselves in the open waters of the Atlantic, their trip to the Florida Keys  was something they’ll never forget.Also, hear an update on our most recent ultrasound and find out how to drive your parents crazy by telling everyone in another state the gender of your baby, but not them. 70 Days to go!If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
The world is opening again and if you’re like us you’re feeling equal parts excitement and “did I really like being around people that much before?”Emily and Nate found themselves thrown back into  old patterns when Nate had to start flying for work again. From little things like forgetting how to pack, to larger issues like checking in promptly when your pregnant wife texts you, it was a week filled with nervousness, excitement, relief, angst and at least one of us crying while on a plane to Omaha. This week we talk about Going the Distance...the Long Distance in a relationship, that is. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
The Parent Trap

The Parent Trap

2021-04-0201:05:02

We all vow that we'll never become our parents, but if there's one thing that will bring it out of you, it's becoming parents yourself. This week, Emily & Nate dive into how their own upbringing has given them insight into how they would like to parent. Prompted by a great discussion of other parent's to be they talk about the wonderful things they want to pass on to their child from their families. On the flip side, they discuss the parental patterns they want to break. They also turn the lens on themselves and ask "What do I want to continue to do, and what do I want to take the opportunity to stop before an impressionable little one joins our clan?" If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
You've heard of the bump and grind, but this week Emily and Nate are here to talk ALL about the bump....and the GRUMP. Who is the grump? Is it one of them? Possibly. Likely even.What they can tell you is that they are experiencing (in real time) how pregnancy changes the very nature of a relationship. Turns out the cliche we always hear about mom's hormone changes are just one part of the story. Did you know Dad's hormones change too? When Dad had a meltdown about installing a light in the closet, Emily and Nate made that fun discovery.Here all about it and more in this Baby Update!Check out this article from Parents.com, Love and Pregnancy: 5 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your RelationshipIf you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Better Wed Than Dead

Better Wed Than Dead

2021-03-1601:11:34

Many of us say it right in the vows, and hardly take a moment to think about what it really means. Whether it’s facing your own mortality or the mortality of your partner, kicking the bucket is an uncomfortable topic. Nate & Emily talk about how they have prepared for end of life decisions...and by that they mean they haven’t prepared at all. From the little things like what songs you want played at your funeral to the big complicated stuff like wills and life insurance it’s definitely a good thing to talk about long before you shuffle off that mortal coil.Don’t fear the reaper! Stare into his empty eye sockets and you may find it brings you even closer together. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
50 Shades of Green

50 Shades of Green

2021-03-0201:13:11

It’s not easy being green with envy. It’s even harder when the person inviting the wrath of your green-eyed monster is your partner. Turns out it’s a slippery slope from admiration, emulation, and pride to malicious behavior. Most people don’t like to admit it, but it’s easy to harbor resentment  with your spouse over careers, popularity, attractiveness, wealth, prestige and a host of other things that should make us nothing but proud...except they make us feel so damn worthless. If comparison is the thief of joy, then envy is the little green goblin of grudgingness. Check out this article, To Love and To Envy  by Dana Shavin in Psychology Today! Also, here are 4 Ways to Deal With Significant Other EnvyIf you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
If you’re looking for advice, we have none. This week we provide an update on all of our baby craziness and how it’s impacting our marriage in surprising ways.From ultrasounds to genetic testing;  registries and gender reveals, we’re capturing some of what’s happening in real time. Listen in to find out how fluctuating birth plans, last name debates, and nesting make things all the messier. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
No, it'a not an episode about broadband. These 3 G's are all about sex. As in Gettin it on, Gettin busy, Giggity giggity...you get the idea. (giggity)This week, Emily and Nate discuss why it's so dang hard to keep the fire stoked after over a decade of shagging. Have they always succeeded? Of course not! Do they keep trying new things? Most definitely! Learn about (some of) those things and learn some ideas about how you can spark the flames and rekindle your fire.Emily and Nate got a little help from their favorite resource The All or Nothing Marriage, and love guru Esther Perel.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Is Valentines Day feeling more stale than a box of candy hearts?Are you tired of the expectations and pressure that go along with trying to fit all that love into one day?Maybe you’re anti-Valentines day all together because screw consumerism. We’ve been all three and after years of acting “too cool” for Cupid, we were in for a rude awakening when one of us skipped it during our first year of marriage. Take back the holiday and make it your own because damn it, you deserve to celebrate the love you have for another person this year more than ever. Want to learn more about the origin of St. Valentine's Day? Read this! Check out this list of RomComs to watch (even if you don't like them), or if you're feeling extra anti-Valentine's this year, indulge in one of these dark and twisty films.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Maybe Baby, Part Deux

Maybe Baby, Part Deux

2021-02-0201:01:41

After the amount of feedback from people who reached out about episode 7: Maybe Baby, Nate & Emily regroup after the holidays to revisit the topic of kids.Will they or won't they? Should they or shouldn't they? Will their Mom's heads explode if they don't make up their minds already?Listen in to hear the latest.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Relationship Red Flags

