The Uncover YOU podcast

Since your reactive patterns have been kept in place out of protection, it’s only natural that objections show up when you start to take them apart. If you know what they are, you can seize the opportunity to meet with them and finally get further in healing than you’ve gone beforeThis episode walks you through three common obstacles - and how to navigate them.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp6: How things in the way of your process actually ARE your processEp133: The place to start (when changing reactive relationship patterns)Ep134: Three things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Many of us long for nourishing connection with another human being, but end up feeling misunderstood, rejected, or reactive when we try. Our previous attempts have ended up in more conflict and pain, and we might have been called cold, crazy, or needy.This episode gives you the courage to be vulnerable, and to create true intimacy and connection. So that you can love and be loved, even if it didn’t feel safe or possible before.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”Join Alchemy - my 5-week program that heals emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns—Check out these related episodes:Ep133: The place to start (when changing reactive relationship patterns)Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp134: Three things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Ready to let go of the lies about your reactions in relationships? And discover that they might have been the ones holding the whole structure in place?In this episode, I give you 3 different perspectives on how to relate to your relationship loops. Try them on and keep them if they feel better than your current ones!Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep134: Three things to do when triggered in relationshipsEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

Most of us are being dragged around in the surface layers of the reactions in relationships. The anger, the withdrawal, the blame, the hyper-vigilance and the victimhood. By ourselves, our partner and most often - the dynamic between both.It’s not until we can get present and move through the surface layers of our reactions, that we’re able to express from a place that creates understanding AND heal the wound that shifts the pattern.In this special episode, I take you through one of my own recent reactions and break down the layers I found. So you can look for the layers and the root in your own patterns.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner workEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

It’s easy to reject and judge your people-pleasing tendencies when you become aware of them - and see how they are causing you to override what you want and need.What we often miss with this pattern is that going along with other people is a protection mechanism. If you’re trying to override it you’ll probably signal danger to your internal system.Until you get to the layers underneath.In this episode, I talk to Karen who shares the process I guided her through a few weeks back. In just 15 minutes she’s able to feel all the layers of this pattern and get to the core wound - and say NO already the next day.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner workEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds — You find show notes in this post on my website

If you’ve listened to my other episodes on reactive relationship patterns and how to heal them at the core, you’ve realized that there’s work to do in between the activating moments.But what do you do while the trigger is happening? If you don’t want to go into old loops or screaming matches and add confusion, hurt, and blame?In this episode, I walk you through three things you can do while activated - and how your capacity to do things differently will grow as your awareness level grows.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner workEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

Suppose you want to change jealousy, people-pleasing, anger or other reactive relationship patterns. Then the first key is to recognize the survival state the relationship dynamics are putting you in. PLUS how you’re trying to make changes from there.When my clients learn how to regulate their nervous system and make changes from OUTSIDE the old identification, results to lifelong patterns happen quickly. In this episode, I walk you through how this works and have a conversation with members in my program about their results.This is part three in a series on how to use the issues, reactions and emotions showing up in your relationships to finally heal core wounds and be free from old conditioning.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner workEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

One of the most intense experiences is jealousy in your intimate relationship. When the other person turn their attention to someone else and you’re left feeling rejected, small and insecure.Whether you’ve experienced this pattern most of your life, or had it show up recently, this episode is for you. If you want to stop feeling hurt, lashing out with blame and feel like you’re ruining the relationship - listen to understand how you can heal this pattern at the core.This is part two in a series on how to use the issues, reactions and emotions showing up in your relationships to finally heal core wounds and be free from old conditioning.Get on my email list to receive future episodes and invitations to free trainings.You find show notes in this post on my website

It’s often in relation with others that our emotional wounds and protection mechanisms were created, which means it’s in our relationships they will show up - even when we think we’ve done all the work to shift them.This episode looks at three ways we show up in relationships that are widely normalized - but are actually what keep you stuck in old reactions and dynamics.This is part one in a series on how to use the issues, reactions and emotions showing up in your relationships to finally heal core wounds and be free from old conditioning.Get on my email list to receive future episodes and invitations to free trainings.You find show notes in this post on my website

When you’re in a situation that you’re reacting strongly to - how do you know if it’s an old wound peeking out, or the other person behaving or treating you in a way that you’re actually not okay with?This episode helps you identify when it’s a wound speaking that you can take responsibility for and process or when it’s time to speak up and how you can do that in a way that’s actually helpful.You find show notes in this post on my website

This episode walks you through 4 common expressions of an underdeveloped relationship with our emotional world and why they might be there. We also explore why some are more accepted than others, and the skills you need to mature the way you relate to emotions.Come join a free session on embodied feeling this Sunday, for women and non-binary.You find show notes in this post on my website

