Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

What does real recovery look like beyond stopping problematic sexual behaviors? And how can someone move from managing behaviors to becoming a more emotionally aware, accountable, and trustworthy partner?This week Amie and Alana sit down with Scott Blundo, a trauma-informed recovery coach at Choose Recovery Services, to explore his four pillars of recovery: emotional intelligence, moving slowly, ownership, and self-sufficiency.In this episode, you'll learn:Why emotional intelligence is foundational to emotional regulation and empathy.How slowing down can interrupt reactive patterns and protect relationships.What genuine accountability looks like in everyday moments.Why trust grows through consistent, kept promises.Connect with Scott: You can find Scott as a facilitator in our Beyond the Facade Phase 1 and Phase 2 men’s groups and Making Sense of His Behavior - a support group for women. We’d love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UTWomen’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group Starting!Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeWatch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity.Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

Have you ever wanted something for yourself, only to immediately feel guilty for wanting it?This week Amie and Alana talk about why self-care can feel so difficult for women healing from betrayal trauma. They explore people-pleasing, hypervigilance, the pressure to keep everyone else comfortable, and the fear that choosing yourself means letting someone else down.In this conversation:How to stop putting yourself lastGuilt, fear, and making decisions for yourselfHypervigilance and your partner's recoveryReceiving support and allowing yourself to take up spaceReconnecting with your needs, desires, and valuesWe’d love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UTWomen’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group Starting!Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeWatch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity.Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

How do childhood experiences shape our self-worth, boundaries, and adult relationships? This week Amie is joined by Terri Cole and together they explore the father wound, high-functioning codependency, people-pleasing, and why we may find ourselves over-functioning or repeating familiar relationship patterns. Learn how to begin healing with self-compassion, establish healthier boundaries, and focus on your own recovery without taking responsibility for someone else’s choices.Listen to our past episode with Terri: High Functioning Codependency After BetrayalPreorder Terri’s book, Father Wound. We’d love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UTWomen’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group Starting!Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeWatch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity.Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

After betrayal, peace and consistency can sometimes feel surprisingly uncomfortable—even when nothing is actually wrong. This week, Alana explores why the nervous system can mistake what is familiar for what is safe, how hypervigilance can make calm feel threatening, and why safety has to be relearned over time. You’ll also learn a simple question to help you distinguish between something feeling unfamiliar and something truly feeling unsafe.This episode references our past episode - Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop. We’d love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UTWomen’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group Starting!Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeWatch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity.Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity. 

Therapist Jeremy Levitt (MS, LMFT, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, Functional Nutrition Therapist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapist, Natural Medicine Facilitator) joins us to unpack how legal, clinically-supervised psilocybin therapy is transforming recovery from betrayal trauma and compulsive sexual behavior — from the neuroscience behind it to remission rates for PTSD and addiction that are hard to ignore. It's not a magic pill, but it might be the most powerful tool you haven't considered yet. Tune in to find out why.Are you interested in having a psilocybin-supported healing intensive? Learn more and join our interest list.We’d love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UTWomen’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeWatch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity.Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.