Relationship Red Flags

2021-01-2901:06:18

There are plenty of jokes out there about the red flags of dating, but what about the Red Flags waving in your relationships?This week, Emily and Nate, dive into a list Red Flags that therapists look out for when working with couples in therapy.They analyze which ones seem insane, which ones are a little too close for comfort, and the ones they have certainly been guilty of from time to time or all the time.Want to follow along with us? Check out this Buzzfeed Article of Instant Red Flags in Relationships.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Marriage Is A Martial Art

Marriage Is A Martial Art

2021-01-1901:04:56

How on earth does Tae Kwan Do, or the Way of the Foot and the Fist, help make a marriage tough enough to break boards?This week, Emily & Nate discuss how the practice of Tae Kwan Do has not only helped them survive the pandemic and create a sense of community, but also how it has helped them in their relationship.In Tae Kwan Do, the practice that it takes to prepare for combat and and hone your skills requires a lot of trust and communication, and it turns out it prepares you for the "combat" of marriage too, by way of the 6 tenets that are recited after every class.They dive into the six Tenets of Tae Kwan Do: Modesty, Perseverance, Self Control, Indomitable Spirit, Courtesy, and Integrity, and how they have helped them develop a deeper system of communication and a common framework that focuses on the internal first, so that they can be better partners both in and out of the Dojang.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
The Sound of Silence

The Sound of Silence

2021-01-1201:00:58

What do you think would happen if you took a 24 Hour Vow of Silence with your partner?Well we did so you don't have to. After reading Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity,Emily & Nate spent 24 hours without talking, texting, writing, and only minimal wild gesticulating .What they learned about their relationship without words was way more powerful than they anticipated. Hear how they tuned into each other's body language, expectations, awareness, spontaneity and spoiler alert....their sex life without a sound.Turns out silence really is golden.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Welcome to 2021, pod goblins! How’s it feel on the other side? If you’re like Em & Nate, you might not feel very different than you did in 2020. After all, we’re all still stuck in the COVID rut, a sort of limbo holding pattern purgatory filled with angst and uncertainty, anger and Enugu, and Netflix and carbs. The good news is, we can see an end in sight. The bad news...? We’re not entirely sure how long it’ll be before the COVID hold loosens it’s grip, nor do we know what life looks like when it finally does. Nate & Em break down a rut they’ve experienced in the past, how they handled it (spoiler, not always well) what they learned from it, and how it’s helped them handle this rut we all find ourselves in. Watch "Soul" on Disney+ and "Psalm of Purgation" to get more Lost in Limbo goodness.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
Ahh 2020. What a year. In this episode Emily & Nate ring in the estinguishing of this dumpster fire by sharing two of their New Years traditions: The burning of the grievances, and the gratitude jar.The silver linings of 2020 were in many ways surprising, and Emily & Nate find themselves feeling a lot more introspective than they thought they'd be.Join us in celebrating 2021, the most anticipated New Year of our lifetime! What were your grievances and gratitudes this year? Email them to us at lessnotperfect@gmail.comIf you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com 
...All around us.....A bit problematic.......Absolutely necessary.In this week's episode, Nate and Emily break down the classic holiday film Love, Actually.It is absolutely a guilty pleasure for them every single year, but it gets more and more dated with every passing season.What aspects of love are ridiculous, absurd, or downright toxic? Which parts are delightful in all their Pointer Sister goodness?With an all star cast, that delivers , despite its surface level portrayals of romantic love, we have to admit...we feel it in our fingers. We feel it in our toes. Christmas is all around us, come on and let it snow!Hate watch with us this holiday season!If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com Want to hear our radio play, A Child's Christmas In Wales? Visit the Arvada Center for the Arts & Humanities for tickets and info.
Phubbing

Phubbing

2020-12-1501:06:30

The Oxford Dictionary defines phubbing as, " the practice of ignoring one's companion or companions in order to pay attention to one's phone or other mobile device". Sound familiar? If you're like Emily and Nate and - let's face it - most people on the planet with a cell phone, this behavior is causing tons of tension in your relationship and is probably keeping you from connecting with each other in some very significant ways. This week, Nate and Emily talk about all the ways their devices have become an addiction, and have caused them to miss out on authentic connection with each other. They discuss the traps of social media, and the brilliant but terrifying documentary, The Social Dilemma, as well as some options for keeping their phone addictions in check. How do you combat phubbing in your relationship? Any and all tips are greatly appreciated!Want to learn more? Check out this article from the Gottman Institute, How Your Smartphone Might Sabotage Your Relationship. And this one form the Association for Psychological Science, How Smartphones Are Affecting Our Relationships.If you like us, do us a favor and share us with you're friends and family!Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at lessnotperfect@gmail.com Want to hear our radio play, A Child's Christmas In Wales? Visit the Arvada Center for the Arts & Humanities for tickets and info.
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