If you’re not doing your inner work from the belief that you’re broken and need fixing - why keep doing it? And what’s on the other side?This episode marks the end of 2023 and answers the questions:What happens with the parts of you that die?What are you becoming?Why set intentions?Come join a very special end-of-the-year soul journey on Friday Dec 29: Read more and joinYou find show notes in this post on my website

Sometimes a wound can sit at the level of the soul. A sense of your actions and embodiment being out of alignment with a soul purpose, or a heartbreak that had you form beliefs against your true nature.In our sixth session together, Wey takes a journey of remembering why her soul came here and what is important. Listen to find out how you can start to trust in being you - that your desires and skills are exactly what’s needed, even when they don’t seem logical to the mind.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.You find show notes in this post on my post

An ego death is a natural cycle of shedding old identities. But sometimes aspects of ourselves seem more stubborn and harder to let go of, even when we want to.In this episode we de-mystify the concept of ego death and look at how you can meet your shadow and loosen the grip of attachment, so you can finally let go of outdated iterations of yourself.If you want to take part of the yearly process of letting go inside Being Me, join the Death/Rebirth process we move through in December. It’s open to everyone.You find show notes in this post on my website

We can get so focused on the struggle in “doing the work” that we forget that there’s an experience on the other side of healing ourselves. If we’ve been addicted to struggle, then part of the journey is going to be to grow your tolerance of goodness and make safety, pleasure, and ease your new normal.In this fifth session with Wey, we’re spending time celebrating that she’s out of the swamp and digesting her shifts so far. Listen to discover how you can let go of your addiction to struggle, tension, and drama, and rewire for goodness.Come join Wey, myself, and the others in the Death/Rebirth process in December, mentioned in this episode.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.You find show notes in this post on my website

Want to watch the recording of this conversation and connect even deeper with the transmission? Get the video hereFeel stuck in “doing” your inner work or adhering to spiritual concepts, and need a reminder of why you’re here? This is it.In this second episode with Chris Bale (ep 64 from a year ago is one of the most listened to) we explore the misconception of having to become someone or do something, while you’re missing the fascinating experience of being human. That the lovemaking between spirit and consciousness is happening right inside you and that you’re here to be present with it.In this slow-food-for-the-soul conversation, we explore the potency in listening, how uncomfortableness is here to set us free, our fear of death, our addiction to sparkly spiritual band-aids, and more.Chris Bale is a spiritual mentor, intimacy coach, and energy worker and has deeply inspired me to fall in love with my human and feel deeper than ever before.Chris is a guest teacher in my 7-month alchemical program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round, or join the Death/Rebirth process we move through in December. It’s open to everyone.You find show notes in this post on my website

Your spiritual journey IS your human journey. In the seemingly mundane, in the obstacles, challenges, heartbreaks, and losses. Waking up, is realizing that and moving through it consciously.In this fourth session with Wey, she’s faced with a challenging situation and her protectors have pulled her up in her head and into a survival state of figuring things out. I guide her to speak what’s here, to say it all out loud.Listen to discover how you can move from confusion, stress, and stuckness back into your body - and how to move through everyday experiences as your greatest spiritual teacher.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.For the Black Friday offers mentioned in this episode, head over to my website and drop your email in the Black Friday box!You find show notes in this post on my website

If we want peace in the world, we need to be able to hold it. If our inner world is in conflict - how can we ask for others to be in peace with each other? And are you asking for peace because you can’t stand what conflict brings up in you?Uncomfortable questions we get to meet with as we’re witnessing violence in the world. This episode shows you how you can meet your inner conflicts so you can truly embody the peace you want in the world.Yes to ceasefire. Yes to peace. Let’s do the work.Related episodes to explore:Making suffering your allyHow I got my mind on board with accessing consciousnessYou find show notes in this post on my website

The more you’re able to hold yourself in love and awareness (aka the safer all the aspects of you feel about how you treat them), the deeper you’ll be invited into your psyche and emotional world. When the core wounds are ready to be met with, the opportunity to do so will show up.In this third session with Wey, she’s invited into the full experience of a defining memory that created a core wound. Listen to discover how you can feel safe while you heal your most painful experiences, and the relief that comes from doing so.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. It’s not too late to join this round of Being Me!You find show notes in this post on my website

24 amazing minutes of affirmations to remember being you. When to stop trying to figure things out and breathe and regulate your nervous system. When to stop thinking and start feeling. When to become present with what’s alive in you instead of focusing on things around you.I recorded these affirmations at the end of the last round of Being Me and shared them with the members as a bonus, and now it’s here to support you in aligning with yourself and life itself. Let them seep into all the delicious forgotten corners of you.All about my signature program Being MeYou find show notes in this post on my website