The Misfit Mentor with Larry Merino

Thank you to all of our Misfit Mentor listeners! We now introduce our new podcast The 40 Something Soul. I hop you will say with us and learn more about how to feed your 40 Something Soul.God bless you,-Dr. Larry Merino

In this episode I talk about how difficult it can be to accept the new truth when it becomes clear that what I though was true is actually not true. In this episode I also share some good news for the future. 

Today you can kiss disappointment good bye because you will discover the faulty principle on which it is built. This made a huge different in my life when I learned it and I know it will for you, too.Show NotesMuch of my thinking here is influenced heavily by philosopher Gabriel Marcel. There is much in the digital world to read about concerning him and his existential approach. You  can listen to episode 1 "On Coming Out" by clicking the link belowhttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1729778/episodes/8277491

Have you ever considered that the things you want are actually not attainable? Have ever wondered why you have the goals and desires you have? In this episode we help you untangle a very complex issue that could be why you don't make the progress you want to make.                                                        Show NotesHere are some really helpful books on this topic if you want to take a deeper dive.Luke Burgiss, Wanting: the power of mimetic desire in everyday life.Dan Levinson, The Seasons of a Man’s Life1 Timothy 6:6-10

In this episode we learn to be aware because it's easy to slide down this slippery slope that leads to places you don't want to go.                                            Show NotesTha Happiness Curve. By John RauschClifton Strengths ( good resource for finding your signature strengths).Why You Can't Be Anything You Want. By Arthur Miller (Another good book about finding your strengths and not wasting time on pipe dreams).The Parable of the Vineyard (Matthew 20:1-16)You can listen to "Checking in With Your Conscience" click the link https://www.buzzsprout.com/1729778/episodes/9231145

In this episode I wanted to tell you how to get rid of identities that do not help you be who you want to be. I will also share some ancient wisdom that isn't ordinarily used for this situationBooks I have cited: The happiness curve, by John RauschThe season's of a man's life, by Daniel LevinsoCreating, by Robert FritzWhat Got you here won't get you there, by Marshall Goldsmith

In this episode I speak to you straight from the heart. I try to help you learn how to win the battle against fear and gain the courage to face anything. A book I referred to:Constuctive Living...Constructive Living (Kolowalu Books (Paperback))https://www.amazon.com/Constructive-Living-Kolowalu-Books-Paperback/dp/0824808711 - 740k - Cached - Similar pagesThe "Constructive Living" is a short 100 page book on a Japanese therapy technique called Morita therapy for treating depression, and anxiety as well as failure .

Achieving some success is always a wonderful experience. But if the success you have is not the one you want it can feel like wilderness in a corner office. I hope this episode helxpyou understand how you got into this wilderness and how you can get out. 

This episode aired last spring and has fostered a lot of interesting conversation and good insights. We play it for you this week and will be back next week with a brand new episode. Happy 2023!

If you ever get into an oscillating back and forth pattern just when you think you will make forward progress, this episode can help. The problem can't be fixed by working harder but by looking first in the mirror. Books and Essays:Your Life as Art, by Robert Fritz. Especially Part III which deals with "Structural Imprinting." He makes some difficult concepts much easier to understand."Miswanting: Some Problems in the Forecasting ofFuture Affective States"CitationGilbert, D. T., & Wilson, Timothy D. ”Miswanting: Some problems in the forecasting of futureaffective states.” In Thinking and feeling: The role of affect in social cognition, edited by JosephP. Forgas, 178-197. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2000.Permanent linkhttp://nrs.harvard.edu/urn-3:HUL.InstRepos:14549983Terms of UseThis article was downloaded from Harvard University’s DASH repository, 

Show notes:In this episode I pose the question: “How Much is Enough?”  I don’t believe anyone could answer the question for you so today I will pose other questions that help to clarify what's important to you and to know what you really want. Sources and Citations: ( 3 Quarks Daily. The Conflict Between Competition And LeisurePOSTED ON MONDAY, APR 14, 2014 1:10AM BY EMRYS WESTACOTT by Emrys WestacottThe social-competition treadmill…the hedonic treadmill  are discussed on p. 102 of Jon Rausch,  The Happiness Curve. “How Much Is Enough?” Money and the Good Life (Other Press, 2012), Robert and Edward Skidelsky 

Todays episode is for you if you wonder IF you can achieve that important goal. I will share what I have learned about this important skill and you will be surprised at what actually works.                                 Books and Essays I cite:Finish, by Jon AcuffThe Happiness Curve, by Jonathan Rausch, esp. p.101 where you can read more about  the principles of progress and adaptation. Miswanting Miswanting: Some Problems in the Forecasting ofFuture Affective StatesCitationGilbert, D. T., & Wilson, Timothy D. ”Miswanting: Some problems in the forecasting of futureaffective states.” In Thinking and feeling: The role of affect in social cognition, edited by JosephP. Forgas, 178-197. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2000.Permanent linkhttp://nrs.harvard.edu/urn-3:HUL.InstRepos:14549983Terms of UseThis article was downloaded from Harvard University’s DASH repository, 

This episode ha been one of the most popular over the last year. We are on hiatus and will be back for season 6 in a few weeks. In the meantime please enjoy this episode and don't forget our website is still open: misfitmentor.comThere are blogs, video teachings and if you need to you can even schedule a free call with me. See you in a few weeks.God bless you,Dr. Larry MerinoAnd you can contact Peggy Zilz: pezilz@hotmail.com

In todays' episode we discover that everything we know about aging is wrong. And that there are a lot of pleasant surprises waiting for those who gain a clearer understanding of what actually happens when you're in the 40's. Books I refer to: The Happiness Curve, by Jonathan Rausch. Rausch digs into the research and makes a compelling argument about aging.Find  Your Why, by Simon Sinek. This author helps you connect to what is important for you. If you don't know why you do something, the chances are good you will stop doing it. 

In today's episode we will get a better handle on the worst kind of pressure -- the self-inflicted kind. What makes this kind of pressure so bad is that you can often believe it is being created by others but again, it is the guy or gal in the mirror who is the culprit. Please listen and use these suggestions. I also referred to Robert Fritz, Your Life as Art, p. 189.

Limiting Beliefs with Cognitive Behavioral Therapist Miles Nitz. Part 2.Contact Miles at 260-415-5967takechargecounseling.orgmnitz@takechargecounseling.org

Limiting Beliefs with Cognitive Behavioral Therapist Miles Nitz. Part 1.Contact Miles at 260-415-5967takechargecounseling.orgmnitz@takechargecounseling.org

In this episode we will unpack a secret to success -- but one that is out there  in plain sight. 

For many years I have had some wonderful conversations on my front porch. Today I invite you to join me there.